Dear poster, from what you've said,shes got all the qualities you want apart from the fact that she didn't attend the university,I suggest you go after your happiness and peace of mind.Its not too late,there are a lot of girls that went to the university after they got married.Whats important is that you love each other. You can talk to our professional relationship counselor for free on 092749494 or chat on counselme.ng

you need go for a proper test,then you will be given the right and possibly best drug for the treatment,if you have a partner you've been intimate with ensure the person is also treated as to avoid recurrence,and please follow up the treatment as prescribed,ensure you go for a confirmatory test to rule out any strand of the infection,good luck. you can talk to our professional health counselor for more tips for free on 092749494 or chat on counselme.ng.

firstly,you need to work on your mind,remove your mindset from such things...do things that distract you from such act..
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This is a good narrative of the effect of divorce,the children are mostly the ones affected by the decisions of the parents to get divorced,i hope this serves as a eye opener to couples to always think of their actions carefully.Having issues in your marriage or relationship,you can speak to a professional relationship counselor for free on 092749494 or live chat on counselme.ng,our handles are @counselmee on twitter,@ counselme on instagram,you will be glad you did.

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Being married or single is not a ticket to one's happiness, you may be married now and prefer your life while single or wish you never did because you are not happy or well treated in the marriage. The African society thinks been married is a must and a great achievement but in reality it isn't the case most times as we have witnessed beautiful weddings,great appraisal by couples to one another but end up divorcing at the long run while some marriage bring joy and lasts for a lifetime (marriage is sweet to some and bitter to some).Some singles think being married will make them happy but end up being sad,depressed and prefer their single life,while some singles go into marriage and feel much happier and fulfilled in life. At the end it all depends on the individuals,being happy is a state of mind and achievement of your set goals. YOU CAN CONTACT a professional relationship counselor for free on 092749494 or chat on counselme.ng ,follow our instagram page @counselme, twitter @counselmee

firstly i understand how depressed you are feeling right now, but i advise you confront her first on what you saw..make her know how pained you are right now,with that she would tell you everything you need to know do not be in a haste to make decisions now you are angry to avoid regrets later..you can call us on counselme on 092749494 or chat us on counselme.ng

How long have you known this guy?
Are you guys in a define Relationship?
What are your fears?
if you can answer this question then you should know what you really want.. this is because its not safe for you as a young girl to go to his house since you don't know his intentions,therefore i advise you to stay in your house to avoid regrets later ..for more info please contact us on counselme 092749494 or chat us on counselme.ng

Hi dear,i advise you keep the baby because its a blessing from GOD and considering your age and the fact that menopause is close..this should be about your happiness.. despite the fact that your boyfriend does not want to accept responsibility,it shouldnt discourage you from keeping the pregnancy, there are single mothers out there doing well for themselves...again do not look down on yourself, it may not seem easy at this stage but some day you would look back and be happy about your desicion making...PLS KEEP THE CHILD...you can call us on counselme 092749494 or chat us counselme.ng

Dear poster, what is your passion? what do you like doing the most? with 200k you can achieve a lot..you can go into buying and selling you could start small scale business when you make profit from your goods,you could use it to establish your business...you c youan also visit our page on instagram,facebook,linkedin@conselme you can also chat us at counselme.ng or call us on 092749494

hello dear,good a thing you made the right decision,the determination to succeed in face of difficulties makes one strive,the ability to search within you the hidden talent and maximize its full potentials is the beginning of success,keep it up the sky is your starting point. Anyone having issues w with business/career path,confused on what to do? Talk to a professional business/career counselor for free on 092749494

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Circumstances don't make a person,rather it reveals a person.How strong are you in times of challenges,how do you approach challenges,what's your mindset towards challenges. Are you in any form of a challenge and you need to talk to someone you can trust,someone that will understand and give possible solutions? Talk to a counselor for free on 0927494949,chat on counselme.ng or follow us on instagram @counselme, twitter@counselmee .COUNSELME CARES,LISTENS AND PROFFER SOLUTION.

