FamousMonk:
Guys I have this 18yrs old girl who I intend to marry as soon as I'm settled and she's done with her University.She's currently not in school yet.We love each other so much,she's perfect for me and I swear I wanna marry her.We are compatible on almost all facets of life.Though we have our differences but we balance eachother's negative traits perfectly and hers are traits I'm sure I can endure and keep up with.
Now the problem is that she is a virgin and I initially agreed to wait till when we get married,maybe 4-5yrs from now before I deflower her.But this girl is so so beautiful and perfect physically.She's a goddess of beauty and as expected she gets so many male attention.I got scared she may fall in love with someone else(I'm a realist),especially if and when she gets admission,so I talked to her about it and she agreed to give me her virginity tomorrow when she comes to my house.The thing is,as much as I want to deflower her,I still wouldn't want our sexual life to start now.I want it to start when I've officially engaged her and met her parents but I may lose out and end up not being her first.
What should I do when she comes tomorrow?
Advise me please.
I need to know what to do before tomorrow.

Not a big deal. If she really wants you to deflower her, then you have to do so.

When some of these girls were young, they were so arrogant, selfish, lazy, sensitive and stuff like that but now, time is no longer on their side, they are screaming.

Diligence4life:
The op doesn't know what she wants. What will she if she sees someone else with a better than this new guy? So she will move to the other guy? We must be content with what we have. In fact God will never give u everything in one person, because if He does u will feel no need of Him.

She's probably looking for a perfect guy. The person she invented. In the next couple of months, she will regret her actions. What these women don't realize is men have flaws too.

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

This is what you hear from a typical Nigerian woman. When she gets used and then dumped, she would turn around and say men are scum.

Sixfeetbelle:


I think it's more a woman's intuition more than anything else. Once I see any comment, I can almost tell who is behind the moniker. I've seen comments by ladies without any gender tag that men thought were their fellow men. I've also noticed that some times without the gender tag on your moniker, most guys will address you as bro if you say something that aligns with what they said. It has happened to me.

So that a moniker has "f" is hardly anything. A woman can always tell vis your initial comment.

That's interesting. Seems like you're talented. Really cannot fathom why he did that. But for me, it's really crazy.

Sixfeetbelle:


He's a guy. Forget the pink "f"

It's weird how females can tell almost instantly that there's something wrong with this moniker were it to be a woman

I think it has to be with the mod. They always know better your identity.

Also women do not write like that. The guy can waffle on and on but his identity has been exposed I guess.

A bitch is always a bitch. Jumping from one guy to another.

Jumblejux:
Hi everyone. I need your advice on this. I had to create a new account for anonymity sake.
I have been with this girl for about 3 years now before I relocated to a far away state last year. We have had our fair share of problems as it's in almost every relationship but we were okay. However, things haven't been very good financially for me recently, especially with this COVID-19.
Now, girlfriend is acting strange. After much pressuring, she admits to advances from other guys she is giving attention. She says she needs to collect money from them without doing anything with them.
I don't buy that crap. I have ended the relationship.
I need advice, I want to know if I acted rashly.
Is it possible for a girl to be getting money from guys without giving something in return?
Besides, distance is already straining the relationship. Thanks
If the mod could push this to front page, I would appreciate it for more input.

No, it is not possible. Women fall for money. Do not let the girl deceive you. She's been sleeping around.

olugabbie:


The amnesty program is something we learnt from the West. The USA has used this type of method several times. They call it psychological warfare. They west believe that to defeat your enemy, you don't use physical means alone. You also use psychological means. Not all boko haram fighters are happy fighting for them. Most if their members were law abiding citizens like you and i, that were kidnapped from their homes in North-East. So they get stuck. What the Government is trying to do is to encourage these kind of young men to come forward and give them assurance that they will not be purnished. This will send signal to other boko haram fighters that are not happy fighting for the group that they can get freedom on the other side. They aim is to continue to reduce thier numbers by killing some and winning some over to our side. But this has not been well communicated to Nigerians and even the soldiers at the war front. This is not something we invented. We are just following the footsteps of the world leaders, which make sense to me.

Nonsense! This cannot work in Nigeria. Nigerian government is evil. They are not fighting the terrorists, they are using them to milk the country.

Soon, they would be no hiding place for these corrupt politicians.

