₦airaland Forum

DeathToSimps:
Get a job.
This is not the economy to depend on a man for everything down to your sanitary pads, so you can lazy about all day and post meaningless things on Nairaland.

Lol. You must be joking right? Do I tell you I need a job?

But to be honest, why don't you look for a single lady above 30yrs?

I observed certain things about you, but I don't want to hurt your feelings. So, I will keep it to myself.

But on a serious note, you need to build self confidence and courage. I've seen older men getting married to young virgins. Why would a single guy in his 40th desire a single mom?

Are you financially buoyant to take care of a single mom and her child/children? Because that's the first perioty of every single mom. To have a man who can love them and their children. Do you have extra love and care to share?

So, we got arguing about some things today and someone said, family patterns does really exist. Making references to certain family where divorce, late marriage, hot anger, barrenness and other ugly situations occured in cyclic form.
What's your understanding of all these?

Does it really exist?
Like what happened to a great grandfather, happened to a grandfather, then to the son.

Or like some family, the first born usually have a particular attribute from generation to generation.
If truly it does, how can it be change?

Free2Fly:
Story

Even God doesn't love unconditionally. Ones you stop worshiping him, he'll bone you.

Seriously?

MrBrownJay1:
the only true way to know if people are genuine around you is to pretend you are broke and see their true self naturally come out. helping/giving to ungrateful people is a waste of life.
remember: when you are up and a cheerful giver, everyone is your friends, but its when you are down/broke and in need that you will discover who your true friends really are.

And that's the bitter truth

jesmond3945:
Love is unconditional

But to an ungrateful person who feels entitled is a waste of love

JOACHINpedro:
The blame is on you.
You started impressing then with the dough. They got entangled

How someone becomes entangled with another person's act of kindness, is what I don't understand

The only language many people understand is MONEY. true love is going into extinction. Sad reality.
How do you handle loved ones who ignore you, who starts keeping malice with you just because you couldn't meet up with their monetary demand? Knowing that you've always been there for them.

How do you know and select people you keep in your life?

Ever8090:
not me...been doing my thing this way for years

If you say so

fyzaila:
She should have run for her dear life since when she discovered his betting habits. It wouldn't have resulted to this

Exactly. Just that many women are trapped in an abusive marriage like this because of what their religion and society will say about them if they take a walk out.

Martinsmine:
If d guy win 80milion nko.... wetin u go do?

Do you have an understanding of what you just type at all?
So, you don't know that even if he win 100 million, he will use the whole money and play again. Addiction is terrible

Ever8090:
I dey bet but e no dey pass 100,200 or 500 ones in a while.....I dont go to bet shop i bet on my phone and its only when i feel like...highest amounts i have won so far is 75k which i staked 150 naira... have won smaller amount with 100 naira Shaa...

Is better you avoid it completely. Every big addiction, start from small small attempt

fyzaila:
Betting is a huge menace to our society. I just pity the woman.

The effect is much on her. I wish there's a way I could help, but I don't even know what to counsel her.

ibechris:
If u are a gambler,u have no future.

U are only existing.

Sad reality

fyzaila:
Betting is a huge menace to our society. I just pity the woman[b][/b].

Honestly. So traumatizing

madridguy:
Gambling and alcoholic addiction spirit must not enter any man, if not, the wife and children go too suffer.

I really want the FG to do something to it because its now more than pandemic.

It's a big one. Especially now, that people indulge in it on their mobile phones

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Bfly:
Genuinely making millions before 30 is something that is rare in Nigeria.

Making money generally is difficult in Nigeria

Very interesting. Congrats dear

Melagros:
COMRADES are speechless

But why?

SyrusdeHansome:
The question u shud be asking is, why do most women hate other pple`s children thereby causing frictions in the future?

Knowing that the women aren't happy sharing one man, thereby making troubles, why is it so difficult for the children to love each other as siblings? And why do men keep creating more of these problems?

Zonefree:
How's it the fault of an African man to have two wives?

Then, Why so much hatred among step siblings?

