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I went to the website and found their scriptural references - they are too many to post here, if you are interested, click on this link to go to them directly.
http://www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com/cdd_scriptural_support.html.

Note that all the references refer to:
1. Discipline of children
2. God chastening his children (all of us)
3. Jesus being beaten before he was crucified
4. General scriptures about how disciplining with the rod is a good thing

After the scriptures, they posted this justification:

Without question, these verses can be applied to discipline of children, but clearly, they can also be applied to the discipline of adults. No ages are mentioned in most of these verses. Some of the verses which did mention "children" were talking about "God's children", of which all age groups are included. In many of the verses, God was speaking, in general terms, to the nation of Israel, warning them to return to the right path. These verses were directed at adults, yet the threat of physically disciplining these adult listeners was still used.

Did you notice? There are more verses which could be interpreted as relating to the discipline of adults, or interpreted as relating to the discipline of either adults or children, than there were verses which specifically related to the discipline of children?

Do these verses unequivocally state that God would literally cut a switch or grab His belt and physically turn each person over His knee? Of course not. However, while these verses do not command the physical discipline of adults, they do not condemn it either.

No where on this site does it specify a single scripture about men beating their wives. So to the poster I only have one question - if the disciplining of adults with the rod is such a wonderful thing, why have the men not signed up for their own beatings? You argue that a woman has no authority over the man and so cannot spank him. Well, i am sure their pastors have authority enough to discipline them, so let all the men line up and go to church so that they can get their own share of this wonderful approach to discipline.

http://www.theatlanticwire.com/features/view/feature/Nigerian-Sesame-Street-Subs-Yams-for-Cookies-1913/

A project called Sesame Workshop, funded by the U.S. Agency for International Development and run by the people behind Sesame Street, is teaming up with Nigerian TV producers, actors, and government officials to produce three seasons of a Sesame Street specifically designed for Nigerian children. The Associated Press' Jon Gambrell reports that the show will be the 140th such international Sesame Street program done by the Sesame Workshop, but the first in any West African nation.

What makes Nigerian Sesame Street, which is being titled Sesame Square, different from the original? For one thing, they've replaced the cookie monster with yam monster, who advocates something a bit healthier and more accessible for young Nigerians kids. And malaria and AIDS come up frequently as part of the national effort to educate citizens on what does--and doesn't--cause the two dreaded diseases.

"What is so exciting about yams? Everything!" Zobi, a taxi-driving muppet, shouts in a Nigerian lilt to anyone who will listen. "I can fry the yam. I can toast it. I can boil it. I love yams!" ,

Produced and voiced by Nigerians in formal -- if squeaky -- English, the show aims to educate a country nearly half of whose 150 million people are 14 or younger. Its issues focus on the same challenges faced by children in a country where many have to work instead of going to school: AIDS, malaria nets, gender equality -- and yams, a staple of Nigerian meals.


Executive producer Yemisi Ilo, citing Nigeria's disparate and often violently clashing religious and ethnic groups, said the show can bring kids together. "Children are children. All children love songs and all children love furry, muppety animal-type things." That universality will be crucial in the show's attempt to bridge two of Nigeria's most problematic divides: Christian and Muslim, men and women. Gambrell describes one such scene: "One live-action scene shows hijab-wearing girls in the Muslim-majority north kicking a soccer ball and proudly saying they can do anything a boy can do."

But one of the biggest challenges facing the Nigerian project may not be gender inequality or even the plight of AIDS. Simply reaching viewers is a tremendous task in a country with vast oil resources but scant national infrastructure.

"Sesame Square" still faces the challenge of winning a mass audience in a country where most people earn under a dollar a day. TV sets and DVD players aren't enough; organizers bring generators to power them, in an oil-rich country whose national power grid is in shambles.

Still, for children gathered on the worn floors of community centers and rundown schools, "Sesame Square" offers a glimpse of something beyond crushing poverty.

"We had comments from children asking if these muppets are from heaven," said Ayobisi Osuntusa, who oversees outreach for the program.

I'm not so sure if my result at undergraduate would do for a prospective postgraduate student in the US, it appears most people on here had Upper division.

