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Why fight for what's not yours? If you can overlook your unfaithful wife's wickedness why deprive the real father his child?

@the kid being born into your house
It's akin to a stolen property brought into your house and given to you as a gift and someone came to prove it belongs to him.You can ONLY fight for what you're sure belongs to you, friend.


This DNA thing shouldn't have been an issue if not for the unfaithfulness/wickedness of nowadays girls.

Olafisoyem:
I think he has a point. If the kid was born into your house, with your name, with you as the father on the birth certificate and you have taken responsibility for the child then it’s your child.

If the biological father comes and tries to take him away you can refuse it, fight it and even the law will back you up.

You can do a test if you like but even after if you choose to keep the child it’s up to you.

Trust must be built on The Truth.
You can Love everybody but
Never trust anyone not tested.

Even when you discovered the real father?
This is beyond sentiment. If every girl know that men would insist on DNA, some out of shame would stop this nonsense. This was what encouraged chastity in the past, until men started condoning this useless behavior of girls.

I believe in forgiveness but not until I know what I'm forgiving.

Fidelity is expected from the man too.

jumper524:
I share same sentiment.
Imagine training a child fir years only for DNA to say he's not my child??
The mother of the child would be punished for betrayal while the child would always remain my child.
A functional parent is more respected to both God and humanity than a biological parent..

But a sensible woman will be slapping her husband in this age and time?
Instead of thought leaders to teach women to be submissive, they are encouraging nonsense.
No one supports beating one's wife but NEVER indulge any partner.
What'd make a well trained lady to slap a man?

Vinnie2000:
Lols, dis Fada na Wosky fada . But seriously, no sensible Guy should be beating his wife in dis 21st century..

Says who?
I'm not a fan of Pat but he is clearly better than many state governors and Buhari inclusive.
I stopped reading the writeup when I got to where the writer said Pat ignored the achievements of this government.

abobote:
That Utomi can't govern a state let lone being president of a country. Politics is not all about too much English and theory

We know but let's assume it's true. There's need to correct some misconceptions.

RighteousI:
You guys should disregard this post because it's probably a fictional story and the poster maybe somewhere in abule-egba and not in the UK.
The part where he mentioned that he contracted covid is where I suspected that the story is fictional.

Kikikiki
I don't intend to delve into other shades, friend.

Hope you know the potential needs to be developed?

No doubt, the unregenerated man is desperately wicked BUT why are the blacks not leaning towards racism as we always accuse the white? Don't they have the potential to be racists?

In a way, I believe a complex is always playing out. Just as short men or feminists would misinterpret any normal misunderstanding.
I wish I could share a story told by D.K Olukoya in one of his messages titled "Analysis of Trouble".
Suffice it to say,it takes two to tango.

Asour:
Maybe, but maybe you're the one projecting too.
All humans are [capable] of doing bad things. Even the 'good' ones. We're fallible, ALL of us.

Potential means latent quality/ability. We ALL CAN be bad if we don't constantly watch ourselves.

Cheers.

Friend, everything is perception. Except you are talking about the hags "greencard-seeking" folks marry.Who told you it's the trash black men marry? Oh until they marry the Queen of England before they can be considered to have won a jackpot? There are young intelligent black undergraduates who got married to beautiful white undergraduates. Different things connect people other than skin color- e.g same "color" of faith, intelligence etc
Above all, just as the "small-minded" blacks cherish white ladies, some white ladies also desire black men.

okwadatigbogal:
This is what most white people think towards blacks. they are just polite enough to keep the thoughts to themselves.
That's why I laugh when a see a small-minded Nigeria boy who marry a white girl and then starts insulting black/Nigerian women. If you look well, most of those women have serious self esteem issues and were most likely rejected by their white men. they now turn to inferiority complex black men who will think they have hit jackpot. Even the quality of white women that these black men marry are very different from the ones white men marry. Most black men who end up with white women literarily marry the 'white trash' among them.

There's a solidarity amongst white people, no matter where they are from. You are black and YOU CAN NEVER be one of them because majority do not consider you their equal. Know this and know peace. Until BLACK men start to level up in society just like Asian men have, this will forever be a problem.

Asour:
He's right though, He said 'Potential racist' not a racist. It's like saying ALL men are potential liars. Would that be wrong? Aren't all men capable of lying?

