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In an 18-page letter dated December 2, 2013 Chief Olusegun Obasanjo accused President Goodluck Jonathan Administration of incompetence, abuse of office, corruption and gross mismanagement of the resources of the nation. Apart from accusing the regime of celebrating criminality including drug trafficking Chief Obasanjo has blamed the regime for the rising wave of impunity, terrorism and ethno-religious strife in the country. No doubt, the allegations which lacerated the controversial letter are weighty. Instead of dismissing the contents of the letter the Presidency should respond to the allegations raised therein seriatim. In particular, the allegation that the Federal Government is setting up a Presidential Strike Force to carry out terrorist attacks on political opponents should not be swept under the carpet.

However, it is pertinent to point out that President Jonathan is a faithful student of the Olusegun Obasanjo School of Politics. While President Jonathan has been accused by General Obasanjo of diverting $7 billion from the Federation Account he (President Obasanjo) is yet to account for the over $20 billion which he diverted from the same account. The 36 state governments sued the Federal Government over the illegal diversion of such huge public fund by President Obasanjo and the case is currently pending at the Supreme Court.

The Senate recently indicted Presidents Obasanjo, Yaradua and Jonathan for mismanaging the federation Account to the tune of N1.5 trillion. The senate has recommended the revocation of the fraudulent privatisation of public assets carried out by President Obasanjo. The transcorp hotel was bought by a sitting President through "blind trust" while the House of Representatives indicted the Obasanjo regime for spending $16 billion to generate darkness. Does President Obasanjo know any President who used public funds to establish a private university and a presidential library through extortion of funds from government agencies and contractors?

On disloyaly to the ruling party President Obasanjo defied the Supreme Court when it pronounced Senator Ararume as the gubernatorial candidate of PDP for Imo State during the "do or die" general election of 2007. The imperial presidency directed PDP members to vote for the candidate of the PPA who "won" the election. In his book titled,"Accidental Public Servant" Mr. Nasir El Rufai gave a vivid account of how President wanted General Buhari of ANPP to nominate Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as his Vice-Presidential candidate as a precondition for ditching the Presidential candidate of the PDP, dr Goodluck Jonathan during the 2011 General Election.

With respect to reliance on ethnic jingoists President Obasanjo deployed the likes of late Lamidi Adedibu to terrorise and intimidate innocent people in Oyo State. President Obasanjo equally entered into an alliance with the Afenifere group to facilitate the capture of the south west region during 2003 General Election. When there was a threat to impeach President Obasanjo by the House of Representatives the Presidency mobilised a faction of the Oodua Peoples Congress to threaten a break up the country. Was Anambra state not made ungovernable by Chris Uba with presidential support? Did Obasanjo not know of governors who had killer squads? Why were the members of the Abacha Strike Force never demobilised and disarmed by President Obasanjo?

On the presidential involvement in the case of the fellow who was recently acquitted in the charge of murder on technical grounds by the Court of Appeal in Lagos it is on record that President Obasanjo also wanted him freed for political reasons while he was in power. Indeed, he pressured the Lagos State Government, in vain, to file nolle prosequi with a view to terminating the case on the eve of the 2003 General Elections. Did General Obasanjo not take part in another celebration of criminality in Lagos the other day when a PDP chieftain completed his jail term. Did the General to turn round to say that he was misled into believing that it was a "family reunion"?

Does President Obasanjo have the moral right to advise President Jonathan on how to convey a national conference? It is public knowledge that President Obasanjo too was vehemently opposed to the convocation of a national conference until he needed it for dubious political objectives. The Political Reform Conference which he eventually convened collapsed due to the refusal of the delegates to endorse the satanic Third term agenda of the President. Like the report of the Chukwudifu Oputa Commission of Enquiry on human rights abuse the report of the Political Reform Conference never saw the light of day.

