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Nairalandi:
boy u be jew and some cult guys threatening u to leave your girl wey u don friend like 2yrs.oboy wetin u go do,

Dis kind thing till dey happen for uni? Na wa O.

Omo no blend in O, no join cult becos of woman (dt na craze man thinking).

if the babe leave u later nko? u don partake for deep evil thing wey fit follow u for the rest of ur life. Anyways e get some cult boys wey just dey supply funds and all but dem no dey partake in the killing but dts if u have dt kind of money to burn or ur papa na top shot. Connections dey for cultism sha as una go graduate to major occultism and become guvnors, presidents etc. As a cult guy, u go get a top shot god father but abeg all that is not worth it.

If the threat gets too hot, then u have to free the babe for a while at least to distract them or let things subside. una fit carry una lashing n love love go outside the school or during holiday. make u and ur babe face ur school work, abi when u go graduate sef? una fit continue later na.

incase u decide to join sha, pick buccaneers(fine boyz wit swag). I no like dem axe, eiye.

Orikinla:
How do you feel dating a guy who is hot and you are not? He is always making heads to turn on the street and at parties as he attracts the attention of girls who are prettier and sexier than you. His good looks and charismatic personality are intimidating.

I think its cool that ladies find your man attractive that's part of the benefits of dating a fine boy. So with the right comportment, a lady ought to be able to manage the situation. They can look but don't touch .

Mind you nowadays, ladies hover around even richly ugly men too, its no longer a territory for only fine boys. Ugly guys too are most wanted. Oko wan lo de.

Orikinla, I would have tagged u a gay cos ur description a guy sounds so sexy, hmmm

Na wa oh! There seems to scarcity of men these days. Complains from US, Canada and Nigeria but not much in UK. Uk babes are playing their games tight. What could be wrong?

Op, is there a specific venue to meet bachelors or do they go about with a tag on their forehead?

You can meet them anywhere and everywhere depending on the company you keep, your disposition as a lady, your etiquette & manners. Just try and be more outgoing like attending parties, single programs in church, the gym, a sports club, school events or work related events. Always appear sharp & presentable cos most naija men these days are all about the physical first (something has to attract them first. For instance, they won't know if you can cook or if you are virgin from afar till they get to know you but your looks would speak volumes, its the way you are dressed that you would be addressed. Its after they are attracted by what they see that they can discover your magnificent xter) So if no eligible bachelor has made moves on u recently then forget about locations now and start a self evaluation alongside prayers, the problem might be from u, sort that out first, it would happen naturally. Its not that bad

Goldieluks:
Three freaks. Thanks for wasting our time and effort in replyinh your loads of shittty lies. Get a Life bollocks!

goldie abeg no kill me with laughter . i am even confused with this story becos its appears to be so real & convincing but yet has some unrealistic elements in it.

Amya:
@cuddlemii seriously we would. We think outside the box.
Getting back together my foot! That would be the biggest disaster! @OP leave (live) and learn!

@music,

I think you need to go back and read op's posts, the supposed fiancee and their mutual friend's post. 

he hasn't divorced the white lady and his plan was to prove to the whitey that he is capable of impregnating a woman as the lack of baby was the cause of the marriage split-up.
Also he has various relationships with other girls who he has tried unsuccessfully to impregnate numerous times. He was just lucky with you  because he has a really low Fluid count

If after the above statement by their mutual friend and all the other post by the op & fiance, you still support their union then I can only say human beings deserve the cruel things that come their way. So because of companionship & marriage, human beings should settle for less & get their hands foolishly burnt. Na wa oh.

Well I respect your opinion too, she knew what she was getting herself into and she is already in it so she might as well finish what she started.

newmusic:
This story is quite interesting, both parties need to buckle up and go on with their plan. Just like the guy have said we are all not perfect. So forgive each other and move on. Love conquers all, dont let nairaland affect your decision to get marry to the person you love. Cheers.

Its better you go back to old school music if your new music doesn't signify or preach change. So you can't draw inspiration from the ongoing protest in naija, and stand for the notion, "no more exploitation".

