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In my opinion, both parties should contribute towards the success of the relationship either financially or otherwise. It should be simbiotic i.e a mutual relationship where both parties benefit, when it is parasitic, the host would certainly be sucked dry someday and wont be able to function anymore.

However in a marriage setting, the man must and should always provide for the family whether or not the woman has the means. But i want to believe that a reasonable wife would support her husband.

c0dec:
I couldn't care less anymore. it's obvious you ain't that pretty. I would be wasting a lot of money and time to go see an ugly chic.

Codec,

I'm highly ashamed and disappointed at your mannerlessness and immaturity. You should be suspended for at least a week.

Seun, pls caution Codec - no one deserves to be addressed disrespectfully on this forum! This is a place where friends are respected and not verbally abused.

c0dec:
well, dablessed chickened out. I knew she wasn't pretty. I can tell from the way they talk.

hot-angel? I just checked your profile. you're too young to know stuff so I can't consider your opinion.

pkrix my man. I like the part about "tasting other waters" I guess you are a considerate guy by nature and I guess your heart has been broken so many times, you're just used to it.

Codec,

Did you say I chickened out? See, I don't fancy sending my pictures to strangers ok? If you wanna know whether or not I'm pretty, get on the nearest flight to London Heathrow Airport.

Great Peter,

Parental approval is very vital in a relationship. Its not just about the two of you anymore, 2 families are now coming together - so to say.

If you're having problems with parental approval, you must seek counsel ASAP and if you are a christian, get down on your knees fast - If you really love her, then you must pray your way through! There is absolutely nothing impossible with God. He has the Heart of kings in his hands.

If the parents are still not consenting after all said and done, you must not go ahead with the wedding! Parental approval is most vital

Slowpoison,

You can very well learn how to swim even at 100. Make sure you join a good club where the instructors are good ok?

All the best!

Seun:
dablessed, your question is a closed question.  I have my own ideas about the order in which a relationship should progress, and I don't think I can fit it into your friendship/dating/intimacy/companionship model at all!

Seun,

Feel free to share your own ideas and you do not have to follow the FDIC pattern at all! Like I said earlier, I am open to positive criticisms.

dominobaby:
Lamide

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pkrix:
It's like a nice quote.

But how in a relationship matter will you differentiate between a companion and a friend?

You will certainly know if the relationshiop you have with someone is friendship or companionship. Most times, companionship is deeper and you must have known the person to a certain extent. That's my opinion though. Doesnt mean i'm outrightly correct.

I do not agree with u that friendship and companionship should be placed together. Does it mean that every one whom you're friends with will eventually be your companion? No i suppose is your answer.

All companions are friends but not all friends are companions, i would imagine.

[I think the stages are] friendship, companionship, dating and intimacy. Could everyone please come up with what they think the correct order should be. I think the correct order, in my opinion should be FDIC: ( subject to criticism )

Friendship, should come first (at least get to know if the other person is worth dating)

Dating, which gives you a better understanding of the other person, it could be single dating or group dating.

Intimacy comes after dating! Moving a step ahead. Here, you are beginning to consider the other person as a marriageable material.

Companionship - This probably comes in when the guy proposes and all hands are on deck for the wedding or when 'friendship' has now migrated to 'marriage'

It's funny how the order is battered these days! E.g boy meets girl and the next we hear is 'they're married'. I feel there should be a place for friendship, dating and intimacy before marriage. Friends are discovered not made! It's sad that a lot people get married these days without actually discovering the other person.

Ok Nairaland users, please tell me what you feel the proper order should be.

Thanks Greatpeter,

Abeg shine those eyes well well o! Its worth the wait! Certainly, God dey!

Did I hear anyone's AMEN?

[quote author=hot-angel link=topic=276.msg7644#msg7644 date=1119668509]Ain't no Nigga gon raise his hands up on me. Infact raise your voice, and heaven will know some people are fighting. Seriously it's just total abuse when someone raises his hands on someone else.

Personally, if a guy raises his hands on me (better yet, not my husband..just a fucking lover), OH me gosh, he's gon regret doing that (Noo....noo, I ain't gon beat him back, I am not as strong as that). When he slaps me, I will look at him and walk out of his house, pick up my cellphone and dial 911. The police will come and get him, and then he can start bailing himself out. Between that's the end of me and him. (I could go behind him and break the galsses of his car).[/quote]Hot Angel,

Na real hot Angel you be o! Abeg cool down small ehn! Cool down my sister.

