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[quote author=Omo_Alata]It is up to the guy to fight for their own share of custody. I have seen many cases where this has happened. If the guy is not fighting how does he expect to get anything.[/quote]it shouldn't be up to the guy..... feminists claim they are fighting for equality. so if they are taking 50%, why would a man need to fight for his own 50% when that is all that would be left for him in the first place?

I do believe in 50/50 sharing of the income, household expenses, etc. In marriage, there should not be my money, it should be our money and both couple should equally contribute to the household expense. The person who makes the most money should get higher allowances and savings. That is why it is important to know the kind of person you are going to marry. There is someone for everyone

what about alimony payments? do women not get more than the men? why are feminists comfortable with such? why are they comfortable taking more than they deserve?

[quote author=Omo_Alata]In the case of divorce, are you saying you don't believe in 50/50 share of the children?[/quote]i am saying it should be 50-50 but women get to keep the children except in exceptional cases if the mother is a drug abuser or has a history of abusing children.

carefreewannabe: Ok, then have a good look at this report. It's a reliable source. If you discredit it, I will give you other sources confirming theses findings, all based on profound scientific research. If you don't bother to look at scientific results concerning the Situation of men and women in Nigeria, you are not qualified to talk about the situation of women in your own country. So let's stick to facts please.

http://www1.uneca.org/Portals/ngm/Documents/ProfileNGMs/BC_REPORT_ON_GENDER_IN_NIGERIA.pdf

gimme 5 mins.....
your link is not opening or it has malware....

the report has not told me anything i didn't know before now. if more women don't apply for university admission, more women wouldn't be in the university. if more girls don't drop out of school via teenage pregnancy, there would be more girls in schools.

the question you ought to ask yourself is are women really applying for these jobs and getting turned down? from my own experience, women even get more rub of the green than the men when competing for the same post. there's always an excuse for the women.....

carefreewannabe: This is a good starting point, do you believe that women have the same rights, chances and opportunities as men in Nigeria?
Let's stick to facts now.

of course, they do!!! this is why you have female senators, female lecturers, policewomen, etc everywhere. which organisation in nigeria would you go today that is anti-female?

Afam4eva: Thandie Newton has 4,210,000 results while Genevieve has 3,740,000 and that's because a lot of Nigerians and Africans are not on the internet like Americans and europeans else Genevieve's google results will rank higher than Thandie's. Another thing is that, a lot of people on the WWW simply refer to Genevieve Nnaji as "Genevieve". So, if we were to add the results of "genevieve" in Nigeria's webosphere, the results combined with that of "Genevieve Nnaji" will dwarf that of Thandie Newton.

you are such an illiterate.....
so we should add the google hits of obama to barack obama to dwarf lady gaga? no article on the internet would refer to genevieve without her last name.

she's not the only woman called genevieve in the world so your theory falls flat in the face. what about the millions of women called genevieve? you want genevieve nnaji to steal their hits?

why is common sense such a scarce commodity?

carefreewannabe: You can state your opinion in a more matter-of-fact way instead of being aggressive and offensive calling women who want to ensure other women some certain rights all sort of names. You have a very extreme view and you sound like some sort of bigot. This happens because you are not able to look at things from MORE THAN JUST ONE PERSPECTIVE in order to develop A MORE BALANCED VIEW.

there's no other perspective to view concerning feminism. it's so last century. the battle to get women's rights has already been fought and won. no need to push the borders any further as that would only result into delusion like this marriage issue is proven to be.....

The same happened when we were talking about the Bible yesterday. You stated the duties of a wife but didn't mention those of the husband.

i cannot remember discussing bible issue with you yesterday. are you sure about this?

Now you are saying how feminists destroy homes and forget that husbands do the same all the time.

and the husbands who do hide under the umbrella of masculinity to do so?

Like I said, you will EASILY find a woman who is compatible with your mindset, so no need to worry. We can continue talking but let's stick to facts instead of getting all emotional.

i am stating the facts and this is not about me being emotional. in fact, you are the one getting emotional about my comments. take a chill pill.

i cannot remember directing my missives towards you - i was speaking about feminists in general so why are you getting your knickers in a twist?

errrrr, are you a feminist or are you aspiring to be one?

dademola: being voted by ur colleagues doesnt neccesarily mean u're d best, bro. Afterall, d general consensus is dt sme playas r on dt list undeservedly!! I wld prefer not to be too carried away by DDG's being voted as best GK, cos to me, d boy is still "work-in-progress". Joe hart's blunders cld be sed to be "one-off's", due to d fact dt he is already an established goalkeeper in d EPL. Again, unlike DDG, i dnt think hart can be sed to hav any "weakness" dt wld be so obvious to d extent dt opponents wld wanna use it to der advantage. Like i'd alws say, DDG seems to be a betta shotstopper, bt hart is a betta goalkeeper ATM.

