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Vixo:
Maybe you are the problem yourself!....

Check yourself and stop blaming the guys you ve dated

Vixo:
Wow.....don't forget Ur brother and your father and your uncles are all males too.....or boys whatever!.

Use Ur little sense when talking o!

pasqal09:
you can only speak for yourself abi..... Then why did you speak for all guys?

hungryboy:
Oga our girls of nowadays were fit wear fake bum bum, fake nail, fake hair, and even fake eye are capable of anything and everything

pasqal09:
Then girls come be wetin?

I find it weird reading these lines from a girl. You bf sleeps around and you said he's not cheating on you cos he's not married to you?. Double dating aint cheating as long as you guys are not married?. Wow!!. I'm dead sure you double date too and see nothing wrong with it cos you are not officially married to your guy. Be rest assured that he will keep double dating even after marriage since you don't want "kill his natural instincts". Smh

pasqal09:
What do u take us guys for? Dogs?

donpeey22:
Imagine a guy being madly in love with a girl and after making several attempts to woo her, she vehemently rejected him.
Then after about 2 years when the guy had almost forgotten about her, she now pops up her head from no where to reopen a wound that's almost healing. That's very unfair!

If you know that that guy is not good enough for you, forward march and don't be like a kid that rejected a gift whilst still looking back at it. If you know that the so called boyfriend of yours is not serious, why reject a potential husband for his sake? Why not at least try to keep the two guys as casual friends for sometimes and then decide which of them is good for you?

Say no to friend zoning!

naijaboiy:
Congratulations

And for them Girls...

Two More Saturdays!!!

CareTaker1:
@poster Feminists don't get married at all, so you may as well forget about men. Women are worse than death itself, with their heart behind, they are bloody murderous. I risk my life each time i close my eyes beside a woman because i know anything can happen.

The guy is worthy of double honor if he was able to put-up with a Jezebeel for half a decade. These days men win award for staying with their legitimate wifey(s) for that long.

snowdrops:
why would she live with a guy she is not married to for five years?

she sold her self cheap if you ask me.

besides the guy has a right to decide who he gets married to, he should not marry her out of pity but out of love.

clevvermind:
the few times i have spend on this section i have learnt that being a virgin is not what will make you a better wife or husband when you marry. marriage is more than just being a virgin. you can be a virgin till you gets married, but if you have not learnt what it takes to make a marriage works, you will still fail in your marriage despite being a virgin. so, apart from being a virgin, you must learn skills on how to be a unique wife or husband when you get married.

i have also learnt that tall guys like us are the ladies' desire.

i have learnt that relationship should built on trust and mutual understanding.

i have learnt so many things but let me stop here for others to share the little they have learnt from this section this year. what have you learnt so far? what lessons has the romance section of nairaland taught you this year? let's hear it.

drucee21:
Am a guy in enugu, though not from enugu, I have stayed in enugu for a while and can't seem to find a sincere lady who isn't fake, the town is crowded with fake unreal ladies who don't even think of their future, instead are after money they can't even get, how then do I find a nice lady, do they still exist

tosyne2much:
This write-up is not based on mere assumption but my findings and encounter with ladies

It takes the grace of God if you aint guilty of at least one of the listed points

Lemme Keep The Ball Rolling

10 Mentality Of An Average Lady

1. A guy must be the one to start up a chat and he must be the one throwing the questions else he is not ready to chat

2. The society frawns against a lady making her intentions known to a guy, therefore, a guy has to keep pestering you b4 you finally agree in order to show to him that you aint cheap or desperate

3. A lady has to hide her virginity status or pretend to hate sekks in order to portray a descent or an attractive image


4. Sending Pm to a dude will make you lose your self esteem or pride as a lady

5. The mentality of an average lady is that, a guy should settle the bills. When the bill arrives at the table, you pretend it doesn’t exist cos you believe it's less of your worry cos a guy should always settle the bills by default

6. You are doing a guy a great favour by allowing sekks. Some will go as far as stripping unclad raining curses on a dude the moment he fuckks up because they consider it as a favour

7. A guy who loves you will go extra mile. Most ladies are brainwashed by this assertion. That is, a lady believes she can treat a guy the way she wants and expects the guy should be able to withstand any poo at the expense of true love
, not knowing you can pursue a man God has destined 4u out of ignorance and selfish motive