In the aforesaid 18-page letter President Obasanjo did not challenge the neo-colonial economic agenda of the Jonathan Administration which has continued to pauperise the masses of our people. Hence the letter is not an expression of disagreement over policy formulation or implementation of programmes on the crises of unemployment, illiteracy, ignorance, hunger, infrastructural decay etc. It is an intra-class feud which cannot enhance democracy in the country. President Obasanjo has a penchant for writing letters and granting interviews on regimes which he and other power mongers had installed. He dismissed the regimes of President Shehu Shagari, Generals Buhari, Abacha and Babangida and President Yaradua once they fell out with him. After the election of the late Bashorun MKO Abiola as President did Genaral Obasanjo not say that he was not a messiah? For goodness sake when did General Obasanjo discover that President Jonathan is incompetent?

Finally, instead of celebrating the hypocrisy of frustrated power mongers the Nigerian people should take advantage of the intra class war going on in the ruling party to get organised and take their political destiny in their own hands. The time has come to put an end to the opportunism of discredited rulers who are in the habit of exploiting the frustrations and disenchantment of the people to become emergency heroes. Enough is enough!

Femi Falana SAN.

source...http://saharareporters.com/article/president-jonathan-faithful-apprentice-ex-president-obasanjo%E2%80%99s-school-politics-femi-falana

Carsonv: Having premarital sex is not a guarantee that you'll be savvy with sexual issues during marriage. Staying celibate till marriage doesn't mean you'd be naïve about sex in your marriage.

For me, I think it's better, if you both can save the 'first' intimacy for d wedding night. Like two teenagers 'learn from scratch'. And define your(your spouse and you) definition of 'INTIMACY' that revolves around your partner. Because I think the main reason for promiscuity is the fact that most of us have had too many sexcapades that our sexual preferences have had the shape of an amoeba and far-reaching that one person can't satiate us anymore.

Well that notwithstanding, if you have started having sex before marriage (a lot of u have) you can still learn to 'fit' your preference to your partner or learn to be partners indeed.

Either way, if you want your marriage to work...whether you're a pro or a newbie, you'll make it work!

CAVEAT: I'm writing with the intention that only people within the right age limit will opt to read this.

A normal way it should be, leaving out other factors...not everyone will agree with you. But we all share diverse views. A wonderful contribution.

wazobia_for_u: To me I think defination of marriage itself is what is suppose to be take into consideration first.

Don't miss the road, marriage is not until when you do (oyibo) white wedding or when your pastors bless you before you are married. The moment the both parents accept your courtship and wish you well, God has accept your marriage just need to fix a day for the dowry and if you like call the whole Nlander to come and chop

This is another eye opener....Nice one.

You're welcome...i expect this to be a tough debate but first, i'll drop my lines

A lot of teens these days are taking something called the "purity pledge," wherein they vow not to have sex until they get married. Hey, I'm all for people putting off sex until they're adults and can handle the ramifications. Because even with safe sex, sex comes with responsibilities. It does tend to emotionally bond you to someone, and that can mean getting emotionally attached to the wrong person. Once sex enters the equation, a relationship is never the same. But one woman recently wrote about her “purity pledge” that went wrong. It led to an incredibly short starter marriage. Once she realized that she and her new husband had absolutely zero sexual chemistry, she counted down the days until she could get a divorce, which happened six months into their marriage. Here are five reasons to get rid of that purity pledge and do the dirty before you say "I do."

Sexual chemistry.

Jessica Ciencin Henriquez, who kept her "purity" until her wedding night, writes in Salon:
Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up sex and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad sex and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief. Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life.
As Jessica found out, sexual chemistry is something that can really only be ascertained by, well, having sex. Jessica would make out for hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. But it didn't.

Sexual identity.

I know too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn't have sex with anyone. Not having sex with the opposite sex can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same sex, and therefore don't acknowledge them.

Sex itself.

Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don't start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

Size.

Don't you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid's pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I'm not saying size would be a deal breaker, but don't you have the right to know what's down there?

Sexual issues.

Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn't you rather deal with those issues before you're married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them.

Let's face it, sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, sex is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance.

So, What is wrong with sex before marriage?

