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kenny714433:
Great topic.
In my part of Nigeria, we do mainly Oil palm. Cocoa and Cashew are foreign so I don't have much knowledge.

You see oil palm, you just need like 7-8 years patience for the tree to start making fruit. Then you will cash out monthly till you die.
You don't sell only the oil, the kernel is another big source of money.

Anyone that can get land for up to 500 stands, forget it, you'll not lack money again after 7 years.

The bolded caught my attention.
Are you serious, Sir?
Wow!

iamprofessork:
Productivity and efficiency
1. Atomic habits by James clear
2. Essentialism by Greg McKeown
3. How successful people think by John c. Maxwell
4. The subtle act of not giving a fvck by mark manson
5. Think like a monk by Jay shetty
Finance
6. The millionaire fast lane by MJ de mar co
7. Think and grown rich by nepolian hill
8. Psychology of Money by Morgan housel
Communication
9. Everyone communicates few connects by John C maxwell
10. Speak to win by Brian Tracy
Last year was a great year thinks to this book's they will be really helpful to anyone who reads it. I'll be contributing more to this platform this year.
Happy 2023

Thank you.
God bless you.
Happy 2023.

CaveAdullam:
DAY 364, REDPILL 2022

You need a woman whose ambitions align with yours.

It makes it easier to not deviate from your purpose while she follows your lead because there's a blend of mission and purpose.

Not one who would make you have restless nights or make you sleep outside.

Authority: Vet wisely.

Kudos to you and all you do, and to everyone who has made this thread one of most important threads for young men on this forum.

Going into the new year, can you please recommend your top ten books for us to get knowledge and insights to have a better year?
Thanks

RavagedHeart:
I couldn't agree more. Love makes a man stupid.

Hi bro, How are you right now ?
I followed your story when you posted it some years ago.
Are you better now?
How's your financial state right now? Have you been able to get back on your feet?

rien05:
Lagos is so fast-paced and stressful that most times we hardly have time to mingle and make friends. Work sometimes slide into the weekends and make it impossible to even have a life.

Your life is in your hands and only you can make it as interesting as you want.

Are you a foodie? Someone who loves to try out new delicacies?

Then join me on this interesting journey to visit one lovely restaurant in Lagos Once every month. Let's eat, have fun, tell stories and laugh.

So many times you notice lovely places and wish to visit but the issue is that you don't have anyone to accompany you and the thought of going alone is boring and discouraging.

If you are a like-mind, then send a direct message via Nairaland.

Cheers!

I like this. I plan to go out more in 2023 and be more social.
2022 for me was just work, work, work.. No events, dates, outings, etc lol

This is something that interests me.

jeromestarks:
Many people (especially non virgin girls) have been advocating that only a virgin man should marry a virgin woman.
They are of the opinion that body- count has the same importance for women as it is for men. They are wrong!
A man is the one who gives during sex. The semen leaves his body into a woman's body. That is to say that a woman collects the semen which is housed in her body.

Have you wondered why a wife starts to look like her husband after many years in marriage? That's because she has been absorbing the man's genetic material into her body. This will somehow (however minute mix with her blood and inturn, her DNA). This traits in her system will also be passed down to her children (as we all know that fetus feeds from the mother's system (that is, they take from everything inside the mother's blood).

Now, if a woman sleep with a man who has some kinda of disorder (biological or spiritual disorder), the man deposits this disorder in to her system. Her system will keep some of these disorder ( through a genetic process called "duplication " of blue print - this is how DNA multiply in the body of animals)
If this same woman sleeps with other men, her body keeps a copy of all the men's DNA in her system ( she may not even know that this is happening). Therefore, if she slept with 5 guys, she would house five traits from these men.

