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Ladies are gonna come on this thread and look at the eye candy sitting beside the girl on Dark shades.


On another note though. I don't think there is anything special about the girl. Just a Lady on a Tux..

Abrupt:


I'll have to disagree to agree with you. Depending on what you mean by 'Disagreement.' Relationships can be disagreement free, there are tons of relationship like that out there.




This is most likely based on inexperience from your part. Disagreement does not make relationship stronger, this is some kind of controversial myth. Let me put it this way, how often do you and your BFF disagree? And what does disagreement do to the friendship bond? Relationship may require more emotion than friendship does, but the disagreement effect remains the same. So, disagreement is by no means healthy for relationship.


You're wrong. Scientifically, disagreement is based on the level of understanding. So it's the other way around, the less you fight the more healthier the relationship is. Understand?

Na so People will just come and type anything.

You have parents right?
If they are still together and they have a happy marriage, will you say they have never disagreed before?

Disagreement means Lack of agreement, difference of opinion. Synonyms include Difference, dissimilarity, dispute.

Disagreement is present in everyday life, even your siblings that you grew up with, you still do not see eye to eye on all things.
A relationship is formed between two people who grew up in different environments and have different views on things. See the word different being repeated, There is a difference between the two and therefore they cannot agree all the time. They can have different opinions on a subject, or how to handle a particular thing or have different stands on a particular sensitive issue like how many children to have and these can lead to disagreement.

A relationship cannot be disagreement free

Infact no disgreement would have to imply perfection of the two people and not just perfection, perfect compatibility and perfect direct neural synchronization which is not possible.

The message which the OP is trying to pass across can best be summarised by this excerpt from Marc and angel blog's
"Differences of opinion don’t destroy relationships – it’s how a couple deals with their inevitable differences that counts."

http://www.marcandangel.com/2015/09/09/7-ways-happy-couples-deal-with-disagreements-differently/

Anfieldboss:


The first time I called her, she asked how did you get my phone number question and all that, but I found away to get pass through that. Now we have a very good rapport in fact we talk for as long as 30-45 minutes on the phone when I call her. She laughs at my jokes and she is quite lively and funny too. I plan going to visit in her school which is about 25 minutes from the town I work.


cc HARDDON, peterpen, DaySpringer

So you're worried about your height?

Short guy? No be short guys dey collect all the tall babes that year? Now we know why.
What most guys lack in height, they make up for in confidence. Confidence is more valuable than height.

Bro, Most of your work is already done, You've established good rapport, you make her laugh a lot and i'm quite sure that you know that she already likes you.
Whatever you look like doesn't matter anymore. Don't be worried about that.
I say, don't be worried about that.
I'm sure those tall girls you rolled with weren't concerned with your height day in and day out right? Ofcourse not.
As long as you're reasonably cute then it's cool.

Don't focus on yourself, focus on her , tease her, Qualify her, You have standards, make sure she meets up to your standards not you worrying about your height.
The bottomline quite frankly is that height plays a relatively little role in the affairs of things compared to other things like:
Humour, wit/intelligence, Money, confidence e.t.c.

Word of Life! OP

Wonderful..

The only thing that makes the story boring is the time it takes for the updates.

What I do is to come back in a weeks time..

peerless0012:


She told me she doesn't eat outside,and had come with cooked soup and some food ingredients, and that I should just take her to my place.. I was amazed 'cos i did not prepare for that. we got to the Cafeteria, she refused to order for anything and insisted I take her home. I became confused; so i had to tell the truth.. that my place is not cool for her and wonder if she would really wanna pass night there. She did not bulge.. she just said if there is pot for her to put her soup and cooking stove, she does not care.. I had to call my guy at home to inform him of the happening, so he could make the room as tidy as possible.
When we got home, she acted so free that anyone would think we had known each other for years. This and her natural, high spirited nature dazzled me and endear her to me the more.

So a Young lady that is Beautiful cane to your place, not minding the conditions of the place, she brought even showed thoughtfulness concerning your finance and good upbringing by bringing food stuffs to cook at your place.

peerless0012:


She prepared the food and ate. We left for school and returned home at night after we had finished working on the proposal. I prepare the food we ate this time around, and after she had taken her bath, she retired to bed. meanwhile she requested i take my bath and join her..

