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@poster, I work in Diamond Bank and nobody was sacked.stop spreading false news.Please write a rejoinder and next time getyour facts right.

This book promises to be a good read, cant wait to get a copy...

krestup: From what i have notice in the working environment is that its not about how well you do what you do but sometimes by the relationship you create. If you are working under a boss that don't see anything good in what you do, it will be difficult for you to be motivated or enjoy what you do because you will always be feeling like you are under pressure. Although its still possible to work under a bad boss and be successful and happy but in that case you will learn not to take into account the wrongs or the pressure he is putting you, instead try and see it from the positive side.

you are really on point.You have to strive to work in sync with your boss

APPLYING THE FIRST LAW OF POWER
As stated earlier, the first law of power have been fully explained by Robert Greene in his book. I will borrow some lines from him and apply them to the corporate world.
1. Do not ever present your ideas (no matter how brilliant) to your boss with an air of superiority or a sense of accomplishment rather go to him seeking his help to fine tune the “sketchy” idea that you have. Intentionally omit some key but obvious points and let him feel you in. Let him believe that you are inspired by him and that you constantly need his guidance and mentorship. Ask for his input and advice even when none is given, this will give him a sense of accomplishment and ownership of the ideation process. Remember a idea no matter how brilliant may never see the light of day without his endorsement.

2. Do not go over his head to present your brilliant idea to your his boss or to top management without his nod of approval. Overtly ambitious employees make this mistake and tend to suffer the consequences later if not all through their career.
From my book-Its okay to have a bad boss

Let me break this news to you. You don't have a job. As far as your unit is concerned, the only person that has a job is your boss. Your job and that of your colleagues is to assist your boss do his job. You are only a piece of the puzzle. Don’t overestimate your importance, you are just a satellite around your boss. He is the sun and you are just one planet out of so many that receive illumination and heat from him.

This is the ideal scenario and also the reality. As stated earlier you may have discovered that you are more technically competent and more qualified than your boss however, you will more than likely end up in a miserable box or even in the labour market if you break the first law of power-Do not Outshine the Master as stated in Robert Greene’s book, The 48 Laws of Power.

A lot of people have broken this simple yet fundamental law of power and have lived to regret it. I have broken this law on several occasions and I can assure you that the consequences are grievous and bitter to say the least. I am still suffering from my earlier mistakes and sometimes wish I could go back in time to undo my mistakes. Let me remind you that your boss is only human and is bound to make mistakes or can be outrightly cruel to you. Your boss may give you a lot of reasons to disrespect or even go over his head, but don't take the bait. Don’t ever try to steal his spotlight, let him be the top dog every time and shine through your efforts.
A lot of bosses suffer from insecurity and they feel more insecure around super- competent and over qualified achievers and will do anything in their powers to undermine their effort. This is the reason a lot of talented people do not make it to the promotion list or are even asked to leave the company. It is your duty to make your boss feel special and important and at ease with you.Excerpts from new book-Its okay to have a bad boss-Understanding the 12 kinds of bosses and how to work with them-By Darlington

MANAGING TALENT
As mentioned earlier too much talent when not properly managed my breed resentment or even envy in your colleagues and this may lead to complications in your carrier as they may gang up against you and begin to feed your boss with lies about you. If your boss is also not properly managed he may also become threatened by your talent and may be begin to work against you. A lot of talented people do not make it to the promotion list for this reason. Their bosses only maximise their talents for his own selfish purpose but keep the talented person outside the limelight.
You may have noticed that you are better than your boss in analysis, research or even presentation, that is natural. You boss was placed above you not because he has better technical skills but probably because he has better managerial skills or has more experience in handling the customers or other bureaucratic processes. A good number of bosses feel insecure with multi-talented people and it is duty of the talented employee to make them feel at ease or they will face the bitter consequences.

