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Marriage is for men; not for boys. If you aren't emotionally, psychologically, and financially ready for it yet; then don't go there.
Don't get it twisted. Age is just a number. It has nothing to do with ur being ready or not.

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MizJaY:
Sorry for the long message but this lockdown period might favour reading long msgs.

I'm the quiet type so I have never opened mouth to insult my husband during any misunderstanding. Just arguments and my voice may go up a bit trying to explain or clear myself but he will start saying im raising my voice and talking back at him and start saying all sorts of things.

Honestly sometimes I wished I could unleash the anger deep down and screammm but I always have self control. If u sit with him, he will give u a million reasons why I'm not a good wife and if u don't know me well, u will fall for it because he tells it so well. I will not say everything he says is false, but 80% is. Only those that really know me, will know he is d one that has problem. He's too difficult at times.

In an office, there's usually that one person that quarrels with everyone am I right? But I end up being d only person that dat person doesn't quarrel with cos I try as much as possible to avoid quarrels that's just d kind of person I am. Calm and quiet.

When I met my husband NYSC days, he was very close to God, organizing programs in church and handling them. That was the main reason I got close to him cos I wasnt so spiritual and needed someone to help me grow spiritually through life. He told me he was called to be a pastor and that excited me but I'm not seeing that now lol. He's spiritual life is almost zero. And back then, he had nothing, we would spend all my money even to reach his sick mother in the village I would buy all the foodstuff to send to her.

The way he talked he sounded promising that things will get better with him, but today, I still suffer, I have no savings, all my salary is on the house. He works too and earns but he's salary covers rent and the children's school fees finished. I do the rest but he doesn't appreciate the fact that I sacrifice everything I earn to feeding the house. We are family of 6. Everything provision, food, children school snack, fuel for car and gen, gas filing etc etc it's me. And that's how my whole salary will just go fiam.

if I ws getting a little appreciation I for no mind but rather I get insults o. It's my fault that
Money is finished, it's my fault that we have no savings, I don't know how to manage money, I'm hoarding my money etc etc those are d words that come out of his mouth o.

I used to be a beautiful woman but no more, I wear one shoe everyday to work, can't buy myself clothes shoes nothing I had to cut my hair to relieve myself from hair money lol. I'm stressed out thinking of where money will come for feeding when my salary gets finished before month end at times I have to beg my sister or my dad a pensioner or hussle one way or d other. I now developed high bp and today I'm living with hypertension taking drugs everyday. It was my parents that gave my husband d job he's doing today. He is not in talking terms with he's dad n siblings. Before he's mother died, things were not too good between them. My husband likes to always form man of d house and want me to apologise whenever there's a misunderstanding saying that I am d one wrong, I'm always wondering how am always the one wrong and he's not � every time.

Sometimes self I don't know what I did that mks him angry he will just start carrying face. Today makes it a week we are not talking cos he has been carrying face since 7days now, and went to post something on wassap yesterday that a woman that cannot apologise to her husband cannot stay in marriage.

My brothers and sisters if I know of anything I did that I have to apologise for yet I refused to apologise that is making him carry face, may God strike me. If u know I did anything wrong why not come to me and tell me u don't like what I did and tell me what i did rather than carry face up n down. He always does that. At times I do ask him and as usual am always d one at fault. Maybe it's cos I'm a quiet person he's taking me for mumu.

The national anthem now is that because he does not have money that's why I don't respect him the way I'm supposed to. I'm always careful with my word when gisting with him cos make I make mistake say Donald duke is d current governor of rivers state haaa problem don enter and it may spoil d sweet gisting we were having. He go almost insult me and become uninterested in gisting with me again cos i don talk mumu talk.

So how can I handle such man cos if no be say I be quiet person, I for don receive serious beating black and blue from this man cos he has done it earlier on in our marriage not serious beating sha but I had some bruises. If not that my parents are still alive and warned him. Tho he still attempts once in a blue moon I go jus arrange myself. But I'm kind of tired. I have no money cos trust me, if I had, Maybe i for don dey plan my move sef I no dey enjoy marriage life at all

I think you married a boy. This is because everything u said about ur husband depicts the characteristics of a boy, not a man. Marriage is not meant for boys. You could have seen some of this traits in him at the time u guys were in relationship/courtship.


