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Savageman:
Hi everyone, after wasting 5 years of my life in benin doing Yahoo yahoo, gambling and wasting all the money i made on clubing, women, drugs and police case.. I came back to my parents house in Abuja to start a new legit life.

I'm 24 years old, a phone technician. When i came back to my parents house, i use the little money with me to open a phone repair shop in my area and some making little money. After couple of months working i meet this beautiful girl, who came to my shop to repair her phone. We got talking, exchange movies and contact and we became very close. She always come to my shop almost everyday and anytime she comes she will ask me of money (sometimes 1k or 2k) for something.. We would talk and watch movies together(she loves movies)..

Story short after about a month, i invited over to my house(parents house, but my room is not joined with the house) we were together and watching movies, well we had s*x. That's how it started.

Well the thing is she always bill me 2k, 1k, 5k. And am trying to arrange my life with the little money I'm making from my phone repair business. I'm saving up to buy a laptop to learn programming. and this girl always bill me anytime she comes to my shop. and anytime she come over to my place we always have s*x.. I want to stop all this, we are not in any relationship, she told me she doesn't have a boyfriend. I'm tired and i want to save up for my future. Im just confuse, How can i tell this girl i don't want this kinda friendship/relationship?

Please help me move to fp
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That SUV is gone... I am happy the passengers got saved

Nigeria happened to him... If only they fixed up healthcare sector in the country, there would have being no need for this international embarrassment.

Ekejoestar:
I saw myself as an angel in my dream, but from my understanding in the dream I couldn't fly as high as I used to do before and the reason is because it's been a long time I used my wings last and I was afraid of heights subconsciously. I could only fly low above low bungalows.

Someone like God told me the solution to the issue, I don't want to say it here.

Pls who can help me with the interpretation.

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Since you were told the solution that you are willing to share... Go ahead with the solution.

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Rankadede Sir! Hold your bottom line

She has spoken well...

If this happened in Nigeria, it would have become a day of massacre and bloodshed...

"If we succeed , good for Nigeria! If not, God knows we tried." This part says it all!!!

Wyrax:
How do I overcome this extreme shyness and lack of confidence.

It has affected me in a whole lots of potential relationships, jobs and even as a Christian.

I have no friends at the age of 27 years, I didn't get to talk to a lady till I was 24,(it didn't last up to 2months)

I have lost a very good job because of this.
I am most times always on my own
Etc.

Start working out ... I use to be like you.

The world is not yet ready for full diversification from oil neither are will ready to go fully green... So, Russian oil will still hold sway for a longer time to come

No matter what you do... Do not try to kickstart your car just yet

TyroneP:
From the picture you could see how poor the assessment of crime scene is in Nigeria where a violent crime was committed.

The police line passing through the vehicles as against barricading people from getting close or touching the evidence.

People were going in and out of the crime scene when initial investigation is yet to commence ranging from political office holders and security agencies thereby contaminating the crime scene.

The yellow tape is just for formality here in Naija

She should forget about getting a job at Arise TV after she has been OBIDIENT and YUSFUL

She is super fertile... I am happy for her that she has a happy ending

Ba go slow trekking slowly to his house in his hometown

First class mumu...

She should just have called the customer and handed over the meat .. i am happy for her all the same

Nice write-up... It takes a strong will not to cheat nowadays cos, temptation is everywhere you go like MTN.

It had better be a fake news... Cos we do not trust Baba Ned.

jazzme1:
Yusuf Datti Baba-Ahmed PhD is a Nigerian economist and politician. He was a Senator and founder of BAZE University Abuja and Baba Ahmed University Kano state (Awaiting License). He is the founder and Pro-chancellor of Baze University Abuja where the Baze University Hospital which is said to be the biggest private hospital in Africa is domiciled.

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You are doing well...

The table is shaking right now

Sanusi would have being the best bet... But we move on with Datti as well

War is everly more expensive than peace... But the world has history of nations constantly choosing the former

Georgekyrian:
Many people causing me here don’t know the kind of person I am, I’m not a simp.. I’m just doing my thing, if you meet me, you should be scared of me.. believe me 100%. I am everything you can think of and have foot soldiers too, I’m not a simp
I just need advise them I will decide what is best for me. I might not marry soon or I could, na me know Wetin dey my head

I understand how you feel about the whole thing... Forget being a Simp or a Redpiller here. This is matters of the heart.

You have to brace up for what you want... You and your girlfriend should take the bull by the horns by speaking to her parents together.

Since you are kinda close to them already, both of you should sit them down and tell them your minds. They should give you both some breathing space for a while to grow and be more stable.

