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Lubyna:
Thanks sis. I am patiently waiting for the male refuters to arrive.

justi4jesu:
Op i just woek up this morning to check on you. Hope you still dey alive sha.

Brooke60:
Seun, you will love this OP

MrBrownJay1:
As much as you are entitled to look down on such international way of life, a very important point is to make sure that both partner are on the same page... So before you decide to marry a babe, make sure she desires to follow the same Nigerian old ways of marriage( as you do), and not the upgraded international version.

But you certainly can't/shouldn't impose on someone who ain't down with it.

Zandha:
You're saying the same thing as the OP sir, your point of emphasis just happened to differ slightly. Personality, looks, charisma, smarts, financial muscle, confidence, and VISION are all important. The OP is saying that if you're financially lacking, other qualities can compensate for that deficiency to make you worthy of consideration by women, at least FOR A REASONABLE PERIOD OF TIME, afterall, you don't plan to remain broke forever, do you? And you validly replied that money REMAINS IMPORTANT. Of, course, it is. And the OP never suggested that it isn't.

The thrust of his argument is this: When ladies reject you for being broke, it might not be just about the money, it might be because you're lacking all of the other qualities they can cling unto to compensate for your financial scores that aren't so good at that moment. So, what are those qualities? They're there in the OP. It's not always about the money. It NEVER has been.

And yes, this drab and dumb ridiculously stupid_ stereotyping of Nigerian ladies as being all about the money by miserable sad bastards has got to stop!

cococandy:
It's a very very common practice among women to help the men with the money for payment of bride price.

NwaAmaikpe:


The 20months baby is obviously recalcitrant if she won't take corrections from her parents....meaning she will be difficult to teach as an adult.

You don't have a single problem with your daughter being left-handed but others do, so you really need to satisfy those people and it's getting you worried that your daughter won't comply.

It's so easy....
Since you are more concerned about what other people think, when your daughter is sleeping; cut off her left hand.

Then give it to those people and explain to them that your daughter couldn't become right-handed or ambidextrous so you had to do this to show you had really tried as her mom.

Buchi95:
Poster you're a thief!
Stop plagiarising people's post!!
Why didn't you give credit to the original writer from Facebook?

This is my intellectual property, you shameless thief!!

NwaAmaikpe:


He is a foolish fake magician

See his okrika boxers sef..
SMH

A bank invited him to perform in their show and all he could do is to eat fire

A true magician will vanish all the money in the bank's vault, then vanish himself from the stage to Barbados.

kellycyber:
I see!
If you really like the guy ,all will make you smile.
Ladies are good at smiling at every little things said by their love
#smiles

Tearless:
Stop making it seem as though Marriage is a MUST, or that single ladies are unhappy, or that it's all single ladies that WANT to get married. Being single is NOT a problem, so you people need to stop suggesting "solutions" for that and focus on more important things, directing your energy towards more productive ends. I don't see Nuns/Reverend sisters complaining of depression, or divorced single ladies falling dead. You need to snap out of the delusion and false notion that ladies who claim not to need men to make them happy have holes in their hearts. Marriage itself does NOT guarantee happiness, and you need to stop pressuring the single ladies to get married as if being single is some sort of disease. Humans are teleological animals that inhabit a wondrous world of INFINITE potentialities into which they can tap from whichever angle. There's nothing cast in stone, no one way to achieve something. Marriage is not all there is to life. There are other ways of achieving happiness - a lot of them.

Einstein was so in love with Physics that he couldn't invest his sublime passions into any other true love. That was what gave him the kick. That was for him, the bluest meth. Physics was HIS TRUE LOVE that gave him fulfillment, not a person. It was the same for Nietzsche, and a host of other people you can think of.