The people-skill dysfunction is closely related to the other curse, the curse of envy. The truth is talent do not seem fair as talented people do not have to struggle to do what they are gifted to do. This naturally makes them targets of envy. I must confess it is only too natural to envy talented people, they sometimes make less talented people look lazy or lacking in effort. If you are talented you don't have rob it in on other less talented colleagues or make them look stupid. Sometimes you have to go out of your way to try and help them or even impact some of your skills into them if possible. However, as you volunteer to assist them, always remember that the office is war zone and that you have to also keep your self relevant by been one step ahead, do not let all your skills out of the bag and please learn new ones.
TWO TYPES OF ENVY
Speaking of envy, there are two main kinds -Benign Envy and Malicious Envy. According to researchers at Tilburg University Netherlands, benign envy (where you don't have to kill the other person) is actually a more positive motivator than love or money while malicious envy is destructive and can even lead to murder. Irrespective of the kind of envy that you are faced with it is your duty to make your colleagues feel important and to make your boss shine, in that way you will be respected and appreciated. If you feel socially handicapped by reason of your talent work tirelessly on it, learn to throw a small party for your colleagues, learn to hang out after work hours and bring people into your creative world. Doing this and much more will gradually endear you to them and you will eventually be allowed into their trust circle.-Excerpts from my new book-Its Okay to have a bad boss-Understanding the 12 kinds of bosses and how to work with them by Darlington Onyeagori

THE INNER CAUCUS
In almost every corporate setting, there is an inner caucus, an inner clique and the members of that clique need to determine in very clear terms that you are worthy of joining their clique. This inner clique becomes more important, if your boss is a member. I once walked into a clandestine meeting in the office on a Saturday. Immediately I stepped in, my boss became agitated, because I wasn’t expected to show up on a Saturday.
It was really funny because they couldn’t have any meaningful discussion until I left the office later in the evening. At a point my boss came over and enquired when I was leaving and I also discovered that my colleagues who came to the office that day did not come to work but where just sitting idly at their desk waiting for me to leave. Apparently I wasn’t trusted and I do no belong to the clique. A few days later there was a change in the manning structure of my unit and I suspect that this was discussed in that inner caucus meeting. Having cliques in every organization is almost inevitable, they are usually breeding grounds for incompetence and ineptitude as incompetent employees simply do their best to join the clique while their poor performance on the job is overlooked.
Excerpts from my new book-[b][/b]Its Okay to have a bad boss-Understanding the 12 kinds of bosses and how to deal with them

THE INNER CAUCUS
In almost every corporate setting, there is an inner caucus, an inner clique and the members of that clique need to determine in very clear terms that you are worthy of joining their clique. This inner clique becomes more important, if your boss is a member. I once walked into a clandestine meeting in the office on a Saturday. Immediately I stepped in, my boss became agitated, because I wasn’t expected to show up on a Saturday.
It was really funny because they couldn’t have any meaningful discussion until I left the office later in the evening. At a point my boss came over and enquired when I was leaving and I also discovered that my colleagues who came to the office that day did not come to work but where just sitting idly at their desk waiting for me to leave. Apparently I wasn’t trusted and I do no belong to the clique. A few days later there was a change in the manning structure of my unit and I suspect that this was discussed in that inner caucus meeting. Having cliques in every organization is almost inevitable, they are usually breeding grounds for incompetence and ineptitude as incompetent employees simply do their best to join the clique while their poor performance on the job is overlooked.
Excerpts from my new book-[b][/b]Its Okay to have a bad boss-Understanding the 12 kinds of bosses and how to deal with them

[b][/b]THE INNER CAUCUS
In almost every corporate setting, there is an inner caucus, an inner clique and the members of that clique need to determine in very clear terms that you are worthy of joining their clique. This inner clique becomes more important, if your boss is a member. I once walked into a clandestine meeting in the office on a Saturday. Immediately I stepped in, my boss became agitated, because I wasn’t expected to show up on a Saturday.
It was really funny because they couldn’t have any meaningful discussion until I left the office later in the evening. At a point my boss came over and enquired when I was leaving and I also discovered that my colleagues who came to the office that day did not come to work but where just sitting idly at their desk waiting for me to leave. Apparently I wasn’t trusted and I do no belong to the clique. A few days later there was a change in the manning structure of my unit and I suspect that this was discussed in that inner caucus meeting. Having cliques in every organization is almost inevitable, they are usually breeding grounds for incompetence and ineptitude as incompetent employees simply do their best to join the clique while their poor performance on the job is overlooked.
Excerpts from my new book-[b][/b]Its Okay to have a bad boss-Understanding the 12 kinds of bosses and how to deal with them

I know you sometimes wish for a situation where all is rosy in the work-front. A situation where all your colleagues like and appreciate you and your efforts, ignore your shortcomings, mistakes, failures and foibles. A situation where your boss is your best pal who pats you at the back all the time in spite of your recent ground- breaking mistakes, the recent deal you lost, the numerous errors on the last presentation your team made to the board of directors and the numerous effort-filled but result-barren projects you have handled and the list goes on....