Sex is God’s beautiful gift to man and woman to bind them spiritually, intellectually and emotionally in the holy wedlock. Sex outside the wedlock is sin and most religion forbids it. But sex comes with a lot of complications that even adults find it difficult to handle.
Scientific studies show that relationships that start with sex last at best for 2-3 years, and marriages usually run into trouble in 3-5 years. If a couple had sex before marriage, the charm would fade away just when the marriage troubles start.
Sex before marriage changes your life in so many ways! Sexual gratification is sought for selfish reasons rather than for sacrificial reasons. For a marriage to succeed, the spirit of sacrifice is quintessential. But people who indulge in premarital sex are the impulsive lot who lack the spirit of sacrifice. Hence it is very unlikely that people who had premarital sex will find true love and happiness in married life. And there is no guarantee that people who had premarital sex will not have extramarital affairs rocking the wedlock. At best, these people can find sham happiness, but the volcano erupts! Premarital sex destroys your virginity and creates a guilty conscience that is difficult to get rid of, if you marry someone else in the end. Then you enter the holy matrimony by cheating your spouse. Moreover, sex outside marriage exposes you to sexually transmitted diseases (STD) which is the scourge of our time.

Lets welcome other contributions.

What makes men cheat? Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity. Including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying.

1. 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated. So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about physical intimacy: Only 8 percent of men said that physical dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is to have physical intimacy with someone, but men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked, "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness -- and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."

2. 66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair. The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.

3. 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated. Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: "My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it." You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values -- it'll create an environment that supports marriage.

4. 40% of cheating men met the other woman at work. "Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home. Luckily, there's a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up -- and it's time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn't okay at work. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it's only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he'd feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.

5. Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife. In other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get lucky with a better-looking body. "
In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void. "He feels a connection with the other woman, and physical intimacy comes along for the ride." If you're worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering how to please him physically. (But know that physical intimacy does matter -- it's one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)

6. Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night. Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs -- you might even see it coming before he does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for physical intimacy, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating, especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, take charge of what you can control -- your own behavior -- and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place. Don't hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, be open about how you feel about what's going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties). Try "I think we've started to lose something important in our relationship, and I don't want it to disappear." In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you.

The fundamental problem with our system isn't the people at the top,its the people at the bottom~ The 99%.

We are so fixated on our daily struggles,we live a life of such scarcity that we believe there could never be enough for anyone.

We believe things will get better when we continue to pray and hope but as much as i believe in prayers,i know "God/Allah will never do for man,what man can do for himself"~He created everything for us in abundance.

The artificial scarcity is due to the fact that only few harness these resources hereby denying others.

What kind of society will we have when this resources go round?
What will be the state of the nation when we stop these few that are auctioning-off our tomorrow?

Together we can stop this 1% mortgaging our future.

So,whenever u ask me where my faith lies,am sure u know; its when we the youths forget our differences and wake-up to our responsibilities.Then we'll achieve the desired change and make this country a better place for our children and children's children to live in.

What effort are u making?

...be a CONSCIOUS NIGERIAN YOUTH.

I wonder why others are saying this is crap...Must one post in pidgin english for nairalanders to undertsnad?

zelexotunla: Hmmm, u be gay right? And you are looking for ur he-gurl?

You're the first person that really understand this topic. But for real, i'm not gay. I only notice our ladies(including all the ladies i've been with) don't play the lead role when it comes to intimacy so i wonder if i am the one that is not sexually submissive as a man.

But u're right...i'm really talking about a he-girl here.

benkings: what is he sayinq

may be you should read again.

I was never really interested in sex until I heard men can be prey too.
I was wondering how rare this type of man is.
Are you a male who likes to be loved instead of doing the loving?
Or do you like the idea of a woman doing most of the loving even if you aren't decidedly 100% submissive?
After some reading, I read that submissive or slightly submissive men aren't usually at bars or parties. (not sure if that's true) So if you're a submissive type, where are you most likely to be found? What are your interests? What kind of job do you have? How do you act around girls, or people in general? What is your most distinctive quality? What are some things you like being done to you in bed?

