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Luv Mercy: Nacking akpakoMehn you no send anybody. Na real akpako style! Good confidence |
Chizolum: Well, here's 2 sans photoshop.Not bad! You should try face modelling. |
kilimanjaro: Lets see your pixNice butt and cute face I love your profile picture. |
Nayah: Yes then you know with whom you're talking toTrue! How have you been? Sorry I didn't respond to your greeting on the other thread. I can see you are doing fine. Cheers. |
shymmex: Your eyes were probably as blurred as your spelling skills when you saw her.That was harsh. What are you implying? Haba, leave the guy to express his admiration ![]() |
Konnektions146: if u can read de OP`s tone, u will see a lady thats still in love with de man she married,Ok! |
Konnektions146: he is not worth to be called yur man, i gues u love him from de tone of yur write-ups but men, he is just not-it.SETTLE FIRE! Why do we have to pay wickedness with goodness? If her husband had gotten away with his actions, its very possible he would eventually forget his wife's upkeep. The hubby should learn from this and should not get a pin. Did he not save when he was the oga of the company? What was he doing with the salaries and money he must have embezzled? The hubby would have to hustle on his own. |
@Op, If you forgive him, just buy a coffin because Tayo would kill you for inheritance. At first I was like, was your Dad high to give that much control to your hubby instead of his own kids but mehn your Dad has wisdom. Your Dad is a critical thinker, I love your Dad! Shine your eyes, move on! |
Nayah: Good pics on NLYou always enjoy these kind of threads ![]() |
4. Quit trying to control the uncontrollable. 7. Quit running from your problems and fears. 10. Quit being ungrateful to God. Noted! Op, I needed these points, thanks. |
Yorisb: 11. Quit Facebooking. . .6. Quit criticizing others. |
[quote author=sexkillz][/quote]This is what I said,"I am mental that is why I didn't pick on you Idowu but Sexkillz". I didnt say anony has never picked on her. I am only trying to reason why I would do that. Anyways I am anonymous! |
Idowuogbo: Ee ooo! Era nu sugar man po we ke! sexkillz: [color=#000030]You never ever left. . . Don't repeat that before you start believing it yourself. . .[/color] sexkillz: [color=#000030]Waiting for the return of anonymus11. . .Hiss. Ok it is now clear to me now. So this is what this is about. Smh. You all think I am anonymous . Yes I am anonymous. I am mental that is why I didn't pick on you Idowu but Sexkillz. So I went from Cuddlemii who got scared left nairaland to an e-fighter, anonymous. I am glad you said your mind out because I was wondering what was going on. Yes I am anonymous, confirm from the MODs quickly for further proof. In fact tell them to reveal it here that I am anonymous because I am anonymous. As for you Sexkillz, thank you very much. I am weak. At least you have said your mind out. |
Idowuogbo: Demons? Lucifer nko? AbegggiWhat has boredom got to do with this? That is for someone who does not have a job. Little gal ke? Like seriously you are the one who has been holding a grudge since last year. I left, I didn't have peace. I returned and still don't have peace. I have been very very patient but I will never change me to please anyone, what you see is what you get. Bintin laye, Ogbon logba. Mi olemi wahala, mi ole pa ara mi. |
Idowuogbo: See me see frustration o! Heavyduty wetin na? Can't i address posts I find senseless? Yes! It's a public forum and so I fit run correct weneva I feel like.I replied you because it is a routine for you to always attack me so that you don't mistake my silence for being a fool. I will let you do your usual insults, "she is a whale, she is this, she is that, blah blah blah. Used to it already, someday you would get bored of my case and face your own demons. |
Idowuogbo: Abeg! Don't bring in assumptions jare! Wot past lovelost? Read her essay again and tell me wot u can deduce from it. Idowuogbo: Mama still dey write essays ni? Abegiiiii! Rainy or dry day, U no go give ur guy money cus u stingy. Listen to urself, u will push him to great ideas how? Lets say ur guy comes to u in need cus he urgently needs to settle a tight corner, u'll say NO! And offer dis useless lecture abi? SMH!Idowu, for fu-ck sake this is a public forum, if you have an issue with my post or it is meaningless to you, you ignore it. It is that simple. |
My colleague taught me a trick. When someone ask you for a loan, instead of giving them the amount they asked for, give them the amount you can part away with or help them with and ask them not to refund it that you are dashing them. First of all, I doubt a guy I am dating or in a relationship with will ask me for a loan. I wont give it to him. It means we are running a fool-like relationship. You should make sure yourself and your boyfriend are hard workers who know how to fish. For instance, if your man is not boxed up, push him to be great and have saving for raining days. Teach him about investments and spending wisely. Challenge him to take opportunities that would enhance his pocket. Give him business ideas and write a business proposal for him if you have to. Get him contacts or even market his business just so that he can stand on his feet. Well it also depends on the guy in question, is he nice, caring and generous? Does he stand by me through thick and thin? His behavior towards me in the past would determine my decision. I can drink garri with a man, wear bathroom slippers with him and above all, teach him how to fish and make it in life but will never hand my money to him because that would encourage him to be dependent and a ticket to further exploitation or shortcut. If he is my husband, I might depending on the circumstances because its very possible for a husband to use his wife's money for his mistress. I can pay directly for what my husband needs but handing him cash well till then, time would tell, that man must be a god or has earned it in all ramifications . |