I have been trying hard not to write anything here since I saw this post. I had to take my time to go through all your post. but my mind wouldn't let me.
I will say my mind
@Op, to be honest with you, your daughter's behavior is a product of you and your wife treatment towards her. You may decided to dispose her, so she wouldn't affect you and your other children, but just know that you did not really care and pay attention to her.


She's growing into a rebellious child because she can't find love and protection right under her father's house.
How can your wife call her a bastard at age 11, then you lied to her? She discovered the meaning of baster on Goggle. What an intelligent girl. You failed here.
You have always broke her trust in you. She didn't see you fight for her. ( I mean defending her)

When you heard, you could not man up and rebuke your wife to stop using such word in the house in front of her, so she can feel protected by you. Rather, you cover up and left her with her hurt.
You forgot to understand that why trying to be a good husband to your wife, you must as well try to be a good father to your daughter.
You and your wife tag her possesed? Why? That's horrible thing to say? Can she call her own child that name no matter how badly behalf there are?

If I may ask, where is her mother? Maybe it could be better to let her be with her own mother.
It's obvious your wife don't like her and can't forgive her. She abuse her when you're not around and your daughter will no longer tell you, because she knows, you can't defend her.

Why wouldn't she have messages from strange boys when noone love her from her home? She's looking for attention, care and love and she may end up making mistake.

Your wife already sees her as a daughter born out of your Intimac.y with her rival. That's why she's always accusing you even after several years.
Your wife would have been the best person to build her right, but can't forgive her. She's pushing her away.

I feel so sad for your daughter. She is the victim here.

There's a lady cleaner in my office, who recently lost his eldest brother. They live in the same city, where she has no meaningful job, no accomodations, but his big brother is a multi millionaire. Who can fix her up in a jiffy, but according to the story, he wouldn't because they're step siblings and past record from her mom towards his mom, wouldn't let him help any of his step siblings.
My questions are:
Why is there too much hatred among step siblings?
Isn't your father the root cause of your hurt?
Why do you easily forgive your father, but can't do the same to his children?
Why do we inherit enemies from our parents and don't want to let go?
Why do men still choose to have children from different women knowing that their children might not love each other and might even give him much trauma in old age due to bitterness and hatred for each other?
Is it same in other part of the world?
What is your general opinion on a polygamous family?

@op, I pray you find peace and healing. Most African fathers are like your dad. Is pathetic

Beautiful. God bless you for taking care of mama.

Do what makes you happy.
Go build your dreams.
Connect with friends.
Stop sitting down at home and overburdening yourself with someone else's choice of lifestyle.
Once you start concentrating on yourself, doing what makes you happy, you will discovered you were only depriving yourself.
Be fine. You can overcome

Sad reality.
You see those people that always celebrate you because of what you can offer, don't assume they love you.

Normally, a hungry man will always be loyal to the only source, where he/she always get food.

Know your boundaries. Know how you place people.

Stevenbright:
Fame brings money but it takes financial management skills and prudence to create wealth out of it.

By my definition, wealth is using your money opportunities to create a lifelong financial streams of income.

The actors you mentioned, were once rich but lack the ability or willingness to create wealth out of their money for a long-term financial security.

For instance, if what Portable says about his financial investment is true, then he is wealthy and will even get wealthier with time because he is investing his money rightly but there are some musicians who are have more liquid cash than him right now but can't be as wealthy as him in the long term because they spend the most of their money on frivolities.

As at the moment, the digital world have created one way by which fame can make an individual directly rich. That is having a high social media or YouTube followers which can bring money to the person through advertisement revenues. But the individual still have to manage the money to create wealth out of it.

Insightful. Thanks for sharing

1TrippleCee:
This is a sad reality




For me,when dealing with a Nigerian, you're guilty until you have proven innocent. You can't scam me before,I already held you a scammer and I act with that consciousness during our dealings,I'm 100% on guard, watching out for your scam.
If you turn out to be honest,good I win. If you turn to be a scammer,good also , because I was expecting it already.




We must works together. It begins by rebuilding trust and fellowship. The entire youths must begin to rebuil trust and learn to work together

It's a very long journey.

Aaaaarghmed:
its part of the scam

Exactly. He already planned his scam