Notes:
-By "submissive" I don't mean sexual tastes that include sadism, masochism, punishment, painful or restrictive bondage, or abuse. Because that's really excessive, and doesn't reflect an emotional relationship based on affection. By the term, I mean a person would like to receive emotional and sexual pleasure, not pain, from their partner.
-Although I guess there is some degree of torment from being on the recipient end. Waiting while being stimulated and not immediately having your way involves restraint.
-By "loving" i mean pre-intimacy, i.e. playing with/stroking hair, handling/caressing/kissing the ears, neck, chest, nipples, stomach, inner thighs and so on.

Keith and his wife are having hard financial times, so they decide that she'll try being a hooker. She's not quite sure what to do, so Keith says, "Stand in front of that bar and pick up a guy. Tell him you charge a hundred dollars. Any questions and I'll be parked around the corner."

She stands outside the bar for about five minutes showing her leg, when a guy pulls up and asks "How much?"

She says, "A hundred dollars."

He replies, "All I got is thirty."

She says, "Hold on," and runs back to Keith and asks. "What now. What can he get for thirty?"

"A hand job," Keith replied. She runs back and tell the guy all he gets for thirty dollars is a hand job.

He agrees and she gets in the car. He unzips his trousers, and out pops this HUGE willy.

She stares at it for a few seconds, then says. "I'll be right back.." She runs back to Keith.

"What's wrong?" he asks.

"Any chance you could lend this guy seventy dollars?"....LOL

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For me, I benefited a lot this year from this forum.

Love at first sight is a common trope in Western literature, in which a person, character, or speaker feels romantic attraction for a stranger on the first sight of them. Described by poets and critics from the Greek world on, it has become one of the most powerful tropes in Western fiction.

Research has shown two bases for love at first sight. The first is that the attractiveness of a person can be very quickly determined, with the average time in one study being 0.13 seconds. The second is that the first few minutes of a relationship have shown to be predictive of the relationship's future success, more so than what two people have in common or whether they like each other ("like attracts like"

“When we fall in love at a glance, the question we should ask ourselves (and this would apply to both men and women) is, What is it that we long for? Or perhaps, What are we lacking so that we can turn life in the direction we want? Creativity? Confidence? Authority? Recklessness? Irresponsibility? Or even darkness? Perhaps the lover is the outlaw in ourselves we don't quite have the nerve to claim.

Most times i see "falling in love" at first time as "falling in lust" at first time since the whole attraction is centered around the opposite's physical appearance....see this for instance

“I haven't known you for long, I don't even know what your favorite color is or your favorite song, but…I know every detail and curve of your face and the way your eyes sparkle when you smile. I know that you put your hands to your chest when you laugh and the adorable way you fiddle with your fingers when you're nervous. I think of you every minute of every day. I've realized I can't live my life without you in it. I want you. Only you.”

Real love goes beyond looks...compatibility matters; the two must share similar ideology and see life through each other's eyes to be able to live together for eternity.....another quote

“Being in love is an emotional and obsessive experience. However, emotions change and obsessions fade. Research indicates that the average life span of the "in love" obsession is two years. For some it may last a bit longer; for some, a bit less. But the average is two years. Then we come down off the emotional high and those aspects of life that we disregarded in our euphoria begin to become important. Our differences begin to emerge and we often find ourselves arguing with the person whom we once though to be perfect. We have now discovered for ourselves that being in love is not the foundation for a happy marriage.”

I don't know about you,but for me, i don't believe in love at first sight. Over to you guys.

entuk: 1) Patience is a virtue
2) I achieve more when I'm surrounded by few people
3) When money come, friend's and babes no go let you match brake
4) Regular family contact can help when in a terrible mess (even when in police trouble)
5) If you put your friends first in business, you are very likely to lose your business and the relationship you shared with those friends
6) You can do nothing tangible if you don't put God first.

Nice one.... Thanks for your contribution.

For me....i've leant that;

1 You don't need to join the majority all the time,when you find out that u're on the side of the majority,it is time to pause and reflect because sanity is not statistical.....being in a minority even a minority of one did not make you mad.If everybody thinks alike,then someone isn't thinking.

