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StarBoard: The same midfield that has been bested by the likes of Cardiff City and Sunderland?Even that DavidMoyes led United side haven't lost to those sides.
Art eta would have limited the damage in my view. Dude is crucial to Arsenal's form.

cardiff & sunderland were away games - city are monstrous at the etihad this season. look at the number of league goals they have scored there already. they have been handing it to big teams in numbers.

spurs - 6
united - 4
arsenal - 6

they have now scored 35 league goals at home in 8 games. that's more than 4 per game. compare it to others & you would know 1,000 arteta's couldn't have stopped today's ašs-whooping. arsenal were lucky aguero didn't complete 90 mins. it could have been more.

proudlysports: It's impossible to say what would have happened or not happened if Arteta had played but being a more defense minded player, Flamini wouldn't have had to cope with those two on his own.

had arteta played with the same result, you would be saying wilshere should have started. i don't see how one single player could have prevented 6 goals - that's just pure fantasy. arteta is not roy keane.

If you watch highlights of the game later, after AW took off Flamini, you would see situations where we practically had City's attack against our back four with the remaining six players just watching and hoping.

the game had been lost by then.
it was time to take risks. that happens in football everytime. arsenal are too big to take it lying down. they had to do something as the league leaders & the more you poured forward to rescue the game, the more city took advantage of the gaps left @ the back.

Baby mama: Love ke
The man is my husband not my life

i saw a nollywood movie years ago where this housewife followed her husband's car. i think his female colleague was driving, housewife thought she's his girlfriend. she dragged her home & beat the devil out of her.

to me, that's pure love.

bobby256: For uniport,its almost close to 150,000 for freshers

a federal university? N150,000?
don't they have a student union body? that fee is highly ridiculous!

Baby mama: I didn't do it in my early years either

I know a woman that followed her husband for miles driving to know the home of his girlfriend
She will hide inside bush to catch them coming out of restaurants and she was no child.
She will call and confront the women
Check his phone and call the female names introducing herself as his wife and asking them to back off
Making a fool of herself and collecting insults from sluts
That is so low
I can't degrade myself in such a way
Tua!

women who do it claim it's love.....

[quote author=Mr_TA]That may be true, but the happy one would still get results more often than not.[/quote]i would rather not find things smoothly and stay 2nd than find things smoothly & stay 9th.

happy one >>>>> chosen one

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Sounds almost like something the fashion designer Gok Wan would do. Stripping ladies nude and getting them to admire themselves before a camera [/quote]that gay dude? he looks weird!!!

Lol! I know embarrassing bodies - but it's a medical program for people with medical issues.

not really for the ones with medical issues. the other week, there was this housewife with läbia that looked like a very long pleated skirt. she said she was so embarrassed, she's never undressed before her husband. when she had enough, she had to run to embarrassing bodies for vaginoplasty to fix herself down there.

I like to be optimistic and I think there's still room for change. Only thing is: it's got to be change in the right direction.

i can work with that.

RuuDie: They should panic... By this time next week, it could be Chelsea on top; and for me, that's curtains... Because looking at Wenger, he isnt even sure of beating a ragged UTD at the Emirates talkless of an on-form City or Chelsea.

arsenal's first 10 league fixtures masked a lot of their problems. majority of those matches were very easy. even when the media was gassing them up, wenger did not tow that line......na fans like pataki & co that bought into it & started celebrating the league title in december.

chelsea may eat them alive next week.
mourinho has never lost to wenger & he will not lose next week. arsenal are in danger of getting unseated from the pole position & we all know their mentality is weaker than bin laden's heart condition. the league table is delicately poised now - it will be interesting from now on.

StarBoard: if you are going to win the championship, fatigue shouldn't be an excuse.
Arsene Wenger is far too experienced to be caught by that bug.
As debosky pointed out Wilshere who was rested midweek was pants. Wenger leaving out Arteta was key for handing the initiative in the middle to City for me.

so arteta could have prevented those 2 beasts in city's midfield? abeg - if wenger had vieira & petit in that midfield today, they would have lost. who be arteta?

