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thewidemouth
boy stop ranting na

I don hear say you and Aristotle na mate

1.nobody said virgin swear dey affect guys

2.nobody said guys shouldn't disvirgin a girl

3.so therefore your argument is baseless and you know what? that's Rubish

I don unfollow the thread o,so make sure you quote me if you have something to say.

nuisance.

I tried it once, meennn!! it was hell.

not everyguy wants a virgin, I wouldn't want to marry one after my first experience with one, it was damn hard to disvirgin her, she was always screaming anytime I tried(even though she told me she wanted it)
nobody tell me to carry my d*ck run before them arrest me for murder
she actually had someone else disvirgin her.
#don't ask me how u knew#


another thing is that when you sleep with a girl and somehow the relationship didn't work in time processes,
she will so accuse you of woman slaughter Infact she will almost swear for you and the guilt wouldn't leave your heart easily if you have a pity heart.

now talk more of a virgin
I think the guy is not sure he can spend the rest of his life with her and don't want to just disvirgin her and then dump her probably because he doesn't want to live with the guilt of doing her strong thing
he might be afraid of karma also.

this cant help na!!!!, when all those rapist get conscious of the device, they will walk around with big Love Machine's, when they come across a victim, they forcefully insert it bring it out and continue with their motive.

they should come up with something better

CoCoLav:
All this taking over his property that you people are shouting, do you know how manyprojects both husband and wife do together?wife brings some percentage while husband brings some but at the end of the day, its bought in husband's name and the woman doesn't mind anyway because they are one and she doesn't know of anything that could go wrong.

this is part of your post, those men are shouting because they can be victims in a marriage as well and so the need for prenup.
the example of what could affect a man wrongly is in my first post (he could be duped in the name of marriage).
I only added "she" because it could also affect a "woman" wrongly (a woman can also be duped in the name of marriage but it is extremely rare)

CoCoLav:
Pre-nups are not common in Nigeria. Most men just go to court so as to be done with the marriage process not necessarily because they are interested but that one no consign me.

All this taking over his property that you people are shouting, do you know how many projects both husband and wife do together? wife brings some percentage while husband brings some but at the end of the day, its bought in husband's name and the woman doesn't mind anyway because they are one and she doesn't know of anything that could go wrong.


Then something unforseen happens and the village people come knocking.

stop bein bias
a woman/man who does not have backing for marriage can be affected by some situations, say she/he got thrown out without a dime.
a man/woman without prenups can be affected by some situation, say a man/woman marries someone wealthy just to acquire wealth,makes the marriage unbearable within a year, so as to get a divorce inorder to get 50% of wealth never worked for.

not all prenups renders one partner in a marriage "without cash"
it may include stipulates such as
*if the marriage breaks in less than a year both partners go with what they acquired on their own.
*if the marriage last more than 10 year wealth is shared among both parties in percentage(not necessary 50/50) irrespective of who acquired what.
*on divorce each partner takes what he/she has acquired and share what they both acquired
*...........

what am trying to say is not advice anyone to do prenup, but to say

if you don't trust a man enough or for reasons of unforeseen occurrences decide to get legal backing

then anyone shouldn't be criticsize for reasons of unforeseen occurrences should that person decide to do prenups

Bigsteveg: Even ur name (banana) sef shows u reason like a monkey.
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lol

sauceny: If we continue to dey lie giv ourselves, na who go con tell us d truth¿...Deris God ooOh!

sometimes am suprise by the way people think
what do I gain by telling lies on a faceless forum? girls or what?
let me tell you somthing I don't give a damn about the physical ones I see, do you thing I will come here to fool myself like you guys who open tread to woo a girl?
and even if I was telling lies ,can't you just tell your own lies or tell the truth, because you don't have a girl doesn't mean everyone is like you.
I see guys like of you everyday trying to dispose anyguy that says anything about himself, but I don't understand why when it doesn't hurt you in anyway, not unless you feel jealous or inferior
sorry guy this is the last I will quote you
don't have the time for silly argument

since when I was 9 in primary 6 at festival rd primary school abuja.

