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luminouz:
You guys are funny sha...
How is a man supposed to report this kinda issue to people? Does it even sound manly to tell your father/mother in-law to tell their daughter to fuq you well?

A marriage of just 2 years and na sex matter u go dey report for her parents or pastor or whoever. Thats downright demeaning.

He should man up and deal with her like other posters said...reporting to her people makes it much worse

Or better still reporting to her people is to signal the last straw that will break the camel's back... Separation.
Reporting issues of sex and performing her duties is wasting time and will drag the matter unnecessarily. As soon as she begins to weaponise sex, she should immediately begin to lose the right she has as a wife.
Every silly action should receive immediate repercussions.

The wife @ 28 is acting like say na girlfriend she dey do.

baralatie:
the best way now is not for the man to suffer in silence!
make the issue blown out open before people that matter(people she cannot hide from) in a way she is made to understand the end result of the choice she is about to make.either she ends the marriage based on the premise she longer is love with the husband as a result she finds him not loveable or she corrects this anomaly with immediate effect.(not try to make she makes a roundabout turn)
this without throwing trantums in the house

I skipped that. I should have added "report to people that matter to her". OK I get you.

baralatie:
you are just making it worse in the favour of the wife

So what do you recommend? Like I said, I don't have anything to say to the op, but I can't beg for sex. beg ke

@ OP I don't have an advice for you, but when I read Stories like this, I begin to think;

"Should we equally play the game Pound for Pound, Punch for Punch, Blow for Blow ?"

What do I mean?

-Cut off all source of financial responsibilty at the home front except the essentials (rent, utilities etc) that directly has to do with you and your children.
-Keep late nights and Stop asking her for sex.
-Act like you are a single daddy. Take care of your child or children, as the case may be. Take them out regularly and bond with them. Shower that child with love. Spend quality time with them, so that their mother don't paint you black before them. Ignore the woman totally.
-Cook Your Own meals or hire a young beautiful cook to come prepare your meals. Stop eating what she cooks at home.

If she weaponise sex, you weaponise your financial responsibilty and whatever resources she should be getting directly from you as your wife.

If she weaponise cooking for you, you weaponise giving her attention.

If she take away the kids, you use legal means.

Let everyone become brutal and stupid, and watch who will feel the heat.

But Will it even make sense? Will she get back to the program? Will she come back to her senses and have a rethink?

This one no be boyfriend/girlfriend relationship o.
This is marriage we are talking about.

When I hear annoying lines like "she's not in the mood", I begin to ask ; "can the man also not be in the mood to provide?". Wetin I sabi sef

Hmm...

baiaon:
I thought i was the only one that noticed this trend on this forum.Nairaland has quite a number of female and male beta simp moderators who are trying extremely hard to push a narrative to showcase and normalize men as physically and mentally weak while portraying women as all powerful and knowing.Look at the fellow in the link below

https://www.nairaland.com/6263355/find-violent-authoritative-women-very

Bro I saw that post and I came to a conclusion;

"Let us endeavour to train our unborn sons to be Real Men".

The environment and society is already "feminized". There's really nothing much that can be done about it other than teach our sons and young males around us to be the Man and lead.

sweet7oyin:
yhyh
Very true

Some guys saying they have to replace her with another girl to get over her..

Why do u even need to replace her to get over her.
U shoulf choose yourself to get over her not some other girl..

I think the major issue is sex. The testosterone level is high bro.

luminouz:
And this was an era of no internet,mobile phone,cars, planes and other modern stuffs,yet King Solo couldn't find an upright woman in a thousand.

His message is DEEP!


I rest my fuqin case.

This defines and established the unchanging nature of women.

Remember that king Solomon is probably the only man (on record) to have dated the highest number of women from different tribes and cultures. So his conclusion will hardly be out of place.

4gunners:
Do they’ve a script they follow ; This is exactly what I’m experiencing. This babe was the one that even opened up that she likes, though the feeling was mutual, man was occupied with lot of stuff.