Now, if this same woman marries a man. The man impregnates her. The baby will feed from the mother's body system (which is now a hub of the genetic material of 5 men). This baby will absorb the traits of these 5 men (now 6, including the husband) and develop into a full grown body.
Here is the danger of this super- hybrid.
If the traits in these five men is womanizing, stealing, assassination, gluttony and depression, this innocent baby will "inherit" these traits even when it is not found in the family of the original father.

One day, you will see your child exhibiting characters that your father and grand great father's did not exhibit and you would wonder who is the father of this boy
This is why our fore father's used to pick wife for their children from a notable family not from a family with bad tract records.


As for wether body count means anything to a man, The man gives the semen. It leaves his body into a woman's body.
Take for example; you have a big cup. You pour orange juice in it. Then you pour wine in it. Then coke. Then mango juice. Then urine. Then tomato paste. Then saliva. Then pap. Then sea water. Then goat blood. Then engine oil and many assorted juice.
Which do you think will be conterminated?
The juice containers or the big cup?


Marry a virgin. If you did not, then I am sorry to tell you that one or Two of your children is not your own.
Most likely, your wife pinned her ex pregnancy on you.
You want to spend your life training someone else's child?
Make a choice today. Fvck any girl you want but settle down with a virgin.

Non virgins are good for sex but not for family (except you want your daughters too to open their legs for men before they marry).


Check what the bible has to say:

Deuteronomy 22:13-21
13 “If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and then hates her 14 and accuses her of misconduct and brings a bad name upon her, saying, ‘I took this woman, and when I came near her, I did not find in her evidence of virginity,’ 15 then the father of the young woman and her mother shall take and bring out the evidence of her virginity to the elders of the city in the gate. 16 And the father of the young woman shall say to the elders, ‘I gave my daughter to this man to marry, and he hates her; 17 and behold, he has accused her of misconduct, saying, “I did not find in your daughter evidence of virginity.” And yet this is the evidence of my daughter's virginity.’ And they shall spread the cloak before the elders of the city. 18 Then the elders of that city shall take the man and whip[a] him, 19 and they shall fine him a hundred shekels[b] of silver and give them to the father of the young woman, because he has brought a bad name upon a virgin[c] of Israel. And she shall be his wife. He may not divorce her all his days. 20 But if the thing is true, that evidence of virginity was not found in the young woman, 21 then they shall bring out the young woman to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has done an outrageous thing in Israel by whoring in her father's house. So you shall purge the evil from your midst.


Before you argue, read about Microchimerism.

At the bolded, I have always had the intuition and believed it, but never really processed or have a grasp of it.
I do see evidences in the society but have a hard time explaining why some things do happen.
Or probably I haven't really made a research.

But then I believe it to be true and real as night and day.
Thank you for pointing this out.

Gerrard59:
I feel I should try to elucidate some things with my little knowledge on migration:

- Stay away from Woke people! They might share the same skin colour but their experiences differ from yours. When listening/reading tales from people in the abroad who warn you from relocating, ask questions. Try to know their migration route and citizenship/economic status. Someone who left via tourist visa and another who went for MBA at Haas School of Business would have different experiences, learn the mistakes the former made and strategies the latter did. Anyone who discourages you from relocating when s/he has not relocated to Nigeria is hypocritically wicked and does not wish you well (and if you check those who relocated, they are already citizens of developed countries). Flee from such people.

Best wishes!

Very insightful post. Thank you.

On a lighter note, what's your definition of (or who do you call) Woke people? Lol

emmaodet:
Kidnapping?
Who is going to kidnap you at sea? Pirates? It is just with the Lagos river bar, not open sea if not most people will develop sea sickness and start vomiting and that will ruin the party.

Okay Sir.
But are these trips affordable?

Hmmm.
You are right Sir, just that the proportion to those not doing well is quite alarming.
If I may say out of the over 200million Nigerians, barely 10% are doing well

emmaodet:
One thing I noticed is that a sizeable percentage of Nigerians are really doing fine and enjoying despite this harsh economy.
You meet people doing fine for themselves.

emmaodet:
-3Hrs on the Sea
-3hrs non stop music/Dj
-Exciting Board Games �
- Exclusive Party Atmosphere
-Breathtaking View of Lagos
-Food
-Drinks
- And More !!!