Ibime: Somehow still stumbling along. . .

it's the mourinho way - getting points without really playing too well. when chelsea warm up & go firing like they always do after the new year, the league will shake.

another goal for nando torres.....

Chomzy19: Of course she wouldn't and dt is exactly d reason y she would also get dirty, u know like get forged results of DNA tests, besides every Impotent Man still has a 1% chance of impregnating a lady, or she could claim d Doctor was mistaken d man was never really impotent, I mean why would a Man who knew he was impotent B4 marrying his final Wife not complain after d Wife gives him a child.

the single most important factor is the DNA of the child does not match the deceased. if that angle can be proven to be true, the woman may get nothing. fraud is fraud, my dear. if she was pregnant before the marriage, her case is even more damaged.

Still whatever be the Rights of the child it still Doesn't affect the Woman's legal share of her husband's wealth, what would a girl-child even get anyways if not just to be trained throughout her school days and the Right to live in her Father's House till she marries, is that what they will fight over if the mum gets her share she'll take care of her daughter

she would be lucky to get anything if truly the daughter belongs to her boyfriend. it could be argued in court she used that pregnancy to deceive the deceased into marrying her. the legality of the marriage can be pulled apart as it's foundation from the get go was fraudulent.

Chomzy19: Are u serious pls Reread d Post by chyzino - I'm quite sure he said d father knows buh decided to do nuffin abt it so as not to pull d family apart and d lawyer told them only because the father is dead.

so what do you think the family's lawyer would present in court? that the deceased knew? of course not! the court is never about the truth, it's about what can be proven.

they have a stronger case if they claim the deceased never knew of the paternity fraud & this discovery was recent. then again, would this woman even want such secrets to be revealed considering the society in nigeria?

there are so many factors in play......

[quote author=Mr_TA]Phew, at least we only chopped 4 at the etihad, spurs and arsenal chop am. [/quote]and we could have beaten them if moyes was a bit smarter. beating city's midfield is not power for power.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]I think there's more to those therapy sessions than the couple being talked at. I think they also do intensive, demonstration classes where the couples are made to explore and experiment with each other. I suspect they might even be encouraged to go the whole way. I watched (or read) something about those classes. The details elude me - not that I've ever been to one though.[/quote]therapy sessions are mostly for virgins.
when men & motors channel was still on sky, i used to watch a programme about it where women/men who are too shy to get nüde before their partners seek therapists.

they build up their confidence. the men have sex with the shrinks after 2-4 weeks of tutorials & all that nonsense. therapy can't loosen up a frigid woman, it's mostly ineffective and this could be a hormonal issue.

As per the rest of your response up there - it's just wack and I'm not going to reply it

watch 2 or 3 episodes of embarrassing bodies and you will apologise to me for saying those points are wack!!!

Or maybe he's just been plain lucky so far - but one day, his luck will most certainly run out.

until then, he will enjoy the ride.

I'm not even that concerned about test driving or not. My stance is well known that I advocate it 101%

nice!

My gripe here is what the man's doing to his wife with his frolicking about town. It's not fair to her and if he's not careful, that marriage of his will hit the rocks. No one's perfect, but from the gist we've been told about the couple, she is almost perfect for him except in the bedroom department.

the marriage was doomed the moment they decided there would be no test-driving.

All the more reason why he should take the lead and help themselves sort this out. Having a low libido isn't the crime of the century.

true if the man also has a low libido.
what do you think will happen if a frigid woman marries a man with extremely high libido?

debosky: Wilshere was rested, yet he was the worst offender - no excuses I'm afraid.

Yes Citeh were superior even without the mistakes and there were numerous dubious calls by the ref, but all you can do is expect your own players to get the basics right and we didn't.

how would the players get the basics right if they are fatigued? away in napoli quickly followed by 12.45pm away game on saturday. go and find out about these early fixtures - they rarely favour the away team in big games.

