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Not a single poster can reasonably answer her question,
They are busy saying it's the natural order of things,
Lol.
op is confused please give her an answer and stop attacking her for asking questions.
Some even chose to be condescending and ask for her age Instead of just giving a straightforward answer.

hopefulLandlord:
you owe no one any explanation of why you bother bro

if they're sad about it, let them talk to their imaginary friend to make you stop

Lol, this meme is mean

ToZaraWithaZ:
[color=darkblue]Number 12[/color]

Muhammadu Buhari, the withered vegetable and accursed skeleton with brain lesions.

New mood

Explorers:
A woman was arrested by airport police carrying almost three pounds of cocaine in her breasts.

You can see the drug implants and the fresh surgical wound

That's scary

Ngokafor:
You lots love to make noise and shout 50-50 when it comes to finances but scream 'Head of the House' 'its a mans World,'African tradition' e.t.c when it comes to doing chores,cooking,taking care of the kids and all...You lots love to quote European women and how they are so liberal and open-mindedwhen it comes to finances,forgeting that their men cook,do the chores and take care of their kids almost as much as their wives..

I have no problem with women spending their money for the betterment of their familes...but i and so many women have observed that the average Nigerian male is one of the selfish beings on earth..They love to eat cake and have it..noisily in most cases.

I've been telling them on this thread ever since, 50-50 everywhere, finances. Cooking, cleaning, house chores, care of kids, every damn where or nothing.

You can't want 50-50 in finances then refuse to cook or do house chores because you're a "man", it won't work.

They do love to eat their cake and have it, yet want to call out women for the same thing

Next2Bezee:
ToZaraWithaZ sumed in up brilliantly on page 2. Both partners are adults and can agree on the type of lifestyle that works for them. I don't see anything wrong with a husband helping with chores and cooking, it's actually getting more common now

And I agreed with tozarawithaz, I didn't say help, my point is if insists on sharing financial responsibility the he must be ready to share responsibility of taking care of the home. Vice versa

Especially if both the husband and wife works. It'll be an uncomfortable relationship if the wife always have to deal with the stress of work then come back to tidy the home...then clearly her husband doesn't love her. So they could go with maids or share the responsibility.

I agreed with this also. Equal financial responsibility, equal responsibility for taking care of the home and vice versa.

But if the wife doesn't work, isn't willing to and would rather be a housewife, then it'll be quite unreasonable to expect the husband to take most of the responsibility when it comes to chores at home.

Are you just stating your views or are you implying that I said if the woman is a housewife she should expect the man to do chores also? I'm confused.

If you're just stating your views then I agree,

If it's the 2nd option I have clearly stated many times that if the husband is the sole provider then the wife takes care of the home however if they are both providers then they will both take care of the home

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Daeylar, come and represent your state(s) as well!

Lol, for now, not online, I may change my mind later

Next2Bezee:
If both the husband and wife works, a maid can be employed to take care of the home & nannies can take care of the kids.

For those who like maids this will work for them.

If a wife is unemployed, i don't think a husband will have any issues providing for the family by himself.

All right

The main question suggests that the wife has money, that is..if the husband and wife are both financially stable, is it right for only the husband to provide financing for the family? Definitely a big NO for me.

My response to this is if the man wants support in financing for the family then he must support with the cooking, cleaning, house chores and care of the kids, that's the only way I will support equal or any type of financial help by the wife. My reason is this, many men see providing as their job and taking care of the home and kids as the job of the wives, so if the men want any form of support in their job, they must be willing to support in the job of the wife.
It's not fair nor right in any way to say that just because the wife is financially stable she must help financially yet the husband who is emotionally physically and moral stable leaves the cooking, house chores and care of the kids to the wife because he is a man and that is not what men do.
It can't be shared responsibility when it comes to finances but becomes the woman's job when it comes to care of the home and the kids, it's not acceptable,

50-50 all the way or nothing,

The wife brings money to support the family and the man cooks and cleans and takes care of the children not just when the woman is sick or unavailable but also when she is capable and available to do so, The man does it because it's the 50-50 rule.
Do you see my point?

I blame some Nigerian Traditions. A man paying bride price for a girl is practically slavery (the parents are selling their daughter). The guy then feels entitled to anything and the wife must comply. The guy is tasked with providing and the wife becomes a mother and maid. If i could scrap primitive traditions like this, i will.

