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Autos / Re: Who Knows A Credible Shipping Agent In Ontario Canada? by Delta007(m): 5:45am On Feb 26, 2011
There are lots of them. If you an in Toronto, you can pick up one of those Nigerian papers where Nigerian affiliated businesses are advertised.

If you are planning to ship a vehicle, you may have to share a container with someone. Unless you have to, cross the bother and ship from the US/
Autos / Re: Nissan Maxima 2004 And 2005 by Delta007(m): 9:38pm On Feb 24, 2011
@OP, I have a 2004 Maxima SL (fully loaded with leather, Bose, 6 CD changer, etc and new brakes - shoes and rotors) that have been sitting in my garage for a few months now. I had planned to ship to Nigeria late last year but the original buyer changed his mind. You pay $8k plus $1100 for shipping and I'd ship. You can handle the clearing on the other end. If interested with this arrangement, feel free to reply.
Autos / Re: Brand New 2001 Volkswagen For 1.4m (location Of Car In Enugu) by Delta007(m): 9:44pm On Feb 21, 2011
Bizzy:

Do you know the meaning of "brand new"?
Autos / Re: Deposit Refunded. by Delta007(m): 7:57pm On Feb 21, 2011
eros:

Wow! ! ! This is really sad. I don't think i want to be caught up in this pre-order mess when i get my next ride very soon.

This shouldn't be happening to the 007. I pray you redeem yourself soon. I still believe in you.

I hope the young man straightens up; but believe in him at your own risk. He is not called "JB" for no reason!
Autos / Re: AMERICAN SPECS TOYOTA CAMRY (OROBO) UNBELIEVABLE PRICE,DONT MISS IT by Delta007(m): 7:55pm On Feb 21, 2011
lomaxbien:

because you haven't seen one, doesn't mean it doesn't exist
iv seen cars with lower mileage and even older than 15 years

@NL
still available
Yeah right. . .!
Travel / Re: Travelling To Canada by Delta007(m): 7:43pm On Feb 21, 2011
guddylover:

@house,please i want to know if i can lodge my application pretty soon,like March or April latest,i already have my offer letter and other documents.
The earlier the better.
Autos / Re: AMERICAN SPECS TOYOTA CAMRY (OROBO) UNBELIEVABLE PRICE,DONT MISS IT by Delta007(m): 1:19pm On Feb 21, 2011
Not trying to spoil your market but how does a 15+ year old car (Camry, not even an exotic brand) have 120k miles only? Some of you follks are quite delusional.
Family / Why You (ladies) Are Not Married by Delta007(m): 6:29pm On Feb 17, 2011
The Huffington Post
FEBRUARY 16, 2011


Tracy McMillanTV writer, Mad Men, United States of Tara
Posted: February 13, 2011 07:28 PM

Why You're Not Married

You want to get married. It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor.

You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box.

Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother's wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride -- she was so effing happy -- and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you're not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering,  Deep, deep breath,  Why you're not married.

Well, I know why.

How? It basically comes down to this: I've been married three times. Yes, three. To a very nice MBA at 19; a very nice minister's son at 32 (and pregnant); and at 40, to a very nice liar and cheater who was just like my dad, if my dad had gone to Harvard instead of doing multiple stints in federal prison.

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married. Growing up in foster care is a big part of it. The need for security made me look for very specific traits in the men I dated -- traits it turns out lead to marriage a surprisingly high percentage of the time. Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships -- someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.

But I won't lie. The problem is not men, it's you. Sure, there are lame men out there, but they're not really standing in your way. Because the fact is -- if whatever you're doing right now was going to get you married, you'd already have a ring on it. So without further ado, let's look at the top six reasons why you're not married.

1. You're a #$%$*.
Here's what I mean by #$%$*. I mean you're angry. You probably don't think you're angry. You think you're super smart, or if you've been to a lot of therapy, that you're setting boundaries. But the truth is you're pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it's scaring men off.

The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them. I am the mother of a 13-year-old boy, which is like living with the single-cell protozoa version of a husband. Here's what my son wants out of life: macaroni and cheese, a video game, and Kim Kardashian. Have you ever seen Kim Kardashian angry? I didn't think so. You've seen Kim Kardashian smile, wiggle, and make a sex tape. Female anger terrifies men. I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man's fear and insecurity in order to get married -- but actually, it's perfect, since working around a man's fear and insecurity is big part of what you'll be doing as a wife.

2. You're Shallow.
When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man's character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you're not married, I already know it isn't. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit.

Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Or someone who knows what an Eames chair is. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.