I am just so scared to go on yatch cruise, for fear of kidnapping... Lol.
Even though it's something that I would like to experience.

Happy Sunday Sir,
It's quite a while, hence it may have down amidst your lots of emails.
I will resend.
Thank you.

pansophist:
No vex bros, I forget to reply. I receive lots of emails and forget to respond sometime. I will do so soonest. Happy sunday.

Boss, I sent an email some time ago in regards to your favourite books and book recommendations, you never replied me

pansophist:
Probably I bought books with it. And phone. Then it was Nokia symbian models that was reigning. I love gadgets so much then, that I upgrade every new version.

I love to read on opera mini browser then, until that phase passed. Now I no send phone again, but to simplify my life. Now I use a techno phone. If it lost, no heart attack at all. So yeah, my first income (not salary since I've always worked for myself) was spent on phone and books.

I want to believe you're a freelancer, right?
Please protect your source of earnings by all means possible.
Honestly, I don't what to advice you in regards to your girlfriend, but please thread carefully.
Peace...

TheOldGods:
About 7 months ago, I made a post about this same girl, I'm surprised I'm asking a post after 7 months about the same person. You can read the previous here https://www.nairaland.com/7055144/today-very-strict-girlfriend-she#111512808

Here is the new story.

We have been dating for up to 10 months now, within these months I've not been myself, at first I thought it was love, then insecurities, and obsession. The problem is the girl is very supportive and very manipulative too. She always dares me that she will kill herself if she wants to see me and I don't show up. Infact, about
Some weeks ago, she came to my house by 12am midnight, she is fond of coming very late at night to my house and will start crying that she will get robbed for me to open the gate and let her in. This is a dangerous thing, and the way I'm hiding my life sef, it could also be a disaster for me. I warned her upto 3 times before I took my decision.

That very day she called me by 12 am as usual that she was outside my gate. I told her to go back home. She refused and stood there till 1am. This girl came to my WhatsApp and told me she will kill herself if I don't come outside that she is with sniper. I told her fine, she can do that. When she saw how serious I was, she gave out my number to the bolt guy, who kept calling me. All I know was I closed my eyes and it was morning. I'm sure she called the bolt guy back to pick her up.

The other day which was some months ago, I told her I was having a meeting with a friend. On getting there she started calling me, and asking me to do video call, I told her young lady I'm in a meeting. After series of calls from her and me rejection it, or getting my phone on silent, she chatted on WhatsApp. Started acting all nice and asked me where I was in particular, with clear mind I told her. But that was a mistake, it was about 10 am then, and getting a taxi was hard, did you know this girl drove to the place I was having meeting, then hide under my car, my car was packed near a bush, this girl stood there, snake or even scorpions could have gotten to her. She waited untill I came out, I was shocked, when she discovered I was with a guy and two girls, she didn't know what to say. I felt so angry that I almost left her there. It's crazy now, cause I don't think this is love anymore, I have tried to discharge myself from her, but this girl is a devil. She begs my mum, my sister, my cousin, gives my number to everyone to beg me. Now everyone always begs me. How can move out from this girl without hurting her. Last time I told her it was over, after 1 week she called and said she is changed, Infact she is the sweetest woman I can have now etc. Very manipulative, shedding crocodile tears but hurting me deeply. Infact I used to earn over 3000$ a month, but after I started dating this girl I can hardly see 1000$ if not struggle, and my clients suddenly started ghosting me. Lost a contract of over 50k$. I just keep having this spirit that she has a very negative impact in my life, but I don't want to believe another human being can be a cause of someone's misfortune.

Guys I need help. How can I leave this girl without making her wanting to kill herself, although I want to believe it's all mouth, but I don't want to gamble it too.

..