I had a friend whose elder sister was in jss2 at gss garki abuja, which was almost sharing fence with my school. one day the guy brought a letter to me, from his sister with some naira inside, asking me to be her boyfriend I didn't believe so I went home with him and i was wooed to the core that she even wanted to kiss me, damn I was embarrassed "a whole me was so completely powerless in front a girl".

from then on it continued "married women, single ladies, I go to church I can't walk freely to drop offering is like am gonna fall while walking the eyes on me.....)

but in all I realy enjoy the attension and wooing process.
my current girl wooed me.
in as much as am a very smooth talking,funny and swagger filled guy, the only disadvantage is that I have lost confidence t o woo a gal or maybe I developed pride I dont realy know, (I just want to woo girls like other guys)
how can a one man squad like me allow myself to be wooed By ladies, am putting a stop.

I was a complete bully
only that I bully the bullies, cos I dislike injustice, yet my teacher then will always comment on my report card "very rough and always fighting" even though I was the good bully and even though she likes me for perfoming as one of the best in academics.
the only time she stood up for me with great strengh and trust was when I was accused of stealing, she and my mom realy made me proud that day.
I bullied any body who was taking advantage of another, (male or female, my seniors in class or juniors) i dealth with physicaly and otherwise, I was a good,queit and popular guy back then.

Tymax: Well done

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OP, which kine question be dis? My guy, ALL mature ladies have cried or will cry because of a guy.

It's worse when she'll be crying in his presence and he's clueless about the reason she turned on her tap. Then her friend will come and embrace her and look at you with one bad eye even though you don't know anything

I remember the first time a lady cried because of me. I was utterly confused. "Sorry" would only make it worse. I tried to be logical but na lie.

Smh. They just like crying.

very funny
very true
I didn't know whether to join her or run from the scene, nothing worked to calm her down
Now am use to it, if they start showing symptoms I just try to keep away until the girl is a liltle calm, then we talk things out.

must a lady be rude and arrogant, all in the name of not bein cheap?
there somany matured attitude you can put up, no body is saying you just give out ur numbers anyhow or grin ur mouth out because you want the guy, but just imagine a full grown respected guy brings himself to say good morning and a lady snubs without an answer (in this case someone she admires,) even if don't feel anything for him, he might not be interested in asking you out.
back at school, a girl gave out free show of naked p...sy which was seen from under the desk in front her because she shuned the innocent guy that wanted to notify her.
I dont take sh*t, you don't feel me, I keep to myself.

enough of hypocritical statements ,
from what I understand It's not about the virginity but about unfaithfulness.

now let's consider this
if girl is in a relationship with a guy who is skillful in making good clothe designs and becomes wealthy but refuses to help the girl in any way with his wealth, then he starts showing some lost of interest in the relationship, the girl decides to quit, the guy finds another girl, lost all is wealth to the new girl cos she is a gold digger, he gets dumped, then he decides to go back to his former girl without a dime but he still has the skills to make good design.
what should the girl think and what should she do?
I think her decision would be based on the guys unfaithfulness and not whether he's got cash, because he still has the ability and source to make cash (although part of her decision will also concern his present financial state).
@ the OP am not insinuating that the girl doesn't love the guy.
BUT:
note am not comparing wealth with virginity
am just giving instance to jugde if someone realy loves a person or not and what could determine a persons decision on cases of unfaithfulness.