Everything you have been through doesn't make your life uglier though it may seem that way,when going through it but its upto you to pick yourself up,you are not broken beyond repair, nobody has had a perfect life,everything that happens to you,happens for a reason,learn from it! going through any challenge that seems ugly,hard,feel alone and depressed? GOOD NEWS!COUNSELME PROFESSIONAL COUNSELORS HAVE YOUR BACK, Do call in for free professional advice on 092749494 or chat on www.counselme.ng,INSTAGRAM-@Counselme .CONSELME CARES

Different strokes for different folks,it could be her own way of dealing with breakups,maybe the hair reminds her of an event or something that she couldn't deal it.Dealing with breakups,finding it hard to let go? Please talk to a professional relationship counselor to help in the journey of recovery,call counselme for free on 092749494 or chat on counselme.ng,IG @counselme

Being uneducated doesn't mean you can't be rich in life or make a difference but Education gives an edge over skills,it makes it easier and better,it gives quality to productivity and capabilities,wonder why these uneducated wealthy ones still employ educated ones,this is what people tend to ignore,they only say 'can still be rich using Neymar as example he isn't educated so i don't mind being like him'.Though he has the skills,check his team he surely has one or few educated persons giving him good logical advice on making right decisions,investments and signings. Still not clear enough? Talk to a counselor today on 092749494 or chat on counselme.ng,Ig@counselme

life is in phases,men are in sizes, good a thing you know your size,that's what most people ignore,they tend to live above their size and end up frustrating themselves,being truthful to self is paramount in life decisions,and am happy you were truthful to yourself.Counselme service gives professional advice on life issues,talk to a counselor today for free on 092749494 or chat us on counselme.ng,you ca also follow us on our instagram handle,@counselme.

donpata:
I was moved to write this epistle cos of the fp topic of marrying someone who earns 35k yesterday. I have seen such questions on NL but I normally ignore them. Someone even asked if a lady can marry someone who earns 100k . I normally laugh at the comments and move on. I laughed at the sheer ignorance of many commenters, and the foolish statements many made. I decided to assume that 70% of the people who commented are either undergraduates still studying who have a big Disney picture of the sweet employment awaiting them or some who have not really known what is out there in the world. The remaining 20% earn well probably and so feel life should be like that for everyone. The remaining 10% commenters are those who really see life as it is in reality – DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS. Now am gonna be objective and subjective at the same time. And let me warn you – IT’S LONG

Me? 30yrs, had my BSc in the north but did my MSc at UI. Hoping to register for Phd by next year.
My fiancée? 24ys old and currently awaiting 300 lv registration. Will be done by 2019.

Fact: without any serious research, I think I am save to say that at least 50% of families (basically father and mother) in Nigeria earn a combined income of less than 40k in a month.
Fact: The federal govt claims it has about 100k civil servants. Add paramilitary and military with about 500k personnel and public office holders, I think 800k people in active service on FG’s payroll is a fair judgment. For the sake of argument, let’s assume fg has another 800k retired personnel on pension. That’s like 1.6 million people. Nigeria has a population of 180million people. The WB estimate Nigeria has a workforce of about 60 million in 2016. If we delete the 1.6million on FGs payroll, we still have about 58.4million people left. Obviously, the remaining are left for the State and Local govt as well as private sector to employ. How many are employed?
Lagos state claims it has about 100,000 workers in its payroll. Let me be liberal enough to use it as a benchmark for all Nigerian states and fct. 100k by 37 = 3.7million employees.
Obviously, we still have over 50million people to employ. How many will the Real private sector pick? Yeah those that will pay a graduate from 60k above – how many can they pick? Now many will have to be entrepreneurs, “self-employed” people, petty traders, artisans etc. How much can they really earn monthly?

Fact: 80% of state and LGA workers between level 1 and 10 earn less than 50k in a month. Apart from states like Lagos, Rivers, Akwa Ibom and a few others, most states, especially in the North, pay quite low. On level 8, with Kad Govt, I earn 35-37k. It fluctuates monthly. Note that there are married people with at least 3 children that are on lev 1 - 6. Do the maths.

Wedding:
Many asked how one will pay bride price. Well, I have crossed that bridge. I know my status so before I even got a lady, I started buying some stuff like wrappers to keep. More so, my savings, family and friends rally round me and that was solved. Only a foolish lady will think of bride price as an issue here. Except if her family is poor, why should they demand too much?. 2 of my sisters that married had their bride price pegged at 5k each. The total money paid on the first was 25k and 50k for the 2nd. Mind you, they are currently running their masters programme so they ain’t illiterates. Let me stop here.