how is joe hart established in the premier league? he's only had one good season. DDG had one good season as well. there's no way hart is a better goalkeeper than de gea. not in a million years!!!

carefreewannabe: Look coogar, I'm sure it's EASY to find a woman who is compatible and maybe even comfortable with your mindset. You are free to marry whoever you choose. No Need to be so aggressive, offensive and full of hatred. Take care of your own marriage and everything will be the way it is meant to be. We are here to have matter-of-fact discussions, no use being so emotional, it's better to control the feelings you have. You sound very bitter.

so exercising my own rights of freedom of speech is about me being bitter? what won't i hear on this thread? i don't blame you though - i doubt you have ever encountered a true feminist. if only you know the number of families feminists have ruined, the number of women they have rendered childless, you won't be here saying i am offensive and aggressive......

[quote author=some-girl]I don't agree with those comparing Genevieve to Thandie, however their comparison is based on popularity not quality of movies starred in.

Thought it would help if I pointed that out.[/quote]even in popularity - thandie newton is more famous. this is why you have google hits.

claremont: It is an interesting coincidence that most feminists are the downright ugly and vile ladies. Feminism, to them, is not a choice but rather, it represents the last straw they desperately cling on to.

Nah my own I yarn oh, make nobody insult me this morning abeg.

most feminists are hateful, thorough-bred narcissists, irrational, uncooperative, permanent victimhood and hopelessly deluded.

if their idea is to strip marriage of it's tradition, then why marry at all? if feminists want us to believe in their fight for equality, let them fight for 50-50 child custody for the men in divorce settlements.

come on kids, don't ruin the thread with your infantile utterances. if you have got a score to settle, take it out of here.....

honeric01: Remember your statement: Feminists are confused women.

On this thread alone, she was all feminist, then became 75%, then to 50%, now she's no longer a feminist, trying to become a 'misandrist lol...

See confusion!

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[quote author=Omo_Alata]No need[/quote]say what you mean, mean what you say.

[quote author=Omo_Alata]I can see you are very fascinated by me lol[/quote]elaborate please....

[quote author=Omo_Alata]the problem here is a lot of the men are confusing feminist to Misandrist[/quote]i cannot see the difference......

[quote author=Omo_Alata]I am not a feminist[/quote]i know that already - you are a masculinist!!!

[quote author=Omo_Alata]Lmao if you only knew[/quote]knew what?

nigerians just hop on the latest flavour of the month without actually having a grasp of the concept. feminists are anti-femininity. they believe motherhood is servitude! they believe children enslave women and kids are millstones around a woman's neck. feminism teaches that hoping to be blissfully happy in marriage is a fairytale.

[quote author=Oildichotomy^]Fact: The highest percentage of the supposed ''feminists'' are Ugly, frustrated with stretchmarks zebra line eruptions criss -crossing with diagonal vertices around the lower waist region.
Quote me![/quote]majority of them have troubled childhood - they were abused or saw their mothers abused. if a woman grew up in a family that radiates love, where her father gave her attention and an undying love, feminism would be the last thing on her mind.

luvmijeje: I'm proud to be a feminist. Anyone who doesn't like it should please hug a live transformer. I can feel jitter, fear and anxiety in their words. What are they afraid of?

feminism is an evil force set upon destroying tradition and family!

[quote author=Omo_Alata]I will take that as a compliment, so thanks lol[/quote]just kidding.....you can't take that serious....

[quote author=Omo_Alata]I am arguing for women's right here. People seem to confuse both and see them as the same. BTW I support gay marriage 100%[/quote]why won't you? it's all written on your forehead that mission on this planet is to devalue the institution of marriage....

[quote author=Omo_Alata]lol the last time checked[/quote]you might want to check again....

[quote author=Omo_Alata]lol, Is it compulsory that we must 100% of everything?[/quote]no vex, ma'am!
excuse me, if i may........ are you 100% female?

[quote author=Omo_Alata]I am not 100% feminist. I agree with some of their things, some I don't. But I support women's rights 100%. you can support women's rights and not be a feminist.[/quote]this is so hilarious - you are not 100% feminist, what a cop-out!!! do you mind telling me the percentage level of your feminism? 50% 70% 85%??

