₦airaland Forum

Things are hard, but adding addiction to it is too much load to carry.

jackslow:
correction on that Hausa Moslem divorce procedure ,it is not 7 times,rather its 3 Times it's an Islamic rule not just Hausa,also the children are not divorced with the wife,they still belong to the father ,but if they're small they can be with the mother while the father takes care of their financial needs
If the mother is breast feeding any of the children the father will have to pay her for the bread feeding separately from other financial needs other children unless the mother wish to do it free of charge .

Alright. Thanks for the corrections

descarado:
In igboland before, if you are suspected of killing your husband the corpse will be washed and you will be made to drink the water.

This is the most wicked and cruel of all of them.

Ha. Drink the water? Kind of diabolic

Sonnobax15:

Here in my tribe, urhobo and isoko,once a married Woman sleeps with another man apart from her husband,the husband's ancestors and hers' will attack her spiritually......If the husband is aware of his wife's atrocities but chose to keep it a secret,he and his kids won't be exempted from the repercussions.... Especially if the Woman cook meal for the family with the money she gets from the other man...

Jeez. Almost the same with that of some part of igala people of Kogi state. Just that in their own case, the woman, dies immediately if she keep it a secret

Sorry about that. You did your best to please him, just that he turned out to be a bad person. Some people are extremely wicked. Don't worry God will surprise you with good hearted customers.

Share your views, let's keep learning

illicit:
They will kill the person if they find out


But it's no longer applicable....

In those days, no man must even marry any woman divorced by a king

Wao

illicit:
In Yoruba land

Nobody sleeps with an obas wife....



But I think it's wash

And if anyone do, what happen?

donbachi:
Name of the place is called ndele in emuoha local govt.

Wao. Thanks for sharing.

donbachi:
death

Ha. Thanks for sharing.

donbachi:
Somewhere in rivers state.
Leg no go touch wall or ground during sexual intercourse.

Jeez. If it does, what happened?

Honestly, they're some horrible traditions governoring marriages in some tribe in Nigeria. Before you get married to anyone from a different tribe, it's adviceable to learn more of his/her cultural believe.
Although some people might not tell you in details, so you don't get scared and walk away, but try as much as you can to know.

I heard some part of Kogi state, when a woman cheat on her husband, she dies, but if she tells her husband and the man refuse to send her back to the village, the man dies.

I also heard, In some culture, (in South-south) when a man dies and the woman is accused of murder, she will be made to carry her husband's corpse round the market 3 times. I don't know the particular tribe though and I don't how true.

I heard an hausa Moslem can verbally divorce a woman and all her children, by repeating ''i divorce you'' seven times and that's all. I don't know how true

What's your view on this?

Share horrible cultural practices you've heard or seen with us.

Igbo, Yoruba, hausa, Akwa ibom, edo, Delta and many others. Share with us

Adorable.

Greed, too much love for money. Haven't you notice recently, it's like the only assignment of humanity on Earth is looking for MONEY? Love is going into extinction, so, many things aren't working

@op, sorry about all your pain. Give her another chance. Tell her you've forgiven her and let her promise you she would never do that again. Then, watch her closely. If she start communication back with that man, then reconnect back to your ex girlfriends and admirers and let her see how happy you become when you're on phone with them. Trust me, she will try to win you back.

May God heal every broken heart

@op, how much? Let's quickly do this business transaction since you can always manufacture another one.

Hope you've seek his consent?

Wicked scammer

Just Happened ..!

Miss USA 2019 Cheslie Kryst has
been reported to have allegedly committed suicide on Sunday 30/01/2022.

She was 30 years of age l.

Said to have jumped off a New York City building.

Her body was found on West 42nd Street as reported by the New York Police Department.

Cheslie Kryst was a lawyer in Charlotte, N.C. before she was crowned Miss USA 2019.

May her soul find rest.

Why do people hind their identity when in need and pleading for help online?
I just want to know why?
Why hinding your old identity?
Aren't you real?

So heartbroken

Kriss216:
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The girl has a job.
Isn't the daughter the one to buy the mother a car as a gift for training her in college and making her do the right thing?

Says who? That is what African mentality taught you. That's why so many children are doing Yahoo, prostitution to impress their parents with gifts they can not afford.

Training your child in school is not a gift, it's a parent responsibility

Cute



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIocV4rhMiU

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Maybe you want to start a fairly used cloth (okirika) business in Abuja, here are list of places/market in Abuja to check in.
Use the link below.

Good luck.

If you have more information, you can share as well, so we all keep learning.







https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5cXRh1KwGo

drnoel:
Woman who knows her Selfworth won't call herself baby mama. The term is insultive.

Yes of course. No woman call herself that name. It's the people, society (you and i) that calls her that name and it's insultive.

drnoel:
This is all BS, everything U wrote.
Reason being is that U streamlined yourself to our archaic African mentality were the man is the alpha and omega. That scenario is a fallacy cos when you teach our girls and empower them. Let them know they don't need a man to be happy, they will know their Selfworth and no man can take it from them

I never mentioned men are alpha and Omega in my write up. Girls (female) are to be empowered. No gender need another gender to be happy.
But there are consequences when a lady decided to stay on her own and turn herself to a baby mama.
This topic is complex but there are many young ladies out there that needs certain orientation and counseling.

@op, why don't you make more effort to get married before having a baby? That path you want to walk, is not always Rosy the way you're thinking. My thought though

DemMannaScam:
E pain am die

E be like say baby mamas full ur family

Pele o

The aim of this post is not to make anyone feel bad though.

@mrbrownjay, I am not a religious person.
One question for you. Can you marry a lady with a child?
Have you ever loved another man's child as if it yours before? Most African men can't.


Have you met Linda, chioma and Genevieve personally and they've been honest with you on their challenges?


Cheering baby mama up online while you avoid them offline is hypocrisy.

The essence of these, is not to discourage, insult or discriminate baby Mama's out there but to help future victims.

To be honest with you, in as much as the modern world made us believe that “it’s not a big deal to have a child outside wedlock” “so long as you are financially stable, you can go ahead and have a child for any man of your choice”
My dear, I’m aware your life , how you live it, it’s your business, but there are certain things that are not just all about you, so long as you introduced a third party (a child) into your it.
Before you decided to become a baby mama for any man out there, there are few things I would love you to understand.
1. YOUR CHOICES BECOME LIMITED
2. YOU MIGHT RAISE A BITTER CHILD
3. LACK OF SELF TRUST/ SELF CONFIDENCE
4. STIGMATIZATION
5. YOU MIGHT END UP BECOMING A DESPERATE PERSON
More details in the video below

You can share your view or more opinion to help a future victim.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=InOVp7HQAts

Is like this post was created for
e-begging. Was hoping to read serious comment that can motivate
Lol

kamez:
Total balance in my 3 accounts should be just over 61 million naira...

Nairalanders abeg make una join hand pray for me ooooo...my only new year resolution for the past 4yrs is to find a wife and get married..every single year i end up failing to fulfil it...

This year is even worse because im ending the year without a girlfriend not to talk of wife...

One minute I'm all interested in a woman, and I start up a relationship, and the next minute, I loose interest and walk away

Is either you have too many options or you have broken so many hearts.
Besides, most bachelor with your kind of account balance always assume there are many women to pick, until when it gets to the real deal, you discovered wife's materials are scares.