What stupid love is that? After reading all the rubbish those 3 posted, you still think they are all the right fit for each other. They all sound abnormal to me. Nairaland or no Nairaland, the guy was never committed to her or their union, this is even a disgraceful turn out. If she ends up forcing him to marry her, that guy would poison her in the future or stage her death. Would you still be singing your love song by then.

Forget romance music, they are greatly exaggerated and the musicians don't even practice what they sing just like Chris Brown bashed Rihanna. So please lets apply logical reasoning here.

Amya:
With new developments and contradictions that have arisen from comments from serious_ly and his supposed buddy jimovia, I had to good back and dig from the 1st page what th OP iam_a_lady said.

My conclusion. All these was staged by the guy in question to dump her without guilt (and a extricate himself from any blame. The lady in question was pestering the guy for marriage and he was probably okay with the way the relationship is. She wanted to get pregnant to rope him in. She's desperate.

Now, back to the guy, he's a gentleman and probably don't want to be seen as a heartbreaker. He likes her, but I don't think he wants to marry her. So he thought up this whole scheme to extricate himself from the guilt. Fortunately/unfortunately, she fell for it, and came out here to nairaland. Creating a more easier way for the guy to walk out of it like the victim.

OP, Let it go. S.hit happens.

Seriousl_y you are a douchebag. Grow up.

We should pair up as detectives, we wld make a good team and the pay wld be good.

Dear Diary,

My day was fun. I met a nlder that arrived in my school recently. She is so cool, real n crazy. We gelled instantly, its good to relate with someone who is fun around here. I also met her friend who is also a 9ja guy, he is a club freak n does not jeopardize his fun. Crazy bunch but me likey, dis place is dry abeg, I need that energy.

We started a new course in class called switches, it went well. My instructor called me aside to settle the racist and I so I'm good now.

I had a chat with seadord, I almost fell off my chair cos I was laughing. That is all.

He is being real even if I don't support his response but your brother is very straight forward & direct. I am sure his kind lets a lady know what she is getting into. So I like his honesty.

@topic, beauty & richness are minor things so I will stick with him if I love him & if he loved or treated me well in the relationship.

But if he becomes paralyzed, disabled, crippled, vegetable, lost his manhood then I will have to think logically, rationally & realistically considering he is my bf and not my husband (so many factors would determine my decision like would the guy do the same for me or stay back in d relationship n treat me like a leper/outcast).

If he is HIV/AIDS positive, I would leave him straight up, no pretense about that.

Loving someone based on looks & wealth can be shallow but its safe involving your brain and sense in your preference remember its your prerogative so you can do what u like. As long as you get a preference/spec/taste that gives you happiness & peace of mind then that is all that matters and not if people think its shallow or not. Whatever works for individuals in relationship should suffice.

pato405:
hahahahahaaaaaaaaa, can't stop laughingggggg!!!!

babe no be so o! i wish it were.

your perception about 9ja guys is grossly jaundiced. are you speaking from experience or heresy? you also sound like a feminist .

can we talk more on the other side please? holler mie: minajkindy@yahoo.com

I am not a feminist . What would you have said when I used to bash/argue in support of ladies & against men? u probably would have named me a mad woman.

I am entitled to my own opinion just like you are as well. So its not hearsy, its fact or happens in most cases.

@op

Why can't a girl date her own man?

If I were to be a guy dating my ex's friend, I will bleep the hell out of her, make her my rebound girl & dump her. She sabi wakadube abi? Her head no fit find her own man? Na opp(other people's property) she like.

Any guy that does dt is a big fool, he is falling his ex's hand. She would feel that he can't get a girl out there. Her head would be swelling especially if she is dating someone alien to him. Its like she was promoted & the guy was demoted.

Any lady that dates her friend's ex is simple cheap, desperate & not marketable. How can a lady feed on remnant like a dog?

Above all, there is prestige in that five letter word called PRIDE.

pato405:
@Cuddlemii:

I can imagine how much you crave and bask in fantasies of being cosseted and cuddled (as much or even much more than your pseudonym suggests) , anyway, I can help you out with that if that's all you crave for sha!