3. You're a Slut.
Hooking up with some guy in a hot tub on a rooftop is fine for the ladies of Jersey Shore -- but they're not trying to get married. You are. Which means, unfortunately, that if you're having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin -- it doesn't stay recreational for long.

That's due in part to this thing called oxytocin -- a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an heavenly feeling -- that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It's why you can be be intimate with-buddying with some dude who isn't even all that great and the next thing you know, you're totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that's how it happened. And since nature can't discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you're going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.

4. You're a Liar.
It usually goes something like this: you meet a guy who is cute and likes you, but he's not really available for a relationship. He has some condition that absolutely precludes his availability, like he's married, or he gets around town on a skateboard. Or maybe he just comes right out and says something cryptic and open to interpretation like, "I'm not really available for a relationship right now."

You know if you tell him the truth -- that you're ready for marriage -- he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don't want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don't want to get in a relationship at all! You swear!
About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don't tell him that. That's your secret -- just between you and 22,000 of your closest girlfriends. Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can't live without you. I have news: he will never "figure" this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn't be lying to him in the first place.

5. You're Selfish.
If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don't have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy -- or at least a guy with a really, really good job -- would solve all your problems.

Howevs, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: #$%$*, hello! It's not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say -- if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.

6. You're Not Good Enough.
Oh, I don't think that. You do. I can tell because you're not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job.

Here is what you need to know: You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don't know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won't love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.

I see this at my son's artsy, progressive school. Of 183 kids, maybe six have moms who are as cute as you're trying to be. They're attractive, sure. They're just not objects. Their husbands (wisely) chose them for their character, not their cup size.

Alright, so that's the bad news. The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.

Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something -- it's about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession -- a free-agent manliness -- and for us, it's the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.

The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don't deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway -- because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self -- you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along:
Love.



Tracy McMillan is a TV writer whose credits include Mad Men and The United States of Tara. Her memoir I Love You and I'm Leaving You Anyway is now available in paperback from Harper Collins/It Books. She lives in Los Angeles with her 13-year-old son. Follow her on Twitter.


Follow Tracy McMillan on Twitter: www.twitter.com/whyurnotmarried

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Family / Re: Wedding's Night by Delta007(m): 7:15pm On Feb 15, 2011
I think this subject is overrated. After all the stress of planning the wedding and the wedding itself, most times, the couple is worn out and they snooze off within minutes.
Family / Re: Sexual Harasment In Higher Institutions by Delta007(m): 2:35pm On Feb 14, 2011
Before you do anything, you need to check your daughter's grades right from 100 level. Has she been doing well or just scraping by? If it's the latter, there's a high probability that your daughter is playing with your intelligence. You may want to investigate your daughter's activities in school. Hopefully you are not suprised but do not put anything past her. What some "angel-sent" daughters do on the campus, you will not believe. You may also want to investigate the said lecturer to see if this is a trend. It's easy to get information in Nigeria if you are serious about it.

If you are absolutely sure that your daughter is on the right, then set the lecturer up. Let your daughter go see him again and record the conversation on her cell phone; that way, you can take it up. This has to be planned properly.
Travel / Re: Where To Buy Computer Equipment In Dubai by Delta007(m): 11:50pm On Feb 08, 2011
simarhyel:

Hi all,
where can one buy computer equipment very cheap in bulk in Dubai

Dunno but I can hook you up with bulk orders at a much better price than you'd get in Dubai. We source directly in the US and Canada. Shoot me an email salesATjonitivecomputers.com with the specs and quantity you want.
Travel / Re: Studying In Canada by Delta007(m): 11:03pm On Feb 07, 2011
Autos / Re: Nissan Pathfinder 2005 For Sale(pics) by Delta007(m): 1:30am On Feb 07, 2011
It's not an '05. The VIN should be able to tell you the exact year.

Goodluck with your sale.
Family / Re: Am Chris ,i Need A Wife This Year ,she Sud Be From Akwa-ibom State by Delta007(m): 2:43pm On Feb 04, 2011
essti:

AM CHRIS BY NAME
AGE-- 34,A CIVIL SERVANT AND DOING VERY VERY WELL,RESIDING IN ISOLO AREA OF LAGOS, FROM AKWA-IBOM STATE, AVERAGE HEIGHT AND SWEET TO BE WITH,LIKE I SAID AM 34 AND I REALLY WANT TO SETTLE DOWN THIS YEAR,BY GOD'S GRACE BEFORE AUG/SEPT THIS YEAR,AV GOT ALL IT TAKES TO BE A GUD HUSBAND AND A GOOD CARING FATHER,I NEED A FAMILY OF MY OWN.I REALLY NEED A GODFEARING WOMAN,WITHIN AGES 25-33, SHE SHOULD BE A GRADUATE AND WORKING,PREFERABLY A LADY FROM AKWA-IBOM BUT SUD BE BASED IN LAGOS OR NOT TOO FAR AWAY,SHE SUD BE SLIM FITTED AND OF AVERAGE HEIGHT.
SERIOUS MINDED WOMEN CAN TEXT OR CALL ME ON
07030821388 OR 08123345549,IF U DNT AV ENOF CREDIT TO CALL AND U FIT MY REQUIREMENTS,JUST SEND A MESSAGE AND I WILL CALL YOU BACK.
I WILL SPOIL WHO I FINALLY GET TO FALL IN LOVE WITH,BELIEVE ME AM A REAR GUY TO FIND
GOD BLESS
Did you get a job yet?
I read computer science ,and finished with a third class,presently in search of a small job to get doing ,
so i cud go for certifications,but even those small jobs aint forth coming,this lagos can be so frustrating,
abeg any one who cud assist with a job no matter how small,, my email is estybeky@gmail.com
or if u cud halla me 08058322924.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=594918.msg7626108#msg7626108
Travel / Re: Travelling To Canada by Delta007(m): 2:42am On Feb 04, 2011
benom:

Hi Charlie & Delta, How's the cold in Canada. Its really freezing here in MI. Could you please hit me up on nexxibenom@yahoo.com. I have some very personal discussion that can't go on the thread. Maybe we could chat on phone from then on.
MI as in Michigan?

Anyway, I just shot you an email. I hope you are doing fine, !
Autos / Re: *WELCOME TO NIGERIA> ONE OF THE RAREST CAMRY'S EVER> Preorderd For Mykalls Of NL by Delta007(m): 11:29pm On Feb 03, 2011
@German, you sure say those pics are from Warri? Cos the "before" pics look more like Warri . . .jk grin

Good you were able to deliver on this. cool
Autos / Re: *WELCOME TO NIGERIA> ONE OF THE RAREST CAMRY'S EVER> Preorderd For Mykalls Of NL by Delta007(m): 7:12pm On Feb 03, 2011
mykalls:

Abeg refresh my thread. E don pass one month since you comment on am.
So mykalls, did the vessel arrive? Just curious, cos the "after pictures" are missing from the "before and after series"
Technology Market / Re: LAPTOPS: HP Pavilion(DV,TX),Apple,Toshiba,Dell,etc - Clearance Sales (HOT DEALS) by Delta007(m): 6:40pm On Feb 03, 2011
emcemayo:

hp mini d one wit 250g wanna no your best price i nid a blue one
How many are you looking to purchase?
Autos / Re: An appeal to a JB NL Dealer by Delta007(m): 3:21pm On Feb 03, 2011
Piedpiper:

03.02.11
My camry left lagos last weekend according to JB the honest,trust worthy,dealer of all dealer of NL andmore than 10 days after the car is still in transit to PH shocked. This business man claims he bought me a good car and so I should be patient , now tells me
1) The fuel pump failed lst week at Ore. sad
2) He bought a replacement pump and put in my ''nice car" and it still failed
3) He has now replaced the coil and ignition but still, angry

This character has no shame,lies and is fraudulent. I am sure when I mention his name some silly, backside wipes are going to come to his defence I do not carry a gun but since he is licensed grin
, in my usual way I will wait this week through. I told JB I was coming to Lagos on Monday and he conviniently landed in Warri on a business trip.How does one go about trusting anybody for a preorder after this?

Monitor 1, Inspired man, Carshopper, Femmmmy,Kunle A. , Una siddon de look?
I guess we posted almost at same time,

Interesting account; atleast mention who JB is so that other buyers may be alot more cautious.

