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Lizzylois:
@cuddlemii,not sayin dat  ₪D̶̲̥̅̊  not tryin to play holier dan thou,buh most pple I heard deir stories datin one or two pple in camp were either in a relationship or d oda,or even married.I jst said its a matter of self discipline.I promised myself dat I wasn't gonna do dat in camp nd I sticked to it.shikena.

No dt was not for u hun.

It was for that dude calling the nysc babes dt had intimacy, loose because they were cheating on their guys. But most of them were single and some are married to their nysc bobo so what has loose got to do with it. Babes that mess around outside the nysc  camp nko? those ones r goose abi?

If they were cheating on their hubby or bf, that is when u can call them loose but if matured babes decides to fool around then I think its their biz. I didn't slam on there but I didn't judge them either, I just enjoyed the scenery as part of life experiences.

[quote author=doe-eyed link=topic=849992.msg10002955#msg10002955 date=1327004764]@ Cuddlemii

The services r already involved. That's why he was taken off his parents n grandparents in the 1st place. There is already an alert out for his older sister who has been declared missing.
I'm not breaking the family up. It's been done by the authorities. I can't stand around n be involved via the foster family (thru whom I knew him). It will be frowned on by the authorities.
You see the dilemma.!!!!![/quote]Ok good. Do all u can for him then. Best of luck.

Jeffbaba:
Hmmm lizzylois am very proud of you, i wonder what makes girls get soooo lose there, is it that your man does not bleep you enof or what?, hmmmm this very interesting, ladies keep the experiences coming cos am loving this #chuckling#

I think you need to correct your statement. Is it all girls that go into the camp that are in a relationship? Most were single. A lot of them met their hubbies there so what with the loose word. Now you wont allow ladies to be free & expressive in replying the post now, hiss. All these self-righteous pple have come.

If you are a true believer of your religion then you should not take stuffs like these for granted.

A lot of people would have loved to have prior warning before going into a marriage so count yourself lucky. I suggest you heed to the advice given so you don't regret your actions in future. I know moslim clerics calculate stuffs with name, age etc to determine if the couples star match or not, if they would live long, make money or have kids. Also to determine if the couples fall into the category of water, wind and fire for compatibility so don't play with such revelations. Its possible both of you are not destined for each other so don't re-write, over-write or cheat destiny. Let it go & best of luck. You can seek second opinion from her church pastor or any genuine man of God.

[quote author=doe-eyed link=topic=849992.msg10002145#msg10002145 date=1326997897]@ Cuddlemii,
I understand your stand. But u need to have seen this little boy, simply so cute.
Knowing his history considering his short time on earth, its mind-baffling. Parents toss him around from friend to friend. Spends most of his time glued to a TV with no interaction. Parents r alcohol n drug abusers. Presently, his older sister's whereabouts is unknown. Wl u wait till marriage to help that little child out of his misery. Such an intelligent cutieee.[/quote]I will help such an intelligent cutiee without adopting him. Whether you like it or not, those are still his parents. At least his parents are still alive and he is not an orphan.

I can pick him up often, take him out, make sure he feeds well, clothe him, ensure he goes to school and have all the basic things other kids have. I can ensure he sleeps in my place from time to time just to ensure his security. I will also be his confidant, friend & guardian. I can go a step further to see if I can tidy his parents up either by threatening to report them or going an extra mile to help them through an healing process. Its better to unite a family than to take a child away from them, later on they would come for their child and the child would want to return to its real parents later.  Just make him your responsibility.

So just be there for him and make sure you put a smile on his face all the time, I am sure all would be well. At least hope everything would be fine.

I can't.

Though, I can help and assist a child like welfare, humanitarian support etc but not adopt whilst unmarried. If I am married, yes I can adopt with the joint consent & support of my hubby.

^  ode .

I have let the one slip away a lot of times so unlike other ladies, I will blame myself. The heart break I have had in the past was as a result of my own missteps, I am always this close only to make a mistake.

Back to the present, the one would manifest once I work on my expectations. That shallow side of me would need a lot of work as its not realistic & accommodating.

@Lacrissa, finally we are off your stress, Jeez! Your ex LDR bf would probably be partying somewhere right now. Sorry, no offense but ur headache was too much abeg, .