RuuDie: Harsh kor', marsh ni'... You think Wenger didn't know when he threw in 3 subs in that Everton game. They needed all 3 point from there to ensure that they'd still be top after the next 2 games.

Wenger did not believe they could beat city neither does he believe his team can beat chelsea. I think he has just resigned to losing to the top sides and then making it back from the smaller sides... problem is, atimes, the fixtures can be very cruel.

arsenal shouldn't panic - they can lose all their away games against big teams & still win the league.

makes you even want to hate moyes more - if he had beaten the smaller teams, we would be in a touching distance to arsenal as we speak.

Baby mama: Gbam!
The marriage is only 8 months,she could get it annulled
This was no marriage

this thread has reached front page.....
damn, this is going to be a long day.

however, annul the marriage?
he might have said those things without really meaning it. jokingly or in anger. people say things they don't really mean. zinny can also start dressing the way her hubby wants her to be. wives should put in the effort.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]She isn't 'refusing' to 'fix' her low libido and neither is the man being made to wait. Even Dayo's confirmed that they haven't tried out the sex therapy route, probably out of ignorance on both parts. That notwithstanding, the man is supposed to be the head of his home. The captain of his ship. So without much ado, he should put his hands down in his pants, find his balls and make a decision to sort this out properly.[/quote]what's sex therapy going to achieve? therapy can't conjure up sëxual compatibility. they will just waste money listening to nonsense. she probably finds the man unattractive when he takes his clothes off. it could be body odour, it could be anything. maybe dayo's friend is even uncircumcised - dayo has a lot of weird friends so it's a possibility. what can therapy do to such problems?

test-drive - they won't listen until they use their own hands to screw up their marriage.

You call dicing with death (STDs / STIs) a risk worth taking for big rewards? Like seriously?

How is catching HIV a risk worth taking? Or any other STD nasties out there that might affect their fertility? You know that was an irresponsible response of yours.

christ!
that was a typo - i was meant to say the sex keeps him sane

Safe from what? Seems you've never heard of wives dishing out jungle justice to their husbands wandering third leg.

i'm sure he's assessed the risks before going for it. surely, he cannot be that morönic to choose an option where the risks outweigh the rewards. he didn't get to where he is today by being stüpid.

You make it sound as though they had a shotgun marriage. He wasn't a sacrificial lamb being led to the alter. It was his decision to get married to her and I bet you, he probably proposed to her and not the other way round. And yes, the for better for worse should cover problem, every issue, every bump on the road called marriage. They are united as one so their problems should be shared. It's no longer 'her' problem or 'his' problem but their problem.

his decision to get married to her or not, they both failed to do the needful - they did not test drive. which is worse? premarital sex or infidelity/divorce? i am sure the wife would wish she had test-driven when she finds out her hubby has been eaten forbidden agbalumos

Good you've acknowledged he's taken the easier route. I think it's more than that. Let's just say he's taken the coward's way out.

coward's way? you think cheating on one's spouse is easy? jeeeeez - it requires loads of efforts. i can't even start listing what it entails.

Doesn't the fact that the poor woman cried when confronted by him and even offered herself at that point, tell you that she too isn't happy about the situation and would like for it to be resolved? And you honestly think him flapping his thing at every moving skirt is the solution to their problems?

which sane man would want pity sex? not me!!!! only räpists would make love to a woman with tears in her eyes. nothing irritates me more than a woman that is forcing herself to give sëx. if she's not willing, she should zip up.

Be that as it may, two wrongs never make a right.

one wrong won't make a right too.

debosky: Too many mistakes as Wenger said - Koscielny, Wilshere, Ozil, and partly Mertesacker, with Wilshere being the greatest culprit.

On the positives, good to see Walcott back and scoring, and Giroud not getting a yellow meaning he's available against Chelski.

