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You feel remorseful and that's good.

Please, stay away from guys for now.

I have other things to say but you don't need long advice right now. You are at the mourning stage and few words should be said.

Was a science student, average at best.

Despite this, I had my favourites like Economics, Agriculture, Geography and computer studies.

As WAEC approached, I perfected my cheating skills with school exams. I would tear out parts of solved questions of past questions.

During WAEC, I cheated in Physics, and Chemistry. Someone, I convinced myself to do same in Agriculture science which I knew very well.

This time, I didn't just tear out parts, I took a whole textbook in. As the exam began, I drew it out carefully and was beginning to match questions with answers.

I sat at the back exposing me to the entrance of the hall but somehow I forgot to pay attention to one of the invigilator, suddenly I heard to big sound at the back of my head which was followed by series of slaps as he drew the textbook out. I felt so bad. He then went on to minute on my examination sheet telling me my result was going to be withheld.

That paper was probably my final paper so I felt so bad, I didn't tell any family member of mine and resolved not to expect that paper when the result finally came out.

To my surprise, it came out and I had a B2.

That incident changed my life forever. Since then, I haven't gone into an exam hall without adequate preparation and never entertained the idea to cheat.

If I could make a B2 with my effort, why cheat? I asked myself. My belief in my abilities rose astronomically since then.

akaahs:
.....and we have it in that range but still scared. Irony of life

Planning Bro, diligent planning.

The best cities in the world are carefully planned, it's not always about the money.

ModestGal:
I'm short

I will love to see you pull those stunts.... Not on me though

ModestGal:
Lol, not possible, see you. You can only win if I'm at fault for beating you first. Plus street boxing has no skills like TAEK, trust me. Na only hand you people dey use na, you no dey fly, jump. Have you seen Jackie chan or Jet li when he's fighting before? That's me, no film trick, I fly in the air, walk on water etc

LWKMD

This babe is cracking me up

ModestGal:
I'm a Taekwando black belter, its only if a guy is ready to die hes gonna try that shit with me. And also, I am crew NO FORGIVENESS of such kind of mental problem. Go see a psychologist and never com back to me.
Sick people

LWKMD

You must be really tall.

cirtapoyat:
Feeling inadequate because he doesn't have a boy? But why are people like this? What of those who don't have even a child? Well I guess he would have preferred to be childless. People are soooo ungrateful. People pay millions and go through pains to get a child. If you so need a boy badly why not adopt. Well such a person will still feel inadequate sha.

I don't want to sound sexist here or deviate from d topic but if you go back in time and study the creation of man according to each legend (The Christian perspective, Panku, Nono and Oboli, Oduduwa and co)

You will agree with me that there are lots of benefit in having a male child.

In a perfect world, d sex of a child won't matter, but we ain't in a perfect world.

Raymeg7:
haha brother, I dey laugh because people like u always think is all about you you, do u think that she don't have her own dreams, or are u thinking u are all she wants in life, baba she wants dangote son too, all u need to do is tell her what u dislike in her, let her work on it, then if she refused to work on it, that is when u can take a walk, because who ever u are going to marry again, u will still find fault, people like u don't know what u want, I don't stick my thing in a girl I don't fancy, how did u get in there when she has all this fault u mentioned. Brother work on yourself and her too thanks

You just made me remember that Michael W. Smith's song.

I'm going back to the heart of worship
Where it's all about you
It's all about you Jesus.

Make I go download am.

IamDavid:
I'm happy you explained how you're not a tribalist. I initially thought you were anyways. This (your explanation) is exactly how I feel about Igbo ladies. I love them, they're usually light skinned and beautiful (oh my gosh) but to gather strength to ask them out, na war for me. I was so close to one like that, we were next door neighbours in a rented apartment and we got so well together. I was getting emotional already but this tribe thing ehn... I'm Yoruba btw

I know, everyone wants a piece of Igbo ladies

They are like the Jewel in d Savannah.

UjuJoan2:
That's if she was truly even waiting for him. He has probably been her plan B, C or even D all these while.

So a woman will just stay and be waiting patiently for a man she has never met for four good years. Odiegwu.



Let him be there deceiving himself.

Yimu, you think I told the complete story here abi?

Elxandre:
Why are you a tribalist? That's awful.

Chimo! I must have used the wrong term.

I am not a Tribalist at all o. Abeg, I don't discriminate among people, class or religion. I believe in giving everyone d benefit of the doubt.

However, in marriage or family settings, I don't think I can settle with someone outside my tribe. My family is a very traditional one, I won't be easy and I have seen how my parents lived and I think o will love to model mine after them.