Love is not all that marriage entails... It is a lifelong commitment

Slightly seeking assylum to japa

OPweysabi:
Let me start by stating that genuine advice and constructive criticism are what I desire and that exactly led me into this form of expression in this public domain.
I clocked 41 years old earlier this year and I got married 11 years ago. The marriage with my wife has not been able to yield any fruit of the womb but that is not even the problem here. At least I observed a lot of people have had great testimonies from the IVF procedure recently as many of the recent threads on here made us believe.
At the beginning, it was not much of a big deal as we thought it was perhaps not a right time for us to conceive but we kept pushing. The disturbing issue, however at that time was that my wife had a very low sex drive from the beginning and that was the way I met her. We later started going for several tests and the results revealed that it wasn't my fault at all but of course, there were some medical issues she had to sort, so we did all that. By 2014, I noticed she started drawing back in bed and that raised a lot of concerns. So I spoke with one of her brothers who is about my age mate, but I noticed no changes like her brother did not raise the issue with her at all. By 2017, I went to Abeokuta to see her mum and told her about her daughter's new fashion of running away from intimacy between me and her. She promised to talk to her. Then I got tired of going for various medical tests as I wondered why we had to spend money and time on tests which won't be backed up by the proper thing eventually. Since then, I think we only made love once and that should be in 2018 or so. Since 2018, there's not been a single hug not to talk of kiss as we lost it completely!

So I met a much younger girl and we started dating. Initially, it was just for the fun of it and to relieve myself of the domestic stress. Later, we got so much into each other and she got pregnant for me! We both agreed to abort it as we knew the danger inherent in keeping it. But then, my wife continued to force me with the periodic medical tests (without the slightest form of intimacy) while the other lady continued to abort pregnancies she had for me. Only last year, the girl aborted 3 pregnancies for me and I felt so bad using her as lab rat. Now I'm 41, when most of my mates don't have infants as children but I'm still contending with a wife who has decided never again to go to bed with me. Confusingly, the other girl is pregnant for me and I'm strongly determined not to abort it this time. In fact, it's already 5 months old!
Now my problems are

*I'm legally married and I have no single problem with my wife asides the issues raised above.

*I think it's criminal because I had a court wedding and I might be prosecuted if she gets to know about this, more so that we are not divorced.

*The pregnant lady's mum has met me before and she doesn't want me because she knows I'm married, so we didn't tell her parents but all her siblings are fully aware and in full support, maybe because they know I've perfected plans to move her abroad to have the baby and let the baby have overseas citizenship. Currently, I've gotten her a well furnished flat since 2 years ago also got her a job paying her 200k monthly.

*My wife's family respect me so much and I think they'll all be disappointed if they get to know.

*I did not tell anybody at all. Not a single family member or friend of mine knows about it because I don't want to be discouraged or lose focus, then nobody can tell me how to create my own happiness.

*I have never had a single issue with the new lady before as she is even about 13 years younger than I am and she respects me a lot. I believe she can't drag issues with me in the future and even if she does, my child remains my child.

*I have never been a fan of polygamy as I understand its intricacies. I know my wife will most likely walk away if she gets to know about this and it will be her strangest imagination!

*I know I can't eat my cake and have it. So what am I to do?

Mods please help shift this to FP as it's an issue really bothering me and I want the participation of many people with diverse opinions.

Please, keep the baby... I wonder how guys allowed 3 pregnancies and got them all aborted!!! Kilode!!!

Biko, keep this baby and seek means to sort out the infidelity mess you are in... An innocent child should not be aborted for that pls.

sharon12345:
Pls advise.
I'm 6months pregnant. The way I work hard before doing my small business has declined. I have successfully saved 500k.

My husband is not helping fianancially at all. He claimed he's into Forex trading and online business. All his money goes there.
He promised we will change appartintment from the free one we're presently in, but as soon as I agreed and got pregnant, he relaxed and refused to make any effort toward that.
I will soon deliver and he has no savings. He has not been contributing to any of my hospital expenses, home upkeep either. All his money goes into paying loan app and funding his online business.

I'm so disappointed in him.

He keeps petting me with words. He's cunning and manipulative.
I feel like getting an apartment and move there alone without him.

I want a better accommodation before I put to birth. Our present place is terrible, it needs renovation. Almost everywhere is leaking during rain.

I'm thinking of getting a one bedroom apartment of 350k from my money. I know more expenses await me and all that, but I really need to stand up for myself and my forth coming baby.

What do you suggest I do?
In this marriage, I've seen I'm going to be all by myself fianancially.
How should i manage this season in my life to scale through? Pls advise

Let's start here: How long have you been married?
If your marriage is still young, talk him into you guys getting an apartment from your savings together... For him to still be petting you, he has some goodness in him. He is not just doing things the right way.

I hope is so called online business is not sport betting... If he is genuinely into a good online biz, he should be out of his mess soon

Putin is a man eith many flaws... But the West are no saints either.

The world politics is filled with hypocritical leaders everywhere you go like MTN.