Though "potential" has different shades of meaning, the idea the poster intends to pass across is that they are all racists but only masking it. This I find untrue.

Look at it this way,
If you birthed a white kid in say Borno and no one tells him that the white man is superior, how do you think he'll behave?If care is not taken, he might feel odd and beg for inclusion.

I believe someone is re-enforcing the white supremacist mentality that's why those "racists" behave that way.

I wonder what excites people about this kind of lifestyle- giving to/wasting money on a "billionaire".
I don't think this is the desire of any wise man who wants to be wealthy. Only those given to this kind of life would be thrilled by these.
Many may not like Davido's showy lifestyle but most commended his donation to the orphanages.

Proverbs 22:16
He that oppresseth the poor to increase his riches, and he that giveth to the rich, shall surely come to want.

Isaacpromise1:
Bro, just know that many every white person is a potential racist, on the surface they can profess love but a spark of event can bring out the racism in them. Know this and know peace.

Just flow along, don’t expect love from someone whose heart is full of hate.
You can flow with them but don’t bring yourself so low that they tramp on you anyhow. Put that guy in his lane !

You guys should stop misinforming others.
Just like saying every Yoruba/Igbo person is a bigot because of the "tribal wars" on Nairaland.
When you mix with people with the right values, you'll understand.

Spherical77:
maybe you should marry your mother then since you love her too well more than your wife

Do you know what love is?

Only uncouth ladies make this kind of statement.
Mother and wife should NEVER be compared.

Teerach:
Obviously. In fact it's biblical. Even your mom loves her husband more than you. Your dad loves his wife (your mom) more than his own mom(your grandma).
But coming online to disturb cyberspace is what I don't get.
Las las. Mothers are always loved.

Friend, please show me where the Bible teaches you compare the love you have for your wife with mother or children.

So Federal University of Technology, Owerri is Ipob? You guys should realize many enlightened people are reading your posts na.
Besides, everything isn't about tribalism.

adamsmith914:
You Ipobian why pretend to forget your University that honored Pantami?

I think you should read and explain what you meant by

*Wole Soyinka, Osibanjo, and many others* never got MA or PhD but were appointed Professors.

And tell us the relevance to the discuss.

Don't forget to tell us the "we"
I only reacted to one of the untruths you(AnanseK) posted.

AnanseK:
Please read the post again. We are not talking about Osibanjo who definitely has formidable and highly respectable CV.
We are talking appointments as a professor and you didn’t help in anyway by copying and pasting the VP’s CV.
How did he become a professor?

I don't know where you copied what you wrote.
I know the facts can't be the same.

I decided to just help you with the bolded (osinbajo)


Osinbajo was educated at Corona primary School, in Lagos. He attended Igbobi College in Yaba, Lagos, from 1969 to 1975,[3] where he won the following awards: the State Merit Award (1971); the School Prize for English Oratory (1972); Adeoba Prize for English Oratory (1972-1975); Elias Prize for Best Performance in History (WASC, 1973); School Prize for Literature (HSC, 1975); and African Statesman Intercollegiate Best Speaker's Prize (1974).

Thereafter he studied for his undergraduate degree at the University of Lagos between 1975 and 1978, when he obtained a Second Class Honours (Upper Division) Degree in Law. Here, he also won the Graham-Douglas Prize for Commercial Law. In 1979, he completed the mandatory one-year professional training at the Nigerian Law School whereon he was admitted to practice as a Barrister and Solicitor of the Supreme Court of Nigeria. In 1980, he attended the London School of Economics, where he obtained a Master of Laws degree.

AnanseK:
*WHERE WAS ASUU?*

As ASUU said it's unacceptable to award Professorship to someone outside the University and working for Government, where was ASUU when:

*Professor Ngozi Osarenren* got her Professorship in Department of Education Foundation at University of Lagos, when she was a Commissioner of Education in Edo State.

Same University of Lagos appointed *Abdul-Rasheed Kunle Lawal* Professor when he was a Commissioner in Lagos State.

University of Ibadan awarded Professorship to *Musibau Babatunde* when he was SSA to the Governor of Oyo State.

