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jay bee: Thread wasn't thrashed, it was moved to the right section (dating and meet-up sub section)

Lmao, you didn't get me. I meant the thread was not created by me or with my consent but a ploy to parodies my handle so you should lock it because its not relevant or romantic. Thanks.

Jaybee please can you see that this thread is tossed to the trash https://www.nairaland.com/951855/back/4#10996117. I left a message there for Mukina. Thank you

La Parisienne:
Cuddle keep writing long essays while your mates are getting married and living happily ever after. There's no rule of thumb on how and where to meet a life partner.

Me thinks you are somewhat confused. Today you don't want to get married cos men are useless and you hate them so much, tomorrow you want to get married. Next tomorrow, you want to meet your hubby in a seminary! Make up your darn mind about what you really want.

Hahahahahaha Whatever that's your opinion. I always try to cover all areas of a topic so people either relate or disregard, its that simple. When people change their mindset and believes, certain circumstances triggers it so my stands have changed. Yes I used to be all romantic and all believing love can happen even on the moon but recent events has got me reasoning differently. Its my opinion and not your business. I don't think I have ever questioned your own decision right from your indecisive relationship thread you created recently.

If my essay irritates you, then you look pass it. Some of your post always sound bitchy, saucy, insulting and too forward but I overlook it as these are mere online encounters and no one owes anyone any explanation or no one would get richer by them. I suggest you also take the advise you gave me, obviously you should be above 21 whats keeping you? Is writing poetry and online love not too much of a distraction when your mates are getting hooked offline and living happily ever after. Its so easy to judge people on here, look for faults and put them to order but there is absolutely nothing wrong in doing the same to ourselves as well. Its called Self Evaluation!

Thanks for your advice though, duly noted! I will pick the reasonable elements in them.

Konnektions146:
all options are very much open

believe in possibilities, what do yu consider normal way? cos i ve seen ladies making the moves and it still works(though some guys dont appreciate it and as well ladies). men are expeted to do certain things but there come attimes wen u as a lady can assist. never knew this kinda mentality still exist, men should do everythin.
no offense, just my tot
is ur pastor in Nigeria? cos i am sure private telephony system is just abt a decade old, do de calculation with the phone number collection, and  marryin for 20years.


lol, my dear , is dis where yur own joy, pride and confidence comes?
it doesnt happen again cos u can even see a 20 year old guy toastin a 28year old lady with so much impetus and confidence.
how yu re not as archaic as i am tempted to think.

re-programme your sense of reasoning sister.

I didn't rule out anything. I only gave instances and examples. Whatever works for individuals should suffice. If you want to meet your spouse online, nothing wrong in that. If you also want to meet your spouse in real life then there is nothing in that as well as far as everything is done the right way, at the right time with the right person. Actually, I just programmed my reasoning from meeting people online to offline so no need to change as La parisienne said, I should be stable so I will stick to what I believe in now just like I can't force your own reasoning out of you. Everyone is peculiar in nature. Thanks for your constructive criticism.

What if there was no Nairaland or internet, how would people have married? The op's question is a tough one but I will just write what is on my mind at the moment.

My pastor preached to us to meet, date and marry the normal way, no matchmaking, no hook ups. It was also advised in church to allow the brothers make the move as that is how its meant to be. My pastor also said he met his wife on the road, walked up to her, she refused/shunned him but he later got her number from their maid and their friendship started before it escalated and they have been married for 20 years. I am sure you are wondering what has all these stories got to do with nairaland?

There are a lots of divorce and failed marriages out there so whatever you are doing, do it the way its meant to be, at the right time, at the right place and with the right set of people. The Ideal way is to meet your hubby/wife in reality, he/she met you in real life, liked what he/she saw(you are his/her specs and desired qualities), went after it and discovered the character was on point and decided to put a ring on it. I take pride in that notion and also respect it.

Sometimes people are forced to accept online characters for a relationship because they feel they have wasted their time so much online that they manage them and end up marrying them even when deep down those online xters are not their spec or desires but they go along with it just to fulfil all righteousness, then start complaining or loose interest fast or use it as reference through out the marriage whenever there is a fight or something.

The greatest joy is for a guy to spot a lady in real life wherever, walk up to her and toast her, or ask her friends to please call her or beg her brother or neighbours to talk to her or develops cold feet to express himself and starts by asking for a book/bible/directions from her or fall into the gutter while asking her out(probably he was fretting) or even chases her all over the place, stalks her etc. Those minute exercise even if it few, gives u pride & confidence.