This can only happen in a zoo. Zoo has totally collapsed.

TerryMcGinis:
sorry i meant to tag mutantninja

OK, no problem.

Shalom3934:
Please my fellow nairalanders, I met a girl last year August and we hanged out. I love her and wants to marry her but like you know I can't just tell her I want to marry her that day. I asked her to b3 my girlfriend which she said let her think about it. She said I should be optimistic that she has a boyfriend but he has graduated and things might not work out. She calls me and shows every sign that things will work out.

The final yes was not forthcoming even with everything. She later told me that she loves me but she taught the relationship she had will end after school but the guy is still pushing hard. She told me about the guy but can't tell the guy about me.

She later accepted and said yes but I still see that she is not settled in her mind.

She is always jealous when she calls and I didn't pick or see women around me.

Does this lady really love me or she is just being manipulative?

When a lady tells guy A that there is Guy B, and refuses to tell Guy B that there is Guy A... Who does she love?

Be careful with girls out there. Most of them aren't ready to make sacrifices through love. Do you know what a "cupboard love" is?

TerryMcGinis:
boss help needed please.

What help?

mutantninja:

Is she open with other things? Try visiting her family by yourself and make your findings...

Okay but telling her that I want to pay a visit to her family means they would kind of prepare for me. I want it to come natural from her. I want her to say something like can you check me out at home. I know she's hiding some things from me.

Alright. Thanks man.

mutantninja:

lol she's not got any guy! hypergamy my bro! remember, hypergamy! A girl will switch to any guy that gives her tingles for that moment.. that's why you hear things from girls like: it just happened, idk but it just happened... All girls are vulnerable to this, the smart ones run away from temptation...

If you've got her number, I'll suggest calling her often and setting up a date to meet with her in person. Chatting when you've not banged her is a big NO! If anything, chatting with her kills attraction.


Because her family knows her better than you do and she doesn't want family interference when she's betabuxing you. it could mean many things my g.. it could also mean her family transforms into tiny mosquitoes at night and suck her bf balls till he loses the ability to make her pregnant that's why she's scared of talking about them so you won't lose interest in her... seriously bro, her family shouldn't be your concern unless you want to get married to her.

I want to get married to her but the way things are going right now, I may likely drop her for another woman.

If a woman cannot be open about her family, then it means something is fishy.

mutantninja:

Thanks for your feedback... yeah discord server is like a chat room where we can chat anonymously.. it's a fun and interesting service..

Look around you... most of this girls are runs girls it's just harder to spot with some girls... it's in their DNA and its natural.. some girls try to suppress this innate trait to land a potential mate but only for so long... They're some techniques that can be used for vetting potential runs girls:
- Lies: watch what they say... action speaks louder than words... does she likes partying? clubbing? hanging out late at night? keeping too many male friends? talk too much and do little? wear short skirt in cold weather?

This are some of the things you could look out for... they're signs everywhere when it comes to vetting a runs girls or slutty woman, you just have to look for even slight signs and take action immediately... Pump and dump.. or hard Next her..

OP, please tell me, why is that some women don't like to be open like talking about their family when they are in a relationship? I really want to know why.

In Nigeria, most girls are irresponsible.

Jerkbaba:
It's a very shameful and disgraceful thing to do! How can you be chasing a liability. You see a very good looking guys chasing one ugly nonsense girl up and down like a fool and making the useless stupid girl feel like she's on top of the world. And still be the same person that'll be spending all your hard eraned cash like a fool. It's very wrong and foolish. Free all these born bastard leeches let them do their nonsense shakara for another simp. Wise up!

LOL! Wrapped with a chick, drama, drama, drama!

ThatFairGuy1:

Crownstar01 has said it all. On a serious note, women are not to be chase. Keep your calm (just behave), things will fall in line.

Thanks for acknowledging that. That's why I am called Crownstar.

lavylilly:

Why the question mark? What have you got to say?

Mcslize:


Haba why not? That one no be question na. She is even scared to lose me. That's how it should be. So she don't misbehave.

That how to earn a girl's respect. I don't even spend on her except I chose to on my own preference not because she wants me to.

She's only waiting for you to propose or marry her before she starts to demand things from you. Women can be controversial at times. Saying something like when we were dating, didn't you spend money on me or didn't I ask you for anything? LOL!