Hmm Nyssssssssc!!!!!

I think a similar topic has been created in the past which I commented on.

Yes you are very right op, nysc camp was for some peeps to explore for the last time before they get into the labor market or get married. I did mine few years back. I didn't partake in the intimacy part because I didn't want any gist spreading abt me doin my thang but I spied on participants extensively well.

Guinness stand, the back of mammy market and the camp ground was where the show was happening. I usually act like I am searching for something with a torch light to do a little sight seeing.  Then there was a day, when almost all ladies in the girls side of the dorm were showing their pants, bras etc to guys who were opposite the dorm. Some of the guys showed their own manhood, condoms and things like that. There were some female bathrooms that were infrared & Bluetooth enabled, guys had their feel peeping. Babes slept in guys dorm and were not shy about it. No one sends you in camp O, everyone just made the best use of the experience.

I had one camp maga sha, that one usually spend money like craze, my friends and I enjoyed the luxury of free food, exotic wines, gifts etc but nothing happened cos he was not as fine as Olu. Almost everyone has relationships on there, not necessary for sex but for the fun of it. I knew some two guys Olu and Tunde, lawd have mercy. Coincidentally I knew everyone in the location they lived in so we(Olu, Tunde & I) became friends because we had mutual friends. They usually sneaked in their friends who dressed up like corpers, those ones got free blow jobs and all because they were sharp fine boys. Those guys cracked me up big time.

The married women in my camp were even finer than the single babes, mehn those married women were flogging like mad. I remember one slender fit one that played volleyball  that was sleeping-with one of the officers with that her short hairdo, hiss. As for those moslim chicks that wore that black robe thingy that covers their whole body, theirs was just about removing their black apparel thingy, put it on the floor and flog them on it, it like those ones were starved due to the hypocritical life they lived cos they caned like fools. The doctors were terrible beings, what they did in that sick bay was marvelous, babes usually heed there when they did not want to go through the tedious camp activities in the early hours of the morning so the doctors treated them well.

Olu was on my case but due to the fact I knew who was sleeping-with who, I didn't want my name added to the list but during one drama night like that he kissed my neck or cheek unexpectedly. He took me unawares but mehn it felt so good, till now I cant even explain what kind of kiss was that. I was willing to kiss him after nysc, I told him on POP day but but he thought I was joking (probably he remembered how I played on his intelligence & all my indecisiveness). My fone was bad so I lost all my contacts. sobs.

I served in lag but the best place for guys to serve is Akwa-Ibom/ Calabar. Male corpers find it hard leaving those places. If you are lucky to serve as a teacher in a female secondary school, you would be richly rewarded (money is not everything so you would get other possessions indeed, oh you would love the experience )

dammytex:
^^^^

this your flatmate sef; na all the time? Is it naturally possible to engage in this act everyday continuously?

And Akanke is joyous; she found the sixty-five shillings she misplaced in the big black calabash behind the banana tree. And she thinks; she must inform Aremu,

I tire for my O. na all the time O. Well if you dey dis kain weather, you are likely to be in that acrobatic setting too.

Akanke is more than joyous O. She didn't inform Aremu about the shillings she misplaced because Aremu has warned her not to be careless. Aremu must have found out at the market square. Why hasn't Aremu sent a message across through the town crier since on d 1st. Akanke is feeling slightly feverish, Aremu's presence always makes her sick.

^I hope its resolved amicably amongst the 3 of them. I also wish them luck in their decisions. Its very possible the sis would still continue dating the guy but I hope she is wise enough to move on.

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how did the username tell wisdom come into existence? y did u choose dt handle/username?

Van snickers:
Noted.

Impressive how you could argue the viability of your post without spitting out gratuitous insults, unlike some belligerent ppl on this site, Kudos.

Thanks for the compliment which is not entirely true because I have my days too.
Probably, ur approach to others on this site is very unpleasant, u might want to tone it down if u want a more receptive response or argument. I am glad I was able to convince u about my post.