It goes back to the same conclusion; They are all the same

irumole1975:
Do you know me? This is my tale.
I've been dating her (though I still have babes that I Bleep steady and she knew about it when we started). This babe gave me attention subtly letting me realized if I stop my waywardness, she's going to shower me the more. When I realized she's faithful and commited, I started being too soft and all over her giving her attention too much. Started buying her things her father cannot buy for her. Then I stop seeing my Bleep buddies. After few months, my life has been tied to this lady that I knew if she Bleep up, my life will take a turn. Eventually, like all of them used to do, she started manipulating me, started disrespecting me, no longer regard me like she used to. She used to call me like many times in a day, now I am the one doing all the Jobs and shouldering all her baggages while she brings nothing- even she started using sex as weapons making me do her biddings just for sex. She used to give me sex free those days when she knew I've lot of girls I'm fucking.

I'm complying with her nonsense, but now I've understand she's playing games. I'm waiting for the right time to dump her ass after I've gotten over her. I know This might be difficult unless I found another one that won't trouble me and ready to do what I want.

An eye opener; that is what all of u are on this thread

Bro your story is similar to what one of us here shared recently.

It has a pattern.

They will play along for you to give them your undivided attention.
When they realised that you've agreed to their request, you then see the beast being unleashed.
They manipulate you to do their biddings.
They deny you what you get from them and others, thereby placing you in the scarcity zone.
You start to over do and sometimes literally beg for what you're usually being offered in abundance initially.
Before you know it, you begin to channel all your attention and resources to win their love.

At some point, you begin to assess your fruitless investment on them and the damage already being done to yourself (waste of your valuable time, attention, resources etc), but then you may choose not to leave, so as to hopefully 'recoup some of your investment'.

This is the best time to leave, to prevent further damage.

Analysing your personal experience with threads like this will tell you what went wrong, and steps to take going forward.
It's really a hard lesson, and with hard experiences like yours, you will easily spot their antics from afar in your subsequent relationships.

Sorry bro.

Abolarin91:
That bolded part got me thinking

Please let us not turn the conversation to another thing and derail this thread.

Focusmind:
Honestly, I am worried about Nigeria's situation to the marrow. EgunMogaji said it all. " find a way to survive amidst the chaos".

Can our children be able to survive the Nigerian environment and chaotic situation in the future? Our generation have adapted to the situation and evolving an incredible means of survival. What about our children? Not less than 19 of my closed family and friends have all relocated to Canada. But living abroad again is not my thing.

My wife sometimes see me as being insane for not considering that idea even when we have opportunity. Today, I have four relatives in my place all looking for jobs. Graduate and youth unemployment in Nigeria is the highest in the world.

The economy is not productive enough to support job creation and the much needed foreign direct investment is not forth coming. All the federal executive council does in Abuja after their meeting is to share and allocate money for one road construction or the other.

My brother, I am deeply worried about Nigerias situation. The weak are the most hit and their is no solution insight. Do our children have the same fighting and adaptable spirit we have? Sorry to say this, I haven't seen it yet in mine as the Nigerian chaos may be too strong for them to adapt based on their current upbringing.

I have been thinking of finding an ingenious way of inculcating the harshness of Nigerian reality on them to be better prepared for any eventuality.

Since the fact has been established that things will only get worse, we only have 2 options;
1. Find a way to adapt and survive.
2. Migrate to saner climes by every legal means possible.

Oh well, you have to inculcate the harshness of the Nigerian reality on your children. The basic thing you can do to better equip them is, to let them school over there.

PS- And sir, since you've convinced your wife to remain here, ensure you succeed here if not

EgunMogaji2:
I’ve been here now full time for 22 months.

I say the following with no joy and I expect to catch clack for it.

Here goes:

Nigeria can never be good. All what we can do is find a way to exist within the chaos. Anyone that is expecting vast changes will just die in vain.

Addition:

When I was a toddler, the same issues that I grew up hearing my father complain about is still here. Olopa wahala, armed robbers, government, bribery, oppression, etc. Here we are in 2020 and we’re still on the matter.

The average citizen is a corrupt and ungovernable mfer.

To bring this back on topic. My father lost a plot of land to some Alhadji in Iwo Road in the early 70’s. Fast forward to 2020, people are still loosing land.

Armed robbers are writing letters to community to gather donations. Insurgents are being settled by farmers so they don’t cause havoc.

My micro estate is designed around the Lagos/Ibadan railroad. Guess what, most of the hardware that holds the actual rail line has been stolen already.

Fela died for nothing, his mother died for nothing. No change. Buhari jailed Fela in the 80’s as head of state, Buhari is president today.

I couldn't help but quote you sir.

@ bolded, you just established the same thing my former boss (in his sixties) and a mentor (in his fifties) have being "sounding" to me.

