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healthserve:
I have things to say


1. Read the book Five love languages by Gary Chapman


2. That's your husband's love language and how he will keep communicating through the marriage. The earlier you come to terms that marriage reveal and not change people the better. I'm discouraging you from hoping for a change so you can start gaining the right perspective on managing the marriage, or levelling the ground to gain some advantage to yourself. If I encourage you to tow this line, you'll lose yourself so I will keep the secrets


3. You need to honestly tell your self privately the answer to this question. If my husband doesn't change cab I cope with this for the long haul? The answer will be your guiding light


4. Start dealing with the truth perhaps you married a stranger and now true colors are been unveiled.


5. Tip one to help you. Dissociate the emotional trauma from all the instabilities. I.e. don't feel bad if he doesn't eat,stays out or don't talk.


6. Tip two, don't let his inadequacies and tantrums go unchecked. I.e Never you confront him but respectfully let him know hes hurting you. I.e Nnanyi I know you've started with the silent treatment. I just wanted you to know that I know. End the sentence there and move on,transfer the psychological baggage to him by doing this. Talk about it and move on,the pain would be transfered to him psychologically relieving you off the stress hes projecting to you


7. Tip three, happiness kills bad vibes. Be cheerful. Never show that the bad experiences are stressing you. Deflect the bad vibe and exude happy reactions.I promise you he'll start calling you a witch cause he'll notice his down tactics have no hold on you.


8. Your husband isn't a demon, neither have I said he's a bad person or you didn't do some wrongs. I'm working with the facts I have here assuming both sides have stated both their cases

You have given her the right answers to her problems. Recommending The Five Love Languages is a very good thing an I hope she reads and not depend on prayers or what her pastor says. This is one point.

Another point is, what was their courtship like before they married?
Some people married out of infatuation and lust just as she pointed out that when the man's mood is normal, he can give the best sexual experience and he always drops money to run the house. You know, some ladies sees marriage as n escape route from poverty thereby entering marriage with the wrong motive and when the air clears, they begin to see well and sometimes regret. I may be wrong with my assertion in this case though but in all, both of them have the duty yo learn their primary love languages in other to communicate better.

chiommy123:
So cos you married her she can not play with others abi

A cheat and shameless bi**h spotted.

Weedhustler:
I no dey pity any white woman! Those women are worst than jezelbell...

Don't mind the idiots. If You who is not a scammer write them on any dating site or says hi to them on the street, the at they will treat you like like an alien will make even get yourself.

athaboi:
Anayo okorocha

Aka Mr iberiberism

Jgoldie:
Never seen this....how does it work?

Indomie generation spotted .

Wife of a bigger criminal. Stone your useless husband that cannot Bleep you well but is fucking Nigerians hard-core from the back.
Stupid people.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

BlackfireX:
I love what the army did to them.








Karma is mother***king bitch

People should stop calling out the army cos they never did such, it was the "repentant" boko haram boys that did such thing. Quote me anywhere, the army is filled with those boys.

GloShare:
Rochas really finished imo

It's good people are seeing these things now as Emeka exposes all the evil deeds of rochas rather than rushing to say that Emeka is witch-hunting rochas. Rochas did more harm in Imo State than good and Emeka will have to more extra time to fix these things .

pocohantas:
31yrs of dating?

That must be an ancestor.

Or did he start from his mother's womb?

Whatever made him not to marry the other ladies in his 31 years of dating must go beyond their inability to serve him breakfast o.

31yrs?

Lols @ 31yrs of dating .

toyinjimoh:
I wish her all d very best, through definition of a good Muslim not all those extremists tarnishing d image of Islam

She is a "good" like Ouma the Somalian Islamic Rep.

dirtydiva:
I was watching BBC yesterday when ds man was reeling out his manifest, I hope he doesn't share dsame political ideology of Trump who is a republican president.