Nothing in this world would make me support such. Any form of abuse on a woman is not permitted. I am shocked the op is asking for advise on this when you should have kicked him to the curb ever since. For women to survive a relationship with a man, you have to start thinking and acting like a man. Can a man stick to a verbally abusive lady? most men wont so serve them what they dish. |
Divorcee is a no go area for me. I don't advise it for any lady except you are extremely old, a divorcee yourself or a single mom. A widower is even better at least the wife is in the grave and there is a visible reason/justification as to why he is back to being single but for a divorced man it is hard to place a finger on the reason why he left his wife. You would keep playing the guessing card game and never get to the bottom of the truth. The divorced man could be at fault for leaving his wife and blame it on his wife. The divorcee could have commitment issues or gets tired of living under the same roof with the same woman. There is also always a history there between divorced couples and a possibility to return back to each other. The divorcee might be cutting shows with his ex wife and the innocent new wife wont know. The ex wife can fight and harm the new wife so the new wife's safety is at risk. If the former marriage produced a kid or kids, the kids would try to cement the relationship between their parents. The kids can also frame the new wife of being a wicked step mom, you know the Cinderella syndrome to make a step mom look bad. I mean why go through all that hassle and drama when it can be avoided. A single father or widower is more reasonable and realistic. I will rather advise a lady to look for an upcoming brother or a guy with prospects even if you can't get everything you need, as far as he has the potentials and drive to make you happy, give you peace of mind and strives to make it in life to make his family comfortable then that fair enough. |
This one is tough. Its a question of a lifetime commitment, stability and your goals/dreams. It painful when you can't have it all. It hurts when you have to give up something to get another. It hurts when you are the one that has to make the sacrifice and compromise. Why does naija love/marriage not accommodate ones goals and desires. If it were in foreign countries, the white man would make sacrifices too or understand more, the white man would be flexible enough to accommodate your own achievements. Well if its not Oil company job like Exon, Shell and the likes then I suggest you relocate to Abuja to settle down. But if it were to be Exon and all, then I won't relocate anything. I mean you can be engaged or do the necessary rights and at least work for a year to gather work experience and more contacts to be able to get a job in Abuja later on. One more year wont kill your hubby and you. Just make sure your hubby is worth this sacrifice and the wedding is commencing asap. It would be foolish to give up an opportunity, relocate and no wedding holds. Let me also remind you that good naija husbands are scarce so get that weight off your shoulders, when you miss it, its hard to get a good replacement, you might end up with someone beneath you. Since he resides in Abuja, he must be self sufficient, let him use his contacts to get you a job there. I mean he sounds confident for him to want to relocate you when you are still a liability, a poor man would have told you to stay in Lag gather some money from the work you got, become a woman of your own so as to contribute your own quota at home. So I am sure he has plans for your upkeep. Above all, commit everything in prayers and leave the whole the thing to God. He would guide you. God already knows the deal and what would be so let nature take its course. Whatever decision you make, make sure its mutual and you are happy. Don't get pressured, use your head, heart and challenge God to get you a better offer. |
mercylicious: ur explanation of hard working is false.I don't know how to analyze your point. Are barrow pushers out of the equation? lolz. Well whatever occupation a man has or is into, realistically every human being has got to be hardworking to survive or make ends meet. No food for a lazy man or woman. Even if you don't have a million naira, let your input, actions and activities show that you would make it someday. Hard work goes for both husbands and wives. Marriage itself is hard work and you need the grace of God to survive it. |
989900: On the money.Can you explain what you mean? |
[quote author=Mynd_44]You people really need to stop fantasizing over your lists. Most people will eventually settle for less than 50% of what they have on their list so what is the point in wasting your time compiling lists?[/quote]True that is why I said you pick the key factors and others would follow. For example, a hardworking man obviously means he has prospects and if he does not make it now, in the course of the marriage he would get there or the couple would make it together. No matter how you choose not to be choosy or decide to be realistic, you still need to set standards for yourself if not everyone would have been married to anything that craws. Your happiness is paramount though, be with who makes you happy and gives you peace of mind. |