Bayero University, Kano (BUK) appointed *Ibrahim Maqari* and *Musa Usman* Professors while they were not Lecturers.

Usman Dan Fodio Sokoto (UDUS) appointed a former Lecturer, Associate Professor when he has been away from the University since 1996. Same UDUS appointed another run-away Lecturer in the Faculty of Agriculture Professor when he was away working for Zamfara State. Similarly, another Faculty of Law Staff became Associate Professor when he was away working for Government. Ditto *Dr Abdullahi Balarabe* who got his PhD when he was Speaker of Sokoto StateHouse of Assembly. .

In 2013, *Dr Muhammad Ali Pate* was a Minister of Health when he was appointed a Professor of Public health Leadership a Havard T.H. Chan School of Public health.

*Okereke Onyiuke* of Stock Exchange was appointed Professor by a South-East University.

*Wole Soyinka, Osibanjo, and many others* never got MA or PhD but were appointed Professors.

*PROF. JERRY GANA* also got his Professorship after leaving the University several years and was working as head of Government Agency.

*SO, WHY SHOULD PANTAMI'S ONLY BE ASUU'S HEADACHE?*

How can the bolded happen?
Let's stop encouraging irresponsible characters.
A good woman doesn't have fling. Good people are loyal to their partners.

Stargurl20:
Guys, do not lose a good woman just because she unintentionally had a fling with a guy or something. Learn to forgive, forget and move on with her

This thread is basically between
aribisala0 vs Bkayy
I do not support ethnic bigotry But I must confess I have learnt a lot from Bkayy, though he later started dwelling on trivialities.


We've a lot of "achievements" from the past from both sides. However, never delude yourself to think you are better than the other guy because you're of Yoruba or Igbo descent.
The child of a slave,Samuel Ajayi Crowther, translated the Bible into Yoruba language and created the template for the translation of the Igbo Bible. I wonder the noise about slavery

It is utter foolishness to just hate/derogate someone simply because he's from another tribe.

I have heard igbos tag Yoruba people dirty but don't we have Igbo people who are dirty?
Many Yoruba kids have been brainwashed that igbos wake their parents with "flying tackles" and many grow up with that warped mentality. Are we saying we don't have rude Yoruba kids?

Many of these stereotypes are incorrect.

I know of people who harbour such nonsense even as Pastors...imagine what these would counsel when A Yoruba girl who wants to marry an Igbo man come to them?

Are you copying from somewhere or what?
Consider the bolded and correct yourself.

That said,
Try to broaden your knowledge. Being landlocked, for example, doesn't mean those living there would be famished.You may check the meaning of landlocked again.

Also try to see somethings beyond tribal rivalry. You can share knowledge without your usual Eastern or Western Nigeria who-is-better posts/replies.

No human culture is perfect.

FreeStuffsNG:
Hahaha. this can never be Ijebu. And Ijebu is not Lagos.

Go to Ijebu, go and see Chief Adeola Odutola colonial majestic castle like building still standing and well maintained till date.

Two things you can not associate with the Yoruba; unclothedness and Cannibalism.

Yoruba don't have a history of walking naked and cannibalism.And here is why; the Yoruba have centuries old cloth weaving technology called Ofi or Asooke and the yoruba have always had food in abundance because there is abundance of water bodies and land. That is why the Yoruba are not land locked and barren.

Those two are never part of Yoruba culture.

And how can you believe she's telling us the whole story?
The guy may have a look of these chain smokers who drink a lot too. Truth is, there's something she's not telling us

everythinggirly:
Wonders shall never end. How can she judge a book cover she hasn't even seen?

It's unbelievable!

For those trying to exonerate Yahoo boys from rituals alluding that only politicians do it,
Abeg wetin be the difference between Yahoo boys and Politicians?

Yes Parents are number 1 but government are to be blamed too.Imagine, places where they disallow the use of the rod for discipline?
Government too are like parents cos they are meant to lead in a way.

obembet:
I stil wondering why some people will blame government for all this small boys doing Yahoo and some ladies following them. I can only Blame the parents who raised in a very wrong ways.

Prob 22:6 says Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Many parents forget that the best time to train child is btw 2-15 years. Once any parents failed this.. it will take grace of God to control that child after 18 years.


Blame the parents.