na (big big ) ass I don hit so many times accidentally, most times I pretend not to know cos I feel realy embarrassed, unless when she shows that she wants attention I apologize, but most times before I say a word they smile at me probably to ease my discomfort, athough most girls it happened to, know my person, so they know I don't misbehave (even though they know am highest bado) and others just probably look at my cute and innocent face and relax their anger . (but I love big ass, most turn on physical property of a girl for me)

lack of money
someone that lacks money without unhealthy love for money, only needs the money to do the necessary needs he/she has, and when he/she starts generating money, and those needs are taken care of, joy, happiness and satisfaction begins to flow in.
love of money
when there is love for money he/she might be the richest in a country, but will look further to take every other person wealth in that country and after he/she has succeeded, he/she moves to get the wealth of the next country and so on because satisfaction can never come, instead it will generate greed, generate competition for leadership or the richest, and therefore it will generate zeal to do whatever it takes to get all the money around and afar his/her vicinity.
why do you think these politicians are never satisfied love of money (because in this time you got money you can own power if you want), unhealthy love for money goes with love for power

Note. there are rich people who doesn't have (unhealthy)love for money ,the money might have been inherited, made By a trade or other good means with any sense of greed. those are the kind of people that don't seek leadership even when they are recognised and respected, instead they go ahead to help the poor and society with their money, wisdom and relate well with almost everyone in the society whether poor or rich.

acada111: My dear, pray that these people never come near any of your loved one. You'll cry rivers of blood and they still won't have mercy on you. Rather, they'll tell you to go to the ends of the heavens and look for 10million naira or they'll kill your loved one, whether old or young.
Two female teachers in my state were kidnapped, they were aged 50+.
After both families paid the requested ransom, one of the women was released and the kidnappers told the husband of the other one that his wife was sick and had been taken 2 d hospital. The other teacher said they were lying that the woman was dead. She said while they were trying to rape her, she struggled with them, thus prompting them to hit her head with the butt of a gun, after which she collapsed.
A week later, the kidnappers called the husband of the "still missing" woman and said go to so and so place, the body of your wife is there. The man ran there with members of his family, saw the said body but it wasn't his wife. Till now, the woman has not been found, dead or alive.
So, tell me! If such happens to someone close to your heart and you're in a place where kidnappers are being beaten, how will you react ? Be truthful to yourself please.

and what if your son or brother was among the boys killed at aluu, would you have written the same epistle at the report of the news.
kidnapers are bad but it has to be confirmed they are kidnapers before killing I mean aluu TOT me so much.
I was recently going to lagos state uni on my way at okoko two guys being beaten close to death accused for kidnaping and when police came to their rescue there and then without even getting to the police station it was confirmed that they had problems in business dealings with another man, which brought a fight and the next minute they were first called 419 and later changed to kidnapers. the other biz partner was nowhere to be found, people started droping and denying their weapons.

donnypool: mr man, how many girls have you toasted that shouted kidnap on you?

Mr man Do you have idea what happened at aluu? four boys stripped and burnt following a false alarm from a random lady.

MadCow1: [b]Lol @ Going by my said Wisdom.. #Cynicism does not look too good on you.. But nice try nonetheless..

Now let me step it down to basic elementary level;

First of all, I didnt say I support a young lady co-habiting with a Man. Its not the 'IDEAL' 'AFRICAN' way of doing things.. (Although this in itself can be argued.. But thats for another day)..

Secondly... Your analogy of trying to draw a correlation between Prostitution and 'Stealing/Robbery/Thievery' does not even begin to apply.. Whereas one is immoral, the other is criminal. I will explain further:

A girl or guy who is at his/her wits end and resorts to prostitution in order to survive is simply using immoral ways to make money. They technically have not harmed anybody but themselves. Their clients are all consenting and willing participants (Customers).. I can live with the knowledge of knowing that some females out there are on the streets using their bodies to put a meal on their table.. ITS NOT RIGHT!!!! But Its still an acceptable means to an end. Nobody else's rights and freedoms are being violated..

Now a Guy or a Chick who have been pushed backs to the wall that resorts to robbery/thivery/Stealing/pick-pocketing and co to survive have resoorted to criminal ventures as a means of livelihood and this is not just immoral but also a crime. Its a crime simply because their means of livelihood violates the rights of other people. For every penny they steal, its someone elses legitimately earned penny that he /she has been disposed of forcefully and against their will.. THIS I DO NOT SUPPORT.. Now should a guy choose to suck other guys di!cks on the corner in order to feed, then my take on prostitution applies.