To be candid, this babe is pretty and seeing her on bed in that short and skimpy top was so tempting..I tried to keep my cool and lay beside her like a gentle man. I did not make any move to touch her, even though my hands were moving involuntarily towards her direction i had to fold them together. I coud not sleep untill after some hours.. when I woke up, I manage to place my hands on her boobs and she rolled to the other side of the bed. In summ,ary, I romanced her before dawn.We chatted about so many things: past relationship, temperament, family etc. she even made it known to me she is single.. She left that morning

What is wrong with you? Are you suffering from Erectile Dysfunction? A girl agreed to spend a night at your place, cooked for you and Even asked you to Join her in the bath!, You two should have done like two rounds before she left. She cooked for you and you didn't even reward her with good sex.

peerless0012:

The issue here is:
Since she left on Saturday she did not call as promised. i called her same day to know if she got to her destination safely.
About 3 days ago, I tried to call a number, which i had thought belong to one of my guy.. Unkonwn to me the number belong to her! ( I stored her number somewhere else 'cos my phone was bad) she picked the call and while i was asking who was on the line, she became furious and started accusing me of getting another girl friends and did not store her number.. before i could even explain she had hung up.. Dialed her number repeatedly, she kept hanging up, until she blocked my number.. I was amazed... I wonder how could such a lively girl got so angry cause of this, even when i have not asked her out..
I had to ask my guy to call her and explain what happen to her. he did and we settle the matter...

since then i have called her more than two times, it is either she said she was sleeping or have a busy schedule.. even on facebook she reads my messages without reply..

Even though I really like her,I have decided to stop calling her, forget her and move on..

Oga HARDDON, what is your thought on this.. where did I go wrong? Is there still hope to get this babe back?

In my Previous post is where you went wrong.

HARDDON:

Affter getting a number, the next is to get to meet.

TRy to set up a Date @ a neutral place. Cos ryt now, she got alotA Questions in her mind. Help ansa them without using words but actions

" hEy, there is this palmwine joint i just discovered! Heard they served it fresh n chilled with some bush meats togo wit ! I just bought two of their ticket.
STill wondering if i shld invite u..after i practiclly begd for a cheap shade from u"

Hmmm I thought you said in an Earlier drill boss that you first Break the defenses of a Girl over the phone (Calls or chat) before you set up a meeting with the girl?

OP I advise you space out the conversations and bold all the dates.

And start *In my Mind* Statements on a new line.

This will make it less cumbersome to read to the eyes and encourage more Readers.

Cheers.

Is she your Ex now?

Sounds like you two were in a childish relationship. If you had not used the word "Fiancee" I would have assumed that you two were teenagers.
Such Immaturity

NaijaTechGuy

How does partnership with these companies work?

I Have just one question for the OP.

If you knew that your Fiancee was going to a town for an Important meeting. On the First which was a sunday and you let her knowing her ex was in that town. Why did you sleep with her when she came back without asking the necessary Questions?

P.S I Hope she is now Your EX

Essentials1:


I will start my class in writing styles and structure soon.. and its free...

From your response I can deduce that you don't know a lot about writing.. since you can differentiate simplistic writing from creative composure.. so there is no profit trying to draw a worthy perception from you.. since you read articles with a mediocre POV.

Also I am offering her curvyibogirl a way to improving her writing skills and get noticed like E.L James

Yawn

No i don't know a lot about Writing.

I don't believe that one needs to know the difference between simplistic Writing and creative composure before one can put pen to paper and write a story that people will be interested in reading.

Everyone starts from somewhere, I don't believe that Good writers start writing bu going to study writing in order to know the difference between bla bla bla and bla bla bla...

I am going to be Frank with you,
Right now you offer no value to this thread or to the Forum at large.
You have no position of authority to start your criticisms from.
All you have is claims to knowledge that you have neither defined nor put to good use. Yet you are offering the OP what now?

You're like an empty barrel that makes the loudest Noise.

"So there is no profit trying to draw a worthy perception from you"
Has got to be the stupid-est Statement you made in your post.

You claim to know a lot about writing but i guess your Common sense does not even Equate even a fraction of the knowledge of writing you claim to have.

Your posts are Disgusting... *Spits*

I believe DeeMain has also given you an appropriate reply

Essentials1:
i saw that DaySpringer complimented the Op writing skills although I wouldn't consider this story a good write up curvyibogirl...

