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CaptainFM1:
You must compel your mum to come out, confess and apologize. This might have negative effect on your own family if it is not addressed. Sometimes, life can be Nollywood script- Trust me.

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Extremely BAD advice.

Father4all:
I disagree, you cannot write a biological father off. So you want the biological father to go to the Foster father's house and knock that I want to see my son. Reason with me.
Or didn't you read the place when he said the biological father always communicate with him also gives him money?

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He can maintain the interaction but that should be all.

Sirianese:
Maintain the status quo just as things are don't develop/alter the relationships you have with either of the two old men

Don't ever tell whichever girl you choose to marry, just do a very simple court wedding and move on. Do DNA test on all your kids though, otherwise the past will always hang over your relationship with them

This is heartbreaking but some women are just plain demonic

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Good advice.

CaptainFM1:
The thing here is that he has years ahead of him. The parents are already old. It's better they take the sacrifice for the children and exit in peace. That's what parents do.

Or would you rather he die before them? The guilt is already hurting him which is a clear sign that one or both of the parent or the mother is about to exit without the truth coming to the fore. And if that happens, he will forever carry the guilt through his lifetime which will affect his peace.

Since the parents should die before him and they are old anyway, it's better to let them know. More important is his mother apologizing and seek the forgiveness of every body that will be hurt.

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Bad advice.

Move on quietly and carry on quietly. Dont rock the boat. No need to bring it up to anyone. You will only be causing unnecessary hurt and unnecessary drama. You didnt create the scenario and you will not be either the first or last in such a situation, there are millions.

Ovacoma:
May the good God help Africa. I am surprised the way Israel uses science and technology to subdue their hash environment and now thriving as if they never encountered any problems at the beginning and the way they use the same to subdue their enemies who would have wiped them out of existence had they just folded their hands the way we do in Africa.
Yes, we carry religion for head, but, Europe and America were practising Christianity when they were having progress in their society and breakthrough in science and technology, and you can see what Islam is doing to any nations that allow it to be practised freely by allowing sharia, jihad, etc

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Again to be fair to you, Islam is a cancer in this world.

Ovacoma:
You know that is very difficult if not impossible. African leaders and even the followers will not allow most part of African progress. Factors such as corruption and Islam won't allow Africa move anywhere. Nigeria is a good example, Boko haram, lakurawa, iswap and other terrorist groups couple with endemic corruption have brought the country down on its knees.

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To be sincere, I feel you especially on leadership and corruption. Religion sef, we too carry am for head.

Ovacoma:
Yes! What has your superiority complex got you? What progress has your god brought to you? Why Africa still remains backward despite all the available human and natural resources?

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There are many reasons for that but just know that history moves in cycles. Europe was once backwards compared to Egypt. North America was once backwards compared to Persia (Iran).

Africa just needs time and history will carry on in cycles as it always has.

Besides civilization has little to do with gods.

femi4:
somebody is having selective amnesia

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That quote is exactly what we have been saying and not that the day belongs to pagans. If you understand, fine, if you dont, fine as well.

Tboy222:
Young man that your version of Jesus is a pure lie fabricated by by the Creed of nicea under Emperor Constantine.

Yeshua never taught division, never taught obedience, but taught the gospel of the kingdom.

The kingdom of God is within you

Jesus was an Alchemist, a Jewish Kabbalis, a Mathematician, a philosopher, and a Masonic Jew.

He taught sexual Alchemy, Kabbalistic numerology, golden ratio, and sacred geometry. The compass and the square.

He went about preaching the kingdom of heaven, not the lie you guys are fabricating nowadays.

He was a feminist, and he taught on the union of the Divine feminine and Divine masculine.

He taught on how to escape the the False Matrix built by the false Jehovah Annunaki Summerian God called Yahweh of the old testament.

Mary Magdalene holder of the Kabbalistic 49 Gates of Omer , and 49 roses of pentacles knew the secret.

Do you know that Nikola Tesla 369 law of the universe is hidden in Mark 15.

Do you know that the spiritual Alchemy is hidden in the book of Ezekiel.

God is made up of four people, not the false Masculine trio of father , Son and spirit.