Afam4eva: So, one must be a Hollywood Actor to be relevant? I hope you're aware that Hollywood is an American movie industry. India has their and in Nigeria we have ours.

half of a yellow sun movie targets hollywood audience. chimamanda would have given the story to zeb ejiro if she wanted it to be a nollywood movie starring genevieve and nkiru sylvanus. in the global stage, genevieve cannot compete with thandie newton - that is not to say genevieve is not relevant but thandie would fetch more dollars for the producers than genevieve!

[quote author=I.Joan]I fit into that description but I would rather not call myself a feminist.[/quote]thank you, ma'am - you get it

Afam4eva: Is Genevieve a Hollywood actor? Do you just argue for the heck of it? Read my previous comments.

if she's not a hollywood actor, why then are you sounding her trumpet to star in a movie that is targeting the hollywood audience?

[quote author=Omo_Alata]Who died and passed the law that a woman only job in marriage is to submission, obey and honour? It is obvious you don't know the meaning of marriage and the intent behind it. Just because I believe in femininity and my loyalties are to women don't mean I don't want a husband. One thing I know is I want a very emotionally and intellectually secured husband. A man who is very secured in his manhood and has nothing to prove to anyone. Your argument is very baseless, you are fishing for nothing.[/quote]there goes your lack of understanding - how can you believe in femininity and be a feminist? are feminists feminine?

carefreewannabe: To your first question: Men are different and so they have different preferences. Many men would NOT mind marrying a Feminist. In fact, they would prefer to marry one. It doesn't mean these men are out of their minds. Some men just prefer Independent women who are into politics and who have big ambitions when it comes to their careers, women who have an opinion, women who want to be active and contribute to the family's income.

being independent is not even feminism. otherwise, you are saying male independence is masculinism. that explanation is flawed!

Feminism is not communism. Communism is based on the principle that everyone is equal. Feminism is based on the conviction that every woman is different. Consequently, some women are more family - oriented whereas others are more career - oriented, yet others want to have it all, career and family life. It's all about the FREEDOM to choose. Let women who want to be stay-in-home mums, be, and let women who are not meant to raise 5 children and do housework all day Long, do something else. Everyone should have the freedom to choose according to his interest and abilities.

communism is based on the principle that everyone is equal while feminism is based on the principle that men are women are equal. what's the difference?

Look, I DO consider myself a feminist, in the sense, that I am convinced that women should be EQUAL before the law and enjoy the same rights as men and be valued like men and I claim that I'm one of the most FEMALE creatures on earth. I have not turned out to be like a man. I am simply me, carefreewannbe, a NATURAL woman and happy about it. I enjoy it so much. It may come as a shock to but I love keeping the house warm, clean and comfy, I love cooking, I love Shopping and Fashion, I do my nails ...... and guess what, I'm interested in men.

I am really sad you have so many prejudices against the feminist movement which is also meant to serve your (future) daughters' safety and freedom.

if you intend to get married in a church then you are not a feminist because it's just contradictory. why allow to be wooed by a man, buy you a ring, marry you in a church with your dad giving you away to a man? this is not what feminism stands for!! why allow yourself to be given away like a piece of yam to a man? this is not what feminism preaches, my dear!

kingkoboko: I'M PROUD 2B A MALE-FEMINIST O! U NIGERIANS NEED 2LEARN WAT FEMINISM IS REALLY ABOUT SHA.

JST CHECK MY PROFILE & READ MY "I AM A MALE-FEMINIST" POST. OR GOOGLE "I AM NOT A FEMINIST BY SUGABELLY".

THANK ME LATER.

no wonder you are called kingkoboko, so you are a male-feminist, huh? i am sure you also wear sanitary pads every end of the month!

[quote author=Omo_Alata]Please educate me on why you think women fighting for women's rights is stupid. Enlighten me please. What is delusional about it?[/quote]how can you fight for women's rights and then marry when the tenets of being married as a woman is submission, obey and honour?

why don't you people start fighting for body modification altogether? let everyone(both male and female) choose a neutral body features: same number of ribs, same brain size and 2 pairs of succulent brëasts for men so we can also be sharing the chore of breästfeeding our children

[quote author=Omo_Alata]Why are so many insecured men commenting on this thread? if you are comfortable with your masculinity why should you care? lol[/quote]insecurity? how many times have you seen men fighting for rights over the other gender? i just came here to laugh at the stupidity behind feminism. everything feminism stands for is deluded - who are they to be telling other women how to think?

can you see the hypocrisy?

berem: LMAO!
Btw, coogar, i don't see you on politics section any longer. wetin happen??

i am always there.....