I consider this story you are sharing as simply a life experience and not a short novel.. I consider it as something that was written the way it happened subtracting the laws of writing...

I wouldn't consider you having good writing skills because just anyone can do what you did if they can tell a story about romance and/or which what most Nigerians want to read...

But am in no way condemning you... am telling you that If want to consider writing ad a hobby, as an art ( that is as an expression of yourself) or on a professional level.. you should read further on this and produce a writing style which this story lacks and also implement the laws of writing...

There is a lot I want to type here but I will live you to ponder on this for now

When I saw your post the First thing that came to my mind was that you were a Newbie.
Looking at your Profile information confirms that..
Registered in October and has only spent a Day online.


Obviously You have not been around Nairaland enough and read the different stories that are posted here. Which most of them by the way are Accounts of personal experiences.
However I have,
Everyone has a different writing style, if you say that this story lacks a writing style then are you implying that anyone who picks up a pen to write would write like this. Go around Nairaland and then see other stories that are less well written but get Equal if not much more praise than this. How many female nairalanders can come and say they give an account of an experience and do it in the way that the OP has done.
I don't know if you were expecting her to use Victorian English

You consider this story aas sharing a life experience? I don't know where you saw that curvyibogirl said she was doing anything different or where she indicated that she was going to write a short novel. Or where it was said that Short Novels cannot be based on personal experiences or whether accounts personal experiences should not be considered as an example of Good writing prowess..

I see that you're being Unneccesarily Overly Critical..
Baselessly so if i might add..

Have you written any stories? Personal Accounts or Otherwise?
Let us have an example of your "Writing Style".

Or perhaps you can open a thread to educate the rest of us about writing style and what to you would constitute a good writeup, while dissecting the original Post.
Maybe give us an example of a story here on Nairaland where the poster has a Good writing style for someone who did not set out to write a Novel.

Are the Prices in the Thread title still valid?

Hardwork Estimation Level for someone who has not ventured into this field before OP?

I must compliment the writing of the OP, The composure, the diction and the way it engages and flows smoothly
curvyyibogirl
You're a good writer

I wonder, What are your influences?

princejenks:
send her a lengthy message detailing your feelings and how she's been treating you. Tell her you've tried your best and no longer ready to force things. wish her the very best,don't expect her reply or call and don't ever call her no matter the temptation to do so. if she calls or text after some weeks,give her the silent treatment till she apologizes. if she doesn't,just move on cos she isn't yours;remember if it's yours,it will surely come back to you. i'm typing this from a personal experience,she called four months later begging to be friends again

Did you Agree?

Did you guys get back together?

High Level of Difficulty

Moving Targets in a Group

Wonderful Simply Wonderful!!

caukerzee:
lol.

And from this Reply and subsequent replies that you have given, I can say you've not had too much experience with relationships.. Have you?

Op, First things first. This girl is not more than 19 years Old. Am I right?

I wonder which of them these "Freestyle" is a message to.

Falz, I hope say you still dey receive Friendzone Allawee?

somehowpenis:
When God gives you a sign...

When God gives you a sign my brother..

smh

queenDD:


Great advice. Are you a relationship expert? You killed it.

There is no such thing as relationship expert. I am simply someone who has insights into many different situations that arise in relationships and I try to use that to help others in these situations who might be feeling confused with a solution whenever I can!

chiefoluigwe:


See analysis. Bros you get time o

I have to try to help my fellow man get sense of Direction

Kenshinmunac:


Thanks bad bullet but all these ladies matter don tire me. I no wan send again, I wan just live my life peacefully and make myself happy. Make them all go die. I spent 18 years old my life in school learning to become someone in society. I don't think right now at this stage I want to read books or learn anything concerning women anymore.

They can all go to purgatory or go suck a cock, I don't care anymore. Gee.

Shut up and Read this:

https://www.nairaland.com/3526396/what-girl-did-me-just/5#52075174

I have seen your post and your problem is complex and most of it is internal... Yet you are trying to find a solution externally.

Seems you weren't shown a lot of love early in life and till now you still seek that person that will come and make you their center of attention and make you feel that love that you think you are lacking..
Even if you get a girlfriend, she has to always show you a lot of attention if not you will doubt her love. This also means that you will be very clingy. You know the irony of all this? The same need for attention and clinginess you will display will make ruin that relationship.