Hmmm..many thanks for this insight. Thank you so much.

narite:
Your question is not directed to me but I just feel like saying something....To get whatever it is you want in life....you start by acquiring knowledge and directing those knowledge into Actions. Life is not unique; whatever it is you are going through, someone as gone through them. Whatever it is you are trying to achieve, someone as achieved it.

Don’t live life as if things are happening for the first time; try to tap into the knowledge of the people who have passed through those phase you currently are. Trusting your inexperience self to make decisions will only lead to needless sufferings. I really do hope you get the things I am trying to open your eyes to see.

Knowledge is like a Map; it guides you faster to where you are heading to. If you decide to go on a journey that you are not familiar with the terrain and you do not go along with a Map, there is a chance you will never get there.

Many thanks to you. I sent a pm.

Mcslize:
Send me direct message through my profile. I will send it to your email box. Once you get it, register and start learning. It's free!

@ Maximos7, @ AstraDoid
Greetings to you both.
Your conversation caught my interest and curiousity.

Please how do I "surrender" to get what I want be it anything I want such as my finance, life goals and ambition, and relationship? Any tips?
Thanks.

lawrence2top:
I also work on Fiverr. But I have been trying to get a job on Upwork for more than a year. Please can you put me through? Thanks.

Fiverr is my major source of earnings. I am still struggling with upwork, but then I believe that it's still down to the basics;
-Sending good proposals and on time.
-Having good samples to attach when sending proposals.
-Having a good professional profile.
-etc. Plus luck.

I am still struggling with that platform and I will keep trying till I get it right.

Kudos to you.
I also work from home specifically on upwork and fiverr.
What kind of ID can I have or showcase in my own case?
Do you have a specific employer who you work for remotely and got a working Id?
How do I get an id as a freelancer?

Light78:
I work from home. I save a lot, earn a lot, and feel comfortable.

Car Land, Dem think say I dey do yahoo. Police ask for what I do for a living, I told them, showed them my ID, Dem leave me.


Haters cry.

Some people are evil. The officer told me to be careful of people say one person for area reported me as a suspected yahoo boy.


Hustle well and live a good life.

Good Day Sir,
I am interested in going into forex and intend going into it soon.
How do I go about it?

Mcslize:
It all still boiled down to what I earlier said bro, knowledge first. If one gets the knowledge first and learn the nook and crannies of the skill, he won't struggle. One can start small and grow. The reason why many struggle is due to lack of the required experience and knowledge, couple with greed and lack of proper risk management. They take forex as gambling which is not.

I am in the midst of people smashing forex trading for a living. I mean big boys who have the opportunity to learn from the best of the best in the industry. That's why I said, most people ain't just fortunate to get the right knowledge from the right person, thus making them to struggle.

They didn't learn much before placing trades. They don't even know how to analyze the market technically. They don't know when to stay away from the market, they don't even know when to enter the market. Why won't such persons struggle? But when you learn from the best of the best, you will understand why I am typing all these.

I've seen people started with just $50 account and grew it up with proper risk management. These are people that know what they are doing. They ain't gambling. They've paid their dues by learning and understanding how to analyze the market and read it like a book so much that they trade just like the big banks.

I don't want to mention names. I was fortunate to learn from the best Forex trader. What takes many years upon years to perfect, I understood it just within months. That saves me.

And I can firmly tell you, where I am in, many are making it and most started small. But because they already have the required knowledge, they are smashing it back to back. These are people that smash prop Firm evaluations to get funded.

You don't need much to succeed. Come and see how many are smashing their prop Firm evaluation test to get funded. If they didn't learn, they won't be smashing and passing their evaluation. I believe you know what I am saying.

All one needs is the knowledge. There is difference between a consistent profitable trader who understands proper risk management and a non profitable gambler.

I remember watching the apprentice Africa as a teenager sponsored by bank phb. That show is still my favourite business show till date.
I don't know why the show wasn't aired after the first episode.