Anyway, it seems you guys are having a good relationship. But bear in mind that women always say the opposite of what they mean...you should know that.

southniyikaye:
bro, talking from experience and have seen alot

You don't have to. You've got to start moving. You've got to force yourself to move, even if initially at first you don't feel like moving. Your emotions, your state, follows your physical motion. Because remember the other rule of state. That resistance is going to weigh on you at first.

Mcslize:


The way you handle a woman, that's what she will be to you. When you are dating a girl, have the wisdom to be able to figure out when you are being used and when not being used.

Be the man but don't be a dictator. Know when to draw the line.

There is no girl I will be with that will misbehave. That is because I apply wisdom in any relationship I am in. I am not saying you should be a simp type of guy that every lady will prey on.

Command respect with your action and attitude when dating any lady. She will value you.

The present girl I am dating knows I don't take nonsens and the respect is there. I just be myself. I don't grant all her wishes. I know when to say yes and when to say no. And that's how you earn the respect of your partner.

You need to tell her what you like and what you hate and point it out to her if she misbehave, you won't mind walking away (Let me not use the word dump).

When your partner knows what you like and hate, she will behave well.

While I won't advice any guy to be a simp, definitely know when to draw the line and apply wisdom in your dealings with someone you chose to be your partner.

Have you scored yet?

southniyikaye:
22 and 30 actually

No. When a woman is above 25 years old, she starts to get worried about her ability to get married.

Mcslize:


You can tell if a lady wants to build a future with you. If you are dating any girl who doesn't support you or have genuine interest in you order than what you are offering her, simply leave her. She is not the right one for you.

You just need to be observant to tell if a girl truly loves you or just merely feeding on you. Waste no time to leave such a lady. When the time comes for you to chose a partner, just be yourself and be closely observant of any female you come across, you will definitely find one that will have genuine interest in you even without spending any dime on her.

When you see such a lady, get to know her and ask questions. Always ask questions so as to know about her past. And if she suits your conscience, go for her and make provision to settle down.

True but the truth of the matter is you can't date a Nigerian girl without spending a dime. Otherwise she would be call you "stingy."

southniyikaye:
Pls believe this, the HOE phase is real.
Every woman has that hoe phase deep down, if she hasn't shown it yet, she hasn't seen temptation or hardship

That's very true. And it's usually between 16-22.

Mcslize:


We understand this. But you know you won't continue to use and dump them forever . That's the point we are trying to make here. Won't you want to settle down one day?

Except we want to have kids out of wedlock, no player will continue to be a player forever. That is the point we are driving at here. Of course, guys between the age of 20 to 30 definitely do play around.

But as you age further, a time will come when you will say, you will want to settle down. That's the time you will have to compromise on some of your games just to be a responsible husband and father to your kids.

When that time comes, you can't possibly be jumping from one pussy to the other due to your kids and the determination to bring your kids up well.

That is the time every one time player will have to drop his boots and be a responsible husband and father.

The big question is how do you pick a good woman for marriage? Most girls nowadays are not ready to make sacrifices through love. They also do not know what marriage is all about.

Mcslize:


You are right. There are still some few good girls out there. That was why I said in one of my previous posts that we can't continue like this into marriage.

If we carry this mindset of maltreating a woman into marriage, we won't have a blissful marriage. There will always be quarrel and that will affect the kids one will have.

A situation where a man is being an ass hole and maltreating the wife will definitely affect the kids such men will have with their partners.

They will still end up being products of a broken home because the man chose to be an ass hole and not being able to control his home order than applying games and tactics on the wife.

People like that might end up divorcing in the end if the man is not able to be a responsible husband and father to his own family. That's why every man should apply wisdom when it comes to following the redpill. If a man who truly wanta to have a family of his own take it to extreme, it can break his home and not enjoy a blissful marriage life.

As a guy in as much as I don't take nonsense from the oppisite, I won't want to be an ass hole type of father or husband in the future to mybpartner. I should be able to earn the respect of my partner without applying tactics and games.

Having the knowledge of the redpill is good but aspiring husbands shouldn't takebthat into marriage as it has the possibility of shattering a marriage if not applied with wisdom to prevent one from having a broken marriage in the future.

The problem here is most Nigerian girls always behave awkward whenever you are good to them whereas if you act the other way round, they intend to care more about you.