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You should be happy jor. He decided that the car is a bigger problem to fix. That means, you are not an urgent problem in his life.... Isn't that something to be happy about?

franchasng:
you are wrong, women are wired differently.


Women don't see anything wrong in marrying a single father or marrying as second or 3rd wife. Ladies even prefer to marry older men to younger guys.


Ask yourself why don't men agree to marry a woman with husband already and live in same house with her and the first & second husbands

Everyday we read and hear about educated, mature, classy, rich career ladies and also poor, young, vulnerable, broke girls happily marrying men as 2nd or 3rd wives, do we hear or read same about men marrying ladies with husband as 2nd or 3rd husband living together


Women and men are wired to act, think, reason and respond to life issues differently, that is the diversity of human race; don't force men to be like women, and as a woman don't force yourself to be like men or act like men, these are the mistakes modern feminists and gender equality proponents are making today

That is your reasoning. Many women who marry such men don't like sharing. They scheme and plan behind each others backs to have his total attention and dedication. Don't be deceived if a woman decides to marry a second hand husband, she knows exactly why she is doing it and it's not simply because she is wired to marry and share him.
Men in some communities around the world practice polyandry (excuse the spelling) where 2 or more men marry 1 woman. That men don't share women is a cultural thing. Hence you find some cultures where they see no qualm in an 80 Yr old man having sex with an 8yr old child cos he has "married" her. Culture ingrains what is acceptable or not in people. If you grew up in a place where men are groomed to just be sperm donor and have nothing more to do in life, you will accept it as natural and if you even try to reject it and deviate, you will be punished and forced to tow the line and that is how women have been conditioned from birth by our culture and societies.
And yes, I would not advise
women to bieve that they are same as men in biology but they are as valuable on earth as any man hence the equality in both. My daughterd are equal in value as my sons. Yet they are different in build. That is a fact every woman should know and teach her kids.

franchasng:
my sister, I agree with all you wrote, my problem is with men who willingly marry single mothers, maybe God do give them the courage in order to give single mothers a second chance of happiness because I can't imagine how a single man will see all the amazing single ladies all over the world and decide to marry a single mother, na wa, men de sha

Nothing much different between marrying a single mom and a single dad. He married her most likely cos he himself is a komkom man. No sane woman will do much to please him. So he settled for a single mom who sees him as her messiah and does everything to keep a man due to her belief that she is not a prized cow anymore.

franchasng:
Honestly some men deserve a big accolade and I mean diamond award because they are trying. No matter how good I am, there is a limit to what I can do, I cannot marry a single mother with a child talk more of 2 children, even if she is an angel, the fact that she has 2 children from another man will not allow me see the goodness in her to the extent of marrying her.


Op should not destroy her new marriage with her own hands, I know it hurts but honestly the man cannot bear it and it's quite understandable to me.


Pocohantas I hope you read the op's story before condemning the man The op had 2 kids before her husband married her and she wants the new husband to happily accept the 2 kids as his, that's marrying 3 persons at once, which man can accept that Biologically men are not wired to be that way lol

Deserve big accolade because he did what?What did he do that other men have never done in the history of creation? Is she a lepper? Did she steal? She rub shit for body? What accolade does he deserve? Look well now he himself is like vommit that other women have rejected but this woman closed eye to marry him because of her impatience. Its all these condemn men that miss behave up and down. Demanding accolade as if they are worth anything.
Better to not marry her than marry her and then start acting up. No one forced him to accept her in the first place. Women are not biogically wired to live with other women's kids too but we expect them to accept their spouse's kids so it's not about wiring but about character.

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

Yinmu! The hypocrisy in this earth that leads many Nigerians to hell. If those were the man's kids and he makes thus post complaining of his wife not wanting his kids it's still same hypocritical enemies of man's soul that will call her all kinds of unprintable names. But now that a woman needs a home for her son, you hypocrites will not accept that her child is like his own child and should be treated with love and care.

PFRB:
So it is now that you know that you are not running a democracy.

LoL politricks is exhausting o.

If presidency is given... Then we ain't running true democracy in Nigeria. What am I saying šef, where is democracy in the fact that you are forced to pick 1 out of 2 people chosen by the top elites who run the ship. How is that democracy? Plus peoe are so zombified they can not see the true situation of things and demand for better people to be presented to them rather they act helpless saying oh, I'd vote for the flea I stead of Bubu or I'd vote for the goat instead of GEJ. Fool why must you settle for the flea or got? How do you deciebe yourselves to think its democracy you are practicing?

spirul77:
Gosh, a family member was exposed to coronavirus in her school in Poland, the teenage highschool girl was informed that her classmate who visited her friend from Italy is sick this morning, please join us in prayers this girl is not infected because they are very close friends and made some contacts yesterday in class, the whole family is devastated on hearing this news now.