I love the Igbo culture. The food, the music, the language, the dance, everything about it.

I hope I'm not making a big mistake shutting out other tribes. Till date, d best ladies I've met aren't even Igbo.

Sincerely, I wish I did give her a chance but something kept pulling me out everytime I wanted to.

Ishilove:
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^^
This here is someone who did not allow his preek think for him.

Brother Ollins, be like CsRockefeller

I didn't take after Mr John D. Rockefeller for nothing

But Mr Ollins, just try, take this as a mountain you must move. We can't keep running away from every challenge we encounter.

Read books, listen to podcasts, watch YouTube videos, let love radiate to her tru you. It's tough I know but you gat this, I believe you die!!

Remember, if we love only those that love us or are deserving of our love, then what good have we done?

Ybaby:
I beg to differ.

After reading that story, the only other thing he could have done is to beat her with a stick like fulani guide their cows.
She acted very malu-like with little dignity.

The hand writing was on th wall. I applaud him for not sleeping with her because then I will say he took advantage.

He enjoyed being the center of her world and only God should be the center of our world.

She is probably very young and na so young dey do- she has not learnt to value herself above all others ... but he did nothing wrong in my opinion. @csrockefellar

All through, I was the one even pushing her to go to school. In no way was I manipulating her to keep her around.

We never saw since I left school, just phone calls so there was no way I could have stopped her from being free, it's what's she tells me I believe.

She saw that the friendship was very valuable to her and decided to stay despite we not dating.

I believe I did no wrong, I told her why we can't be, she acknowledged but we still kept in touch.

Tomorrow when she completes her education, she will look back and be happy she met someone who pushed her not someone who was interested in her body or frivolities.

@Mariangeles

Akin3891:
@bolded = off point. My post is deep and only the .......... ones can understand. How and when do you certify a person to be yours truly?There's something you don't know about that someone you believe you know so much. Not only money spurs jealousy, I was with a matured friend gisting, then he said, anytime there is a baby dedication in my church and I heard them shouting bouncing baby boy, I get upset and leave the auditorium. I need not ask him why but reason is ,he's got only girls and hating on those with.....I have both sex and sometimes says the words like: my boys in his presence.. Most people hate what they don't have.

Being poor doesn't necessarily turn one to hater but your mindset does. I won't advise anyone to quit a long time blossom friendship because of financial discrepancy but if your friend exhibit friendenemy symptoms, don't be too naive to say he's my childhood pals, human mind is too deep.

I understand. One must also learn to talk with grace not with pump and pride.

He gets up to leave doesn't mean he is hating, for Pete's sake, he might just be feeling inadequate at that point. You interpreted his response very wrongly.

OP I have a feel of what are passing through. It's quite a pity you had sex with her.

I once had this small (petite) Yoruba girl. I was first attracted to her because I thought she was Igbo due to her fair complexion.

We got into d friendship, gosh!! She was there, everyday, every night. She will call with her credit and we will gist in Yoruba, we were an item, yet I refuse to ask her out.

I couldn't imagine myself with a Yoruba lady, even if I managed to get pass that hurdle what about her education? She was a hairstylist, her mom had just passed on, her father was away in Benin Republic, her brother was in Abk, so she was just alone in one room.

Two years gone, we were still friends, she kept on asking why I was taking time I really wanted to love her enough to date her but I couldn't find it. She asked if it was because she wasn't in school, then after my NYSC, she got admission to a Polytechnic, she thought I might have a change of heart. I didn't.

Every opportunity to go see her, I turned it down. It's now 4 years, she has decided to move on. I was still trying to close my eyes and imagine that she isn't Bisola but Nkechi or Chioma. Funny is that we spoke Yoruba everytime we spoke.

She invited me one day for that stuff, I told myself; don't do this if you don't love her enough to date her. I didn't go.

The following month she got a date, but she wasn't feeling it. We kept on talking and my presence was a distraction to her new found love. Las las d guy blocked me everywhere and I decided to let it be.

Sometimes, I just seat and beat my heart or brain for not finding that push or extra space to accommodate that girl in my heart.

Truth is sometimes our heart or feelings just plays tricks on us.

My own case was not that I didn't find a very nice beautiful girl but stupid Tribalism wouldn't let me be.

judedwriter:
No one is totally unlovable. It just takes a lot of time to truly love someone... I mean a lot of time to communicate and try to understand your partner. Be best friends for a long stretch of time... Love will eventually come in.

But if you have a deeper love for God, it won't be difficult to really appreciate your partner, even you aren't linked romantically.

