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praiseneo:
Hello Nls...
Happy new week to everyone!!
I’m here to share my little story please I’m not a good writer so I’d plead you accept my typos and grammatical errors with love

So I have this babe I’ve been dating for the past 2 years...we were so in love with each other, inseparable, we had plans to get married and have kids. Everything was going fine she is very ambitious hardworking and never settle for less. On my part I am trying my best too in terms of hustling and performing my duties as a guy in the relationship. My girl friend was very supportive financially whenever i get broke she make sure I never lack I also do the same too.

Along the line I started noticing changes in her attitude towards me( this time I was extremely broke) she doesn’t do any chores at home whenever she’s around she will watch me cook, wash the plates, sweep the house (even carry leg up for me) while she sit and chat. I never took it personal at first, after all it’s not a bad thing if I do these things. But it became a constant thing and I told her but she started yelling and telling me it’s my right to do it what if she’s not around. That’s when I knew something is wrong somewhere. My girl friend lost her respect for me gradually because I couldn’t cater for her needs anymore she was the one spending....one day I stumbled on her phone and saw her chat with her best friend where she reported me to her and insulted me blue black telling her friend how she’s tired of me, how she’s never gonna settle down with me, how she is thinking of dating a married man to take care of her, how I’m useless etc. I saw these things and kept quiet I didn’t show it that I saw anything. I still played and gist with her if she’s in the mood.
Fast forward to one day she chated me on whatsapp saying she want an end to the relationship and we are not good for each other because I’m lacking behind and she’s no more a kid. She needs to make reschedule her life and take right decisions, then we spiting was on of her right decisions. She blocked me and warned me never to call her line again. I was pained I cried I was extremely hurt because I didn’t have anyone else I felt like shiit I became depressed and fvcked up totally. My friends came to my aid stayed with me and helped me to stop thinking....thankfully it worked cos I was spending time with them we go out drink, have fun, gist laugh etc. it was exactly four weeks after she left I played a bet 9ja game staking 500naira just 15 games to win 5.6million naira. Lo and behold the game ticket won. My people I wan mad I won N5.6m that was my 5th time of playing it I’m not really a player like that except I’m forced to. I went to their office and I was credited I sat down in my house with broad smile always knowing I’m a millionaire. I thought of calling her but my friends wouldn’t allow me then I thought of what she did to me and decided to lock up and I was like fvck it. I don’t know if taking her back is a good option or should I just move on with my life.
(She doesn’t know my status yet)

Nothing new in this story. Males dump women and females dump males. Good on you that you won that money. Pls move on with your life and don't take her back. Invest your winnings wisely.

What has age difference got to do with rape? Should he have raped the reporters under aged daughter ni? What a bastard statement.

Any rapist caught in the act or proven without doubt to have violently raped any one, male or female should be burnt.

Nigeria is a joke at the moment.

They are recruiting death machines for when another civil war will burst. They have placed their men in strategic places.

Makavelli25:
Space booked.
Mention me when its on fp

It has hit front page o. Oya comeback and speak your mind oooo

PHijo:
The signs are always there!
It is only ignorant and desperate women that will follow such men to their home countries.
On the contrary, you have limited knowledge on this issue. These guys go for women they know will be dependent. How often do you hear women working in blue chip companies follow such men?

Their victims are mostly whores or very young, ignorant women.

You have a point there but, any woman blinded by love can fall victim. Although the majority of them are law breakers. I see that those women were made to break the law by overstaying their visas and boom! Their troubles begin. I once saw a Naija man in a village in Eastern Europe in this same wahala. He was looking for a way to cross into western Europe. The thing I see is that they look for women who are interested in trying their luck abroad. Of course top executives will not leave their livelihood to go start afresh abroad. They don't have to do much to get whores to travel abroad. My worry is for naive women. Even if those girls are whores, they do not deserve to be abused.

hammerU:
I just wanted to add the bold of this advice below here for OP. It is from a woman and I really got hooked on it.


She should take both of them and be strong.

It's the regular advise women are given na. You have not said anything fantastically new.

PHijo:
Virtually all of them are less educated or gold diggers. I wonder what they think when tell follow white men abroad!

Most white women ( except they meet you in Africa). Will insist you remain with them in their country.

Our desperate women, with only sex to offer, elope with oyibo at the slightest opportunity.

What most of them fail to realise is that, if all a man gets from you is sex, you are not different from the prostitutes they meet along the streets.

Spending on African women in West or East Africa is for the most part not expensive. When these men finally get to Germany or some other Western country, they count the cost of maintaining their "exotic animals " and get pissed off!

That's what causes much of these atrocities.

Stop being ignorant. Those guys knew what they wanted. Even if those women were skilled and ready to pull their weight by getting jobs and earning decent living in their host country, those men would block them so that they will be in total control. You guys have this deep hatred for your Nigerian women it's so sad and such a shame.

DKM123:
I don't blame this girls. We see our men even following old grandmas and marrying them just to go to the abroad. They thought they were in love and were going to have a better life abroad and there is nothing wrong with that. It is the devilish men who maltreated them that should rot in hell.

Wise comment. Some black men hate their women so my h that they rejoice over any evil that befalls them.


@Topic, it just goes to show that anyone visiting the abroad must know the laws concerning immigration and follow them. Do not break the rule. These users will make you break the rule and then hold you captive with threats. If you don't achieve your aim while legal, pack and move unless you plan to leave your sponsor and hussle on your own.

tiredoflife:
Lies

#Yinmu

FuckBots:
Haba, shut up for once na!