So the Wedding? How will I handle it? SIMPLE: I AM CUTTING MY COAT ACCORDING TO MY POCKET

Box: I went to the market and saw boxes of 100-200k. I was showed a set of 5 for 30k as well. I opted for a set of 5 at 60k. That’s my own level too. Mind you there were people picking that of 30k too. Different strokes for Different folks.

RECEPTION VENUE: Church Premises. My church got a lot of space so why should I spend 200-500k (that I don’t even have) renting a hall for a 2hr event? A guy who got married last month in my Church did not do reception at all. Again, Different strokes for Different folks.

Wedding Cards: Saw a nice foreign one. They said it will cost me 30k per 100. I needed 500. I was showed another that will cost 5k per 100. I Finally opted for the one of 10k per 100. Even got a 5k discount.

My suit? I opted for a 16k suit and my best man decided to pay for it.

My shoes? I got really nice shoes but coz it’s my day, I opted for new ones. I picked up a very nice one for 2k. It aint top notch quality but it should take me through the day. It can actually pass for a ck or d&g when viewed from a distance.

My Chairs and Canopies? My organizers are 20. Lol . They have paid 80% of the money.

Cake? My aunt who has a HND in catering bla bla and has been in it for almost 15yrs running has taken that as her contribution.

DJ and Camera man? My men in suit, (5 in number) have paid for that service.

MC? A friend is good at it. That is his contribution.

Wedding Gown: My cake designer linked me to a lady who rents out. She thus charged us 10k for a nice wedding gown. I deposited 5k. Will pay 5k after the event.
Need I continue? I don’t think so.

The main thing – The marriage life
Yeah I know you are saying all I have said na wash. You are waiting for how reality will hit me after the marriage cos that’s the main deal. You gonna say you await my regret thread after some few months. Sorry, your expectation will be cut short.

Fees:
Now, my to-be wife will be registering for a new session by December. Her fees is just arnd 30k so I kept that amount and I have promised myself not to touch it until its time. I don’t even need to touch it. Everything appears almost set and done.

Clothing: I filled my wife’s box to the “brim” with both native and English wears. So for now, cloths aint really an issue.

Accommodation: Here in KD, a 1 bedroom mini flat cost between 80-150k depending on the location. Am not talking of a 2 room flat cos, truly, I don’t need it now. But I am not even thinking of taking the mini flat either. A room and parlor (real face me I face u) cost between 18k-45k depending on the location. There are better ones; mostly new houses that cost 40-60k. I’ve gotten a very nice one for 55k. Just 2 tenants in the house and the other guy is single so we just gonna be sharing the toilet with him. It’s not that I can’t afford it but wisdom must direct me. I got 2plots of land already so I don’t even intend staying in that house beyond a year or 2.

My building: I already have 2 plots of land. I’ve struck an agreement with some guys who will supply me mud blocks at N20 each. At my estimate of 3000 blocks, that’s 60k . Havent paid but after my wedding, I will do it jejely. My plan is to rush the building and roof it b4 the rains come next year. I paid some guys in my area 7k so by next week, they are gonna go there and dig the foundation of a 2bedroom flat for me. Not that I am building now but I have to dig during the rainy season cos the land gets hard during the dry season. My intention is to use just ¼ of the land for that so that when I am blessed wella, I will use the remaining ¾ of the land to build my pent house. Need I tell you that by estimates, I need 6 bundles of those “aluminum” sheets to roof it? I bought 3 last year when it was 16k. I could not add cos it went up to 30k. I heard it’s 20k now but I can’t buy the remaining 3 now cos of my wedding preps. Will do that after my wedding when I have relaxed a bit.

Feeding?
A 50kg bag of rice takes me over 5 months now that I am alone. I believe in varieties so I got different things stocked in my room. Adding one or two extra plate should not make life difficult. I planted maize on my 2 plots. Once harvested, I won’t need to buy semovita all the time. If you have been to the north, you will know that with my harvest, Tuwo is served. Need I continue? I don’t think so. Let me not bore you further.

My support to extended Families
Someone asked in that thread that how do one take care of his families and inlaws. Well, my family aint rich but they can cater for themselves. My dad and mum earn and have only one child left in the university. Moreover, they are sensible enough to know that they should not expect from me. Rather, what is sensible is for them to support me if need be . My fiancées’ parents aint rich either. But I know they aint so poor to demand me to take care of their own responsibility when they know I have their daughter to cater for. Of coz, once in a while, I will do what I can for our families.