Nothing will change. Don't fool yourself.

Anybody that believe that this country will change is only deceiving himself/herself.
It will only get worse.
Just find a way and survive amidst this ever consistent and increasing chaos that we find ourselves.

saladinnoir:
Men, be wise.

This picture reminds me of a saying I usually hear back then in school; "somebody dey wash motor, another person dey drive am"

emmychib:
Please is it possible to attach a local bank account and withdraw funds to the account on payoneer.
I used a friends details to open a payoneer and now I want to add my own local bank account and withdraw. Is it possible or I must use his own account.
Thanks in advance

Both names (payoneer and local bank account) have to tally before it will work

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pansophist:
The two superpowers every man must unlock in relation to woman it to understand how they think, and have self control in regards to sex. TRP will give you the former, which furthers helps you achieve the latter. If you've embodied this superpowers, then you'll become formidable and never be under the whims of a woman.

#RandomThoughts

My 10th lesson

GLYCOLYSISS:
Now, I want to ask everyone that have being following these thread, what have redpill teachings taught you since the very first time you came across it.

It could be 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 2 years ago, and maybe recently, what impact have redpill knowledge had in your life and relation with others in general .
We all want to know, so don't hold back, others could actually learn from your experience so far in these journey.

I first heard of the " redpill " here on nairaland, just a few years ago.

The first few days of reading some pages hit me to the core of my being.

I don't even know how to explain it.

It is like watching my life history as regards relationship with the opposite sex being diagnosed and operated in a major surgery.

In a flash I could grade my performance as regards women, and indeed it was awful.
Indeed experience with women is the best teacher to understanding the red pill.

Some of the lessons I learnt among others are;

1. Love is conditional. It's a decision. It's not a feeling. In other words, there's nothing like love as portrayed by the media.
2. She's deep, deadly and brutal than you can imagine.
Play the game " pound for pound". Don't underestimate her.
Don't let her beauty and vulnerability deceive you. It's the fundamental strategy that she uses to play you.
3. There's no "special one" somewhere.
This is the beginning of having a scarcity mindset, like there's just that particular type and you can't find such somewhere else.
There are many "special one" abundantly available for you.
Have an abundance mindset.
4. Time favours you as a Man. Use your Time to improve, grow and live to your potential.
Build your value as you were not born with it (unlike women).
Increase your SMV by chasing your dreams and purpose.
Occupy yourself with your dream, purpose and vision.
5. Focus on yourself, not her. Don't waste your blood, sweat and tears chasing her. It's always a lose-win game. You will always lose and she will always win in that regard.
Put yourself first.
6.The average Woman is more valued than the average Man.
Seek to move above average.
7. Hypergamy is natural and is Real. It shouldn't annoy you as a Man. You can't do nothing about it. It is what it is.
Build yourself. Be a Man of value and purpose.
8. As your value increases as a Man, so is the number of Women that "choose"you.
Don't be deceived by their meekness, vulnerability and feminine display to hold you.
Test her.
Ensure you test her from all angles, on all fronts, by every sides before committing your resources, money, influence and status to her. Once she fails move on. Just move on to the next one.
9. You are the prize. You are the physical representation of a god on earth designated to rule the physical realm of the universe.
Dominate as the Man.
Never ever beg in the relationship.
Take control. Take charge.Take control of your life and relationship. Dominate.

Please guys how do you remain online using your phone? Do you just leave it open at the background or there's an app downloaded to your phone to keep the fiverr app online?

Please kindly help me with this.

Thank you.

Guys please with all the strength you can gather, resist the urge to quote any female that tries to ridicule or derail this thread.

You further extend the pages and derail the thread without any real value if you engage with them either logically or emotionally.

We are not operating on the same frequency and vibration.

Let this thread be filled with real and practical value as intended.

As the title says "Strictly redpill "

Thank you.

Henrymorre:
what is your gig speciality? I clocked level 1 in 2 months.

