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I think it would work. Its just a matter of what you feel inside and putting the extra effort to make it work. My first advise is to try and see this person and re-evaluate how you feel about him. If you feel the same way then go for it. You will never know what lies at the end of the tunnel!!!

I can, because the devil you know is better than the angel at the corner

What U've just described is certainly not adultery(though it sure seems to be hangin in the air)

You are right that it is not yet full blown adultery, but when it becomes full blown, I have told him that the problems he is complaining of will only get worse.
There is also the question of what would satisfy a man, so he stays at home?

A friend of mine who is married met a girl on one of these chat sites. They've been chatting a while and he claimed that when he was asked if married while chatting he told her yes. Work took him recently to the state where the girl resides. They actually met and nobody was dissappointed. There has not been any sexual relationship yet, but they are still on phone or web talking every now and then. To cut the whole story short, she is always calling him even when she knows he is at home and frowns when he does not pick her calls. Now in love with this girl, and ending up more stressed up, he is confussed, and asking the following questions
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[li]What would this lady want in this relationship[/li]
[li]Pressures from the house made that seem as the right thing to do, but his troubles have seemingly doubled, Why?[/li]
[li]What sends a man out of his house[/li]
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AND PROMISE NEVER TO LIE/ HURT HER  AGAIN

I wonder how somebody can promise never to lie to a lady. "Boast not of the future cos the future is not yours to give"

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NEVER>> It's in their genes. Its in the human genes both male and female!!!
We all do it to get out of a bind, both male and female so - Never
What we do is to try is to try to avoid putting ourselves in positions of compromise.

@ MyPeace really sorry that i did not check her profile / age
My God, 16 years and getting this worked up, girl you still have a very long way to go

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I go disvir at 23yrs

We are making too many assumptions, one is that she is young cos she is still a virgin which I think is not right.

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am going to allow him straf me(he's the first because am still a vir, )but we'll continue being plain friends nothing else and of course without ma guy(his friend)knowing.

The only thing i can say reading this story is that if you want to go in that direction, go all the way and continue with him, i do not support cheating in what ever form. Call off the relationship with your guy and then go off with your oldtime friend.

I dont believe in all those things. They told us that love is blind, and we have all seen it. When you are emotionally attached to somebody, you do a lot of things which others term as crazy and some others a victim of the use o love portion. The heart is funny, it likes who it will like and hates who it will. Its at the point where it is no longer controlled by the mind that people say love portion is in use.

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And i can assure nybody who cares 2 know, that there is no sexual tention between us. We are just cool frnds.

I should add here that you can only speak for yourself O!!!

Absolutely not possible. The body chemistry of both a man and a woman are pole apart and entirely opposite, so they are needed to compliment each other. Cases are bound of a woman creating a divide between best of male friends and vise versa. The grand design is for us to bond sexually. Anything other than that is deception on the part of the individuals. Man be true to thyself!!!

There are 2 ways to look at it.
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[li]She outrightly does not like you[/li]
[li]She wants to be noticed, more of subconsciously testing your resilience[/li]
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but guys have to be careful and interpret on a case to case basis

Has any body ever imagined that the problem could be you!!!
There is no perfect person, we all have our individual weaknesses.
Some guy told me that the girl he just started dating was not a wife-candidate because she did not know how to cook. If you know so much of how to cook i am sure she will be all to willing to learn!!!
What is in the past we cannot change, what we can change is the now, and in turn translates to a changed future.

@Wills

I thought i said it before, its just the beginning. Got to be careful now

no

your friend is wrong. if you ask him to jump into fire will he?

No specifications; we'll keep in touch

age doesn't really matter for me as far as the girl is not older than the guy that is what matters.and there feelings matters

It matters o!, at a certain age women age faster that the me, It should be such that they grow together, and an age difference of between 5 to 8 years should be OK for present day Nigeria, The way these young girls dress these days can make a man denounce his religion. The man has to be older.

I dont know, but i think mula was rather rude. If you do not dig a guy there should be better ways of expressing it. If the reverse was the case and women had to ask men out, and a man gives a show like that would you consider that as being nice and polite?

Its great. The world becomes interwoven and there is better bonding. Brings us closer to the unified world dream!!!

mind you I said a committed african man

How do you measure the commitment of a man in this case abeg?
There are lots of factors comming to play here, but whats most important is the underlying reason why this guy is head bent on this lady!!!

If it was a genuine use of money say to help someone who is in need or helping her folks, yes by all means ask and she shall receive

My brother i dont understand, who does not have a need. Even you giving the money hava some unsatisfied needs. I think that it should be treated on case basis. The only thing i would advise is for girls not to make themself lose all self esteem(appear cheap).

Done using messenger, was that the best way? Its like stabing somebody from behind. We are all adults i imagine and we should be able to talk over issues as such. I think you are shying away from responsibility. You entered the relationship with both eyes open. We do not know how long it took to find out the qualities thats making you want to leave the guy, or if there is some other person on ground or about to be on ground. What ever a man sows, multiples of that will he reap!!!

The best advise for any man is to be yourself, because if not your life will be a lie, and you would have to keep up the lies to maintains the new image. Every body will eventually find out the truth and you will be left out cold!!!

Boy, are you guys from another planet, come to Port Harcourt girls are making requests from their so called "boyfriend" by their 2nd meeting after the "ok" answer to the relationship request. Its easier for the school girls, they just say they want to stay off campus, and she is sharing with her friends. Her father has given x amount and whats left is y, pretending not to be telling you directly. Some better still when you call them and ask why they have not been calling, that opens the door for you to contnually send credit. I am really surprised at your remarks

They say love is blind! it does not have to be deaf and dumb. We are living on earth, not yet in paradise. Man be true to thyself

You cannot eat your cake and have it. You went after the guy, not the guy after you, you later got too desperate, and these things have a way of showing and the guy took off. You cannot always control situations, sometimes things have to happen naturally. The result of force is what you are experiencing (heartbreak). I truely hope you have learnt else it will keep reoccuring, but in different forms

This is really intresting, a guy that you havn't seen physically is giving you this headache? See with meeting people, they say your first impression is your best impression. When people meet we tend to put our best foot forward, also the distance is another limiting factor. I'd really like to know how this goes

Guy, i think the woman you want is the lady that works at your office. Her sister was just a means to break down the defenses of collegue at the office. The way you are going, you are bound to lose both of them. The younger sisters move was a bad move and would have implications on all 3 of you!!!