, and just for your records, men aren't archaic in anyway. ladies (9ja in particular) have decided to deregulate their downstream sector as an austerity measure i guess and this, to a large extent calls for the sometimes adverse reactions you term as ''archaic''. There aint no archaic man.

men seek pure undiluted affection not dependent on their financial muscles. hop that clears your misconception about men.

A lady needs to go about with a dictionary if she is going to be romantically linked to u or start a romantic journey with you. Is it because of romance that you used all these vocabulary for me. Odikwa serious and intense.

Anyways, I am into the romantics and I have noticed that naija men lack in that department because they only communicate with their manhood. They are never considerate of the lady, her emotional needs, desires, fantasy and what gets her satisfied/pleasured. But with your analysis, there is hope. I believe you!

I don't even think you need financial muscles, your ways with words is more than sufficient. Damn!

Virginity discussions on here all the time and yet no nlander has been able to present proof that it still exist. Until a virgin is bold enough to show his/her electronic virginity test result on here then would I listen. But if there is no proof, please lets hear word abeg. hiss.

@op, not even a prostitute would ask sec sch virgins to have sex at 18 becos of fertility. People like exaggerating virginity related issues. How about allow people figure things out themselves and be responsible for their actions. I am sure human beings can carry out their own research & find facts.

JimOvia:
lemme use this medium and speak the truth cos i dont like how sincerly_y (real name henry Awodu) is treating his now ex-fiance i_am lady(name enibokun azeke).

i was aware of the whole matter from the beginning and i warned him it could backfire. It started as a little test to know if she was the snooping type. Henry purposely left all those little clues for her to find. Enibokun, why do u think he purposely disabled his ipad password which has been always under lock and key since u met him. concidence?
he has never been a good person (though he loves you) and he planned this prank from the start but he didnt know you wud put it on nairaland.
he hasnt divorced the white lady and his plan was to prove to the whitey that he is capable of impregnating a woman as the lack of baby was the cause of the marriage split-up.
Also he has various relationships with other girls who he has tried unsucessfully to impregnate numerous times. He was just lucky with you because he has a really low Fluid count.
I really feel for u as you are pregnant already but i think you should forgive him cos he loves you. You shouldnt have put this on nairaland. You should have seeked advice elsewhere. Now see what your love for internet has caused you.
take heart

deavicky:
cuddlemii might be right in his last paragraph but the best thing to do is to confront him because if he is not the one that sent that mail he would have confronted you. talk to him hear from him if it causes any trouble back off. i av seen wedding called off a night before the day and i av also see where terrible girls abort 8 month pregnancy your is just 4.

Fear us joor8) .
FYI, I am not a guy

sexlog:
Cuddlemi, kiss me & your life will not remain the same.   Msdarksin, you are not goin too deep, you are ok.

Bring it on if it will reduce d price of fuel.

essarios:
This is one of the reasons why some relationship fail, ladies are gifted with the power of knowing a mans true feeling and vise versa. tell us your story and let us all learn.

Is it that I am hallucinating or you didn't explain your topic thoroughly. You didn't do justice to the topic you created.

Anyways, based on the title, "what do you do when you are in a love triangle?", I will make the best use of it. The best man/woman always win. You just need to know how to play your game tight if not, feel free to be in the loser's wagon.

op, u can even try love web as triangle is too limited in scope. u need to upgrade.

pato405:
is the section the criteria for validity?  , or are you simply trying to be biased ??