Business - Business Plan writing, Data entry & Bookkeeping

Henrymorre:
[b] My dear i freelance on upwork,I regisered on fiverr last year, but when i saw $5 jobs.. i just left the account and dissapeared. then again i decided to try fiverr just this month, for the first time, i saw gigs for 5$ i almost ran mad, cause i charge quite high on upwork.. But i decided not to run away this time.. Created my gigs starting at 100$ each wtih extras totaling upto 300 per single video job.. I thought maybe High prices may not get me anything. But real clients, are the ones that dont pay peanuts.. I landed my first on october, $150.. did it and claimed my money, client came back again, this time i told him 200$, client paid.. Got another told me 200 euros, i gave him my price.. we landed at 412$ for 40 sec of video.. completed job, client left me additional tip of 28$.. got my 4th job within october for 150. that is the one i am doing now.
So my fellow guys, this thing my brother above said is true.. those 5$ are the most problematic.. they will want you do do everything, and if you refuse they will give you very bad rating on mere 5$ job. [/b]

How did you optimise your new Gig to be seen on the first page?

onatisi:
vocational skills in building , vocational skills in fashion
these are the two main areas i can definitely and confidently tell you that if you are good in it , you will make it ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD , ANY COUNTRY .
i know of a lady that had 2,1 in Agric economics from unaab , she went to Canada hoping to get a job and settle down only for her to be told that she has to go back to school and do more studies before they can even reckon with her first degree , she is now one of the biggest building contractors now in Canada.
she dumped her certificate , went in and learnt AutoCAD and other building drawing programs , then went in for carpentry studies in Canada , and that was it . her success even attracted bisi olatilo to do a full documentary on her then , her name is bukola but i don't know her full surname .
i know of an oau graduate that went to Mali then and became a bastard millionaire all because he was very good in barbing , abroad is a leveler and when you get there , the first question the white man will ask isnt about the certificate you have BUT what you can do . Reason why i said from the onset , that it is not about whether the place you are going is good or not , as long as there is no war , today global economy is what about what you ca n offer and how productive you can be.
i also know a small Nigerian boy that i met in Ghana then , all he learnt in Nigeria was curtains designs and how to sew curtain and install then , you wont believe that is what got him a big job in Ghana and made him move above many that came in with degrees then , ordinary fixing of curtains and knowing how to match them.
if you want to make money , settle down fast, and quickly make sometime out of time , then use the time you have in Nigeria now to learn a vocational skill as you prepare yourself for your eventual migration to anywhere in the world

Any advise for someone with a background in finance?

demanuel:
Random thoughts
(open for correction where necessary)


I think that the primary reason Women are redpilled by nature and design is to ensure continuity of the human race.

If they are not, continuity of the human race will be threatened.

Yes a Man is the physical representation of a god on earth and the most powerful being in the physical realm, But the Woman is the pathway to ensure that the earth remains occupied and dominated by men.

If she isn't redpilled, she might lack the resources to nurture her offsprings, for she lack the physical strength, logic and endurance to "till the earth ".
(except for today where production is mainly mental rather than physical)

She's redpilled by design to ensure continuity of the human race.

Guys this is primarily why you are the Prize!

For she knows that if she commits and submits to you, the offsprings will be taken care of, making nature take its cause.

By nature, continuity of the human race is guaranteed if she clings to a Man of Value.

Her submission and commitment to you will make her enjoy your resources and provision.

She will benefit from your value, status, resources, influence and other qualities attributed to a man of value.

You're the Prize!

Random thoughts
(open for correction where necessary)


I think that the primary reason Women are redpilled by nature and design is to ensure continuity of the human race.

If they are not, continuity of the human race will be threatened.

Yes a Man is the physical representation of a god on earth and the most powerful being in the physical realm, But the Woman is the pathway to ensure that the earth remains occupied and dominated by men.

If she isn't redpilled, she might lack the resources to nurture her offsprings, for she lack the physical strength, logic and endurance to "till the earth ".
(except for today where production is mainly mental rather than physical)

She's redpilled by design to ensure continuity of the human race.

TheUndercover:
Visit Life Matters Nigeria Page on Facebook and you'll see different stories on how men are still simping around on women and narrating their heartbreak stories. Its just so sad. Anytime I read men stories on that page, I just keep thinking that are some men really that dumb?

SIMPs are a disgrace to Manhood. In this current generation, some men are still simping joyfully. SMH.

That page will have a lot of "simp photo of the day" as mrpaedo puts it

pansophist:
Pastor suleiman preaching the redpill.

I said it, all this men on top, especially pastors are super redpill. Listen to the video ajd confirm yourself.