American schools will typically ask you for your GPA (our class of degree doesn't really mean much here). That being said, most will still require you to have a GPA of 3.0/4.0, which does translate into a 2.1. What you can do is aim for a very high score in your GRE. Then when you fill out your applications, make sure you use the extra space they provide for additional information to provide an expalnantion for why your GPA is not a true reflection of your academic ability. With good essays, and recommendations as well, admission to a good school is definitely possible with a 2.2.

@ Consultant

It would do good to stop referring to any perceived inflammatory comments on this thread - that just serves to inflame things further. Just address the issue at hand.

Debosky, point taken. Not having been a part of the initial discussion, the tone just kind of caught me by surprise. Unless somebody here stole somebody else's husband, I don't think an internet post should be generating this kind of anymosity. Anyway, I'll zip it now.

@ busy body

I don't know the origin of this whole story myself, and you may not be aware of it, but you are coming across as a very nasty person. Why do you feel the need to follow this poster across all her threads to "show her up" as a liar? And you just called somebody else lazy because she said she thinks her insurance should cover her when she travels.

For the sake of argument, let's assume everything this poster said is a lie - you can just 1. Ignore her post, or 2. Answer the initial question - which has nothing to do with the issues that the two of you are going back and forth about.

I think sometimes the premise of anonymity on the internet gives people this false sense of security that turns them into the kind of people they would never want to be in real life. You would be wise to take a deep breath and think about how you're repesenting yourself here before you type any more responses to this post.

@ Poster and others who are interested, even if an airline is willing to carry you, if you are planning to travel to the US, be aware that custom officials have been known to refuse entrance to women who are that far along, because they don't want immigrants to have kids there.

Whoopie,

Since you've had ten years of happy marriage, this implies to me that your husband is not habitually jealous of all your friendships. He may be seeing something here that you can't, or you have chosen not to see. I would suggest that you honestly ask yourself why it is important to you to keep this online relationship going despite your husband's expressed reservations. The answer to that may surprise you.

I think it's a matter of personal comfort. I personally would never see a male OBGYN nor allow a male physiotherapist to give me a massage.
Nobody on this board is in a position to dictate what your wife should be comfortable with. In the end, none of our opinions matter - if your wife is not comfortable with another woman touching you, then see a male physiotherapist - I assume it doesn't matter to you either way.

There is no distinct or seperate mediatory priesthood in Christianity. To apply Ezekiel 44 as you have, is somehow morphing the levitical/Aaronic priesthood with that of Christ. That priesthood and the law that was structured around it has been done away with.

TV01, thanks for welcoming me back. And you're right, once upon a time I was more active on this forum, but other things took precedent.

To the topic, I think you make an excellent point - there is no mediatory priesthood in the new testament. Jesus has played that part for us once, and for all. The only reason I tried to put it in current day context was to butress my belief that the pastor had misintepreted the scripture, and if he was using it as a basis to ask for offerings, then his salary should suffice.

The GRE verbal is essentially a test of your grammar. Get the Barrons or Kaplan word list and memorize as many words as possible. You can also try using flashcards since you have such a short prep time. Kaplan also has an Advanced Verbal book that you can buy, it is supposed to help you score 800 on the GRE.

The pastor overlooked the context of the instruction in Ezekiel 44. When God divided up the land of Cannan among the tribes of Israel, the Levites were the only tribe that did not receive an inheritance. The Lord required them to keep their focus on serving Him only. They did not work, or make a living, so they were given a portion of the firstfruits and other offerings (not all of it) as their source of income. If we interpret this in today's context, then you can assume that the salary the pastor receives from the church is his portion of the firstfruit - a part of the tithes and offerings paid into the church, that is given to him for his upkeep. See Ezekiel 44:28 for clarification (posted below).

28 I am to be the only inheritance the priests have. You are to give them no possession in Israel; I will be their possession. 29 They will eat the grain offerings, the sin offerings and the guilt offerings; and everything in Israel devoted to the LORD will belong to them. 30 The best of all the firstfruits and of all your special gifts will belong to the priests. You are to give them the first portion of your ground meal so that a blessing may rest on your household. 31 The priests must not eat anything, bird or animal, found dead or torn by wild animals.