Come again please, I didn't get u the first time.
Obviously most of the ladies on here are romantic, why else would they have picked the section?
Why are u also on the romance section if not because we have romantic ladies here. Can u interact/relate with ur same sex on all romantic issues? Nah so give the ladies here some credit
Its fortunate that ladies in "general" r more soft, warm, sexy and emotional so they are the romantic ones, naija men are all about the manhood what it charges, discharges & recharges.
Gotta give it to the ladies for putting up with the archaic romantic lifestyle men

jay bee:
Are you sure? My past experiences contradicts your assertion aunty cuddle.
Anyhoo, my game is still pretty tight and forever locked on to right frequency so ain't no problemo for this dude
You pregnant again  
must you always get pregnant every time the Igbo prince strokes your big ikebe?
Don't tell me you are on a break the world record mission

grandpapi jay, how d hell would u start an action with just touching?
so ur mouth wont even brush hers @ all?
serz, r u sure u were not the only one enjoying it? its easier for a babe to form ecstasy & climax just to please a guy.
Except ur mouth works in mysterious ways, in other ways on other wares, then ur game is tight
no kissing at all ke! Or small kiss but not too much

coogar:
what's tough about it?
there are men like me who love babymommas.

Lolz. When u wink, u make me feel u think I am a babymomma.
I am not but I have been dreaming of babies lately.
Will call my fist child, Cuddle. The second, Harmony. The third, Hilsden. The fourth, Tamara. The fifth(last born), Cradle

Goldieluks:
You don start ??





@OP, Kissing is very necessary in a relationship,it emerges a unique type of passion and emotion towards
your partner,whilst in a proper relationship. I love to kiss and be kissed.

Sis, I am still alright, I never kolo

jay bee:
Words from da playa himself. I actually know the song and it's one of 'em songs we use to put on repeat back in the days whenever we was ready for action. As you can see, he never mentioned kissing in any of the lyrics  

Well r kelly deals with women with a different skin type & system. The only time u don't need to kiss a naija girl for action is when she comes to u fully charged and ready to go.

[quote author=im_a lady link=topic=844173.msg9956901#msg9956901 date=1326468925]I wish it was a script but unfortunately this is my life here, I am terribly upset and worst still I have been ill all through this pregnancy but what can I do ? He read the posting which I wanted him to do so he knew that I knew  and sent me a what's app message saying the marriage is definately over and he couldn't believe he was reading about his life on nairaland ! What am I supposed to do? Beg? As for the baby issue I haven't 100% decided what to do just yet,but God will show me the wAy forward[/quote]First of all, why is he not doing a face to face dialogue with you? Why is he communicating with you on what's app messaging. At least he owes you that respect of seeing his fiance and baby mama to trash out this issue. If things are these shady and shaky then something is wrong with the foundation & the building. How did he find out about your post on nairaland? I mean it can be anyone's story, you didn't mention names so how did he figure it out? Or did he hack into your nland account too?

He is at fault here so why does he have the veto power to dismiss u over a messaging app. Mehn I am speechless cos your story is not making any sense but I guess I can only wish you the best. But if its true, I won't let him get away with it, he should at least take responsibility of the child and make sure you and the baby are comfortable. I really feel for you but being a single baby mama is really tough, trust me.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=844846.msg9956256#msg9956256 date=1326462296]It will be anywhere you want[/quote] :oI am out of here, before I get spoilt. What were u thinking with such a statement, I can't believe this .

jay bee:
My fingers are well manicured
R Kelly said something along the line of stroking, please remind me

I only know the one he sang with changing faces.
"Do you mind if I stroke you up (I don't mind) / Do you mind if I stroke you down (I don't mind) / All through the night (I don't mind).Until your body's tired"

Below is the 1st strophe/stanza of the song, just in case u need guidelines on how to do ur thang

Relax baby, I'm gonna make you feel real good
Tonight is your night, come here
Let's get this shirt off
Now tell me what you like
Cause I make it everything you want
Now come closer
Uh-uh closer
Don't be scared, touch me, right there
Yeah right there, oh yeah, uhh, you go boy

@op why do good girls love bad guys

There is nothing like good or bad. What we have are individuals with different characters and ideologies. When a relationship is too stereotype or one way street, then it gets boring but when there is compatibility between two partners then there would be no problem. I mean you can be good and not a bore, still make your relationship fun.

I don't think any lady would leave a responsible, nice, good guy alone except he is a bore, he has no ginger, he is not experimental in bed, he doesn't take her out, he watches football all day and plays PS 2, he is too strict, he is too demanding, he doesn't listen, he is not flexible, he is not a good conversationalist, he is very judgmental, he has a bad temper etc.