That doesn't mean you can't marry from Nairaland but why have you ruled out reality? Its too early not to explore real life, why do you want to live your life in the walls of nairaland or meet your spouse here. Its better to try and hang out, visit places, make friends and all before you result to online, never limit yourself. An ugly man that proposes to a lady in real life can be better than online because it was done the right way so challenge yourself. You don't need the perfect guy to experience the perfect love so even if in real you meet an average guy, that to me is better than hoping for a Nairalander to settle down with. But person no see in reality, you fit opt for better handle here. A lot of nice admirable brothers and sisters that are marriage materials on Nairaland.

So you would notice I didn't say Yes or No but if you read my post well, you would get the message .

tellwisdom:
Cruddle me, can i smooch u and touch ur yansh??

would you do that to your mom? treat me as u would do your mom so i know i am in safe hands

victorazy:
Thank you so much

How to even know a man that would care for his woman is by mere looking at his mother. Any man that doesn't cater for his mother or abandon her in a detached uncompleted hut or home in the village with bolli and groundnut while he is living large in the city with all manner of luxury, then you can testify to his future and how he would treat his women or wife. btw u r welcome

victorazy:
@ Cuddlemii
Ur d best thing I've ever met on NL, u made my day great, thanks. How can I luv another guy's g/f who later became my wife more than my moda who was my mada from my first breath? Impossible.

Don't mind human beings and their lack of love for their parents. I remember a fight I had with my best friend back then. She bought PSB for her bf but the day her mom visited them, Jesus is Lord if you see her torn shoe and clothes like a mad woman. She was looking too haggard and unkempt like a mad woman she was even shouting n cussing because it was obvious she was abandoned and uncared for. I remember one aristo man that had account with us then that sent 5,000 to his mom in Ibadan but his numerous babes got nothing less that 150k as they wish. Some people don't get their priorities right, when they get heart broken and thrown out of their matrimonial home its this their parents they run to and their parents would stand by them no matter what. I remember one chick in secondary school that denied her mom is school. So many tales and happenings to show some people disregard their parents or do not care for them.

I love my mom and would always love her more.

After so much consideration, my hatred for men has increased 100% so I think I will just get married to continue the lineage of my family, for procreation and to avert pple from giving me the whole marriage sermon. If not, men are so not worth it. I am surprised I, cuddle who is a lunatic for love and romance can say this but its a harsh reality of life. Women should concentrate more on the love of self development, empowerment and independence because that's loving yourself first. That love of self-growth would come in handy whenever external love fails or breaks you.

Ladies that fight physically for a guy are simply uncivilized, local, uncultured and lack proper etiquette. Just imagine after dressing up, looking all fly with lovely pair of shoes and a clutch bag, then you are spotted dragging some chick's wig, weaves or clothes because of a guy. What impression are you creating of yourself. I regard such ladies as insecure and emotional wrecks.

Just comport yourself as a lady, what would be would be, the best lady would prevail or triumph. A lot of ladies fight over men. The men usually enjoy the scene, they laugh at the ladies, press their buttocks while they fight or throw them out of the house or even video the fight so as to show their real fiance or friends.

Any man that allows fighting between two ladies doesn't give a damn about them, he has someone else he is nurturing, that he is probably not screwing but he is using the fighter for mere sex.

Ladies should not fight for men because once a guy senses desperation, clinginess or a lady is coming on too strong, they disengage, take advantage of the lady and the lady becomes worthless instantly. Just play your role, act decent and crazy when necessary, don't pass your boundaries, be yourself, don't fake things, don't imitate others, don't seek for perfection, be prayerful, love & groom yourself, always make yourself happy first, give yourself peace and what would be would be or who is meant for you would stay. No need to fight anything, channel that energy, fierceness, fisticle to your own development, wealth, empowerment and accomplishment.

jmaine:
Damn !! is that you https://i1233.photobucket.com/albums/ff390/ShaneDawg021/th_jayzcamel.png

Was wondering the same thing. You shadow is very pronounced, Damn!

jmaine:
https://i1233.photobucket.com/albums/ff390/ShaneDawg021/th_obamafrown2.png Newsline

hehehehehehehehe Look whose back!

jmaine:
https://i1233.photobucket.com/albums/ff390/ShaneDawg021/th_smiletongue.png

Very funny.
But I will let you be as I turned a new leaf last year if not that tongue which you displayed would have been your tongue only swallowed by you.

[quote author=Ch@nges link=topic=866206.msg10154589#msg10154589 date=1328744442]^ how many hours has it taken you to put up this pieces of bullshìt?? Duh!![/quote]Was that for yourself or who?

coogar:
garlet!

impressive!

                Love-pamphlet

===========================
Alert!
Here comes the couple called- Garlet!