The world right now needs more of Trump's kind. Putin is my man, Johnson is another, many more coming soon.
FYI, don't shout allahu ak'bah near these men, else you're gone.

DIKEnaWAR:
....or what?!!

Where are the Yoruba youths who ought to carry this war to the Fulanis? They are on social media insulting other tribes and sliding into women's DMs to break hearts. I mean how can an ethnic group leave the fighting of war to the elders, whose bone have grown weary and old.

Jagaban, Osinbajo and Fayemi who are masquerading as Yoruba new found leaders don't even care. They control a wider audience than these elders and distort the story to suit the narrative of their masters. May God not give us the kind of food that will not allow us see when our brothers are being slaughtered like chicken.

I'm yet understand why the youths have not rounded tinubu and osinbajo nd all their idiotic cliques and behead all of them. Same will go to rochas and ngigi and amechi and all the betrayed down South.

LadySarah:
Maybe Thats his own cross.Sure he has them plenty and feels comfy in them like Mark Zuckerberg.

I love your sensible response to that fool. I also love your signature. Daalu Ezigbo Ada Igbo!

All these oyibos artists that are now coming to either perform or collaborate with naija, I don't trust them at all. They've seen that afrobeat is making waves and getting more accepted and have more market power, they're now shifting their useless raps of shitty asses down here. Anyways, I won't blame them much, rather I wil blame our people who doesn't value what we have and our own unless it's mixed with or becomes "white".

starbuck:
Biko is Wigwe a southerner,



If he is, he is MAD

Don't mind the efulefu, he s just eyeservicing. Jonathan built over 160 almajiri schools and 9 universities in the North, have they applauded him for that? Instead they made sure he's retired by force in other to bring in this dead wood called buhari. So this one he is doing is just for nothing and more So, the terrorists up north won't attend. They prefer mosque .... stupid people .

NwaAmaikpe:




I'd never have imagined that Rochas would turn from National hero to global villain just between 2005 to now.

The Rochas Foundation was an epitome of philanthropy in the days gone by.
Today the name Rochas is in itself a reproach.

Despite his obvious flaws, this is not the way to treat a statesman and a serving Senator.
What happened to our respect values?

Ihedioha was elected to be the leader to right Rochas's wrongs.
It's been over two months yet Douglas House Owerri still lacks that leader. In it's place is a blame hunter who will end up making Rochas seem like a martyr.
Ihedioha sit up, don't be a Buhari.

Stop this joke ok. Rochas is a crook and Ihedioha was elected to unearth his misdeeds including looting public funds. If Ihedioha cannot expose rochas he will be kicked out. For example, just watch all the roads rochas did, can you point to anyone that's stop good? If Ihedioha is not exposing these things, after years, you will be long those that will acuse him of doing nothing but looting. So it's good he's showing everybody whom rochas really is. Did you say national hero? No, he was just national scammer and IBB brand boy then.
Thanks.

I don't understand what these people are taking the rest of us to be.... anyways I don't blame them, I blame our docile representatives who cannot stand up and shout these idiots down whenever they bring up stupid and wicked topics that will affect us negatively instead some of them will play along to be seen as good party men.

starbuck:
Gandollar would witch hunt for this





So I am untop of NwaAmaikpe

What are you doing on top of him, you want to give him belle?

Hintona:
This boy is the carbon copy of his dad

Yes but he is till son a bitch.

Congratulations to my man. At least we can have some peace of mind and hope that these Muslim terrorists will be put in their places...

Cacawa2:
How about boys brigade, man-o-war, Salvation army?

Exactly the same thing in my mind now. We have different voluntary organisations in our churches and mosques which are not armed but just a social organisations in the religious environment. Btw, what about sharia police in the north being propelled by the Sunni Muslims which is gradually turning into terrorist organisation?
Whoever the OP be, s/he is a Sunni Muslim terrorist and sympathiser.

HabaHaba:
Bro I fear your mouth. Kai, Basket mouth sef go duff cap for you! Chei! See tabbing!