Several factors lead to a chick dissing or uprooting a guy and trust me it has nothing to do with being good or bad. I, for one can't  stand a perfect man, I prefer a screw up who is sincere enough to show me his shortcomings and bad habits so I know if I can tolerate him or take a walk. I like a calm bad boys, they are so sexy, give you happiness and peace of mind. But all those pretentious good boys, when they start manifesting, you would wish u r dating a player that smokes. Its safe to date an average guy who is flexible,with a little bit of rascality(street wise), exposed, intelligent, romantic, freaky, tempted to touch so you can enjoy the best of both worlds (good & bad).

frankhills:
I am quite suprised at how women of 21st century reason. U just saw a someone wearing trousers, u called him a man, u quickly follow him and started to Be Intimate with him. Let me tell u, any man dat says he loves u and wants to Be Intimate with u b4 marriage does not truly love u. U can only notice this few months after wedding. I am a man and i know the psychological effect of Being Intimate with a girl b4 u marry her. Urs is late may God deliver u.

All these xtain fanatics/shrinks have started O. You have brought another dimension to the story. The thing is some shrink are sick themselves but they are too busy curing others to get better that they miss their own meds. What if the lady is the one that wants the intimacy. Does a guy force a lady to partake in intimacy. It just happens, they go with the flow. What you can say, is that it should be done with the senses intact and responsibly.

So how do you relief urself? U look for another girl you wont marry and use her for ur desire right?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=844846.msg9954050#msg9954050 date=1326438375]Cuddlemii, could you please cuddle me?[/quote]If I decide to, where wld ur mouth be then

sexlog:
Coogar, i follow u.
Cuddlemi, all goes together: kissing, cuddling, caressing, yanshing etc.
I cant kiss u without touching your buttocks. I dey craze?

Abeg no make me wake my roomy up. Well na only cuddle I dey practice. You can get Dyt for kissing, then switch over to me for a very good cuddle(u wont regret it) then go else where for the touching of buttocks part. Just don't bump into sexkillz on ur way, ur germination wld go to sleep instantly.

jay bee:
I hate kissing
My mouth is about the only organ I choose not to abuse

So u r the kind that just swims to the end of the pool without wearing the right swimming gear. So how do u want to start up things without your mouth? I assume ur nose would be better to abuse

[quote author=Missy_B link=topic=844173.msg9955281#msg9955281 date=1326451931]The problem here is transparency, not being with a divorcé or pregnant before marriage.
How do you stay tranquil with a man who has a hidden agenda - one you can't even figure out?[/quote]I disagree with you. I think we should be real here so that ladies can learn from this experience. I know the need for love, companionship and marriage. But at the same time lets do the right things at the right time. Do you know its very possible that the op knew he married a white woman just for stay and now wants a naija wife only that he played a fast one on the op too, the law of karma. Ladies go into some pact with guys out of desperation & emotional entanglement. This story could be in several ways.

So leave the transparency aside, how many human beings in this world are transparent? How are we so sure she is telling us how this whole thing happened, what if she left somethings unsaid? Every human being plays several games, but you have to be a scammer to scam a scammer or not get scammed. What was wrong with doing proper investigation on her part? What was wrong with waiting till she gets married before getting pregnant since she knew he has left a lady before so he has the tendencies to screw women over so she should have used protection too(he doesn't need to know after all he is also playing her). There are some love you need to use your brain for abeg, leave the heart aside.

Dear Diary,

Nothing significant happened today apart from career planning tutorial or classes. I had a chat with High Chief. Right now, I want to see the new episodes of Vampire Diaries, Gossip girl and Pretty little liars after which I would read for a while & go to bed. Tomorrow should be eventful. That all.

Happy bday James. All the best.

Women lie, Men lie so whats new about that? Men devised, women revised it and used it too so no big deal. Once the initiators breaks the chain, women would be left with the pieces. Hence, no more lies.