I think it depends in the man and wife in question. If he doesn't have the mentality that a woman is a slave then he won't treat her as one no matter the bride price
but I do see the point about the bride price

izzou:
Who is vexing you na?

Lol

I'm not. ,
Going fine, how's yours?

izzou:
Moomiee

What's this?

You want me to be mobbed online baa? . I will tell you on May 28, 2018

Meanwhile, hows your day going?

AlmiqhteeAllah:
What annoys me more about the society's attitude towards rape is the way rapists are GRANTED bail daily, without anyone batting an eyelid.

So, if you have a rich parent who can pay to meet up to your bail conditions, you then have the right to rape and dehumanize my daughter, because your wealthy father will always bail you out! This is nothing but INCENTIVIZING crime and wickedness.

Rape should be met with the HARSHEST possible punishment - death sentence. Anything short of this is unacceptable to me. If that's how I would feel about my daughter, then it's applicable to every other girl.

In as much as I do not support jungle justice and taking the law into one's hands, I don't see myself forgiving a beast that raped my daughter and letting him roam free. Apart from the fact that no justice had been done, other innocent girls will definitely fall prey to the roaming predator.

As distasteful as it may sound, I see myself killing any man who rapes my daughter, and is granted bail afterwards, and damn the consequences.

True.
All true.

Lol

Stories that touch.

izzou:
This cracked me up. I have never heard anything as dumb,stupid and funny as this since May 29 2015.

What did you hear on may 29?

AlmiqhteeAllah:
It's indeed something worth the worry. A moniker was just telling the forum owner to look into tribalism, and nairaland owner was busy asking him to post links to posts containing tribal slurs, that weren't removed by the mod, when we, in fact, have THOUSANDS of those, and we see them on front page every damned day.

Is he trying to say he [color=darkgreen]doesn't see[/color] these things? The disgusting ethnophaulisms that have become the order of the day in both crime and politics sections?

I don't believe that.

I had nothing to say when I saw it, I even wanted to complain about a disturbing trend I've noticed on this forum but when I saw that reply I just weak.
If he can give that reply on something then. Intact I'm weak.

I wanted to tell him to look into the disgusting trend that when a woman is raped, instead of people to condemned the crime and the rapists they start victim blaming and giving excuses for the rapists saying if the girl didn't go here. If she didn't GI there, if she didn't wear this, if she didn't wear that she wouldn't have been raped but in all honesty, I know I've said this but as I see oga at the top's reply, I just calmed down. I can't shout abeg.

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Lol.......

Simply put:

MISANDRIST feminists are ones who, although believing in equality, believe men to be the source of all their woes. They hate men for whatever personal reason known to them, and think they're scum that should never be "worshipped" or appreciated. Some of them are so extreme that they even want the replacement of the Patriachial system with a Matriachy, believing men to be responsible for most of the world's problem, and when they're tamed, the world would be a much better place. I consider these ones hollow souls in need of serious psychological evaluation and rehabilitation. They just might be lunatics parading as feminists.

HYPOCRITICAL feminists are simply ones who pay lip service to gender equality, in the sense that, they advocate it with passion, and want to come off as sincere in their agenda, but then hypocritically wish to retain the BENEFITS of patriachy for THEIR GENDER, while still having the advantages of gender equality for themselves. Talk about having your cake and eating it.

ACTUAL feminists are the ones who believe in gender equality and are willing to FOLLOW THROUGH with it, treading the path it opens, and willing to follow it wherever it leads.

Did I make sense?

Yes it did., all noted I agree with all

I wonder when feminism became equated to arrogant, cocky nagging women. I better overlook that,

Stop blaming the parents, stop blaming everyone but the bloody rapists, even if you let your child play around it doesn't mean that someone should rape the child.

Stop trying to shift blame to the parents, the blame rests solely on the rapists

ToZaraWithaZ:
The story of the lonely life of cretinous Tim. What a waste!