We need to use the rest period well and beat Chelski in the next game - we have to win that game.

harsh on wenger.......these same players were away in europe in the midweek while 70% of city players were at home preparing for a home game. it's inevitable that arsenal would get scorched.

salsera: both coogar n ihedinobi (no be today) get sense

just that coogar can wind you up sootay....you go buy popcorn like ypp

This monotony matter odikwa risky

So coogar and dayokanu
How do you handle monotony? (drinking zobo)

dealing with monotony is easy.
this is why everyone should marry their best friend. people you share a lot of things in common with.

mukina, please lock this thread
what sort of moderator are you that you cannot be partial? you are going to let dayokanu & gustavo take the piss on your own thread?

if i were you, i would lock the thread till monday. distribute 1 week ban each for anyone that talks about this game & delete dayokanu's account on NL. seriously, think about it.

yellowpawpaw: U r a baaad guy!
But then again, this is very unrealistic cos one day, u will surely get tired.
A lot of other qualities will prompt u to consider educating her and believe me u, u will certainly do it without knowing it.

i am a very simple man & my requirements are basic. it's not like i am too picky but my preference is my preference.

Its even men that has more problem down there than ladies. For eg, d size and shape matters a lot to women and its a great turn off too.

says who?
ask chaircover to gist you about a TV programme here called embarrassing bodies - that show further reinforced my beliefs to test-drive before marriage. if you see what i have seen, you will be a test driver.

PocketEconomist: I wonder how coogar will feel if his daughter was test driven severally and dumped by several men, and she comes crying to him. What would he say in this case? @coogar over to you.

my daughter has her life to live. my contribution in her life is to set her straight, give her the best things in life & lay out the options for her. her choice is her choice, i mean - what can any parent do to that? buy her undies that come with padlocks?

byvan: People like Coogar is why I pleaded with God to deny me a daughter.

this is funny!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Oh heck!
Or maybe she's just the conservative type. That notwithstanding, what stops the man from taking charge of his ship (marriage) and steering it into the right course? Why precipitate the destruction of his fairly new marriage with his philandering ways? Is sleeping around going to solve the problems they face?[/quote]his wife's refusal to fix her frigidity isn't going to solve the problems as well. how long can a man wait for before enjoying his marriage. he waited before marriage & he is being made to wait after his marriage?

Throwing self-help books at her or taking her out on weekend sprees does not in anyway address the problem. Infact, it's akin to burying one's head in the sand like the proverbial ostrich. You say his ship has set sail. I say it's course can be redirected if he truly wants to work things out. Him constantly dipping his hands in the 'soup pot' is simply courting trouble and it'll never end well.

men are not wired like women when it comes to sex. he's a married man for heaven's sake & he's still sëxually frustrated. how long should he wait for? he's exhausted with being made to look like a sex maniac.

And you think protection can't fail? Or he won't get careless??
Try another one.

that's a risk he will have to live with. big rewards come with big risks.

And is this so-called refuge the permanent fix to the problem? Is it any sort of fix at all? If it is, then tell me - because all I see here is a man eating his cake and having it.

he is getting sex without having to ask for it all the time. the sëx keeps him safe. it means less argument in the house with his wife. he's less stressed & more focused. he can sleep easy at night without having to upset his wife with sex demands.

Mind you, I'm not saying I don't empathise with his plight...heck even having sex just twice a week for a newly wed is a big gap in my opinion. Should be nothing less than two times a day for newly weds (taking into consideration that they both go to work).

thank you!

It won't be a problem if the man had an equally low sex drive. But unfortunately it's the reverse. All the more reason why he should stop acting like a randy teenager, sit up and try to work things out with his wife! Afterall, he did chant for better for worse on that day - or was it just plain lip service??

for better for worse does not cover sex. sex is his conjugal rights. he's being denied his rights if the wife is too frigid. he has 2 options, leave the wife or seek sex outside the marriage. the latter is the easier route. if he leaves the wife the romantics would quickly bring out how much she's invested in the man.

