₦airaland Forum

@OP....it's a simple thing and don't stress yourself too much.
if she wants to do the same thing again, tell her that you are HIV positive. Walahi, she will not enter your room again.

Fulani and wahala everytime sha...
Fulani people needs be given serious restrictions in the city. Their activities most especially in FCT in getting out of hands. They now 'confidently' bring their cattle to main roads in the city. I even witnessed a scenario one day around Galadimawa along the road that leads to Kabusa junction...when a road safety officer had to stop vehicles for cows to pass...causing a hold-up for some minutes. I have also listened to some Nigerians lamenting and read some write-ups about their unruly behaviour. Abuja Environmental Protection Board(AEPB) don't even know their duty again. They will be chasing people selling along the road and leave Fulani grazing in the city. The cow will destroy farmlands and poo everywhere.....chai!!! This is Nasty jooo!
Grazing is majorly done in the bush and not on the road....abi grass don dey grow on top tarred roads?
That's why I like Lagos state....all these kind thing no dey too happen. EKO O NI BAJE!
One Nigeria! I love Igbos! I love Yorubas! I love Hausas! I love Fulanis! I love Nairaland!

Kingsolex1:
No e still dey see am.

Okkk...got it!

E be like say dem don remove the picture......

WhoBeThisMan:
I have tried talking to her, it seems like the more I talk the more I arrogant and disrespectful and abusive she becomes

Okkk! This one is strong.
There is always a substitute. From your heart deep down there, do you still want to continue with her in marriage things despite her arrogance? It doesn't matter what peoples' opinion are, there is always what your mind will be telling you to do. Obey your mind!
From the look of things, the lady is a good lady cos she wants to make sure that the preparation works out but there is a 'but' in her. At the same time, don't let her push you to a point of no return: if you rush in,you will rush out. You can manage relationship/dating but it's not like that in marriage. It's a forever contract. Tell her plainly that she can go if she's not ready to endure the moment with you and that you are not comfortable with her choice of actions. As long as you are alive,you can always fall in love with someone else. If you guys are not dating each other again that does not mean you can't be friends. If you are going to quit, let it be peaceful. Life goes on....
Also, you can still manage the situation now with wisdom from God. Pray to God for direction and what to do. If she's meant for you, she's going nowhere.
I pray that God will guide you on the next step to take IJN. There will always be a way out.

See for yourself........

dwen:
beloved, there is nothing wrong with that woman, it is a normal thing for her to act the way she is acting right now because her day of joy is being threatened, she is not a monster, the fact that she has waited this long does not make her one. all you need to do is to sit her down and reassure her that the wedding will hold and that you still love her and you will see her calm down. please go ahead with the wedding.

Nice one!!!

@OP....
We all have our individual differences and ways of managing feelings and emotions. You love the lady and she loves you too. For the fact that she's arrogant doesn't make her a bad person.
Just find a romantic way of talking to her. Even when she is harsh and doesn't want to reason with you, pet her and calm her down......all ladies like that. Let the discussion be between you guys and no third party. Anyhow, anyhow..find a way of letting her understand the present financial constraints and what is on board. Don't allow people's opinion about her to discourage you. Marriage is meant for two imperfect persons and not two perfect perfect persons....."like terms repel,unlike terms attracts".
Thank God you discovered her arrogance before marriage and not in marriage.....that means she is not a pretender. If you truly love her and you can manage her arrogance, then you guys need to do a serious talk. Don't forget the fact that we are not 100% perfect.
At the tail end, you can walk away if she's not co-operating and reasoning with you. A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP/COURTSHIP is better than a BROKEN MARRIAGE.
God will give you the wisdom to go about it IJN.
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Which bra?
The bra na bulletproof? Or the bra dey cure br**st cancer?
Vanity upon vanity....all is vanity.

Lol...

There is no doubt about the fact.....the radiation,no matter how low will affect 'Konji'. That was why it was announced some years back that people should not be putting mobile phones in chest-pocket because of radiation effects on Heart.
Also it increases the risk of having cancer. So that CANCER OF THE WAIST/P*N*S will not be introduced.
The innovation is great but the effect is more greater. God will always help us IJN.

Chai!!! Even devil sef go fall sick for the kind accommodation.

These guys are trying.........despite all odds,kudos to them! Military is not easy. It is when you are there you will know the difference between knockout fireworks and AK47.
I celebrate the fallen heroes and the agile ones!
God bless Nigeria!

4reala:
Amechi hav nt taken bribe. fashola hav nt sign contract, ad now granpa hav nt seen Amechi b4. mee I hav nt eaten rice b4. oya lai mohammed over to u.

I remember the story of REUBEN in the Holy Bible......hmmm.

@OP.....nothing do you! No condition is permanent. For the fact a man sleeps inside garage doesn't make him a car.
Just be real and let her know who you and what you are doing....don't fake things! Everybody is not meant for you in life...those that will stay for who you are,will stay.
Don't loose focus in life...keep aiming high and don't limit yourself. Sky is your starting point.
Cheers!!!

@OP.....
You can simply ask him/her why your phone is being unplugged at 15%. But I want to believe that there might be some scores to settle....beefing thingz. You guys can settle it.
Cheers!!!