This neediness also shows in your behaviours sub-consciously and girls pick up on it which accounts for the reason for most of your rejection.

Did i forget to add Low Self-Esteem?

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

Here you're not even talking like a man who knows his worth as a man, so the rejection you receive from girls means that you won't get married? That means you will fall for the first girl that seems to really want to marry you because she is the first girl that didn't reject you or rather one of the very rare ones who didn't.

OP
There are many principles and coded knowledge that apply and are true in this our world of dating and in the world of relationships at large.

Kenshinmunac:

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

Like i mentioned early you found a girl that seemed like she was the one for you and instantly you fell for her.. and then asked her out, you weren't sure she was fully attracted to you, you let your neediness shine through and you wanted to possess her instead of being patient and waiting till she was totally hooked to you.

Kenshinmunac:

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies.

Again your neediness and need for attention shininig through, almost every guy has gone through this with a girl before and the mark of maturity is when the guy is able to take things coolly, acknowledging that almost every girl does this; infact the mark of a well collected player is being able to spin it and make the girl feel like she missed out on something exciting, list all the things she missed and make her want to make it up to you next time she sees you. Other guys would use this opportunity to make the girl more into them but you're here whining like a baby.
Look at your victim mentality, "Being treated by ladies"

Kenshinmunac:

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

The girl called you and apologised to you and you're still here, whining, Some girls don't even bother. She deemed you important enough to apologize to you and yet your low self esteem didn't let you see that. You still had the victim and crybaby mentality. No girl's actions is supposed to determine, your worth, the fact that the girl did not do the necessary things in order to make sure she could see you, means she is uncoordinated, the problem is with her not you.

Kenshinmunac:
Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

And Right here is the greatest expression of Low self esteem. Bro, those things might attract a girl but those things won't keep a girl, Infact those things are not the most important things to have when it comes to getting girls, I am sure you have heard of Ugly guys getting and banging the hottest babes, that's your proof there.

There are guys with what you have that don't need to talk much to get a girl.

Kenshinmunac:

*sigh*



I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

Do you know that all relationships have their own problems?

Do you know that not all relationships that look happy on the outside actually are?

Do you know that almost all relationships eventually end?

If you cannot be happy with yourself when you're single, how can you be happy with a girl in a relationship? you will burden her with all your emotional needs (leading to you becoming insecure and clingy) and no human is meant to carry the emotional burdens of another, eventually they will break or leave and guess what? You'll be right back where you started.


So Bro what is the solution for you?
1. You need to learn to Love yourself.

2. Do research on Low Self-esteem and all it's manifestations and work on getting rid of it.
Self-Esteem does not come from what is on the outside or what you have but what is on the inside and that's why it is called "SELF-esteem"

3. Find things to do that make you happy, have hobbies. Learn to be able to enjoy yourself by yourself or with your guys and that will naturally draw girls to you.

4. Learn something, boosting your skills boosts your confidence and if you already have an amazing range of skills write them down and be proud of them and work to improve them.

Now get yourself out of that Self Pity shit, Girls are too flaky and unreliable for you to base your happiness on having them!

Cheers mate.

GrandHype:

Thank you sir. I am not selling copy and paste sir.

Then let's see whether you will sell Shi shi on this thread.

Sir

GrandHype:
Everyone can't be like you. I don't copy and paste. Nigerians always like this, trying to rundown themselves.

Bia keep quiet there. You copied and pasted what you have put on this thread. You have a book to sell that nobody knows what it looks like and nobody knows whether it has just chaff inside fleshed out to make 125 pages.

5 pages out of 125 that you claim will not reveal all the secrets in your book, however it must be something that can convince us that your book has information that is unique not what we can get from wikipedia or websites online like you have been posting on this thread.

This is not me as a Nigerian trying to run you down, that accusation is in fact, you as a Nigerian trying to think that any constructive criticism given to you is someone else trying to run you down. This is me given you top notch advice about assuring the members of this forum and prospective buyers about the quality of your book.

Your ebook is 125 pages, post 5 pages of information(Screenshot) that does not seem like it was copied and pasted from wikipedia here, let us know whether your ebook is worth buying.