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doggedfighter:
So you are now a married man?

The kind of advice you people seek on a daily

basis here makes me wonder what is happening to our boys. Is the condition of the country affecting the common sense of our boys?

You saw a girl helped her and that's not enough , you carried her wholesale and started shouldering all her responsibilities

And I know you must be telling your folks at home that you are broke.

That was how the one of yesterday wrote that his wife said his OWN mother is fetish and he rushed here for advice


Now we are to advice you on the sharing formula of her salary or help you ask her why she didn't tell you.

For a guy that's having financial difficulties who should focus on himself but chose not to do so.
YOU'RE A BIG SHAME.

Oh mother nature , never give me these as sons !

AtikuNetwork:
VIDEO: Massive crowd as Okorocha becomes Danjekan of Sokoto


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcHPqyRTrnc

https://thenationonlineng.net/video-massive-crowd-as-okorocha-becomes-danjekan-of-sokoto/

tito44:
zombies bore me

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??



Bro u are lucky that she is a good cook and she is not dirty.
Every marriage has it negative side, be patient and work on those negative aspects.

tito44:
Buying lion with our money

That lion will devour him and that his useless 59Billion thiefing wife

See the mark of 666 on his forehead sef

Gentle0wavez:
Do Muslim believe that Jesus Christ is lord, if not then they are unbelievers, that's what I mean.

ogododo:
https://punchng.com/pictorial-social-distancing-shunned-as-tijaniyyah-appoints-sanusi-as-caliph/

Emperorokwy:
It's very bad

Nonexistent1:
34 is not old except if you yourself are 18. I like older women as friends because of their maturity but when it comes to fucck, it has to be with someone of my age bracket. I don't fucck <20 and 35> except if I'm deceived because a lot of older women have small body and perky breasts.

Draslo:
To me, that money is not enough for the family. Like $100 million would do it.

Pochettino:
Stop marrying pretty girls and come for we ugly ones, men no go hear. Now see.

Fine gals will always cheat whether they want to or not.

Auxtin85:
We are all suffering the mistake we made in 2015, the only thing we should keep asking God is forgiveness till 2023

Chuxx84:
Good evening nairalanders.
Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.

I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills).

Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back.

Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.

Thanks.

YorubaLord:
So these Terrorists are actually scared of ordinary needles yet, they easily and effortlessly stab and pierce their fellow humans with knives and swords.

DrManhattan:
Please stop revealing how they were caught, their colleagues might be reading this too.

ILoveDemMANNA:
This is interesting.


Is this an error or what?
What do you mean by spend 100 MILLION for 5 years?
Or You mean 5 Generations ?

Which kin devil lifestyle person wan live and spend 100 Million in 5 years, him wan dey travel go hell fire twice in a month go flex with devilhimself

Hambivert:
Give these female mechanics semi-revealing dresses and watch how Hisbah would flock there to have a glimpse of Tinz™ with the pretext of going to shutdown the place!

My people Fear North! For the Lord is on our side!

This is sparogatively a beautiful business strategy, that is designed in respect to the unquenchable libido of the Alhaji's...

You see a mechanic workshop...I see a bridal store!

Happy Women Day!

Jamesbally:
This news sweet me. Ugly and incompetent Obaseki will soon become an ex Governor.

ContentedK:
Lazy garbage journalism, and how did you come up with the statistics that it’s 109 years.. you can’t ascertain the age of a river because it’s nature. Well that’s what you get from someone who went to an almajiri quota system zoo university where you graduate more stupid than you were before you got admitted in.. nonsense