Tetramagaton
Tetra= four

Yod = masculine
Hey = feminine
Vav = masculine
Hey = feminine

Jesus Christ left his heavenly father yahua, and his heavenly mother Shekinah the dove, to come save his twin Sister, his bride Sophia, the only choice of her Mother. Ecclesiastes 6:9

Genesis 2:24
Ezekiel 44:25

We have been deceived by Yahweh the false draconian Summerian Annunaki God and his archons.

But everything is changing soon.

All will be revealed at the 33rd degree

3I atlas is not a comet, it is a probe that will spark up the great awakening.

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Ol boy share where you are reading all these things from.
What order do you belong to, where is your lodge.

femi4:
Keep wailing
Next yr you ll come up with the same article

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Religion does this to otherwise smart people all the time. No surprise.

First time you are coming across as somewhat dim. You always sound well schooled.

lilsmart:
Christmas no be one person just wake up one day comot. Di wahala start long time wen Christian church for 4th century say make dem dey celebrate Jesus birthday for December 25. But dem purposely choose dat day because people don dey already dey celebrate pagan festival for dat time like Saturnalia for Rome wit plenty food, drink, and gift. So di church just mix am with dia own story. As time dey go, different pipo add dia own thing: St. Francis give us nativity play, Queen Victoria make Christmas tree popular, and Charles Dickens wit 'A Christmas Carol' make di festival become about family and kindness. For America, dem commercialize am wella and turn Santa Claus to di big man we know today. So Christmas na like big stew wey different pipo from different places just add ingredient for hundreds of years.

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Well said.

Femi4, someone is here to break it down to your level since my own na PhD.

Krismas:
Lies
Christmas is born out of Constantine uniting all the religions and cults in the Roman empire into one body.

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Correct.

femi4:
You never answer the question

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What question. I answered all your questions and I know I have greatly educated and enlightened you on this most auspicious of days.

femi4:
Since the xelebration is not unified, allow people to celebrate in their belief

Saying a day belong to pegan is nonesense. Nobody have a monopoly of any day

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No one has said it belonged to pagans. We are just telling you the history behind it. No need to be worried.

femi4:
Continue to evade the question

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But why are you desperate to deny the obvious. It doesn't change anything. So long as you have Jesus in your mind and that's what you are celebrating, you dey ok.

I say that because you are obviously collared to Christianity.

femi4:
you still did not answer the question

Who are those calling it yultide cos the word christmas was merged from Christ n Mass

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Extracted:
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.The word Yuletide is a compound of two ancient Old English terms: Yule (geōl) and tide (tīd). Together, they literally mean "the time of Yule."
​While we use it today as a festive synonym for Christmas, its origins are deeply rooted in pre-Christian Germanic and Norse traditions.

​1. The "Yule" Component (Geōl / Jól)
​Pagan Roots: Long before Christianity reached Northern Europe, Germanic and Norse peoples celebrated a midwinter festival called Jól (Old Norse) or Geōl (Old English).

​The Winter Solstice: This festival typically took place around the winter solstice (late December). It was a time of feasting, drinking, and sacrificing to honor the return of the sun and the "rebirth" of the year.
​The "Wheel" Theory: Some etymologists believe the word may be related to the Old Norse word for "wheel" (hvel), symbolizing the turning of the solar year, though this is debated among scholars.

​2. The "Tide" Component (Tīd)
​Meaning "Time": In Old English, tīd did not refer to the ocean's waves. Instead, it meant "time," "season," or "portion of time."
​Lingering Usage: We still see this original meaning in words like noon-tide (noontime) or the phrase "time and tide wait for no man."

​Ecclesiastical Use: As Christianity spread, "tide" began to be used for specific religious seasons, such as Eastertide or Christmastide.

​3. How it became "Christmas"
​Around the 9th to 11th centuries, as Germanic tribes converted to Christianity, the traditions of the pagan Yule festival (like the Yule log, evergreen decorations, and feasting) were absorbed into the celebration of the birth of Jesus.

​By the late 15th century, the specific compound "Yuletide" appeared in written English to describe the 12-day period of Christmas celebration.