Ebenezerk2:
Be wise now, what of all night progrmme called night vigil, praise night, and other night programme, gathering of saints in the night does not make it unholy gathering

I agree with you. Look at what you said 'gathering of saints'.......not 'going to club of the saints' or 'nightclub of saints'. The two words- christian nightclub....contradicts each other. Not even something like 'All night meeting of saints' or 'all night programme for christians'........
I know Julius Agwu's purpose and intention is for good of christians but the word NIGHTCLUB is somehow not pure. I may be wrong sha.

I will tell her to transform back to human before I call 'Holy ghost fire'....

waShine:
But remember it takes 2 to tangle, I personally surpport her action which you may think it bad anyway, God had made provision for such lewedness for long and we refuse to adhere (stoning to death) which is the best option from his Creator, his Owner, who are you to challenge me on what l own and l know about it better, such will continue to exist as long as we dont desist from satanic sympathy,

Yea....true talk!

og2711:
Your comments further reiterate your animalism. If you know how much pain that guy must be in right now, you will know why I insult you as such. I have a child who suffered similar and I know what he went through and as such I could never wish it on anyone else. More so for something as trivial as philandering..

You must be, I repeat MUST be an animal to wish this on your fellow human...

Thanks a bunch! Why are you abusing me?...I see no reason why you are taking it personal despite my comments. Are you bleeping your mother-in-law too? If yes, please stop it so that you will not end up like this. If no, you can go and try it and see what will happen to your maggot-head.
Go and sin no more.....cheers!!!

taiwoti:
Why didn't she pour the same hot water on dat randy LovePeddler she calls her mother, she should rot in jail, the rate of domestic violence on men nowadays is becoming so alarming, may God help us.

You are right!...she should have done the same to the slutty mom.
Seriously, domestic violence is more on the side of women than men. When women are victims, there will be silence and people will not react that much cos nobody will fight for them but when men are victim....people will react cos they are the head.
The three persons involved have their own side of the story to tell and at the same time their own share of the blames.
Cheers!!!

Bluffly:
Why just judging the guy, where is the mothers blame like say e use juju for am. She should also pour hot water on her mother for bleeping her husband. Which suffering, I don't know why you guys always play the pity game. Do you know how many men who also suffer in silence, abi because they don't run to press the way women do. I begi. Good and Bad is shared across both genders. Do you know the amount of sexual harassment from females we have on our streets every day. Please both the guy and the mum has erred so she must bathe the mum with hot water as well otherwise she serves jail term.

Yea...I understand your point. I am not trying to blame or judge the man but that shouldn't have happened. I've mentioned it my comments that all of them have their own share of the blame.
Everyone of them have their own side of the untold story that led to the event.
Thanks bro!

Jadoskii:
that bissshhh should go to jail,u knw that ryt.

Yea......taking law into your own hands attract a serious punishment. But with a good lawyer the punishment might reduce.

naijapips02:
Did he force the mother in law?

So many more questions to ask...
Did the mother-in-law seduce the man? Have they being eyeing each other for a very long time and it's not known to the wife? Have they been bleeping each other secretly before this fateful day? They(the husband and mother-in-law) can even use charm for each other...it's possible.
So many things could have led to that.

menix:
Make NCC no reduce am ooo.

All my airtym MTN don thief, if I put am for fixed deposit e go don equal that fine amount..

Say no to Reduction..

Signed;
MTN victims Forum..

Christian nightclub? This one is strooonnngg!
Is there any relationship between light and darkness?

Knowledge is understanding the direct application of wisdom.

mbulela:
The mother is in-law showed all the self-control in the world.
She could not say no to the Randy goat, abi?

I agree with you. But what if the seduction is from the mother-in-law?....just to fulfil her adulterous desire...
I wouldn't want to be conclusive. There are so many things hidden to us as per this story. That's the more reason why the three of them has their own share of the blame.
Cheers!!!

xp17:
I'm finding it so hard to understand your point on this. It's two consensual adults involved in the act, why put a blame on one and exonerate the other?
In this situation, the person with the least self control is the wife. How would a sane person do this inhumane act ? According to the law, while the man and the mother inlaw go free, the wife could be charged with assault by battery with attempted murder, that means she'll be looking forward to long jail sentence.

If the wife wasn't okay with her husband having a CONSENSUAL sex with her mum, the best she could have done was to go through the legal way by divorcing her husband and make a restraining order aginst her mum. Trust me , no one will be going to jail, because it's not a crime to cheat on your spouse, regardless on who you cheat with.

The people that would support your opinion re those who think like cavemen from the stone age.

Thanks learned!
I understand your own point of view. I am not even in support of the 3 persons involved. I want you to get something that this is a marriage issue. If the wife cannot save it,the husband should and even both should have saved their marriage.
So things might have been going wrong in that home. It's possible that the husband has been cheating on the wife for a very long time and she can't bear it again....so many might have led to her action. Don't forget that 80% of women are temperamental when it comes to reaction.
What am even trying to say is that the wife took it to the extreme by pouring hot water on the man but the man too was not wise enough to have done that.....and the mom too, she's a dare-devil by making a crack in the wall of that home.