Children
Just a child and I will pause until she is done with school. I know it’s gonna come with challenges but I don’t think you expect me to plan out every day of my life and budget for same here. I know that I will cross the bridge when I get there.

Other wants
I am a gadget freak. Before my wedding preps, I buy things impulsively. Now I know I have to control that. I know what lies ahead of me. That’s why I didn’t go for an iphone but went for a hot note. When the hot note packed up, I didn’t kill myself for a Samsung s7 even though I love it. I went for my sweet Ulefone Tiger @ 31k. When I went for a tab, I didn’t go for an ipad; not even a tecno pad. I went for imose xii . Instead of ps3 console, I download games to my laptop and play them. That serves me.

I CAN TRULY GO ON AND ON BUT CALLING SOMEONE A FOOL AS MANY DID ON THAT THREAD YESTERDAY IS QUITE ILLOGICAL. My dad married at 24. My mum was 19 then. Both are now degree holders. Things have changed and that’s why I am marrying at 30. I don’t want to clock 50 and yet taking my first child to write Common Entrance. If you like say I am rushing.
Firstly, I love my fiancée die. 2ndly, I am a Christian and my bodily desires are building up strongly. Marriage is the way out. 3rdly, I love kids. Since they are an inheritance, I can’t wait to have one as God wills. Lastly, I wanna retire in peace. Not old man using my pension to train undergraduates and Jambites.
Finally, I am not complacent with where I am. I have handled a few millions before but this is where I am now. I wanna go for my phd and I hope to reestablish myself in business. But I can’t again let my social life suffer cos of where I am today. I have a job now; low paying as it is, I know if well managed, I will make it out. Even if I remain in the employ of the State Govt, I cant earn 35k forever. I am young and will keep moving on.

DISCLAIMER: This is not meant to force anyone to get married when he is not ready - Not at all. I just want some people to know that there are different strokes for different folks. There are too many factors that determine happiness and success in life and marriage. Your salary is just one. YOU CANT CALL ME A FOOL FOR MY DECISION. I HAVE CAREFULLY WEIGHED MY CIRCUMSTANCE AND PROSPECTS AND I FEEL I AM READY TO TAKE THE LEAP. I KNOW IT WONT BE A WALK IN THE PARK; BUT IT WONT BE TOO DIFFICULT EITHER.
FOR THE “FOOLS AT 40” WAITING FOR THEIR MILLIONS TO BUILD UP BEFORE SETTLING DOWN, TILL UNA COME.
FORGIVE ME FOR THE LONG EPISTLE. HAD TO TAKE MY TIME SO THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL APPRECIATE THAT NO TWO PEOPLE HAVE SAME CIRCUMSTANCES AND SITUATIONS.

I PROMISE TO RAISE ANOTHER THREAD ANNUALLY TO TELL YOU HOW FAR WE HAVE GONE.

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brownlolly:
This morning I saw a man fall down on the road in front of his shop. I walked to the place and I noticed he was unconscious but he was breathing. People who knew him didn't even bother to go near him.

I kept looking around and wondering what was going on, and it seemed like nobody was ready to help. So I bent down and tapped him to check if he was aware of his surroundings. He opened his eyes. Someone else joined me and we helped him up to his seat.

Afterwards someone came to me and told me the man has WARAPA (Epilepsy) and that it is forbidden to touch an epileptic when he's having seizures as it is contagious

Is this true?

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Paulscholari:
I have a first degree second class lower in Demography and Social Statistics, going to 6 years now. But I've not been able to get a job above 50k. Some of those years, I was even without a job. What can I do to better my chances.

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yes

Reader1988:

Is the phone number correct?

Reader1988:

Is the phone number correct?

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low self esteem can also lead to complex and depression,talk to a professional counselor for free on relationship,business,career,health,etc @ conselme services on 092749494 or chat us on counselme.ng quote author=oluwasegun007 post=59904611]it's. better to have low self esteem than high blood pressure....[/quote]

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Divay22:
I don't wanna trust again

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Tinyemeka:


Which pathogen?

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specter:
Hello homies! I need to know the cause of whitish vagina discharge that also itches. Is it transmitable and what's the cure.

Thanks.

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