​Fun Fact: The Origin of "Jolly"
​The word jolly is actually a "cousin" of Yuletide! It is believed to have come from the Old French word jolif, which was itself borrowed from the Old Norse jól. Essentially, to be "jolly" originally meant to be "in the spirit of Yule."
​Would you like to know more about the history of other holiday traditions, like the Yule Log or the "Twelve Days of Christmas"?

femi4:
So why different dates ...i can see jan , infact the last one went as far as feb

That show that it didn't replace that Dec date

I can wake up tomorrow to celebrate whatever in the same week. If the celebration isn't of the same belief, abeg we are not the same

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The central celebration was always December. As a major celebration, it extends over periods.

Just the way Easter is actually celebrated for over a Month. That does not mean there isnt Easter Sunday itself.

Pls research this thing. I didn't come up with it and it's no conspiracy anything. It's history.

Check serious academic works and encyclopedias of history.

femi4:
Christmas isnt a week celebration

Whatever you are reading on cyberspace is affecting your submission. Show me a church doing a week christmas celebration

Cyberspace is full of junks without verified source

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I knew all this before the internet existed.
Besides, its up to you to split the wheat from the chaff with regard to what you read online or indeed anywhere.

As for your question in bold, I extract the following:

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Here is a breakdown of the different ways Christmas is measured.

1. The Twelve Days of Christmas (Christmastide)
This is the most traditional religious definition. The "12 Days" start on December 25 and end on the evening of January 5 (known as Twelfth Night).

The Purpose: It marks the time between the birth of Jesus and the arrival of the Three Wise Men (Magi).

The Conclusion: The 12th day is followed by Epiphany on January 6, which celebrates the "revelation" of Christ to the world.

2. The Catholic Liturgical Season
For the Roman Catholic Church, the Christmas season actually lasts slightly longer than 12 days.

Start: Christmas Eve (sunset on Dec 24).

End: The Feast of the Baptism of the Lord, which usually falls on the Sunday after January 6.

Depending on the calendar, this can make the "Christmas Season" last anywhere from 14 to 20 days.

3. Orthodox Christmas
Many Eastern Orthodox churches (such as those in Russia, Egypt, and Ethiopia) follow the Julian Calendar rather than the Gregorian calendar.

The Date: They celebrate Christmas Day on January 7.

The Season: Like the Western tradition, they also observe a multi-day feast period, culminating in Theophany (their version of Epiphany) on January 19.

4. Cultural & Secular Celebrations
In modern culture, the "Christmas season" is often much longer:

Advent: For many Christians, the preparation begins 4 Sundays before Christmas (the season of Advent).

The "Ber" Months: In the Philippines, Christmas celebrations famously begin in September (the first of the "ber" months), making it the longest Christmas season in the world.

Candlemas: In some older traditions (and still in some parts of Europe), the festive season doesn't truly end until February 2 (Candlemas), which is 40 days after Christmas. This was traditionally the day people took down their greenery.
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*Culled

femi4:
If it was delibrate. Why not for a week. All these are mere conspiratory theories

2. No religion has the monopoly of any day

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It is not a conspiracy theory, it is a fact f history, do your research.
And oh, Christmas is actually celebrated for over a week.

You really dont know or understand ancient Roman History and early church history do you?
This is not about any religion having a monopoly of any day. Have you even asked yourself the origin of certain peculiarities of the Christmas celebration, such as the Christmas Tree? What does that have to do with the birth of Christ? Jack. But it was part of the Feast of the Saturnalia.

Someone like you will not know that the literal translation of the word "Easter" is "Eostre" the name of an ancient pagan goddess.

Bros, you are an African. Relax and dont spend too much energy getting worked up about myths and legends of foreigners.

femi4:
show me a date that is free of celebrating other pegan festivals. There is no day without somebody celebrating some religious belief that's against your belief

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The point is that Christmas was deliberately placed on that day in replacement of an existing festival of the greatest magnitude (the feast of the Saturnalia, which was celebrated for a week from around Dec 17 - 23). It was strategically done to ease the acceptance of Christmas being that Christianity had only become the official religion of the Roman Empire recently.

There's no big deal with that as you say though, its just a fact of history.

iamL:
Why your mama nor fit run am make una family life for better?

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My family life is just fine, and you dont know me or her to presume. Or do you think everyone who is not Alakija has not done well?

WINDSOW:
Quoting history books, chronological and philosophical epistle ll not tarnish the fact that Our Lord Jesus Christ was born, died to redeem all from sin and of course, reconciling us to Himself.