P.S. I think I know who he is as I got some "backdoor" info about your ordeal but since I'm just a third party, I can only encourage you to come forward.
Autos / Re: An appeal to a JB NL Dealer by Delta007(m): 3:17pm On Feb 03, 2011
Piedpiper:

Well people. I crave your indulgence once again. Since the dissappointment of yesterday said dealer JB has called and appealed for more time till wednesday next week. This is as a result of his agent being unable to bring the car in from cotonou for the past one month.
The gist here as he told it is that customs only give a pass for vehicles to come in on certain days. Never mind that 30 days has already elapsed since the supposed clearance of the same car in benin republic.
Long story short he has appealed, others have called on his behalf and wednesday 2.2.2011 has been agreed as the delivery date. Some asked why I let him off the hook this time and I replied that so it would be clear to all concerned and who read my expose if and when I decide to write him up that this JB fellow is a low life,fraudster and cheat not deserving of any protection.
A reputation is hard to build,so yesterday in order to save mine I bought a camry for my young friend who entrusted his money to me. I did this at a personal loss of 75k. I still have to bear the cost of registration of the new car also because I had also done one which JB has turned into a long thing.
I have just two questions for the house though, does it take a month at the border to cross in a vehicle cleared in cotonou? And where on planet earth can you ship a fully paid up vehicle for four months?
The answer they say is blowing in the wind.
Till wednesday 2.2.2011. 5months and 4 days after payment.
So did you get your vehicle?
Technology Market / Re: LAPTOPS: HP Pavilion(DV,TX),Apple,Toshiba,Dell,etc - Clearance Sales (HOT DEALS) by Delta007(m): 7:57pm On Feb 02, 2011
Delta007:

Two HP laptops left.
All have been sold.

Look out for some more of our clearance items in a few weeks.

Feel free to contact us to place orders. Although our main clients are wholesalers and corporate bodies (contracts, banks, firms, etc), we also look after smaller orders. In the end, we pass the cost savings from bulk ordering to you!
Technology Market / Re: LAPTOPS: HP Pavilion(DV,TX),Apple,Toshiba,Dell,etc - Clearance Sales (HOT DEALS) by Delta007(m): 1:55pm On Feb 02, 2011
lynxnoon:

@delta
do u have HP Envy 14 with an in-built mobile broadband module?
No we do not have any in Nigeria at the moment. How many do you want? Pls shoot an email to salesATjonitivecomputers.com with your specs, quantity, city for delivery and timeline.
Technology Market / Re: LAPTOPS: HP Pavilion(DV,TX),Apple,Toshiba,Dell,etc - Clearance Sales (HOT DEALS) by Delta007(m): 2:11pm On Feb 01, 2011
Delta007:

Two HP laptops left.
cool
Travel / Re: Spouse Visa/indefinate Leave To Remain(uk) by Delta007(m): 11:55pm On Jan 30, 2011
@Concrete:
I'm guessing you are applying for your husband's Canadian PR thru Accra. The timelines for spousal sponsorship has improved and a few people are getting their spouses' PRs in less than 6mths. You may want to look into this instead of burning cash.
Travel / Re: Is A Transit Visa Needed Enroute Usa To Canada: ? Pls Help Dear Nairalanders by Delta007(m): 10:55pm On Jan 30, 2011
@OP,
If you are travelling on a Nigerian passport and transiting thru the US, you need a US Visa.

You can use KLM,Air France,BA,Lufthansa,etc.
Family / Re: It Works! Know Whether U Are Having A Boy Or A Girl Without An Ultrasound! by Delta007(m): 1:20am On Jan 30, 2011
Rubbish. That means on certain days, there should be only girls born in the world, same with boys. We all know it's not true.

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Technology Market / Re: LAPTOPS: HP Pavilion(DV,TX),Apple,Toshiba,Dell,etc - Clearance Sales (HOT DEALS) by Delta007(m): 11:30pm On Jan 29, 2011
sholatech:

Delta007,
I bought HP tx1 from you in 2009.
I need HP Tm2. Do you have in stock?
Hi sholatech:

Happy new year. I remember you. The last of our TM2s were purchased by a firm in Benin. However, I can ship in one for you. Please email me at sales@jonitivecomputers.com with your number and I'd contact you.
Technology Market / Re: Dv6 Needed! by Delta007(m): 4:26am On Jan 29, 2011
I got something for you. Check page 4 on this thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-134252.0.html
Princeofilorin:

I need a DV6 with the following specs

500GB Hard Drive
4GB RAM
NVIDEA or ATI GRAPHICS CARD with at least 512 dedicated graphics memory
Fingerprint reader
Silver colour
Intel i3,i5 or i7 or AMD phenom II processor

NOTE:it can be either brand new or slightly used

CALL 07030237175
Autos / Re: *ITS A QUATTRO* Its The 007 * 2003 Audi A6 Quattro* Preordered By Cne010 Of NL** by Delta007(m): 9:41pm On Jan 27, 2011
German, just curious, do you source these Bimmers and Audis directly from Germany or from the US? For some reason, I thought you sourced the first couple of Bimmers you sold on NL from Europe.

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