8. Any guy who tries to strike up a convo or pay your transport fare will later ask for your phone number 'cos he wants to woo you


9. You have to give unending busy excuses in order to portray an image of rear commodity

10. majority of our ladies believe our world revolve around sekks and that 90% of guys will never resist sekks. This sounds really funny but it is the real fact. I have spoken to so many ladies and I have come into conclusion that majority of our ladies believe that 90% of guys lack self control and will never resist sekks at any slight given opportunity

** Feel Free To Add Yours **

coded336:
I have a girlfriend whom I unexpectedly fell inlove with her. Unlike my previous relationship I was 100% faithful to her and I mean it. I supported her with all her financial demands and I felt she was really in love with me because of the way she acted. I work on the rig and she is a student of Uniport in her final year, Whenever I was leaving for the rig for 3weeks, I left my car with her. several stories from people who claimed to be her friend told me how she kept gallivanting with my car and sleeping around, but I was not deterred. I even told my parents that I have found someone I was gonna get married to.
To be honest, she started acting funny towards me, not giving me time during the short period when I am around, and always coming up with excuses. Following from a tip off from an anonymous caller, she was in a hotel with her friend and a man she claimed to be her uncle. I got to the hotel (Le' Meridian) in GRA ph, went to the pool side and after having some drinks, I called her to find out her whereabouts, she lied that she was in school, but in less than 30 minutes she was downstairs with her friend (I supposed they just had a party). I confronted her and she lied. I got hold of her bag, and saw K-Y gel and condoms.
I have since walked out of the relationship, but it still hurts me. My phone still has her nude pics she sent to me. I am being tempted to do something nasty cos I am heartbroken.
Please advise

Bobskylo:
Gud evening . Help me post this plz. How
can I control my Girlfriend that demands too
much. I soo much love her and she claim to
love me too. We are both working and
earning the same salary but she demands
too much always askin for money everytime
including money to make her hair, money to
buy cloth or phone, sometimes she even
ask me to give her money she'll use travel
to her own home town. Ok yesterday we are
talking about how this Xmas gonna be and
I told her that I'll buy her flower and take
her to the Cinema but she ain't ok with it.
She said I will buy IPAD for her and still take
her out. Sometime Am pissed off wit her
demanding but I too much love her to let
go. I do buy her small gifts and help her out
financially according to my level but I
wonderd why she still demand much. Plz
notify me when post. Tnx all.

pls make una help dis guy for dis mata because girls are too bad n dey r blood sucker

nessaluv:
If d girl luvs u she shld b able 2gve up d 0da guys- dey shld jst b casual pals,

tell her wat u want and wat u can't take,let her set her priorities if she really luvs u she wldnt d0 tinz dat'l brke ur heart....

yorex2011:
Love getting overrated these days... But me sha.. I was born to love.. Doesn't matter if i don't get it back the way i give it. I will always give it... It won't kill me because i knw what I'm worth

Yomieluv:
You better hustle how to make money,than allow one small girl dribbling you..

What does a 19 year old girl know about love,that you are killing yourself over her..

DGKN:
Good evening Nairalanders, I'm not too good in writing please just try and understand if maybe I made any mistake.. Thank U. Let me start from the Scratch of the matter....

I'm dating this girl for like 5months now(She's Just 19 and I'm 25.), Things have been going on well with us when we started dating.. We Play, Cuddle, Kiss But we Never Had Sex.. (She claim she's still a virgin and that she won't loose her virginity till she's 23) but that's the Issue on ground now.. I'm Okay without sex for now(Tho I'm not a Virgin, I just need a truthful, Carinq, lovinq,intelligent,respectful and responsible girl and not a Cheater...)

This is how our misunderstanding started.. She came to visit me one faithful day, and She asked me to charge her phone.. I just decided to scroll through her BBM Conversations... Lo and Behold I was seeing, "I love You, I miss u, tho u r far from me but u will always b in my hrt., Come kiss me"

Haa, I shocked when I saw it, but as a gentle dude, I decided to Keep calm.. Tho, I wasn't too happy with her cuz I was disappointed in her..