You're therefore completely WRONG to have asserted, with such impudence, that ladies who claim they do not need men to be fulfilled are internally scarred. You overhype marriage and worship it like a God. Like that lady, IamKashyBaby rightfully said, MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE.

selflessmaya:
i love threads like these because while they show me how stupid some nigerians are, some comments also remind me that we have some functional thinking ppl in this country.
the reason while there are more spinsters in this generation is because nigerian women are finally realizing they can do and deserve better. most men here riding the "go and marry" brigade are the worst specimen of men out there. let's be fu<king honest, let's go there, how many nigerians want to have a marriage exactly like their parents? i grew up in a stable household with very nice parents but i can personally say that i dont want a marriage like theirs, a lot of you here talking trash wont even exist in this day and age cos your mothers wouldn't have settled with your fathers. but the differnce is that girls grow up wanting and grooming themselves for a more romantic fun marriage and guys are just more than comfortable being as uninteresting as wet bread.

most nigerians are very bitter when they see a woman who wants to do well for herself, be it a woman who strives for independence and success or a woman who wants to marry well and won't settle for less. that's why they gather like ants when celebrity marriages fail because they love to laugh at those who even had the nerve to think they can have it all and still have their happy ending and i'm using celebrities as an example because they're the only public cases we get to see. this is why successful women like genevieve and rita dominic are constantly told "go and marry" by ppl here who can't even afford 1/10th of the life they live, that's why anytime a scandal arises about adaeze yobo's marriage, they gather around to laugh and say "she never see anything" meanwhile she married at 20 and did not even get the chance to "slay mama" before marrying like most ppl like to justify their dragging with, that is why they drag female celebs who got out of unhappy marriages when they cry on camera, then drag them when they show signs of moving on with their lives. this is why they're happy whenever a new rumor rises about caroline danjuma's husband's cheating, "oh she thought fine girl will save her" "haha shey she's the one that wanted rich husband", this is why they're at the uche jumbo thread typing "ghen ghen" hoping her marriage fails so they can come again to tell women that working hard and being a boss is nahhht the way to go. this is why when an everyday case of domestic violence goes viral, they sympathize but when it's a successful woman who's a celebrity they do the most trying to attribute everything to her celebrity status, she must have been a bad wife (because she's successful in her own right and we all know women who don't need you in order to feed are just terrible and must be dragged)

the issue here is not that many women are not marrying but that many men are NOT marriage material but were raised believing "a man is never ugly" "woman education ends in kitchen" "let boys be boys"and they drank it in whole and did nothing to better themselves and are mad that girls are out here calling their bluff, getting sh!t done and not that bothered about marriage anymore with a "if it happens, it happens, if it doesnt, boo freaking hoo" mindset. basically these men are angry because they cant attract gold while being trash but in the old days of lesser female empowerment a lot of amazing women had to settle for whatever comes their way and these generation of girls are saying NO!!! no more being a maid with glorified title of wife, if men are not ready to be husbands, many girls these days are not ready to sit around wifeing for them and cleaning up after a grown man, whiny like a baby with a head full of entitlement that they dont even possess. many ppl born in the 80s-90s grew up in a world totally different from what it is now and they're refusing to stay stagnant as the times change. women are more practical these days, all the "slay mamas" are hated because girls these days are no more the breed to grow up with an impractical view of how life works, they see the harsh realities surrounding them and they know now that marriage is not a prize but a huge gamble. these men are so angry that women wayyy above them wont reduce their standards and settle for them, so mr man, why dont u reduce your own standard and find girls your own level, it's because mr man was lied to and told that a man is a prize and any girl will give an arm and a leg to have him and reality is just punching holes in the bubble he lives in. women just dont view men as a prize anymore, they view them as human beings and if u can't be the one, they're fine earning their cash, paying their bills and watching whiny threads like these from their comfortable cozy homes, live with it.

ps. lol at the one complaining that girls these days want wedding, pre-wedding pic and reception which is expensive in his opinion and they should settle for court marriage, my friend, when women were marrying a lot like u claim, the same laws applied, you're just broke.

Blueberrie:
I agree! So much pressure on women, its disgusting. Guys are so focussed on asking if the lady is marriageable that they forget to check themselves..cause why should i work on myself then settle for a substandard guy instead of one whos marriageble too. I saw a guy say he sleeps around with as many "unmarriageable ladies" as possible..to him they are jst for fun but when he chooses to settle he'll choose the respectful responsible lady. What is this?? Seriously a guy who has the same immoral behaviour as that immoral lady he's calling out has no right to judge any lady.. seriously. It's soo annoying.