Anyways, now that u are in already, it's a no going back, for the sake of ur 4 loving kids. So, what's the way forward:

1. Keep tolerating him with ur quietness. Don't lose ur mind so there won't be an inferno.... again, just for the sake of ur sweet kids

2. Always keep in touch with ur parents and siblings because they are like a shield to you and the kids. Ur husband does not look like someone that can protect u.

3. Get your husband in a roundtable discussion and settle the financial crises. Here's what you should do. Join both salaries together. Then, cost out all the things that will be needed for that month. Make a flexible budget for a start. What ever is left after this, divide it into two parts. You both take each part as ur savings. This will settle the nagging about u hiding money or u not doing enough with u salary.

4. Learn to apologize even wen u know u haven't done anything wrong. Infact, apologize every morning when u greet him in the morning and evening before going to bed. After a while, he will find this hilarious. He will feel bad if and when he becomes a man.


My fellow guys, pls I beg u, if you are not mature for marriage, don't go there! Be a man first before you take the responsibility of marriage. Remember, being a man is not by age; but maturity

Hmmm... this man

Really... is that how other brokers extort their investors?

At least it's an eye opener for others to learn

Imagine those folks emptying your account for inactivity.
I guess they've been doing this long enough to siphon money from their investors who are no longer active.

This is the mail I received.

Hi ,

In accordance with the Client Agreement (paragraph 7.9), we have levied a 500.00 USC inactivity fee on your remaining balance from your trading account/wallet ID ...... due to no trading activity on all of your trading accounts in the last 6 months.

Please be aware that this fee will be levied on a monthly basis if your account/s continue to show no activity.

If you have any questions, our professional Customer Support Team is available to help. You can use WhatsApp, Viber, Telegram, Facebook Messenger, or our Live Chat feature to contact us. Alternatively, you can request a Call Back and someone will be in touch shortly.

Ubong...you sat wat... so he did not know he was shy all this while when he was busy manipulating the outcome of the election to his favour. You want the privilges that comes with being a president but u don't want the stress involved. My brother, the former precedes the latter. It's the profession he has chosen, so he should quietly bear the heat.

twnklshop:
I have responded to your email.

Thanks sir

Eshigose:
ok thanks

Your welcome

Eshigose:
Guys pls i need genuine advice.i didnt get the jamb score i hope to but what federal uni can i apply for nursing with 210.am an indigene of edo state & i reside in kaduna.i have been recieving contradicting feedback from friends so far.pls help a sister.

Come to Niger Delta University. They offer a fair admission process to all students.

nwanna89:
Same chloroquine that was banned by same nafdac.

In as much as this development is welcome, has the root cause of its initial ban been addressed?

Read and comprehend the text again and again.

The ban was due to the resistance developed by malaria parasite to chloroquine.

I've been looking for a thread like this for a while now. Anyways, let's keep the thread lively...






The journey of a million miles starts with a step...

Hmmm

This bigoted midget with his showmanship all just because of 2023.
If you know you know...

LordAzubuike:
When na prick you go dey fvck up and down how you wan take remember your center. When I wrote mine in the 90s, pencil and paper, we made sure we located our centers at least 2 days before.

Well to answer your question, there might be a remedy but your chance are slim. Go to Abuja and lodge your complaint there if you want prompt attendance or you can send them a mail if you have the patience.

Guy chill... she has made the mistake already. No need bashing her like that. Infact, some nigerians are so silly to the core. This ur attitude will discourage folks who need advice from u becos u are a bad adviser.


To the op, sometimes we make mistakes wen we are naive and do not ask questions at the right time. In this ur case, it's likely a combination of naivety and over confidence. And I think this is your first jamb experience.
My advice is this, prepare for the next jamb or if you can't wait then gear up for JUPEB program. Find out more about the Jupeb program if you are interested

Seriously...

Officialgarri:
El-rufai pays enough respect to his elders. He doesn't find it hard to give respect to his elders and superiors.