Inali:
After a stressful day of work, it’s only natural to sit in front of the television with hopes of getting entertained and relaxed with numerous soap operas, music videos and reality shows. Some of these reality shows promote entrepreneurship, helping the viewer make wise entrepreneurial decisions, start a business if possible and avoid falling into errors.

Highlighted below are some of the most business minded TV Reality Show to give you more insights on business ideas and help you launch your business idea as well:

1) The Apprentice Africa

The reality show features individuals from different walks of life, from engineers to CEOs, marketing consultants, social entrepreneurs and software developers. These individuals participate in the programme to further harness their entrepreneurial skills and in the end, get selected to work in a prominent organisation.

The Apprentice Africa premiered in February 2008 and ended in June of the same year with about 18 contestants participating from six African countries which include Nigeria, Ghana, Uganda, Kenya, Cameroon and Guinea Conakry.

2) The Next Titan
The Next Titan reality show is arguably one if the best entrepreneur tv reality show with it's Season 9 registration currently ongoing where the winner will go home with ₦20M and the runner up with go home with ₦5M.

This show scouts for ambitious business owners seeking to demonstrate their entrepreneurial insight with indomitable business ideas, and commercial awareness. It’s open to all Nigerians between the ages of 21 and 40.

The 2019 season of The Next Titan show had 16 finalists who lived together for 10 weeks, competed with one another over 10 tough business tasks, and underwent varied business challenges until a winner emerged. The judges of the show are said to be top Nigerian business leaders who also mentor the contestants.

3) Hangman
This reality show brings together aspiring entrepreneurs who have identified a gap in the market. The entrepreneurs pitch an innovation that fills that void and explain how the product will penetrate the market.

To win the approval of the Backers, the judges of the show (businesswoman, Phuti Mahanyele; celebrity economist, Iraj Abedian; self-made billionaire, Quinton van der Burgh; and the chairman of Shell South Africa Energy Limited, Bonang Mohale), contestants will have to complete a number of tasks. Their stay in the programme was determined by their performance.

4) Africa’s Young Entrepreneurs (AYE)
The reality show comprises a weekly agenda of ideas, startling facts, statistics, insight into the Nigerian economy, entertainment, and educational facts. It features the most fascinating and diverse business owners embellished with the excitement of the caught in the act (CIA) segment.

The AYE Reality TV show aims to identify and showcase innovative business ideas and solutions to the world.

5) Project FX Make-up show
Launched in 2016 with makeup artist contestants from five African countries, it provides an avenue for new and upcoming makeup artists to exhibit their innate creativity. The goal of the show is to prepare African makeup artists to possibly win the Oscars in 2021 and challenge the new contestants to bring out their best creative side each season. It also has the purpose of uniting Africa through make-up.

It’s evident that these reality shows promote and teach entrepreneurial lessons. Acting as a mirror, you get to watch business owners make mistakes, how they pitch business ideas to investors, the struggle to win the prize, the ins and outs of running a business.

These shows have proven to not only being entertaining but helping business minds shape the business ideas, presentation and negotiating skills and also served as a source of business ideas to viewers not only in Africa but around the globe.

pansophist:
Ok

I also sent you a mail, but didn't get a response.

DrLevi:
I was hoping to at least try to moderate the thread but I'm just going to take the sidelines from henceforth and contribute when I can.

Humans are hard

Good Day Sir,
Please don't let these unfortunate trolls discourage you.
I strongly believe that the information dropped here would practically change the life of people who are interested to better their lives.
I have being working remotely (write business plans, financials, market research, Pitch Decks, etc) on freelance platforms for some years.
I want to upskill to Data Analysis/Financial Analysis to get a remote job, build experience, to enable me raise funds and move out of this country.
Therefore I believe that the information dropped here will be useful to me and others as well.

