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She was pretty and well behaved, almost perfect. She said no sex b4 marriage, I got Hot and left her for another lady that was ready to service my needs. Still think what could have been but feel I made the only decision available.

gals fighting

^^^^^^ I will take the one that is beautiful, caring, kind, giving, hardworking, good in bed, and can cook.
I do not see why I have to choose. Such women exist, and I do not see why I won't go for one of those.

I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with a woman that can't cook. Bleep yea, date nope.
I am sure the guy already knew while they were dating so no surprises there.

It is not a competition. It all depends on each personality and level of investment in the relationship. Some don't even recover and rush into new relationships without being totally over the old one. Usually ends up in more disaster and heartache, thereby prolonging the healing process in itself. Remember, things are not always what they seem.

@samix and similar posters without ability to make their case peacefully and mask that defect/inability by insulting other people's opinion.
You call people 'dumbsters' for advising she leave the man without giving your opinion. Do you advise a lady to go into a relationship with such complications? Would you go into such yourself?

^^^^ dude, you have the option of leaving your own opinion without insulting other's opinion. Show some maturity.

Tell her to drop pusssy then you `will consider`her requests.

Ethiopians eat humans.

I love tall women. The taller the better, esp those with nice figures.

You can`t fault a man for trying to score punn any

Amala boy, there is this girl I am chasing. She says she will only date me if I can spoil her. Maybe you can help me. Do you mind being her father`s cook?

The grass always seem greener on the other side.

Bournvita

Yep, that is my point exactly. A man cheats on his gf with another guy, she feels absolutely inadequate and disgusted with the events. Funny thing is the opposition just doubled. The man is seen as not man enough, or a fairy.

If a lady cheats with a lady, the guy is more understanding. He probably wouldn`t mind screwing the other lady or joining them. That is more like a fantasy (or sexual exploration or discovery) than another man screwing his lady. The one with the guy messes with his ego and all he feels is disgust.

Same reason a girl can forgive her man cheating with another lady than with another guy.

Ego, disgust.

why to which?

I will triple date her sister and her best friend.

True true

No, but I feel the booobies .

He is a great person but he is not great for you. It is understandable that he still cares for his wife. The bond btw husband and wife can be pretty strong.
Young lady, you do not deserve to be second best for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, that may be the case if you stick with the dude. My advice is move on. There are lots of young great men out there for you. Don't sell yourself short. Goodluck

What matters is if you love her or not? And vice versa.
Also if she is faithful and can be when you are together.

love is a two way street.

The first thing you should do is grow a pair.

There is a time to cut all communication but I do not think the time is now. You say you are scared of rejection, now you see how men feel when you reject them. Its a part of life.
If you cut all communication with him now, you will always wonder if he really wanted you back without having the balls to say so. My opinion is ask him out for a date( maybe lunch, coffee or whatever it is you do). Have a good time with him (I'm not talking sex here ) to break the ice et al. Then seriously talk about how you both feel and what you both want. Be open to having things go either way, but let me say exactly what he wants.
If he wants to be with you, or willing to give things a try again, so be it. But it will be in your best interests to remember that he is an ex for a reason.
If he says he wants to be friends, don't make the mistake you made earlier, tell him you can be friends but not now. You want to heal first, and you will contact him when you can stand being friends. Then cut all communications with him. Remain single for as long as you are not over him. Don't worry, it takes time, and don't be afraid to give yourself all the time you need. You won't regret it.
But to repeat a point I made earlier, If you are not over a guy, don't start another relationship.

Eitherways, you should give your current bf the boot cos he does not deserve to be your collateral/backup option.