However, you must know that the work-front is a war zone full of colleagues who see you as a threat to their very existence in the firm but pretend to empathise with you when you go through a heart-rendering shredding session with your boss while secretly happy that you are gradually exhausting the positive emotional deposits you had with your boss. At work you will also encounter different type of bosses. Some are aggressive, abusive, insecure and will scare the living hell at of you.
The reality is that we have to grapple with these challenges on a daily basis and also face the reality that we may not have any real friends amongst our colleagues and that our boss is never our friend but simply our boss.

I know you sometimes wish for a situation where all is rosy in the work-front. A situation where all your colleagues like and appreciate you and your efforts, ignore your shortcomings, mistakes, failures and foibles. A situation where your boss is your best pal who pats you at the back all the time in spite of your recent ground- breaking mistakes, the recent deal you lost, the numerous errors on the last presentation your team made to the board of directors and the numerous effort-filled but result-barren projects you have handled and the list goes on....

However, you must know that the work-front is a war zone full of colleagues who see you as a threat to their very existence in the firm but pretend to empathise with you when you go through a heart-rendering shredding session with your boss while secretly happy that you are gradually exhausting the positive emotional deposits you had with your boss. At work you will also encounter different type of bosses. Some are aggressive, abusive, insecure and will scare the living hell at of you.
The reality is that we have to grapple with these challenges on a daily basis and also face the reality that we may not have any real friends amongst our colleagues and that our boss is never our friend but simply our boss.Excerpts from my book-Its Okay to have a bad Boss

sheedy407: I wonda y people wuld just come to Nairaland to lie,i was at the concept live and direct,after Mavin performed,they went backstage,immediatly,Don jazzy left his seat,he neva returnd,after mavin,May D performed,followed by little comedy den K-switch performed along side Dbanj,den K-switch left and dbanj performed alone starting with Oliver Twist.Don jazzy neva returnd,so tell mi how Dbanj shuned Don jazzy cos i was not told,i saw evrtin.

guy u dey lie.May D did not perform and D Banj did not perform oliver twist but said that song and others were reserved for the koko concert,I bet u didn't attend the show and more so KSwitch did not leave the stage when DBanj came on stage.I must confess what DBanj going for him is international support and past glory.His recent songs -Oyato and Bachelor are not hit songs and do not enjoy much publicity and massive air plays like his previous songs.No lie abeg

Obinoscopy: Nice! However they should also consider non-indigenes who have lived in the state for 10yrs and above. Such people have contributed their own fair share towards the existence and development of the state. They pay their taxes, they are part of the society. It would be unfair to exclude them

You must be kidding, nice sermon, ride on.

iOmoge: Diamond Bank do not charge d N100....since september.

Diamond Bank one of the best banks always customer centric.

[quote author=slimyem]Star trek..
Avengers...
Hunger games..
Perfect Stranger..
All Lord of the rings..
Drive
Taken
Salt
Avatar[/quoteAll these are blockbusters jor!

brownbriggs: To all the Nigerian VCs, this policy will not stand becos is my turn now, thats why they re coming up with this ideal. Maybe after awarding to me.

you still have 3 months.the new policy takes effect in January 2013 lol.

Ile-Ife:
[size=15pt]Stop the ignorance. the only time you have a fully packed building is when these few guys are talking, Obama, ban-ki- moon, aunty Merkel, Hu Jintao, putin and any other world leader who's country is of immediate interest to world powers. e.g Mursi, Ahmadinejad

Nigeria is currently not of interest, as it has failed to implode or progress, so there comes the empty seats.[/size]

Best comment of the decade.Guy u too much

dayokanu: Retardeen Punked once again


This man is now notorious to be a worldwide moro0n.