Garlet, an emblem that represents Scarlet.  
A couple consisting of one Starlet,
called Wislet!

A soothing color to represent you both is Violet
Coogar would shield his missing rib like a Gauntlet
He would symbolize the union with a Bracelet
Wislet shall wear a dress made of Camlet
You both would be Ballets
In an emergency, she would take a Bullet
You shall both take refuge in a Charlet,
I see a vision of you both having Triplet

==============================

End of Leaflet

coogar:
pass my message across then, madam cuddlemii.
the number one matchmaker of nigerian youths. . . . .

Point of correction, cuddler is the matchmaker!
Anyways I will give her your message on the val thread or start a thread for you two love birds
What nickname would be appropriate for Wislet & Coogar?

Coogwi- Sounds like some Chinese noodles.
Wagsco- Sound like a cement company like Wapco and the likes.
Wig-Coos- Sounds like weaves
Cool-wise- Thats it, found it. Thank me l8r

coogar:
supermodel?
can i see her digital image?

Come to that thread and ask her for it
She makes sense no be small but I don't have her digital image.
I just have a discretionary image of the damsel without stress, the wife material with no barrier, the online wife with decent real life.

coogar:
wislet must be a super-model then!

Supermodel look at the way she's walking.
Look at the way she moves.
From the hands to her shoes. She's a supermodel.
She poses when the camera flash
Omg Coogar, me likey Wissy baby!

pendo89:
oh boy that's a lot of e-work and my mind is completely blank. Besides we got multiple handles at play. so let it pass. I will applaud the winners.

Lolz at winners. Its not a competition. Its for everyone including u baby!
I seem happy today or is my love mode returning

coogar:
wislet chose me. . . .

Yes
Is that you blushing?
Oh mehn, dude, you so whipped!

coogar:
where's my picker?

Jack, where's Wislet? That is your picker!
You better bring in your titanic ship so as to win Marc to it.
He is taking the lead on that thread!

pendo89:
I swear you need a slap from one oyedepo. That fighting Winch in you needs to go!

I read it and its quite funny but I must admit I lose interest very fast.I couldnt even finish reading the instructions so I do not know how its played.
But let the experts do it cz we enjoy reading.

Lolz. Well its simple just pick someone u wish to val that's all. Then on Feb 14th, present him with an e-card or e-gift just for fun and to show appreciation to handles. I await u on there. We need u!

Dyt:
Hmmmmm
my val yh
*closes eyes,touches chest n breathes in*
blows kisses

erm u said u nid a val wen Coogar s all ova u

Didn't u read the part that he is with 2 women in a suite?
I don't fancy men with so many ladies. I want me a one min man that I can teach!

pendo89:
You know gal, there's something called forum etiquette but it doesn't exist here. So best thing is to ignore and dont allow urself to be caught up in e -fights.
People who have nothing to write home about offline try to prove themselves online from my observation cz men its tiring trying to win an e fight.
In a public forum like this people are not supposed to get personal u know but here they do.  If you want to enjoy it here develop a 'what I don't know doesn't hurt me attitude' post and vamoose like u just said,cz the moment you try digging out people's lives beyond the forum,you give urself too much stress .
The public doesnt care at all! But we just dont get that part.

My very own val. Why haven't I seen u on that val thread. You are fronting, isnt it? Please come and make a choice so as to spice the thread up. Your lecture about kamasutra still stands, need me a bed booster cos I am lacking in that workshop I need to tap some some like a raw some8)

seedord247:
Try sexkills.

Sure but you have to join us. Remember its 3 per suite

coogar:
@ room 112 with slimyem & pendo.

Oh yeah! Tell me about it!
Best of both worlds.
I envy you, wish I could have 2 guys in a suite too but its a man's world

Dyt:
Wateva den
suit ur fantasy

Babes speaking of fantasy, who are you picking for vals?
I need me a tall, fine, sexy and intelligent man for dt day!

coogar:
cuddlemii - what happened to you?
did you travel?

Yep. I just got back from Australia
What happened to you too?
Did u go on sabbatical?

Hmmm Na Wa Oh!!!!

Dyt:
my pleasure sir
wen ll i meet d lil one
wanna kiss his healthy cheek

Omg Dyt,
at least wait till he is 18.
I will gladly guard the door closely "then" so that the antelope does not catch u in the act of kissing.

xynerise:
@topic. Dyt, Iyatrustee, Annawhite, Cuddlemi will be at d back sit of my car. While Skydeep stays in front and sexkillz will manage d boot. . I will take them to amusement park this valentine.

Would your car accommodate the whole bumpers? Killz's bumper inclusive!