1) Intelligent(Didn't find that in your list, very important because it supersedes everything and a key to everything) 2) Hardworking (encompasses financial independence, a goal getter, well connected because anyone who is hardworking would have all these in mind or aspires to get them so they are all interwoven and interrelated like a maze. Infact a man who acknowledges that you encouraged his hard work would be generous too) 3) Physical look (this is obviously related to being neat as well,your man should be at least presentable. Its the way he is dressed that he would be addressed) 4) Patience (Related to good listener and adviser. You need to be attentive and composed to listen to your partner. Related to respectful as well) 5) Practicing believer not like a staunch christian but must have the fear of God. I am not a fan of spiritual fanatics). Once there is fear of God, every other blessing follows or all the other factors you listed would be added unto thee. If you can't get everything in a man, focus on getting the most important or key things that would shape, mold or establish the rest for you. |
I am interested in being the MOD of this section. I haven’t really been around this section much but literature/writing is my passion. I am creative and very innovative. Members don’t really visit this section like the other sections; they also rather put up their literary write-ups in other sections. Why is that? What is missing? We need a change! This section needs a boost; it needs to be bumped up a little bit so it becomes interesting and fascinating for members. I have many ideas and concepts that would make this place one of a kind and very resourceful. I was thinking of a PowerPoint presentation like a portfolio of what I have to offer and things I have in stock for this section. If I do it on time then I would show you but in the meantime some highlights of my ideas. I was thinking we should have: E-BOOK CLUB- Every Fri or Sat evening, there would be different e-book clubs in different threads to discuss a certain e-book novel or story. It would be like a chat room setting only with a subject matter. You grab a cup of coffee or tea while glued to your laptop or blackberry or PC to have an intelligent discourse with other members with similar literary interest. It is an opportunity to meet people and network too. RESOURCE LIBRARY- It would be like a database with all information and data you need to improve your daily life. From information technology, to bead making, catering and interior designing, hat making, carpentry, hair making, sex manuals to enhance marriage life, anger management, weight loss management, screenshots to guide you through stuffs, exercise and wellbeing manuals, past questions for exams, manuals on how to fix technical issues, marriage manuals and motivational e-books or manuals to inspire your life and help you drive to succeed. There will be different version and languages of the bible. There will also be religious articles, and every other article you can thing of. There would always be something new to learn and study. It would also help empower members that can’t afford a vocational institute or center. It would be a one stop shop to every available useful information you can get. FOOD FOR THOUGHT- Every day there would be quotes to kick start your day. Give you that boost for work, prayers, work-out or hold ups on the road that gets on our nerves. Just something to linger in your mind, avert depression and aggression. When those bad days occur, something to cool you off and give you hope. RESUME & COVER LETTER WORKSHOP- Qualifications are not enough. You need to sell yourself as the “product”. Make yourself sought after and indispensable. I know we all say there is no job in Nigeria but let it be our responsibility to showcase the right things on our resume and cover letter. The truth of the matter is that, some people do not get employed because they suck in their resume and cover letter. We would work on that, helping members build their resumes and cover letter. Teach them the dos and don’ts of it. PICTURE STORIES- Tell your story with pictures, drawings (abstract or real life), cartoons, graffiti, collages, comics, paintings etc. You can use paint on your PC, you can scan or get an electronic copy of your work and paste it online. It can be story or expression of heartbreak, love, anger etc. Just a literary expression in pictures or fine arts. TALKING DRUM- The likes of Late Fela, Late Christy Essien Igbokwe, Late Ayinde Barrister, Late Bob Marley, Sunny Ade, Late IK Dairo, Femi Kuti, Seun Kuti. These ones got their heart and truth out there through their voice. They sung about injustice, bad government, corruption, poverty, fundamental human right and social ills. These ones are different from the new school musicians. We would compare both old and new school, using the musicians like Asa, Joy, Sound Sultan and Nneka who have a literary expression to their music. Members can also write lyrics. Who knows, a musician can pick up a song from here and buy it for his/her next album. COOPERSTOWN- I stole this concept from Baseball. It’s basically honoring the likes of Wole Soyinka, Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Late Cyprian Ekwensi, Ayi Kwei Armah, Kwesi Brew, J.P Clark, and William Shakespeare, etc. This is just a proper critic of these writers, comparing them and appreciating their work. Draw inspiration from the pioneers and encouraging members to be the future pace setters |
Happy Birthday 190 and many happy returns of the day, long life and prosperity. Hip Hip Hurray. |
jay bee: DoneThanks. Keep up the good work and take care. |
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