You're very, very emotionally balanced.

And mentally too.

But, this philosophy (which is d right one) isn't popular, so very few will appreciate it or even take it. Until I have you one like, no one did.

Chai!!

Akin3891:
You don't feel free or safe discussing business/investments with friends that can't keep up with you financially, how can you gist about buying bonds worth of millions with a friend that doesn't have 500k in his account, you are only brewing jealousy which could consume one life. Sometimes, the more you grow financially the less friends you should have.

You've got a car,a house, a family and other things that make life comfy, but a buddy that is struggling to keep up.. how relax can you be having drinks in a bar with such friends.. ? seems playing with fire... Each conversation you have with such friend becomes a trap of jealousy that may result in conflicts. God help you if you have the type that smile and laugh convincingly to be worthy of a true pals but deep down, he's patiently waiting for your downfall n the day he will say.. shey na only

This is in bad taste.

That means you never had a friend all through. Or don't know how to make quality friendship.

Who said it must even be at a bar? Some valuable friends, real friends may never get to your level that doesn't make them envious or useless.

Some of us have kept friends from our 1st year at school till date. Stop thinking everyone wants a piece of you because of your wealth.

And d bar isn't where to make quality friendship.

sisisioge:


Like Wuraola Asake Adeife

Na wa o!

You a Princess?

You from Osun? Sounds like a name from Oduduwa's village.

Anyway, my brothers from d east will consider you provided you don't cook with locust beans.

sisisioge:
Its not Ogechi o...though I love the name. Oge here means fashion in Yoruba. My name is very Yoruba

Like Omotosho Damilola Ireoluwa

sisisioge:


I no even know the guy, he just decided to pick on my jeje sef

Lol. Just like d way u played along, that's a class act.

Still wondering a Yoruba lady is bearing Oge. Do you want us from the east to come pluck you out?

sisisioge:
Thank you! What can I say...contented me

Lol. Both of u are not ok

QuantAnalyst:
This thought process ehn.

Lol. What about it?

Guys, have you heard of the Alaigbo Stabilization Fund setup by the S.E Governors Forum and Ohaneze Ndi-Igbo?

It's gonna be a game changer for the Igbo nation.

With remittances from abroad and contributions from the 5 states, we are going to be unstoppable.

ajl:
Even at gas stations you are advised to release static electricity in your body before touching the pump. One can do this by touching certain objects or materials before going near the pump.

Interesting. Just learning this.

Gerrard59:
Truth is: the Nigerian market cannot afford the cost except there is an increase in the price of subscriptions, something Multichoice wants to do. The problem is that Nigerians have become poorer over the years and her currency has lost enormous value within the same period. Which is why any organisation that decides to offer the same service would have to increase prices to breakeven or Nigerians should expect the worst of services. Nevertheless, I really pray, hope and wish that Multichoice refuses to purchase the new rights to the Premier League so that cretinous Nigerians will suffer for their profound foolishness!

I tell you, Nigerians calling for pay per view are just too emotional, they don't know they will pay even more.

The Govt is just setting them up, let them ask the former Econet man now Kwese Tv how he is faring in the industry.

Nigerians should stop being envious, DStv bouquet prices are fair, because you see them ride cars and build fine office complex doesn't mean they are not sweating it out somewhere, it's a private company and d industry is very capital intensive.

emmy512:
Nigeria pays the least for sub with DStv. And dstv has over 60% active subscriber base in south africa, with nigeria over 10%.
The profit margins shows nigeria with it's more population generates 100% less of revenue compared to RSA.
This our federal government is just looking for who to blame for their inefficiency, ask yourself if you pay DStv sub and have light 24hrs would you complain? It's a business not charity if you can't afford it or think it's too expensive go and use startimes and complain about picture quality.
How will I use my money and buy something then you come and force me to share the rights i bought with people who can't pay me.

Imagine DStv giving startimes and NTA rights to their epl and champions league matches.
Will you watch champions league or epl on startimes or NTA?

Don't rule out this Govt. Nigerians are very cunny and good at looking for loopholes to circumvent the system.

Don't be surprised that there is a company waiting on standby that will buy this rights exclusively from the producers directly and sell to Dstv, Startimes and Kwese Tv.

Imagine if the rights total about $500millon, that would mean about $150million from each paytv right? You may laugh it off and say that DStv can simply afford it and still maintain the largest market share but don't celebrate yet. Due to our corrupt practices, d Nigerian promoted company (in this case Startimes) would then go ahead to drastically reduce prices drawing customers to them and making it difficult for the likes of DStv to compete.