Whoever that's behind that moniker just made me angry with that stupid comment. Africans have refused to learn, if you you see how some oyibos mock us in almost every thing we do, you will understand why it's important to remain unique in your own ways. We want to overdo the "white things" even more than the white themselves. Our Africans born here in Europe or America will never want to associate with you that came from Africa, the worst are the halfcasts that want to be seen as white even when the real white sees all of us as blacks. In short, the whole thing dey vex me shaaa.

plaindealer:
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This beautiful city is under total destruction and heading back to the stone age.

Governance is building on your predecessor's good achievements, not the destruction of public property because of hatred and pathetic desire to fight your predecessor and destroy his achievements.

Poor people of Imo state, be careful what you wish for, enjoy your ride back to backwardness, hopefully, you'll learn from this sad experience and make better decisions next time..

You said "Governance is building on your predecessor's good achievements, ....."
I like the word "good" in your comment so, what will happen to the bad achievements and misdeeds?



Look, you're not from Imo State so you don't understand what's really going on there. Rochas deserves to be jailed and allow all the stolen monies and properties of the State by the Okorochas retrieved back.

zainaboo19:
no I disagree its only on honey moon a man can sleep with me

Brainwashed idiot, you may remind in your father's house till eternity waiting for money moon with your overused smelling pussy.

Majlaw:
And some fools are here defending Shiite. Pls ask yourself, why una think say d remaining Muslim no join Shiite for dis protest? Pls if u get head, use it wisely

Shut your stinking mouth up, we all know that you Sunni Muslim breeds terrorists and hates Shiite Muslims with passion as commanded by the evil kingdom called Saudi Arabia. This crisis as a result of indefinite detention of that man is nothing but Sunni Muslim's hatred for others .

seunmsg:
Nonsense. Release the man and let us have peace in Abuja. Many people couldn’t go to work or met up with planned appointments today because of the protest. We cannot continue with this kind of nonsense.

El-Zakzaky’s fundamental human rights are being violated by the government. You cannot lock the man up for over four years without conviction or even proper prosecution and expect his followers not to react. The man deserve justice like every other human being. He should be released before the situation gets out of hand.

But when Nnamdi Kanu was being detained by the same demonic buhari, you celebrated and even cheered and encouraged him castrate him, lock him up indefinitely and throw the keys into ocean. So what are you talking about now?


Anyways, buhari must release the man and allow Shiites practise their brand of same devilish and occultic religion called Islam.

Biety:
Another lie to deceive the gulible




If you believe this then you'll believe me if I tell you Donald Trump is not the president of America.
Is it kingibe that'll be close to 80yrs by 2023, Buhari or anyone reasonable person would suport?
For all we know,the presidency is returning to South after 2023 and SW is the destination,SE or anybody from any region is free to contest though but SW have done enough to earn it and we shall surely get it.

Continue living in self-denial...

maybachmusic:
They do in the east though


Wit their singing bands

Try to get sense naaa, someone pointed out that you can only see an Igbo beggar on the condition that he or she is not medically ok cos of some kind rare sickness which he cannot treat immediately as a result of financial lack. Those blind "beggars" with band are not beggars to say, they're entertainers from blind people's school so they go about entertaining people and in appreciation people gives them some little money. FYI, those guys are rich guys with with different music albums to their credit.
They didn't let their disabilities cut down their talents.
They're not beggars.

sexymoma:
Don't be deceived..
They were told to act for them to trend
They were told to act like they don't like each other
They were told to bring up some fuss within themselves so bbnaija will trend on places like Instagram, instablog, even nairaland... Ebuka is a liar, bbanaija is full of lies, pretense and deceit.. That's why most of them easily go into acting cos they've been trained.. A won were alaso

I don't watch that shit nd I don't comment on its topic and this is my first time to.... na you just spoke wetin I dey suspect since. Kudos!