2 All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.

3 Out of any form of slavely, i won't wait for anyone to free me. A slave is one who waits for someone else to free him.

4 Family comes first. Friends may not be there when the going gets tough.Some friends knows how to break one's leg, and hand the person a crutch,and then say,if it waren't for them you wouldn't be able to walk.

5 Heaven does not only wait for only those who congregate, God is love. He's down below and Up above, he's watching people everywhere, he knows who care and doesn't care. The God in every human is his/her conscience.

Love

Chukky86: if you don't have something to say a beg park well. Its people like who pretend as if you never slept with a hooker, mistaken ashawo for a girl friend. Since you've never done it before, I guess you always self-service your dick when no one is around.

Sorry... I never knew all your sexual experiences are with prostitutes. I have all that is required to date and keep a decent lady who satisfies me sexually, so why visit prostitute stands?...I don't argue with men than are controlled by their third leg so....iI'll not respond to you again.

Shen Teh: Reading through this thread page after page my heart dips deeply.


This is a disclaimer:
1. That I, aka Shen Teh does NOT agree that all women are whores.

2, That I do strongly OPPOSE every man who patronises prostitutes- and every woman who offers her precious body for such innoble trade and those who patronise gigolos too.

3. That I am a man- a real man and I don't patronise prostitutes. And never will.

4. That I hold the same POV with the OP.

5. That I am ashamed of fellow Nigerian men justifying this shame.

6. That I STRONGLY believe there are other men- real Nigerian men who undersign this memorandum.

Signed...

Chukky86: Go hug transformer liar. No come dey pretend here. I Don see you for empire for jibowu before.

Speak for yourself.....the fact that your third leg controls you and not your brain does not mean its like that for all guys... Fvck you....

francababy: Make your Nairaland profile more catchy. Add your pic to your Nairaland profile and win recharge card from me.
I will give ten N200 recharge cards. It is not big but abeg I try.

To enter, let your pic be on your profile and post the link to your NL profile in this thread.

I am the first entry....lol...

https://www.nairaland.com/francababy

I'll have uploaded my pic if what i'll win is a romantic date with you.

But recharge card....arrhhh!....mouth sealed.

once in my entire life to be honest. Primary 6, i was the senior boy. I did not speak to her for one week plus. My liver cut and i did not reply her till date. I wish i knew where she is now.

After that one, none was bold again...they just give close marking then i'll understand and make the move if am interested. But why is it that when ladies give you break light and u fail to hit on them, they gradually turn you to an enemy. Ladies are too emotional, at least we guys just move on whenever a lady we approach says no.

I operate an internet cafe in Abeokuta... I want to know if this network extends to Abeokuta.

I'll like to know if anyone attached to Dangote Group Plc. here has started. I got the mail notifying me of my acceptance few weeks after i was invited for interview, since then, i have not heard from them...i was told that the joining date will be communicated to me since then. Nothing up till now.

Live from Abeokuta....

kemmary: d stipend is paid regularly at the middle of the following month. and it is only paid if your employer submits ur timesheet. so when you start the internship, ensure that your employer submits it to sure-p, if not, u wont b paid. n u might b lucky, ur employer might decide to pay u too

ok...thanks a lot.

honsule: I was short-listed around April this year and as a barrister my employer was Legal Aid in Abuja,because that is where am based. I was sent the necessary information i needed to commence registration.when i asked and discovered that Federal Govt monthly payment/stipend is 18,000 under the scheme.I was demoralized. Aother NYSC? And Allawee of 18k?God Forbid. I refused to go anywhere.I declined Their Internship.And by 24 May,2013 it expired.It has time frame for you to accept or reject.Am enjoying my Private practice

You're coming with another information now, check their website, the stipend is now 25k and not 18k. I just want to know if they pay regularly. Is there anyone that have started this programme here and receiving the stipend?...pls lets here from you.

Meanwhile, i'd like to know if anyone attached to Dangote group Plc. here has started. I got the mail notifying me of my acceptance few weeks after i was invited for interview, since then, i have not heard from them...i was told that the joining date will be communicated to me since then.