WHo would take a man wearing black mourning sack clothes and a cowboy hat to address people. They should line him up with Chris Rock, Klint da drunk, I go dye, Baba Suwe and other comedians

Reminds me of this below

[img]https://www.nairaland.com/attachments/745012_00a-1_jpg9db310ec111881d42476fd50e933024d[/img]

is this Jonathan waiting for the oba?

idris4r83: Interesting story, but must this dis b on d first page

why did u click on the thread?Nonesense

Area_boy: why these sort of news keep making front page beats me completely

why did u click on the thread "Area Boy"

Revolva: @poster gbam you said it

Even davido sef should be included and sina rambo and bred should not think they are super stars in naija they should stop prankin around ..nobody send dem - dem papa money na for dem pocket -
I will mention myne -
1- hakeem the dream - I don' know wat dream dis fella have to offer the youth with song like lamba -(money) but the video is wack n full of wanna be models gurls -no money sprayed in the vid.
2-omo akin- nice jam but na jessie jag and other people make dat song blow -guy should go learn music weller
3-danny young - this dude just sing out of nothing local ideas - I dey tire for him song
4-oga naeto C - dis dude keep braggin only rapper wit msc - oya take am go start work for naija or yankee na.. Haha I beg o naeto c na bros oo

Guy Naeto C is the real deal.Don't add him to the list joor.why not Dbanj?

Flameboy26: After koko master don scatter ur reddish pussy finish. Otu-usu

how u know say that place is red?Abi u don enter there?

aguiyi: they should ban them copy right rogues. they produce crap and sell at huge price as if its originality is second to non.

with their die die battery.

All you i-products haters, just try to use any for at least 2 days and you will confess:


no carrying of charger about like a bb user :Dcos you can get upto 5hours
picture quality is superb
casing is rugged

what is even the difference between our very own sanusi lamido sanusi and samsung

Thank God u said "very own"

Chivivian125: A practising catholic from Christ the king catholic church

Dominion City Lekki Lagos

ijebabe: After Rick Ross performance on Friday 17th August at Eko Hotel, Victoria Island, Nigerian music stars also performed and didn’t disappoint, Flavour thrilled all with his singles “Nwa Baby”, “Adama” and his part in the track “Bottom Belle”, Trybe Records’ Eva got everyone excited with her track “High” while University of Lagos Philosophy Graduate Vector Tha Viper performed some of his famous tracks including “Angeli” and “We Made O”.

Other artistes who also gave stellar performances include Terry G, Dammy Krane, Flowssick and South Africa’s Liquideep. Apart from the performances, Annie Macaulay-Idibia also got everyone talking, the Nollywood star who was rumored to be pregnant proved she wasn’t after all, she showed up at the Summer Jam Fest show in figure hugging jeans and a black top. Her Mr, 2 Face Idibia was the center of attraction as he walked into the venue, hounded by screaming fans, 2 Baba was escorted into the venue by security guards.

Also in attendance at the show were some of the biggest names in the Nigerian entertainment industry including D’Prince, Lynxxx, Yvonne Vixen Ekwere, Sound Sultan, Karen Igho, Zaina, Iyanya, KCee, Toolz, DJ Caise, Dr Sid, Efe Tommy, Susan Peters, Elohor Aisien and Dayo Ephraim, who came to support and witness Rick Ross Live. The event was organised by St.Eve Magazine and Trace Urban.

No Psquare?

Remii: hotel vantage is almost gone all its sea side seatout washed off and hotel closed . goshen estate in under threat too.

Then this definitely serious.A few weeks ago it was alpha beach, now this, hope the guys building the Eko atlantic will consider this in their calculations?

Pukkah: There is a Minister of Information (Labaran Maku) with his retinue of aides and assistants.

There is a Special Adviser on Media and Publicity (Reuben Abati) ostensibly with his retinue of aides.

A Senior Special Assistant to the President on Public Affairs (Doyin Okupe) has just been appointed.

Behold, there is a Media Director to the Senior Special Assistant to the President on Public Affairs - Olusanya Awosan.

Yet we complain that the recurrent expenditure of our budget is over 70%!

The cost of running the government, at the expense of capital expenditure, is too high.

Someone should please tell me, what economic value is Okupe and his aides adding to this government or the people?

hi pukkah, u are so on point, this government is so wasteful.I told people last year that voting for Jonathan is voting for BAU and much worse

bunmioguns: story story

they should come to my area and make this statement.No light