He is bigger than Sanusi but see him displaying humility to an ordinary Sanusi who now lives in a 3 bedroom bungalow

Eye service man. Full of deceit and evil. He only does things like this to buy into the heart of men.

stmichael001:
That's not an indicator it's js a tool for price analysis js like ur manual trendline... i draw doz levels manually myself..

Oh okay, I understand
Thanks

stmichael001:
for those following us here...i,ll js drop some more trade setups whch has been previously traded pls learn frm dem as d markets wil alws repeat diz patterns...

we wil discus in-depth in our watsapp group.feel free to join

Chief, pls what indicator is that with red bar. And how do I get the indicator. Thanks

Babe, with the way you are going and considering your age, you'll likely end up in tears and frustration if you don't quit that relationship asap.

Before you know it, age is against you in ur bid to get a good marriage. You are just chasing away potential husband because of a hopeless relationship with a hopeless boyfriend.

For the sake of your parents, family and loved ones... end that relationship now and declare yourself available.

Davash222:
"He has a nice ride and nice house"



Na that nice ride and house go kee you! Aside kpekus, what else can you offer a guy with a nice ride and house
There lies the answer to your question.

Haba... this is too much for her na biko.
Or have u lost a girl to another guy because the guy has a nice ride and house. Truth is, most girls don't want to suffer and that's why as a guy, you should hustle well...legit hustling I meant.

Let me try answer the big question; but from my own perspective.

When you drop your money in the bank, you end up losing the opportunity to turn those few zeros to several zeros. That money in the bank is worth more than a capital. A capital that you can put into a business in other to generate some profit.

So, those banks will eventually do business with your money and make serious profit. Yet, they wont give you any interest rather, they will deduct from your money.

Mind you, you don't need to wait until you get the billions to start your big business. Start small business with the little capital and after a while, your small biz will grow to give you the needed capital for the big biz. Anyways, that's if you take your small biz seriously...

That's just the financial Wisdom I've had many years back...

DrTee1:
Something is really wrong somewhere.

Aside that this story is from one perspective, another huge concern is the grammar: Lexis, structure, tenses, construction.

Mum is the best teacher you know. She is a primary school teacher. That suggests she teaches at the elementary level where one of the core subjects is English language.

I'm afraid you may just have 'fallen hand' very badly - in the Nigerian lingua - and you have not covered so much in glory, at least to buttress your best teacher assertion.

As to the matter at hand, there are established ways in the civil service to resolve disputes: Teaching Service Commission, Civil Service Commission, and at the extreme, the National Industrial Court.

However, excuses like distance of assignment from residence shouldn't arise, really. It isn't an excuse to be officially considered at all in that line of responsibility. If anything at all, it should be lobbied for, under the table, and not presented as a major issue.

Best wishes.

Sir, with due respect, you've got no point here. Forget about the grammar, becos that's not the message. Set aside his grammar and deal with the message. The op is in pains so leave him alone if you have nothing reasonable to say.
Just imagine if it's your mum who was treated this way, how would u have felt?

Sirsuky:
We all know their lies from the bit of hell after they have killed and beheaded many Christian they now bomb a mosque so that it will not look as if is not only Christian that is endanger species.God will expose you people very soon mark my word

Exactly.... you just took those words out of my mouth...

Tundex122:
These two factions need to study Qur'an and learn politics. And stop killing if they want to achieve their aim at establishing an Islamic state

This one man is not happy with this development...

This is the one reason why it's highly risky to become informal and jovial with ladies except she's your sibling or spouse. These superhumans can bring you down from the sky to the grave within a 60s.

If only you had maintain strick formalities...
If only you had faced ur business...
If only you had shut ur mind against her feelings...
... this problem won't have happened.

Lesson learnt bro... thanks for sharing ur experince. May God help us.

HallaDaTruth:
Yes, I have used pay later which is now carbon. I have used kwikcash which is now known as migo. And about 2 others that I have forgotten for now. But branch makes the experience so smooth

Thanks for your contribution. ..

That's to say your experince with branch was okay. But have you used other apps wherewith you can base your judgement on?

How was your experience?

Rigel95:
Hello, I'm in need of knowing about this business please. I'm more or less the first born in my family now. So much responsibilities on me

No qualms... just pm.