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The death of Jesus on the cross, so far from saving mankind, stands as condemnation of man.

Playconsoler101:
But was he born on 25th of December though?

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Of course not, it was simply placed there to fit with an already existing pagan Roman Festival.

Interesting15:
Wisdom For Destiny Daily Devotional *25th December, 2025)*

by *Sunday Akanni*

TOPIC: Never Forget The True Purpose Of Christmas

Scripture: "For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. Luke‭2:11‬
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*Message*

Each year, the 25th day of December won't stop being a very significant day all around the world. It is the celebration of Christmas. It is the birth of Jesus Christ. In almost every single place in the world, there are people celebrating on this day.

However, we must admit that many don't even know the major reason for the season in the first place. A lot of people are ignorant of the reason Jesus Christ came to the earth in the first place. This is why you see some folks "celebrating" Christmas in sinful and harmful ways, indulging in wild parties, sexual immorality, alcohol and hard drugs, etc.

On the other hand, Christmas to several others simply revolves around Santa and gifts, taking the Object of Christmas (Jesus Christ) out of the scene entirely.

But as we reflect on the purpose of Christmas, this should be a season to gratefully reflect on the amazing things of God in Christ Jesus.

Remember, from the beginning, God originally created the earth to be an extension of Heaven, and He made humans to be perfect creatures to take care of everything He made. He desires (and enjoys) an intimate relationship with humans, entrusting the earth into the hands of mankind. Then came man's disobedience, and the beginning of receiving God's love on a very gracious level.

God's love attained a zenith in Christ Jesus, as He decided to come down to offer His Own Life to redeem mankind back to Himself. He suffered and died on the cross of Calvary to get us back into His perfect Will.

Christmas is a remembrance that in Christ Jesus, we have recovered all that was stolen by the devil, and we now have the authority to wield true dominion over creation - including dominion over sin, death, darkness, hell, poverty, sickness, and anything negative.

Merry Christmas!

*Prayers/Confessions*

Ask that the LORD utilize this Christmas celebration to introduce Himself to many sinners around the world on a personal level.

*Further Reading*

Then the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told them. Luke‬ ‭2:20‬ ‭‬‬

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Why would you vomit so many lies on a day like this?

Jakumo:
Wow I thought he was announced dead this past year. I will blame a news overload in my brain.

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Or Mandela effect.

Jakumo:
Would it be correct to presume that this is one of late Yakubu Gowon's sons or nephews?

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Yakubu Gowon still dey oh.

Ovacoma:
What god do you worship ? What god did your fore fathers worship and why did your fore fathers gain from the god they worshipped? What did your fore fathers hand over to you that have brought progress to Africa ? The God of Israel is my God.

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How pitiful. Inferiority complex.

MaxInDHouse:
Do you rate people's intelligence based on their faith?

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To an extent yes, but I must hasten to add that indoctrination is such a powerful thing that many intelligent people still fall for daft myths - on account of deep seated fears, inner voids and insecurities as well as on account of the sheer mystery of existence. People need walking sticks.

However there are some people of faith who cannot be respected at all because of their deep obtuseness and fanaticism.

LordReed:
There is no hidden secret

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Much remains mysterious and I lean towards saying that much is in fact secret from us.

Death is just an unknown and more primitive people had more to fear from the unknown than we do. We know that corpses don't wake up and walk about for instance. There is nothing to fear from the dead cos the dead are dead and do nothing.

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The fellow should simply have said that humans fear death as all creatures do.

Oddly, one wonders why someone assured of heaven or paradise after resurrection would fear death.

Secondly his own book corroborates you:

"For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten." - Ecclesiastes 9 v 5.

tommy589:
It started way before that. She was a successful tailor of international repute while also managing a fashion designing school. In "84 or 85 she won fashion designer of the year at a time when African fabrics were the in thing in international exhibitions

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I mean the path to billions in dollars.

MaxInDHouse:
That's why JimRohn said you don't worth to be engaged in intelligent discourse.

On this thread alone you've jumped into my comments seeking attention only to end up disgracing yourself!🥴

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I am happy to be disgraced. I can be a toad like that.

Since when though did the verdict of a cowardly Muslim become your walking stick?