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Tim has been living reasonably well....... I guess. Kind of. Whatever. We didn't really see much of him these last years. He was too busy hanging around some website he found which enraged him to the point that he started becoming obsessive and weird. He reads things about women that makes him write things about women for likes and shares from fellow Tims that he just couldn't move on. He couldn't eat or sleep. He didn't go to work. It just totally consumed him. He knows how to combine words in astonishing ways just to express his hatred for women. Creative fellow. If only he had put the creativity into something positive. His SUICIDE note would read [color=darkblue]"Discovering the mysteries of my physical and spiritual ugliness which so repulsed women that no single one ever loved a thing about me. The way I dealt with them is almighty goodness. Sadness. Madness. The website! The WEBSITE![/color]. His friends would read it, look at each other and shrug, then go for drinks to celebrate. They would get rid of Tim's corpse when the smell starts disturbing the neighbours. Disposing of the imbeciile Tim would be a great relief. In truth, it would be for the best. He never did anything relevant anyway. Good riddance, Tim, you psychotic, mysterious-website-like-and-shares-obsessed fvcking retarrd. We hardly knew ye..... And wish we hadn't.

Don't be a Tim. Never go full Tim. Eat an apple a day, for they keep retards away. Why do you think Eve was so eager to eat one?

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Talking about pushing the topics to front-page. That's inevitable. For nairaland, profit comes first. And since they know people's views, it's no surprise that controversial topics would be pushed to home page for traffic.

The Tim story made me lol,

As for the topics being moved to fP, I'm just worried that some people will think the level of foolishness exhibited here some times is the norm,

But oh well,

cc AlmiqhteeAllah

AlmiqhteeAllah:
There's a difference between MISANDRIST feminists, HYPOCRITICAL feminists, and ACTUAL feminists, though.

They're so different they can't be equated.

I'm with my paper and pen sir, ready to take notes, please explain the types

supersystemsnig:
Holy ghost thunder...

Is that what you will use to wash? lol

supersystemsnig:
I'm coming for you...You will see...Me wash plate abi? Very soon you will mention panties and bra...

Yes na

Don't you want your wife to have clean undies

AlmiqhteeAllah:
I'll try and ask people at home then. They must know what kind of magic I perform while asleep.

Whether one invites discord or not, she would still spoil the party anyways. She IS discord.

The night was sweet.

Ask, so they can tell you the truth

Good to know

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Lol...... I don't see myself marrying anyone but her, so I don't expect that to change after marriage.

I have no problem with being in the Kitchen.

So sweet

Lol, all right, I will take your word

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Hahahaha. Fine by me. I already do this with my girlfriend. The lazy man in me notwithstanding, I always get this urge to help out whenever I see her doing stuff - whatever kind of stuff.

I practice what I preach.

Lol,

Yeah but I hope you will do it with your wife, even if your wife isn't doing anything you will cook and clean + house chores, not just helping when you see her doing it. after all, 50-50, lol,

Seems like some men seem to think that 50-50 means financial responsibility is shared but taking care of the home and kids + cooking is 100% the job of the wife, and that's not how 50-50 works.

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Hahahaha....... Do I snore? I wouldn't know. You're unconscious while asleep.

Ah. The party. Salome was there to perform her magic. I got to see her dance of the seven veils. But Eris (Goddess of discord) felt scorned for being left out and came to create turmoil and spoiled the party. Discord came BECAUSE I didn't invite Discord. The paradox.

Good morning. Enjoyed your sleep?

Don't try and dodge, I hope you're not the kind of person that if your sleeping, someone can hear you snore from another room in the house LMAO

That's what you get when you don't invite everyone next time you won't leave people out

Goodmorning. I did, how was the night?

DarkRebel69:
Why is that? Because a woman's body is gold or because it is made of diamond? Which one? Don't you guys compare our genitals to things like "rod", "stick", "bazooka", "pole", etc?

Stop over-reacting, Drug-Daeylar. Even the Bible compared Jesus–whom Christians take as their messiah– to a "sherperd". Analogies are not meant to trivialize or commodify, but to illumine.

Which is why I'm just going to ignore your ridiculous demands and compare away.
In this case, we will take a woman's body to be a bank (Bite me! ). A man deposits semen (money) in her, and it germinates into a foetus. Yes, we know a woman owns her body in the literal sense, but the moment she is pregnant and has a life growing within her, she has no right to decide whether it lives or not. She is only a vessel for another human life, not an arbiter of life and death.

I'm not one to cavil about the influences of the West, but I think this issue of abortion has the smutty fingerprints of the West all over it. It's only an irresponsible female who is also unfit to be a mother that will think to MURDER a child all in the name of it not being fully developed and so does not qualify as murder, or on the grounds that it is an "unwanted pregnancy".