You won't close your mouth.. Cho cho cho cho cho...

chai! Na only me get all that beating? For speaking the truth? It's well o.

mbos:
yes but He is the King of Igwe Ocha not PortHarcourt

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The king of Alumili, the Ohazurumee VIII, HRM Onyenweal Igwuocha, condemned the Federal Government for treating the people of the old Eastern Region, particularly Ndigbo, as conquered slaves.

Ahuzurumee means the same in Ikwerre-igbo and ala-igbo

“We can’t live together. We have been living for over 500 years and that is the reason the Ezes, the real owners of Biafra, land have stood up and said enough is enough! This thing has to stop and what we need is Biafra!”

Yes, they were mixed with igbos until the split. Into Imo and rivers. But I don't know if the people considered themselves as 1. After all, Nigeria was not 1 in the past. So people from all regions might not believe that they are the same with their neighbours. Na amalgamation make them relate as 1 people.

Marshalldrezzy:
Wtf
Port Harcourt is never an Igbo state be warned we ain't Igbo....

But back in the day, before the creation of Rivers, PH was part of Imo. It was Igbo even though the dialect was a bit different.

Asquare84:
What of if the waste collector decide to hand it over to ritualist

Very possible. Just as those women porters in female hostels sell used sanitary pads from the hosted toilets to ritualists. Ma steady backyard business for many educational institutions in naija.

The thing is, if you are worried about it, pray or investigate and get them arrested. If you don't believe in the efficacy of such things then don't think that far.

Even amazon never wrap product and ship like this.

PH is not Igbo. They are majorly ikwerre

This one that bleaching chemicals have affected her brain?

danelson007:
Eeya. The ant infested wood u people packed is hunting u. Call the army please

Don't worry, when your neighbours house is on fire and you don't help put it out, with time it will spread to yours by then it will be too hot to handle. Today those guys are claiming the North, they will slowly advance to other parts of the country. By then, they would have been too powerful to combat. They are wise. They knew Muslims will support their inception cos they thought only heatjens(non Muslims) will be their targets. The Muslims never raised their voices against them when they started by bombing and burning churches. They turned their faces in religious Intera će and bigotry and acted like they did not notice. Then they gained underground acceptance and became strong. Afterwards they implemented their real agenda. To take over power from both Muslims and Christians.. So they started attacking anyone in their path. Taking advantage of the anger of non Muslims, that non Muslims will say oh well, since you guys were supporting them killing us, now the fire you set in your neighbours farm has crossed into yours.... Deal with it. The non Muslims simply look the other way in tribalism as they take over the North and advance south. Gosh, these guys are smarter than others
No wonder they Re succeeding.

Marlins joined in matrimony

Why do you keep going whenever he calls? Why do you respond calmly when he talks rudely? Why doesn't the care taker confront him? That guy babalawos strong sha.

shineeye1:
You are misguided. The settings are never the same for woman as with man. There is no natural, moral, cultural or spiritual basis for comparison

Co's na you be God wey make human beings. Lol. If it Ai t natural, it would not happen. If it happens means it's natural. Cultural, spiritual etc are made by man. Priests are by tradition told to remain single and celebrate, nuns are told to remain chaste but that is tradition and beliefs, culture.

You are not spirit, you are not God so don't say anything about what you did not create. The only upperha d men have is that they are physically stronger than women. Plus they are more organised than women. Just as white man is using his early start to hold onto power behaving as if nature designed him to be superior to colored people. Anyhow, I wasn't comparing. If men can be tempted and fall, why is it a great shock of a woman is also tempted and falls! Is she not flesh and blood after all?

itsme01:
Edo State/Benin is a tiny kingdom, Yoruba have many kingdoms, Edo and Benin are less than 5 million including your sisters in Italy Yoruba are over 41 million spreading across two geopolitical zone, 2 countries and two continent

Please don't insult us by comparing us to Benin, because its insulting

Chai! Chaiiii! This one is sizzling hot.

PapalsBull:
Truer words has never been said. On point, bro, on point.

The man can as well divorce 2 out of the 3 remaining and go ahead to replace them. Maybe each of these divorce wives gave birth to 4 or 5 children each. Apart from wicked step mothers, man maybe a cobbler making 500 daily.

Exactly.

hammerU:
Naija women, i fear una but i know run.

I dey gidigbam for ground..

At least, una Don dey know how e dey pain for body when una do am to una wives. See how heartbreaking cheating is? That is what women have been forced to accept as normal in their marriages.
The man should go and pray, he should not let Satan tear his home. After all, it rains everywhere.

hammerU:
Still no condemnation.


This na their best response so far.


Wat about the Sisters in Christ and Mother Theresa?

Condemn what na? If it was a woman that left her home to go work in another town leaving her husband with house help, who later gets pregnant for the oga, will you guys not see reason with the man and blame his wife even if she was the major bread winner? Why should I use my pant as helmet cos a wife was the offender here? All the ones men are commiting, has the world stopped moving?

Nothing new under the sun na. Men impregnate house helps up and down yet the world asnt ended.

Cos he knows that the answer to almajiri will mean they can't Mary and divorce at the rate their religion accepts for them to.

Almajiri is caused by poor people marrying numerous wives and birthing kids they can not care for. A man marries 4 wives, he gets tired of them(since his religion permits him to explore vaginas) he divorces 1 by saying so 3 times, kicks her out and brings in a new wife. Now his ex leaves her kids behind, goes to marry a new man. These innocent kids run away from the evil step mothers and go live in the streets, Almajiri is born. To curb it, the sexual excesses of the men esp as regards marrying numerous women they can not care for will be cut. These men will not agree.

No regrets. But I miss the naija vibe sha..

Good job. I applaud this

I'm sure she's your mammy-wata comrade that's why you're defending her so vehemently.
Birds of the same feather...onyeda

We have heard, same way cain and Abel were sons of Adam, Joseph and his brothers were sons of Israel.