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I really enjoyed this thread. Ive not been amused in a while.

Whether she is a soldier/model/river goddess, the babe makes sense. She has an innocent cute face which signifies she wont age. Even if she clocks 40 she would still look good. She looks petite too, she would good for the the wall angle thingy.

As for everyone claiming they know her that she is igbo, went to school with them or a model  that was Photoshopped to attract people to the army or a student blah blah blah, could she be a twin? Cos I don't understand how one girl can be at all those places at the same time.

@op

I wld take it as ur username implies phate fate!

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=851374.msg10015773#msg10015773 date=1327160806]Cuddlemii, how did you meet me?[/quote];DStick to the topic. How did you meet your partner? Will you reveal that at your wedding ?

You better move on.

How can your babe travel since August 2010 on a visiting visa and informs you over a year after that she is coming back but did not do as promised/planned.

Why don't you advise yourself, does it sound sane to you. In all that months that passed didn't both of you communicate? Didn't u ask her family n friends what happened to her or why it is taking her so long to return? Didn't you ask her what kind of magical visiting visa she dey use wey she never return except its multiple sha(But u sef suppose know all these info). I am sorry but you are the one that can advise yourself because I don't get the story at all. Its either its missing some element or u just summarized it leaving all the vital points behind.

Cant make much out of what you wrote. How can someone travel to visit for over a year and is yet to return and u are still waiting. Did you bother asking her what she is doing there? Were u not even worried when her visit took longer than expected like maybe she is in trouble or something. Please explain the story fully or better still learn to ask questions and investigate. Don't just keep mum for years & suffer in silence. Ask her whats up with the relationship. But if I were you, I would have gotten a replacement a long time ago since u r even a guy. She didn't even tell you when she was doing the arrangements to travel till when she was about to leave. After three months expired since dude, if only you were vibrant enough to make all the necessary inquiries about her trip then you wont still be like this after over a year.

Here we go again

Hasn't sexkillz created a thread like this in the past. Not sure though but I think I have seen something like this.

Anyways I will like to meet him in church or a matured birthday of a 30 something years old man/woman or at singles meeting or at the supermarket(probably some of my possessions fell down n he picked them up for me) or at a classy/fancy restaurant or company's end of the year party or at my pastor's house or in the train/bus or at work or at school. As for online encounters, I reserve my comment

I think everyone is always proud to reveal where they met their partner on their wedding website or at the wedding. But they are always too shy/embarrassed/shallow/proud to admit they met online or through hookups/fix-up/arrangee, so they make up some fairytale that is obviously not true just as to avoid criticism/bad comments or so as to give them some credit.

Aringarosa:
OP-- I know some guys like that but oh yes girls are horrible about it--- [b]I have a rule, dont even look at your phone or we are done--- [/b]mean? maybe but you'll learn manners around me. . . . >:

God forbid! I hate control freaks. Which stupid rule? We are done cos of a rule? If a guy uses that line then its bullshit.

Anyways ladies are different from ladies. Fine its an annoying scenario but I don't see what a matured discussion, agreement & compromise can not solve but not to be instructed by a mighty tyrant in a commandeering way. Its not like the lady is a flirt, LovePeddler or useless. Its just a bad habit dt can curtailed without the use of threats.

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]^{really?    that sound quit interesting darling. . . .dunno think u should meet me there on facebook ?}   [/size]

Hmm do u make friends with xtains too?

@op

Please leave her o jare. Apart from that free yellow book called My book of bible story that those Jehovah witness members used to distribute to children coupled with their numerous n consistent visits to teach kids the ways of God, I don't see anything special about that denomination, no offense. I think they believe that after everyone is dead n distributed into heaven n hell then they would be risen separately to continue or something. Cant remember but you will another babe

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>Cuddle what have come over u ?  

Your questions does not really make this issue okay i hope u kno ?</sup>  
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That is why I said it may/may not be relevant to whats going on. But the op took it in good strides and has answered them.

I am very certain she would do the right thing with all the advise so far. Btw I saw ur fb page months ago, I am a horror movie freak but I could barely leave my room. Even when I managed to get to the kitchen, I was still watching my back & shaking. Na wa oh.

@op

Is it that you are having trust issues with your woman? All your post gives you away. The other one was about ladies who cheat on their bf during their nysc. Now its this topic. Why not come clean? Were u cheated on or dumped. Why not ask both guys an ladies, must it be ladies all the time. Men are the species known for cheating

Its obvious Xynerise and skydeep are enjoying this marriage

If xynerise does not open a thread about wheeling a cart while shopping with his wife, its how he met her in a supermarket and so on and so forth. The new one is by Skydeep herself about missing spinsterhood. This thing dey shark una, make una take am easy with the jolly jolly. Please be sure to inform us how valentine is, for married couples, I wanna know

@op, u don't need to type any further.

Just hook up with Odaeiro and ur female property mgr would be buying u a car in a week.