Don't be discouraged.

sabbiboi:
https://www.alxafrica.com/financial-analyst?gclid=CjwKCAjwh-CVBhB8EiwAjFEPGQXnKYywvxeVCE4PqSxPFS1okSS70Zm4m3Pc2Fiv4KdF_HqOAPq5VhoC4cgQAvD_BwE

Yo! You might want to be part of this Financial Analyst training, if you are lucky to be chosen.

Thank you. But this will be an issue for people with jobs or programs that take their during weekdays.

MNDY:
For how long has it been processing? Why not visit an INEC office to do it with their own machine?

I will go there before 30th. I hope they extend the deadline.

Interesting.
What medium did you use to pitch your services to these clients; twitter, Facebook, Google?

Remitush:
Countries like the US and other developed countries have easy access to funds compared to places like Nigeria.

As a result of this, the value they place on skills that are taken for granted in developing countries differs.

But hiring from other developing countries isn’t as straight forward since they also have a pool of talents on the rise that stand a better chance

I know this because after I left my job in Nigeria, I searched on LinkedIn for jobs in the US and each time I had conversations with recruiters, it always seem unclear why they insist I must live in the US to be considered for the remote job.

This is also knowing fully well the companies I applied to are fully remote.

Imagine how frustrating it is for someone like me who just transitioned into tech as a salesforce administrator

But I have built my skills by engaging in the salesforce communities and working in use cases until one day I was chatting with my mentor Miss Emelda and was telling her how depressing it can be not having a stable income

While I appreciated the contracts I was getting at the time and it was good to live on for a country like Nigeria ��, I wanted more �

In her words, she said REMI, do these three things and give me feedback after 15days

1) List out all your skills starting from before/when you were at the university till date

2) Package just one that is valuable that you can charge premium for that people will pay

3) Target certain cities in the US that are in need of the skills and present it to them in such a way that they’ll look like a dumbass to say “No” to it

I didn’t think much about this and just did it to see what’s going to happen.

And Boom that was how I started an agency that targeted startups cos they got funded and they have the money to pay for my sales-led customer acquisition service

If you got to this point, I want you to know that if you can package what you already know that people want, you’ll not be begging for others to hire you.

I’m writing this cos my mentor is running a free training on how you can turn your skills to an outrageous amount of money and I thought you should know. ( her Instagram handle is: @fromemelda)

You can take the steps I took above and you’ll get the results depending on your area of expertise.

Just know that the traditional route of compounding enough money to survive is really outdated and killing a lot of dreams

Your goal should be to leverage tech to create the life you want and not follow rules that were created long before the internet was born.

I am invested in paying it forward that’s why I share my personal growth and experiences on nairaland to reach the right people (Nigerians who want to be helped)

I hope you find this helpful.
✌️

No I don't. I lost the card long ago.
But my details are on the platform.
I just updated my profile on the website (photo, new address) and then I applied for voter transfer from the previous address I had there. The application is still processing. I hope it works.

MNDY:
Do you have a photocopy of the lost card? Go to any INEC office around you and let them use it to do Transfer for you. Else you have to register afresh on INEC website first before proceeding to an INEC office. You can do same fresh registration in INEC office too by filling and submitting the registration form.

I have lost my previous card and have changed location, how do I go about it?
Do I first update my address and then request for a new card on their site?

MNDY:
If everything can be done online awaiting collection of the voters card, why do people with android phones still go to INEC office for registration?

What you did on your phone is to book an appointment with INEC for the main capture of your picture on the card when it will come. Check details of your registration, can you see an appointment date there?

I think you are expected to go to an INEC office in your local government where they will enter your details again on their system using a registration number you generated on your phone, they will capture you and also print and give you a slip like POS containing a longer INEC generated number and other details. It is this slip that will be used to trace your voter's card when they bring. THIS IS WHAT MANY PEOPLE INCLUDING MUSELF HAVE DONE.

Are there affordable Co-working spaces for remote workers and freelancers in Lagos? Please kindly share.
Thank you.