Really?
And if the reverse was the case? i.e the woman with a high libido married to a man with an almost non-existent one. Should she then take that as her go ahead to play the fiddle too?

that's exactly what she would do......
just because women are discreet about this does not mean they don't choose the easier route as well. while dayo's friend can reveal his infidelity openly, a woman in his shoes would not do the same. she will be secretly shägging her next door neighbour.

Abeg answer this question honestly and don't take the easy way out by telling me it's a man's world or it's what's expected of any hot-blooded African man (to cheat), but it's not the exclusive preserve of the woman to reciprocate likewise.

women are into infidelity too - they just don't get to be open about it like men. any man that is denying his wife sex should not be too surprised the woman is cheating outside. i have seen enough episodes on cheaters to know women cheat as much as men, if not more - they are just more careful about it.

yellowpawpaw: Mgbo Coogar, we r waiting for ur answer.
Will u continue test driving?

yes, i will until i find the one that suits me.

Baby mama: I guess you move on and test drive other people
Mgbo Coogar

when a car is being test-driven & the stick is stiff - you quickly ask for a replacement.

Chomzy19: Lol even if the child is not his biological child she is his legal wife one n only, so she still gets her share wch I"ll tell you is A lot... As for the child she will still get her share, Even if she is not d Man's Biological child, D man acknowledged her when she was lil and has been training her up till the time of his death.. Paternity is not just Biological, it can also be by adoption... If a Man being well aware that a child is not his biological child accepted him during his lifetime and treated d child as his wholly, raising no Alarm as to d paternity then the child is considered his for all intent and purposes unless d Biological father is fighting for the child... There ain't no fraud here the Man was Aware

the man is dead - there's no proof he was aware of the fraud. this is nigeria - not the west. a woman guilty of paternity fraud gets nothing. you should read up on the sharing of mko-abiola's will. the kids with negative match DNA got nothing.

Ihedinobi: Avoided fire! Woman neva teach you film trick for bedroom before? Abi you wan lie say you neva watch mojo before? Test-driving would have done exactly nothing to prepa re this man for what he would have faced if she really meant to hook him into marriage.


You know that starving someone of something is a willfull act. Have you shown us how she is willfully denying him sexx?

Nobody is arguing that nothing is wrong here.

we shall revisit this issue later....perhaps later in the evening when the females are tucked in bed.

Ihedinobi: Your analogies and Dayo's example are not parallels. This woman has not yet been accused of refusing the guy sexx. What we know is that she just doesn't "feel" sexxual with him. She cried, according to Dayo's report, when Dayo's friend got mad about it and offered him her body right then.

a problem that could have been avoided if they had test-driven.
it also begs the question - if she doesn't feel sëxual with him, who does she feel sëxual with? banky w or whiz kid? not every man takes to pity sex. if a woman is not ready, most men will just walk away quietly.

You need to prove that she's abusing him to convince us of a parallel with your own analogies.

starving him is abusing him. if the husband is always the one to demand sex then something is wrong. very wrong!!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]My guess here is that as far as she's concerned, she's personally not too bothered and can live with it. However, it's her hubby who thinks differently hence the negative reaction i.e: looking outside. Do you not think that, rather than spend valuable time, money and energy chasing skirt after skirt, he'll do better by letting her know how much this affects him, how much he is unwilling to continue living a sex.ua.lly frustrated life and therefore suggest they see a sex therapist?[/quote]of course, she's bothered. she's just clueless about how to fix herself. why cry if she's not bothered? why offer pity sex if she's not bothered? men are not naturally disposed to talk & talk. i am sure they must have gone through this over & over and nothing has changed. what's he to do? if a woman is not given attention & she complains about it with no changes, she would suit herself as well.