La Parisienne:
@Cuddlemii
You raised some insightful questions that I hadn't even asked myself, quite impressive
-I didn't want to rush into another relationship. When I was ready to date again, I didn't meet someone worthy. Not just yet.
-I really don't know what would've happened if I had fallen in love with someone else. He believes this is a good sign.
-He swears that he did'nt mess around. I don't hve any reason to doubt him cos he was really preoccupied with his Msc.
-As a principle, I don't rely on others to make me happy. I make myself happy by making the right choices in life and by putting smiles on people's faces.
-I wasn't desperate to get married then, but it just didn't feel right being with someone who didn't have the same long term goals with me.
-My goals are planned out and I'm well positioned to achieve them speedily.
-I can't predict the future but I feel he's being sincere about his change of priorities.
-Finally, I'm not going to make the come back too easy for him. But at the same time, I don't want to push him away. He's a good man, atleast he's always sincere. Giving him another wouldn't mean settling for less by any means.

I can only hope and pray that it turns out well.

I just hope that your plan for him is well mapped & carried out. Make sure you know what you are getting into and it should come with what you want, what you deserve, your happiness & peace of mind. Its not too late to change ur mind if you observe that he is not coming from the same direction as yours.

Best of luck, remember to exercise the girl power, show him pepper (just kiddin)

Clerics or no clerics, what happens if after they get married and then something terrible happens. If there are so many complications(i.e difference in religion, parents are against it and there r premonitions from 4 clerics that they r not meant for each other) then I suggest he thinks it through thoroughly before embarking on d contract inform of marriage so that his story won't be a case of had I known, oh Nland advised me wrongly and I was warned blah blah blah. Why are they even making inquiries here and there, this shows indecisiveness which means all the parties involved are not confident of the credibility of the marriage or the survival of the marriage.

Op should take his time and weigh his options. It might not even be a case of the clerics but think of the religious rivalry that could spring up in the future between their parents or when choosing the religion that their own children would embrace. I still remember that movie, not without my daughter acted by Sally Field. Op has some intense decisions to make.

eghost247:
^^^ lol you harsh oooooo lol

Funny enough I am not O. As a matter of fact it can happen to anyone. Everyone has been in that kind of situation or similar at one point in time. I just don't want her to get her hands burnt again. She deserves the best, its her right but its also her decision to make. I am only giving her questions that may/may not be relevant to whats going on.

Hmmm.

May I ask why there is a vacuum for him to return to. I mean why didn't you move on into another relationship? Who is he to think he can come in and out as he please? How does he know you are still available? What would have happened if you had moved on into another relationship? Was he single for all those months or was he dumped too and he has found you available to always return to? Are you quite certain he has changed? Are you sure he doesn't have another chick somewhere? What guaranty is there that after a year, its not bye-bye to the relationship again? Is it worth wasting another tenure with him?

Finally, what do you, La Parisienne want as a girl/lady/woman? I mean what are your goals, what do you want? What would make you happy? Do you want to give it a try or you want to leave your options open and get the best that life have to offer? Do you want to settle for less and are you an easy babe or you want him to prove beyond reasonable doubt that he is worth the trouble. Do you want to limit yourself because you are not confident for a better offer.

After you answer my questions then I would advice you accordingly. Even if you decide not to give a response, the answer which you seek lies from these combination of question. Best of luck.

@op

Get ready for a season of more heartbreaks. Its obvious you haven't learnt your lessons.

If you wanted hook ups or relationship or platonic relationship or some guy to fill the vacuum, then you did not need to explain that you were previously heartbroken because that would open doors to exploitation as guys would capitalize on your vulnerability. Men use every detail to their advantage. You should have just said you needed friends, simple. Although I commend your boldness but how many guys reason rationally so as to understand you mean no harm but just being yourself or going through so much right now.

Its obvious you can't survive on your own or without a man. Many ladies are single, coping with their status and not complaining. Let destiny take its full couse so that things can happen naturally. Why the rush? U look young, good looking & bubbly so take time to heal, learn from the past and develop yourself.

Araboy:
Bro
4_Do  you dance crazy when no one is looking at you ?
5- What is great about  Ashawo ?

A previous quote from Araboy:

You  were wrong it's wasn't  the effects of westernization but rather the effects of  not being nigerian

No offense but  not   every one here is   familiar with your slang

Dude since you are an English freak, its better you use punctuation marks than spaces, it makes your sentences less clumsy. You would notice that in your previous post too.

Secondly, what is "Ashawo". Please always consider the non-Nigerians! Have a great day

Araboy:
All these girls are pretending how can we believe  other girls were banging and you guys were just drinking mingling

or spying  Do you think folks are naive to buy into that BS  if  hijabi girls can go down like that what prevent yourselves 
"
@ Cuddlemii Pls  next time write in english not every one here understand your pidgin ie   "Sabi" " na"   "pass "   etc

Sorry about that. I had forgotten the effects of westernization. I will type in English in the nearest future.

Araboy:
cuddlemii are not coming clean  

Are you sure about the Hijabi sisters or were they Christian nuns ?  

See dis dude, I was a camera woman during camp days O. Leave that thing, na by attire or its by the heart n commitment of a human being to God

Na today? Na those chicks dey saba pass sef.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=849855.msg10003020#msg10003020 date=1327005318]Cuddlemii=Self unrighteous person[/quote]cuddlemii=realist/not judgemental