Mind you, them reducing their prices is because they know if Startimes is unable to pay their share of $150million they can easily put their hands in the cookie jar by writing a memo to CBN of course backed by the powers that be, that way they get to amass so much without no accountability and those bribes DStv refused to pay or where paying would then look like chicken change

I have seen this a lot of times, I tell u d average Nigerian is corrupt, and some Nationals like d Chinese don't mind to roll in dirty waters.

This attempt to break Dstv's monopoly is a smoke screen to get to the cookie jar, that's all. Don't forget, OBJs Govt gave Hitv the legal framework to operate and left their hands out of it, if it were today, corrupt officials would have found a way to keep it afloat using Govt funds.

Don't forget the recent story with Polaris Bank and d Funta's

Nigeria is irredeemable, it's sinks depper everyday and stinks to d heavens

sexylassie2:
If you like bring jstv, bntv, kvtv and other TV, you can't compete with dstv, they have the cash, the infrastructures and management.

Nigerians thinks because of our large population it means money.

Nigerians are poor, a small country like Monaco few in number but profitable for businesses.

I prefer a small market with money than a big market like Nigeria with no cash.

You are getting too emotional, chill.

Lol. Everyone calm down.

In 2003 when Govt set out to first break the monopoly of DStv, it requested that d EPL excludes Nigeria from the rest of Africa and treat Nigeria as a continent or a separate entity from the rest of Africa so as to give the then up and coming Hitv a platform to wrestle feathers with DStv.

This meant that DStv had to pay first for exclusive rights for EPL in Africa then struggle or battle with Hitv for d rights of Nigeria. After Hitv collapsed, DStv had unfiltered access to the Nigeria rights.

Now, with the rising cost of the dollar, Dstv cannot keep up with that model of paying twice for a service and had to increase d price of their bouquet.

Despite this, Govt is still trying to break their back and they (DStv) are beginning to think it's best for them to pull out of the EPL Nigeria market.

The cost of getting this right is about $350million, the question is can the present Nigerian market easily generate this sum?

Me thinks the Govt is trying to promote a company somewhere, more like the hands of Esau but the voice of Jacob.

OgogoroFreak:
Food is allowed to move freely. No interstate ban on food.

With all due respect, some of you make comments like people out of touch.

You think it's eldorado out there? It's here people were castigating Nigerians for having low savings culture and I just smiled.

Be thankful that it's good on your side, be thankful.

martowskin1:
Yeah, that she took what is not her's and deny it.

Yes that the young man know the value of integrity.

You must be a yahoo boy, so integrity has no meaning to u

I did not want to reply you at first but on a second thought I decided to.

First, you don't know me, you can't just label me a Yahoo boy or someone who doesn't have intergity.

This guy here has worked as a Teller in a Bank and I remember my brief stay was scandal free to d extent of reporting an overage of almost 10k, even after I left they couldn't trace where it came from and no one ever came to claim it, I could have done as my other colleague and pocket it.

That is just an example out of many, so I have intergity a plenty.

You see, while you and your likes have decided to see an evil in d lady, I decided to see a victim and a person in need of help. It's not unusual in this part of the world to always throw a stone or join d bandwagon to shout "crucify him". We have a penchant of sending these victims to d abyss of condemnation as if it would make any difference.

A very close friend stole my phone, d only phone I ever had to save for months b4 I could buy. He thought I didn't know, I asked him he denied but I knew he did it. I forgave him even without him admitting d guilt and d friendship was even more close than before till I graduated. When I heard he committed an exam malpractice and was given an extra year, I really felt bad for him, I tried to reach him but he went off radar.

(Don't be tempted to think I was also into exam malpractice and d likes. I'm just a guy with a wide arms and a large umbrella for all)

Let me try not to make this a dissertation or a term paper. There must have been a form of affection between these 2 intended couples. Any of them could have made a mistake or displayed a bad attitude during courtship, in this case the lady has, what then do you do as d other party?

Do you jump ship and just leave?

Do you further condemn her actions and punish her?

What happened to giving her the benefit of doubt especially as she has expressed remorse?

What happened to seeing it as a challenge and helping her overcome it if it's a habit?

Must we always throw away the baby with the bath water?

Maybe it's just me, but I choose to see humans as people who continually to make wrong choices and fight battles all tru their lives, I see humans as not perfect beings who need a help per time.

If you love those who only love you, then what good have you done?

If you abandon people in their worst times and low moments then what friend are you?

Without sympathy and empathy what are we?

I won't reply anyone again.