Later that eveninq... When we were chatinq on bbm, I started bombarding her with questions, later I got her angry, and that's when she opened up to me.. She said

The dude is her Boyfriend, that she have many Boyfriend bla bla (u knw hw ladies talk now) but, This Guys Live Far from her, that they are Lagos, Abuja.

I told her to breakup with them and she said this "Sometimes they are some ppl in your life u jst can't leave"

I jst couldn't utter any word... She said she loves me, that I shouldn't worry about these oda Dudes.. I haven't snd her any msq till this moment.. I feel pained, hurt, nd I'm kinda passinq tru emotional trauma, cuz I really do luv this gurl.. This is the gurl I have plans for.. I can't be datinq her when I know someone else is also datinq her. Somethinq she use dia Dps on bbm.

Please Nlanders, What do I do?? Should I breakup with her ?? Or What ?? Please help me Out!!!!! I'm confused. Please don't Laugh at me

ignis:
Ideally, the guy should be about 5 years older than the lady. If the lady is older than the guy, the guy will risk always being asked if her wife is her aunt after 2 or 3 delivery.

Note : When you compare male and female of same age, the female always look older ( especially without makeup).

ritababe:
i mean which state

ritababe:
were is ur location

Etetejake:
Am not sure u r a girl. If u r, God bless you, your life, your future and the parents that brought u up.

Rooneyboy:
Sweetheart, I'm already inlove with u for this , loads of kisses from me to u One pretty girl I met some few months back tried this on me, we had fixed a date and i was to pick her up . When I arrived the busstop we had agreed on, she hopped into my ride, next thing I saw was another lady opening the back door.
It was@ that point she told me that she came along with her friend . I was so vexed, told both of them to get down and I grove off .

Yes, It was so rude to have done that but I had a satisfied conscience .
Hunger out with my male buddies for the rest of the day with the cash I budgeted for the date .

veave:
These are the ones that disgrace and spoil our name. When a man volunteers to take them out. They go and show how hungry they are. One person will eat 2 portions of rice, a full chicken, a bowl of ice cream, a can of one litre juice,normal coke, diet coke, fanta, sprite, nkwobi, fish pepper soup, assorted as if it is not enough when she is going home she will request for take away... cake, 7meatpie, 10sausage rolls, a carton of juice, 3 full grilled fish. 1,500mtn airtime, 1000glo, 750airtel...




As if its her whole village she is feeding. Mtchwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

giftforlife9:
swap with my new tecno p5 plus 5k

Afrok:
He should have thought of not been himself without her before screwing up. Smh... I know he must've been feeling like boss with words like " I know how to get into her", she takes all the sh*t I do, this time won't be different" when he was busy screwing up but now his behaviour has landed him into taking sleeping pills and eating pits, he should just continue taking the sleeping pills until he sleeps and never wakes up.God bless u real good my brother

He treated the heart that loved him like poo and the guilt is killing him, the girl had moved on and he should do the same. Lesson learnt in hard way for him .

Tic4tac:
Why do ladies find it very difficult to spend on their men?

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Ladies! hw much is the highest amount U've eva spent on him? and how often do u spend on him?Y shud I kip track of hw much I spend on him.If he has we spend n if its me dat has we also spend.No biggie.

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Guys! What's the highest amount ur gf ever spent on u?

ATOB:
If I had the chance or if I have my way I will stay single for the rest of my life and just give birth to kids if I get a willing lady.

I have been fooled to believe in love all along. I thought with marriage all dreams will come true. I have felt some form of emotions with certain girls at one point in time and they felt same too, only for us to begin to get weary and tired of one another.

We hear different stories and accounts of failed marriages and the non-existent love people claim to have disappeared in their lives.

With experience too, I have come to the realization that commitment brings more hurt than good except ofcourse those negligible amount of people who are lucky to find someone who is compartible with them.

Other problems include:
Lack of jobs.
Failing economies.
Expensive accomodation and school fees
Infidelity amongst many others.

With your experience and orientation so far, will you still get married?

QMark:
She waited for me for 10 years. Now we are married. Very comfortable, but she is still waiting for me,..I am not Dangote yet. And when I become Dangote, she'll still be waiting till I became Bill.