I want to believe that if a woman is mature enough to have sex then she should be mature enough to deal with the consequences of it if either due to her clumsiness she did not use prophylactics or if she used and still got pregnant.

The issue of abortion only arises when people refuse to be take responsibility for their actions. And technology is also to be blamed. If there was no technology facilitating this crime then it wouldn't even be an issue.



I still think you need the pince-nez. If not for anything but to accentuate your sexiness.

Still the same boring story, whether you like it or not, a woman's body is hers alone, you have to deal, or you may not. No one cares LMAO

Please keep the pince-nez, it's very necessary you use it before responding

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Lol....... I'm currently in the Seventh Heaven feasting with my subjects. I'm inviting you to the party.

Alright. Good night. Sleep tight, and chase away invading bedbugs with your snore.

I don't snore and not a bed bug in sight . Seems like you have bedbugs and that's your solution for them

How was the party?

You guys can't accuse some feminists of wanting to eat their cake and have it yet turn around and do the exact same thing,

If you want a 50/50 or whatever ratio where the wife joins her husband in providing for the family then you must also accept a 50/50 (or whatever agreed ratio) where the man joins in cooking, taking of the kids and doing of house chores, and I don't mean only when the woman is ill or when she is not available to do the chores. I mean even if the woman is around, the man still has to hold up his 50% or whatever ratio.

Or you stick to the traditional way where the man is the provider and the woman is the home maker.

50% everywhere or nothing.

Cc AlmiqhteeAllah what do you think?

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Thank God. That's the most pleasant news of the third night of October!

Didn't get this mentioñ.

Lol, glad I could make your night.
And if you're being sarcastic eh

Goodnight

prettyboi1989:
bayley is just vegetable i swear, i didn't even see much action from sasha banks, d girl m always rooting for. nia jax was on her A game at no mercy but that missed spear that got her shoulder injured gave room for alexa to win

Alexa always takes advantage of any opportunity,

Sasha was knocked out by nia

I really don't know what's up with bailey, people survive other wrestler's finishing moves once in a while, but she can never survive Alexa's.

pu7pl3:
Its safe to say that the miz has been the best thing consistently on wwe since last year... dude is AWESOME

He is what??,
Blasphemy

Remove his wife and his entourage and he can't do Jack, but he can be entertaining annoying sometimes

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Pretty good. Driving my Rolls-Royce of good health with the utmost delight.

What about you?

I'm doing great,

DarkRebel69:
If you put money in a bank, does the money belong to the bank and the bank alone? Answer this.

You will not compare a woman's body to a bank, you will not compare a woman's body to money, you will not compare a woman's pregnancy to putting money in a bank, you will not compare a woman's pregnancy to putting a bank inside money,
In case you need more explanations on why you won't do such

Mindfulness:
They do not carry the pregnancy, neither endure the pains of delivery, neither quit their jobs to take care of babies, neither carry the stigma of single motherhood when the father decides to disappear, neither suffer from postpartum depression, neither risk their lives to give life.

Now please tell me if a bank does any of these for your money.

Now that that's settled

I'm assuming you're saying if the father of the child wants to keep the pregnancy, I don't really know what to do, of course the father and the mother both have a say but I don't really know what to do, if they didn't have an agreement before going raw on what should happen if the woman goes pregnant then good luck to them.

If you were paying any attention rather than rapidly skimming through so as to give a quick response, then you would have seen where I made concessions in the cases of "rape" and when "the birth of a child poses a grave danger to the mother's life ". Do you need a pince-nez?

@the bolded, If you were paying attention instead of rapidly skimming through my post so as to give a quick response you would have seen where I said that everything else is your own opinion and you were entitled to it

As for the rape, I saw your post about rape which I agreed with then saw how you tried to be slick and sneak in this "Even in cases of rape, the mother could have the child and then place him or her in a mother-less home."
Which is why I made my comment.
My point is if a woman who is pregnant as a result of rape wants to keep the child, you nod your head and say yes, if she wants abortion, you also nod your head and say yes, you do not even attempt to suggest to her what she should do with the pregnancy.

No thank you on your very generous offer , but i think you need your pince-nez more so you can use it to read through before posting. Thanks again

AlmiqhteeAllah:
By the way, how's the oxygen feeling like overthere?

Lol like oxygen,, you know you're breathing in oxygen too.

How you doing?