Abeg mind how u use the 'F' word in the forum ehn, thanks. You are the one and only cool Angel.

Well done cool-Angel, keep swimming girl.

Fopefoluwa

Any cool-headed guy would do same. well done!

No, Great Peter! The right man has not showed up yet o! Join me and fast Abi u no be my brother in Christ and for Nairaland.

Dont worry! When he shows up, rice and stew will be too much for every member of the forum, including 'take-away'

Did i hear anyone's AMEN?

Great Peter,

Thanks for the correction! But i want to believe members of the forum very well understood what i meant by being a swimmer. It does not mean swimming is your profession but u enjoy it, make it a part of your lifestyle.

Any one still confused, if at all you were? Pls PM Great Peter.

Seun, could you tell us what your 1st reaction was when your classmate slapped you in JSS 2? I can bet you didn't slap  her back but how did you take it?

As for me, I have never ever been slapped by a man before, but if my boyfriend slaps me, I'll quit the relationship ASAP and of course not holding him in unforgiveness.

If my fiance slaps me, notwithstanding ongoing wedding plans, I shall reconsider going ahead with the plans. ( it may sound unreasonable and too strict ) but I tell you, "a broken courtship is better that a broken marriage"

If he could slap me before  marrying him, then I must be doubly ready for the main dish which I am certainly not ready for as I'm allergic to battery. My body is too precious to be manhandled by an irresponsible being.

Bottom line: I GO PICK RACE, but of course forgiving the person. Our friendship will now be from afar.

Hi friends,

How well can you swim? If you are not a swimmer, have you considered enrolling at the nearest swimming club to you?

Cultivating a good swimming lifestyle is rewarding. There are no age restrictions- from as little as 3 months old to whenever: 70's, 80's, 90's.

Start swimming today and when you attain your peak in age, you'll be glad you did.

Swim today! Swim for life!

Google search: 'KUSH IN NIGERIA'.

[quote author=hot-angel link=topic=419.msg7570#msg7570 date=1119635387]which aniversary Y'all know I am not in Nigeria right?? How will I be there [/quote]Ok, those of us wey no dey Naija, we go organise our own for where we dey abi Seun wetin u talk? With due support from you sir!

Na which Nigerian name be voke again o!

Wonuola.

finengrman:
All, We may not have good police force, but can we encourage them?

Finengrman,

Could u pls suggest ways of encouraging a nation's police force?

Ninioluwa

c0dec:
[quote author=dablessed link=topic=519.msg6781#msg6781 date=1119366062][quote author=c0dec link=topic=519.msg6779#msg6779 date=1119365574]always let a woman, know you are the catch. let her know you're doing her a favor by talking to her.

Codec, this is just BULL. What kind of favor? Ehn? Nothing resents a woman more than this ok? U will never ever woo her a woman![/quote]even though you won't admit it, it's true. or maybe, you are not a very pretty woman. that's why you are worried.

I know women well, most of them are needy and insecure. they are weak.[/quote]I beg your pardon! What do you understand by the word 'pretty'? You have no idea do you? Have you ever set your eyes on diamonds,sapphire, saffron, ruby or any kind of precious stones at all? Answer me. I can bet your answer is NO. My beauty is far worth than these, it is unquantifiable, fllowing from within and captivating.......................... shall i go on?

CalabarMan:
There are instances when married couples need to keep certain things away from their spouse, for instance sesitive extended family issues which the family needs to keep confidential. Or Doctor Patient issues etc.....Abi no be so

I do not think there should be any family issue sensitive enough to be kept away from one's spouse.

There are instances when one's profession may not permit disclosure. The reason most times is simply because the info is biosensitive in nature and usually backed up by legislature or statute e.g The Data Protection Act and some specific ACTS guiding a profession. This is understandable and a reasonable spouse should not raise an eyebrow for non-disclosure.

It is your responsibility to make her understand why you cant disclose, else she begins to feel you're not carrying her along.

Marriage should be based on trust shouldn't it? When your spouse starts feeling uncomfortable or angry when u pick his/her phone, then there is something fishy.

Married pple should get to a point where they are ready to disclose everything to their partner.

When trust is betrayed in a relationship, there is bound to be serious trouble.

As for me, my spouse is free to check my phone anytime T.

Hot Angel, i salute u come nairaland. I bet u'll have loads of fun.