Greggj:
I've got 3 younger sisters and I understand women so well so I'm just gonna advise you like i would any of my younger ones, you are still young so why not exercise a little patience and wait for the right man to come along? I'm guessing you're heartbroken and thats why you started this thread but let me be the first to tell you that nairaland is no place to meet sincere men. patience is a virtue my dear

Now that's new. A nland guy out rightly made a statement that nairaland is no place to meet sincere men. what is wrong with nland men? cos u r part of them.

Van snickers:
Wats with the extraneous info, who is asking you about the advantages of cultism.

Van vicker,

Some posters asked him to blend in, I am only educating the op about what he would be getting himself into if he decides to join cultism because of a lady.

If you read my post very well, you would see I spoke about cultism thoroughly and not just the advantages. I am sure you saw the "deep evil thing & abeg all that is not worth it" part too.

Now, this is a public forum, I am free to express myself as I wish so I can give extraneous or even extrinsic infor if I, cuddlemii choose too.

If you have a problem with my post, then you should have ignored it or given your own advice.

Goldieluks:
The three of them are lying toads.

Well there were still lessons in this topic. A lady needs to be careful when it comes to relationship & marriage. I know if it were possible to get all ladies married, u wld do it. U like marriage tins, na wa oh.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=845585.msg9970321#msg9970321 date=1326644946]Cuddle you seem to forget that not everyone is like you[/quote]what has cuddle got to do with the topic?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=846474.msg9970590#msg9970590 date=1326647250]Cuddle, you are misunderstanding the point here. They can live together but they cab't marry that's all whatever they choose to do behind closed doors is their business[/quote]I bet you didn't understand my post. I only added jara and fisi. I said someone would eventually get to know about the marriage (even done secretly) and report them to constituted authority. I also said there are other stuffs married people would love to exhibit that they can't. Just say you wanted me to wave at you, I see u

Dear Diary,

I discovered money I stashed some where & was so excited as I've been fasting without prayers. I did my laundry and had a good rest/sleep because my back hurts.

My room mate n her bf woke me up with their noise. I think they didn't know anyone was home as I put off the light in my room for the first time. I had a good laugh as usual. That's all.

tellwisdom:
Yes, Now can we?? Hope u got a soft lips

Strike a pose first, let me access

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=846274.msg9970188#msg9970188 date=1326643861]Cuddle do you need a guy?[/quote]a guy is too small na, i need a million guys

Homar:
You carry your stupidity enter romance section . Well thank God the jokes section will rest for a while before you come back and start posting trash again.

We have had to deal with his ish for quite sometime.

Thank you for the clarity, at least now I know he is not sick, he is just a comedian.

Relocation sounds cool. Even if you successfully fool people and do a secret marriage in naija, you will always be jittery & uncomfortable.

Nigerians are very nosy, they would find out in future and some xtain fanatic or chronic moslim might report you to the constituted authority.

You and your partner would always be living a false life and playing the hide and seek game. You need to be in a place where you would have fresh air & be accepted for what you both are. Its very possible you both might want to adopt kids in future or something, we both know that is not possible in naija so you might as well shift base. Also the issue of public display of affection would not be possible in naija if you are the expressive type. It sucks when you would love to smooch your partner but you have to get into the house first, lock the doors and all locks like common criminals.

I am sure u would figure it out. "wow" I must commend your boldness

If I was your current gf and you expressed yourself that you don't love me and you are just staying in the relationship because of the reasons you listed above so you want to break off. I will thank you for your honesty, I will also ask you if the problem was from me so I can learn from the experience. We go our separate ways.

Immediately you walk away or step out of the door, I will go on my knees and thank my God and stars for the revelation. Its better to suffer from a heart break than go on with a loveless relationship that would probably lead to a marriage because the fact that you don't love her means you would always be looking for her flaws, shortcomings and downfall. You would not compromise and do your role as a hubby because you never loved her. She would be treated like a plague by you eventually.

I advice you to break up with your girlfriend, she would get hurt (that's if she loves you as well because its very possible she feels the same as you do but doesn't want to hurt you too, she might have been faking & acting things but deep down, she needs to be free too so don't be surprised if she hugs u 4 d truth, so dnt feel fantastic ), but at least your conscience would be cleared that you did the right thing(told the truth). Her man is out there, she would end up with someone who loves her and she would be thankful to you later even if not immediately.

tellwisdom:
cuddmua, can we kiss??

tellmua, i see u slept well