We shall put her in our prayers. It shall be well.

Pedophilia is legal if her legal male guardian agrees. It is part of their faith.

Nigerians pretending to be shocked yet only a few can swear that they have not sexually exploited underage kids. Hypocrites. How is he any different from you all raping kids everyday?

This man is a clown someone that did not take the matter serious when it was first hitting the US? He said it was conspiracy to dethrone him and there was no cause for alarm.

He reminds me of Bubu. Always blaming others for anything negative even the ones that happen because of their own ignorance

It's all good

Mac2016:
It is allowed everywhere.. It's not a taboo at all as many ignoramuses deem it to be.
Even bible also allows it... We are the ones trying to be overly cultural by creating a new standard...
Also thinking outside of the present day box, you will realise that we are all brothers even... Adam & Eve.

Although inbreeding has a higher tendency to sustain heriditary medical issues

No where did it say that God said its OK in the bible but people practiced it cos that was how best they could manage not to marry women from other tribes.

There are many things not directly discouraged or chastised in the bible eg when lots daughters made him drunk, had sex with him and got pregnant for him. The fact that it happened in the bible and went unponished doesn't make it acceptable practice does it? Even the same Bible spoke against those acts ie sleeping with one's sister, father, father inlaw, stealing etc but we have cases in the bible where those said to be walking closely with God did those same things and were not punished for it.

famouscargo4u:
It is allowed in Fulani culture.

Abraham married his fathers daughter ie half sister and many men from the bible married their relatives too.

OP, refund my MB before I vex and something crazy happen o.

Nothing new there na. Men have been known to marry 15 and date even more. So 8 side niggars for a woman who doesn't want to eat your boring egwusi soup for the rest of her life shouldn't make you cry.

and then put them in the midst of "repentant" boko haram members to mock fight the 1st born of the elites of Nigeria

Make una no worry, 1 month down, 5 more to go.

The govnr. go soon get his own fire soon. Not that I support anyone of them at the moment sha. Me I am just a messanger watching this drama unfold.

You were his maga. Confess to your parents and decide if returning home is the best option for you. Unfortunately you did not even go to the scho they sent you so if you stay back in the abroad, you will be doing ogwaja job unless you know how to hussle which I doubt cos even as you were chasing penis up and down, you still did not mention having any job at hand. So your time was spent between penis and having fun.

If only those prisoners were cows or BH or Fulani herds men.

They can't even do CPR. This is sad.

OK o. I will look into that.

SpecialAgent:
Even na to spite gandollar, I go vote Sanusi as well, d guy knows how to deal with northern elites well well, unlike Buhari who just dey waka up & down

That was how Bubu entered there. You guys vote to spite not vote to progress.

NaijaRoyalty:
I will vote him over Tinubu

OK, tinubu aside, do you think Sanusi will make a great leader?

TheGiftedOne:
... Because not all things are meant for the public.

More like why do women flaunt their newborns and not where it can me out from

Keep secret things secret and public things public

Why do men flaunt their moms and not where they poled out from? Why do men flaunt their dads and not where he squirted them from?
Why do men proudly flaunt their newborn sons claiming to be good scorers but don't show us the tool they used to score?

Eddygourdo:
keep quiet there. Discuss the issue at hand and keep ur childish myopic bias to yourself.

Yes sir!

wisdomkid:
Either you don't know how to joke, or you're too foolish to be online.

Yes sir!

ursullalinda:
Don't go there oh.....I know a man that brings different women into his matrimonial home....both sex are guilty.

Exactly what I was trying to say in a different way.

why are my quotes angry na?

kay29000:
When women start paying groom price, and doing 99% of the spending in the house, they can do as they like.

Yinmu. It's still the man that will cry foul and complain about his wife asking him to wash plates simply because she claims she is tired after returning from work. Nothing woman do wey dey please some men. The only pleasing woman to some men are women in slavery.

doggedfighter:
sarcasm

My dear sister you gorrit, what more can 1 say na

9jatrendz:
Wahala ?? women

Are you minding women? A man can never and has never done such a thing in the history of creation. This is too much to swallow.