Its only liers and pretenders that would tell U they don't have problems or issues that boils down on disagreement in their relationship or marriage,,having issues in marriage does not have anything to do with maturity,,,even pastors re getting divorced nowadays,,,the truth of the matter is that,,,relationship/marriage that would stand the test of time re those that has practically overcome the seemingly challenges that breaks up marriages.
Sometimes ago,,,I read of a marriage counsellor who when he counsells couples wishing to get married,,,he would ask them if they have ever quarelled? if the would couples say no,,,,he would ask them to take time until they have quarrelled and resolve their quarrels b4 getting married,,,
Actually, disagreement gives U the basis for agreement on anything about life.

Quarelling is one thing, bringing home food in fancy dishes to give your wife the impression that you're having an affair is another thing entirely. Sure my husband and I quarrel. But we reached several agreements early in our marriage. One, the D word must never be used to threaten each other in our house. Two, no going for days without speaking to each other, and three, if you are upset about something, speak up! That doesn't mean we don't show our anger -in fact, some of the 'talking' can get very heated. But we know that once we settle it, it ends there. No dragging it up in two months time when another issue comes up.

So there are people who think denying one's husband of sex, or refusing to eat your wife's food will spice up your marriage? Well, good luck to you then, but I would never do it, or tolerate its use against me.

In a healthy marriage, the couple sits down together like mature adults and talks through their issues. They don't go around sulking, using inuendo, or denying themselves of food, sex or companionship. If you are dealing with disagreements in your marriage that way, you should probably seek counselling from older, more mature couples.

It is not the job of the husband (or wife) to discipline the wife (or husband). That was the job of her parents. If they didn't do a good enough job for you - then don't marry her.

Come for a divine encounter with the man of God and your situation will change for good.

I think you should promote God and not his servants. This line should read come for a divine encounter with God.

I tried to post to this topic a few days ago but it kept getting deleted.

Based on my personal experience (I have an MBA from a top 20 school), here is what I advise those who ask me: If you can afford it, or can get a scholarship, definitely go for it. If you have some political or business aspiration in the future that would make an Ivy league education advantageous (e.g. become President of the US like Obama), again I say go for it.

If your goal is to get a decent education and a good job afterwards, then I say don't borrow money for an Ivy League education because you can achieve your goal without it. I went to a top business school, and got a good job afterwards with a Big 4 consulting firm. My husband went to a totally unnamed school and got recruited by one of the top oil companies. Also, where I worked, Harvard grads were paid the same as MBA's from other schools, who were at the same level. So if you spend $250k at an Ivy League, you don't get as much of an ROI as someone who spent $50k.

Finally, a lot of people look at $100k and say - I can pay it back in a year if I get an Investment banking job. Let's assume you do get that job and it pays $250k - take out the first 60-70k for taxes, another 35-40k for rent in NY, then tag on living expenses, insurance, and if you have a family, add your childrens childcare and other expenses. By the time you're done, you have very little left over to service that loan.

In summary, if you can afford it, or get a scholarship, go for it. If not, especially if you have a family, go where you can afford, and be the best there - the opportunities will open up for you.

Sorry funkygirl, I don't do this anymore.

@consultant
I feel u O but not many women can take it like you are doing. We need more of people like you in this world. I pray that your love and marraige continues to wax stronger

Wisdom is profitable to direct, I say. My husband eventually went back to school for his masters when the job was not forthcoming. He now works for an oil company. If I had been bad to him when he was job hunting, I would be paying for it now. Just food for thought.

was kinda odd to witness my neighbor dedicating their son in pentecostal church because they are no married

There are no illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents. The child should be dedicated to God, regardless of the parent's marital status.

Once you read this poster's other threads, you will realize that she is just making these stories up for shock effect. Some people just like attention, like those children who tell loud stories in the playground, so that everybody can focus on them.

remember as long as your husband is still alive,if you have sex with another man is a sin,so pray seasonlessly ok.God is your strenght

Jesus specifically mentioned marital infidelity as grounds for a divorce, so they crossed that bridge a long time ago. If she says she has forgiven him, that is great. Scripturally, I think that is what is required of her. I see no basis for taking him back.