Nw back to the matter:: Should a Young Lady choose to live with a Man that she isnt married to in other to get by, its not good but its understandble. He can 'use & dump' her same way a married Man can 'use & dump' his wife. One is called 'Heartbreak, the other Divorce'.. Same shiit if you ask me. Same way the divoircee can enter another marriage that may also fail just like the girl and the cycle continues. So at the end of the day, the one lesson here is that nothing is foolproof..

All I advocated to those hurling stones at the OP was to wait to hear her out before being overly judgemental.

All our stories are very different in their own ways. All our tolerance tresholds for suffering and pain also differ. Just last week, a Liberian woman hung herself on the streets of Lagos because she was being discriminated against for being Liberian (the same nation as Nigerians Ebola patient zero; Patrick Sawyer). I am sure there are many Liberians in Nigeria and all around Africa that have faced same, but one couldnt stand it and has killed herself. Same way some people can stay on the hussle forever and never resort to prostitution no matter what, meanwhile others have for way lesser struggles.

MORAL LESSON HERE:: Dont be quick to pass judgement on the next man until you can fully appreciate and understand their situation..


Thanks. [/b]

well I cant doubt the truth that I put myself in someone else's shoes before judging, because its a good practice, (that am guilty of)

Now let's disagree once more, if someone deserves to be considered for wrong been done that same person needs to be told the truth, and that leads to some form of judgment (not necessarily harsh), expecially when that person does not even know what he/she did was bad, I mean she doesn't even know that bringing her sister to join them was not cool talk more if she even cares about her living in her boy friends crib.
a man in the bible was charged more guilty than he sons for their own sins, even though he lived a holy life (elai).

don't get your self there.

she doesn't know, side her and tell her truth(judgment)
a person is guilty By will with knowledge of the truth he/she deserves to face judgment how ever simple the judgement may be (even after considering her stands on why she did it, doesn't leave her spotless and should be told to clean herself up so she doesn't go around been proud about her spots or even add more to it)
thank you more

MadCow1: [b]Lets assume she comes from a poor home where her parents can not afford to finance her education fully and all that stuff.

If she leaves his house, would you pay for a New house for her?!


Make una cool down with una judgement o!!

This is why the Bible said Judge not.. Until you walk her entire journey in her shoes, you have not earned the right to judge her or anybody else.

As e dey do you no be so e dey do others.. A girl was on Nairaland here begging us for money to augument her tuition and stuff so she wouldnt lose her partial scholarship in a foreign university and none of you were willing to help. If she goes there now and gets a Boyfriend that she has to live with for the duration of her schooling, you people would be the first to call her a Hoe..


Sometimes, Nairalanders can act like souless individuals.. Shey na we all dey beg una since to contribute on the TeHN thread and all of una don carry face up like say una no see the thread..



STOP ATTACKING HER UNTIL YOU KNOW WHY!!

Nkoli.. I really am curious to hear why though.. [/b]

I am not against your assumptions and opinions but I would also like you to reason it the way

most of the girls that does prostitution are doing it cause they believe they don't have a choice, since their families can't take up the responsibility of taking care of their existence.
most the guys that started stealing from small to big time, started because they believe there is no other choice since their families couldn't even provide food.
does this makes their actions right?
the fact is I don't know.
going By your said wisdom I would say yes.
you see now that the guy has decided not to play as she wishes anymore, or if the guy decides to send her out, she will be expected to look for next the guy that could take up the responsibility and if that dumps her again she moves to the next....... isn't that a bad and sick mentality? I have seen a large number of girls with multiple issues from multiple fathers in the name of no option let live who can or will take of me.
this no different from prostitution as the reason for entering and practicing are the same.

come see yoruba runs girls for Lasu na, even with a plate of food them go follow you.
do what you want with them so far you've got some change, I play with them and laugh at them after wards.
mhen! they are shameless.

BTW am not an ibo guy.