Omg!
Wahala for any young man who's not Redpilled.

pansophist:
The story of Joseph and Potiphar's wife. She accused him of rape when Joseph didn't wanted to sleep with her, and as a vindiction, she used her husband's position to lock innocent Joseph in jail. Goes to show how women hardly deal with rejection instead of move on, they will seek to punish you for daring to reject their advances. The story also indicates that a woman will still cheat on you even if you are the president, and that only money and power is not enough to keep a woman.
Or the story of Samson and Delilah, where she used her sexuality to deceive Samson to know the source of his power, a biblical story which depict how women bring down strong men using their sexuality. The downfall of Samson came when he gave in to Delilah's manipulations, and he was killed by his enemies because of it.

How about the story of Job and his wife ? Where she advised Job to curse God and die, which of coure, Job refused. It goes to show the redpill doctrine that questions female loyalty and that they will jump ship when hardship comes, and are only with you for the good time.

King David is the perfect example of a simp in the bible. Because he wanted Uriah's wife, he ordered that he is sent in the forefront of the war, where he was murdered, then he married his wife, Bathsheba. Which made God furious with him and led to lots of problems afterwards in the kingdom.

I can go on and on, but I do not want to infuse religion here. I'm not religious myself, but I enjoy reading books of every kind, and pick one or two lessons from it.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Duly appreciated.

[quote author=wwwtortoise post=95104182]The BIBLE is a coded piece of history in black & white.
Understanding this powerful book is the crux because ordinarily it is subjective.

Ever wondered why we have many Christian denominations yet one BIBLE?

Your guess is as good as mine. [/quote]Yes very subjective, for it requires you to understand it on a personal level.

I have just never looked at it with the redpill lense.

pansophist:
The old testament of the bible is the redpillest book I've ever read. Everything written about female nature on this thread and life in general can be traced to numerous stories in the old testament. If you can diligently read from the book of Genesis to Malachi, and can understand each passage in its truest meaning, you'll emerge as a competent player in the game of women, and life. Old, not new testament.

#RandomThoughts

I know that the Bible is the most powerful book as regards Business and Building Institutions, but never thought of it having anything to do with the Redpill.

Now thinking of the stories on Solomon, David, Samson, Esther etc the picture becomes clearer. Hmmm rhema

Geofavor:
Demanuel for president!

Abeg leave presidency for people at fore front of the #endsars movement.

What we preach here are things every young man should know and imbibe, lest he gets played and messed up for life.

Rossinky:
Grammar speaker.

They will shut it down and nothing will happen.

The same thing happened in Sudan and Chad a while back, to quell public unrest, and after everywhere quietened down, they reopened their internet. Heavens did not fall.

The govt has ended SARS as requested. Everybody go home and stop disturbing people.

They will shut it down and nothing will happen?

Is Nigeria chad or Sudan?

Have you been directly or indirectly affected by the problem?

Have they truly ended sars or it's the usual gist we have being hearing?

With all due respect sir, this one you dey pander to these things sef. Are you sure you are not profiteering from the issues going on?

If the implementation process for curbing this problem is not effected on time, is still remains the same old gist as usual oo... Take note.

Faber:
Sadly some guys don't wanna take the red pill. Tommorow they will come online to bother us with tales of how these holes are not loyal...and how they don break their hearts. No be who you give your heart go break am. We wey no give anyone our heart...our heart go dey intact till we return it back to God.

Lemme show you guys why u should never trust a girl. Even the one that is 3 months old. She don't trust you either...


I asked a girl claiming she is single bla bla bla for her pics just now...I mean just now...we are still chatting sef...She sent me some pics and I discovered she is a lying hole. First that's a guy's room and then you gats to be a smart guy for you to discover the remaining clue. Am just laughing at her dull head

E be like say the guy bleep am finnish dey tire his shoe laces make them comot

Regardless of whatever it is, kindly take down or censor the picture.

[quote author=wwwtortoise post=94764416]Mehn the feeling is phenomenal. Knowing you are in control of your sexual and emotional energy.

I did this to a 7/10 babe in my hood and she madly pleaded I rammed her. Anyways I did after having a cold shower.

Each time i reminisce that sexcapade it gives me great joy [/quote]In my opinion, your ability to control yourself is by far more powerful than your intellect, muscles and physical strength as Man.

If you can control your sexual urges, you can control what you eat, drink and do. It reflects into other aspects of your life.

Your sexual urge is the most powerful thing to understand and master.

It has a powerful spiritual advantage.