He's the one wearing the shoes, so he knows exactly where it hurts and should therefore try a different approach. Throwing self-help books at her, carting her off to six getaway holidays hasn't cut it yet, has it? Even if he visits the moon with her, as long as the issue of her low libido isn't addressed, he might as well be wasting his time.

that ship has sailed already, i am afraid.
the man has already dipped his hands in the soup. nothing will stop him now, not even his religion. he tried to work it out but to no avail & he took the easier route. i might do the same in his shoes. scratch that, i won't even propose to any woman without test-driving never mind marrying her.

Besides, we've not even addressed the real risks he's taking sleeping around - i.e STDs / STIs. For every partner he sleeps with outside, he's also sleeping with those women's partners.

he should be smart enough to wear protection.

You call it her inadequacy - but this 'inadequacy' of hers is affecting him too, isn't it?

not anymore....
he's found refuge. i doubt he complains at home again & even if discovered, he has a genuine excuse to throw out there. he's already using that excuse to convince dayokanu & co. he will use the same excuse to explain to her in-laws. mrs madam shouldn't have let things get to this point so it's entirely her fault.

You're simply buttressing the point I made above that she probably doesn't see it as that much of a problem. If you feel something isn't broken, will you be motivated to fix it? Why fix it if it isn't broken? but the man does so he should take the initiative here. Besides, what's the big deal if he makes the first move towards rectifying their problem? It's not a competition, is it? Neither will he be given a pat on the back for making that move.

any woman who doesn't see her low libido as a major concern in her marriage must be an illiterate. in this day & age when sëx education is everywhere. even some churches preach it now that wives should step their sex game up & not starve their husbands. my partner already knows something is wrong if i come back from work & i don't demand for sex. if she checks football news & there's no sign that my team played & lost, her worries become tripled. healthy men live for sex.

Neither did she sign the dotted lines to get cheated upon - and so wantonly too.

starving her husband is always a recipe to be cheated upon. action brings reaction.

Ihedinobi: Really? One benefit is like that childish glee and satisfaction with which you used to open your presents on your birthday and Christmas day after the killing wait. Huge huge frickin' deal, man.

i would rather have that feeling pre-marriage. there's plenty of time to refine & smoothen the rough edges. by the time we are married, we are already in the phase 3 of sexual enjoyment while the no-testing are still looking like a deer in the headlights.

Another, a sense of freshness. It's like feeling like this is something new every darn time.
Yet another. Psychological room for sexxual growth and expansion. It's very frickin' great. The bedroom feels like a nursery where you're trying new things all the time and giggling and enjoying absurdities.

same experience, bro.
it's just that i have had mine many moons ago before tying the nuptial knot. i already know what i am stranded with for the rest of my life. no huge surprises. little did you know some women have odd-looking factories that may require vaginoplasty. mere looking at her alone down there would destroy all your excitement & childish glee.

Even another. Non-test-driving means that you're more reasonably certain this person's body is all yours. Throws out all the pressure that comes from past competition and, adding in all the freshness and creativity, the pressure that comes from possible competition.

i think i would be surer she's all mine in test-driving than in no test-driving. that her hymen is intact does not mean she's not engaging in oräl sex or anäl sex. there have been plenty of surprises in men who thought their wives were pure & unsullied only to discover the reverse on the wedding night. what do you have to say to that? no test-driving fosters fraud(misrepresentation)

Well, some do embrace it and end up unhappy in marriage, isn't that what you're saying? And those who do embrace it and are happy are very few according to you. Perhaps they're fewer even than the former. In which case, their happiness can hardly be said to be due to test-driving, no?

there's always an exception to the rule. some people will find happiness in hell but that doesn't make it ideal. coping & thriving are 2 different things. in order to avoid surprises, i would like to know what i will be working it. i can't stand divorce.

And I am yet to see the research that offered born-again Christians as the highest rate of divorces. It must define what it calls "born again Christians" very distinctly. It must describe how it sampled populations. And it must show where these born-again Christians have the highest rate of divorces and describe what factors produce divorces as well.

a cursory glance on google will reveal this & it's quite reasonable. born again christians are told to apply faith all the time. many good wives married impotents. they never tested, how could they have known if he's functional or not. they only discover these things after marriage & by then it's already too late. divorce is imminent!