All,

I am doing some research and need a little help. Please can the HR professionals in the house tell me:

1. What HR system your company uses (if any)?
2. What you use the technology for (payroll, recruiting, performance management, etc)?
3. How long you've had it, and how it was implemented (i.e. used a consulting company, implemented in house etc.)

Thanks for your help.

All the women saying no here, should not complain when they marry the stallion, and he starts to spread the love everywhere.

The Bible says marriage is honorable, and the bed undefiled. In an ideal situation, both should come to the marriage as virgins.

Report him to the police. He will not change, and eventually, he will move on to the children.

If your friend thinks she is ashamed of publicizing his sickness now, tell her to imagine how ashamed she will feel when one of her girls gets pregnant for their father.

You can download the software but you have to register first. Go to this link to register and download https://www.mba.com/MBA/Service/RegProfile?Action=1&PreserveOrigin=1&SSLSwitch=1

You can also buy a book that has the software. Examples are Barrons, Kaplan and Princeton Review.

All the best.

Thanks, I will try it.

@poster. I have taken and passed the GMAT, and would be glad to help. But I am curious - how can you be preparing for an exam you know nothing about? There is a world of information out there on the internet. First, visit the official gmat website http://www.mba.com/mba. After that, if you still have specific questions, I will be glad to answer them.

Sad story. http://www.delmarvanow.com/article/20090724/NEWS01/90724004/1002/rss

PHOENIX — Officers responding to a report of hysterical screams found an 8-year-old girl partially clothed and four boys, barely in their teens, running from an empty shed.

The boys, ages 9 to 14, face charges ranging from sexual assault to kidnapping, police said Thursday. Authorities in Phoenix say it's one of the most horrific cases they've ever seen.


Investigators said the boys lured the girl to an empty shed on July 16 under the pretense of offering her gum. The boys then held the girl down while they took turns raping her, police said.


"She was brutally sexually assaulted for a period of about 10 to 15 minutes," police Sgt. Andy Hill said.


The 14-year-old boy was charged Wednesday as an adult with two counts of sexual assault and kidnapping, the Maricopa County Attorney's Office said. He appeared in court Thursday and was being held without bond. He does not yet have a defense lawyer.


The other boys — ages 9, 10, and 13 — were charged as juveniles with sexual assault. The 10- and 13-year-old boys also were charged with kidnapping, the office said Thursday.


"This is a deeply disturbing case that has gripped our community," Maricopa County Attorney Andrew Thomas said. "Our office will seek justice for the young victim in this heartrending situation."


The outrage over the allegations has intensified when police said the girl's parents criticized her after the attack and blamed her for bringing shame on the family.
"The father told the case worker and an officer in her presence that he didn't want her back. He said 'Take her, I don't want her,'" Hill said.


Hill cited the family's background as the reason the family shunned the girl. All five children are refugees from the West African nation of Liberia.


In some parts of Africa, women often are blamed for being raped for enticing men or simply being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Girls who are raped often are shunned by their families.


"It's a shame-based culture, so the crime is not as important as protecting the family name and the name of the community," said Tony Weedor, a Liberian refugee in Littleton, Colo., and co-founder of the CenterPoint International Foundation, which helps Liberians resettle in the United States.

"I just feel so sorry for this little girl," he said. "Some of these people will not care about the trauma she's going through — they're more concerned about the shame she brought on the family."


In recent years, Liberia has made efforts to combat rape under the leadership of President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, who has sought to dispel the stigma associated with sexual assault by publicly acknowledging that she was herself the victim of attempted rape during the country's civil war.


The girl's healing process will be particularly difficult, said Paul Penzone of Childhelp, which aids young victims of crime. Authorities said the victim was in the care of Child Protective Services.


"These four boys used what was a ploy to entice her to a place where they could take advantage of her almost like a pack of wolves," he said.


"And what's so disturbing beyond the initial crime is the fact that a child needs to have somewhere to feel safe, and you would think that would be in a home with her own family," not in state custody, Penzone said.

Why would I be thinking about that?