I am yet to be convinced that test-driving is a practical approach to picking a mate. And I have no reason to believe that you're a practical person. So, still, test-driving.is unnecessary.

in this day & age with many fake women on the prowl, test-driving is very necessary. fake hair, fake böobs, fake bütt, fake nails & you think these girls wouldn't do anything to ensnare an oblivious man if there's something to hide? why would i want to put myself in such risks?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]And what exactly is she 'getting away' with?

Her only fault here is having a very low libido, which from the sound of it, is at odds with the husband's - as his seems to be on the opposite side of the spectrum.[/quote]is she doing anything to fix it or will crying fix the issue? if it was the hubby that is inadequate in the bedroom, would this woman persevere with him? if she's got a problem, let her fix it. there is female viagra or what not. her husband is cheating because she has refused to fix herself.

So no, the fault isn't hers in anyway, it's just a part of her make up which I think is rectifiable. Her man on the other hand is using that as an excuse and playing the fiddle. Now that's what I find offensive and yes, she did help him get to where he is. So what in turn is he doing for her? Afterall, isn't marriage meant to be a union of hearts where the couple share their problems and seek a solution?

so it's the man that will fix her hormonal imbalance? if the man is impotent or a one minute man, i am quite sure you wouldn't blame the wife for his inadequacy. you would ask the man to go fix himself or lose his wife. men have needs & when a man is starved in his own home, be rest assured he would get his food elsewhere.

Is being a cassanova helping the situation except his own selfish gratifications?

he didn't sign the dotted lines @ the registry to get sexually starved. if a mother does not feed her children, they will go out & find food. if any woman thinks she can hold my sex life to ransom just because she put me through primary, secondary & tertiary institutions then she's on a very long pipe dream.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Biko, Dayo - this is really annoying!

That woman's done a lot for him ...A LOT!! And this is how he repays her? No, it's a bitter pill to swallow. Abeg, advice your friend that he and his wife should go see a sex therapist and attend a couple of intensive classes! Those classes abound like no man's business.

He better quit being selfish before he loses her. I'm just so angry, I don't even know if I'm making sense right now...[/quote]this is another issue that peeves me about nigerians. we attach sentiments to practical stuff too much. help is help, issues are issues. they should not overlap.

so i meet a girl, she sponsored me through college, puts money in my account regularly when i was struggling & then we get married. few years later, i discovered she's sleeping with my next door neighbour. according to you, because she did a lot for me, i am not supposed to leave her?

what she did for me, i appreciate of course but i wouldn't accept her offer if she had told me she was going to cheat on top of it. we should learn to separate past deeds with marriage issues. it's the recipe for marital abuse. so because i brought a girl from the village to texas, polished her, housed her and married her gives me the right to abuse her?

after all, i have done a lot for her.....i should be able to get away with anything.

Ihedinobi: You leave us to assume that your friend did not test-drive his eventual wife. Are you sure that he did not?

Secondly, the above does not prove that test-driving is necessary because there are also examples of people who had strong sex lives with their partners before marriage but whose sex life degenerated after nuptials. You do know that, right? What good did test-driving do them?

there's no single benefit of no test-driving...


people who embrace it & are happy in marriage are very lucky and they are very few. perhaps, this is why born again christians have the highest rate of divorce. i am a practical man and it will be foolish of me to sign dotted lines with a woman for the rest of my life without knowing what she's offering.

paternity fraud?
if you're sure her only child is not your father's child then she deserves nothing. let her go to court, she would lose.

bluuu: ^^^^6 months? they say plenty se.x makes d vayjayjay slack.how tru s dat

that's a big lie.
there are various exercises out there that can keep it in shape. kegel exercise is there for a start. there are herbs & gels too to keep the factory running.