At the bolded,
We choose who we celebrate. Some of those people call celebrities are nonexistent to some.Those following them are just bereft of values.

Kollins11:
Good for him.

But on a serious note, posting his bills on social media is not a good idea. Our society is damaged beyond repair and we need remedy now.

This is the reason why some youths involve in crimes. Like yahoo +, rituals killings, drugs, kidnapping & ransom... etc.

We need our celebrity's support to help us reduce the crime rate by not flaunting thier wealth on social media.

Kikikiki...but this wouldn't go the way of GUS.Not everyone would want anything to do with Alcohol. This is one entertainment that would not only attract contestants but viewers/learners.I believe it'll do better than MTNProjectFame sef

donhils:
The same thing, the same excitement when they announced Gulder Ultimate Search was returning. Later we didn't know when it ended. Let's hope this doesn't go that way too

You won't just adjudge a teacher best teacher simply because one of his students got the highest score in a subject rather it'd be his ability to understand students and bring out the best in them.
Friend, there's a marked difference between having parents who are all talk and no real life examples. Children are good observers but may not be good interpreters.Those people you are referring to are likely to have seen their parents as pretenders...it has been registered somewhere in their brain.Hence, when they are free, they try to explore the other life.
Like you alluded, it's about conviction. If the parents aren't convincing and their training productive, chances are, the child would give the other life a try.
It's very rare for a ward to try a vice he/she is convinced is ignoble. As a human, there'll be temptations but there are somethings some children will NEVER do.

eaglez:
True words, do u know there are some people that are well equipped morally but because of societal drifts and peer pressure they switched, yes I agree 100% good parental training drops deposits of responsibilities in you but the real truth is the individual that has these parental trainings, is he/her ready to use it Go to the university hostels, co-habitation is a norm, trace the root of these babes doing such, u will see most have good parental upbringing.

If na Nigeria don win am 7times, u for like another country to win?Talk true

Bahamas95:
So happy for Senegal yesterday, e for pain me assuming Egypt win. They have won the AFCON 7times already and I wanted another winner and luckily our West African brothers won.
Salah pele, I like you but like Mendy/Mane and Senegal more......I think it would be a double blow for Salah because I don't see Egypt making it to the world cup at the expense of Senegal. Senegal is better than them, the only major threat in that Egyptian team is Salah while Senegal has other dangerous players apart from Mane. What has been keeping Egypt going is that they can play as a unit. Senegal has good individual players that can also play as a unit unlike Super Eagles chickens.




CONGRATULATIONS TO SENEGAL.

Never underrate the place of good training.
Most people would behave well if they received proper training.

Akin to saying one would deliberately want to suffer when you have access to the same thing and the legitimate way is easier and more honorable.

It's partly because the society now encourages nonsense that's why a girl would shamelessly go and co-habit with someone who doesn't value you.
Again, many parents are ill-equipped and bad examples to their wards.


Training is deliberate and every parent who knows that the shame would return to them if their wards are misfits, would do ALL it takes.

Do you know, you won't want to disappoint those you love? If very early a wise parent bonds with a child and provides correct leadership, the child won't choose a disgraceful route.

On the other hand, if you have parents who believe it's normal to mess up yourself morally and it's impossible to be sexually pure, ONLY God will help that child o.

Parenting na big responsibility o.
Don't be surprised if we later find out that the lady's parents weren't properly married.

eaglez:
Not training per say but their decisions. Some receive good trainings but the decisions they make even when it is obvious like a recent thread here that shows a young girl willing to marry a man of about 22 years age difference.

blinking001:
Baby mamarism is the future. Men are gradually getting wiser and are boycotting marriage in large numbers.

No wise man does babymama aka foolish girls...Wise men marry responsible women not cheapgirls for the sake of their children.

So when did she stay in the marriage? How long? There's a "truth" she's not telling us

LetDemKnow:
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Nigerian veteran singer Onyeka Onwenu has opened up about the difficulties she faced in her failed marriage.

The music star made this known during a chat with Kikilomo Atanda-Owo on her show “Real Talk with Kike.”

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She hammered on how much she tried to make her marriage work until she could no longer manage the situation.

““I went through it. It was difficult because I really didn’t want my marriage to end but I could not take it anymore. It would have killed me. I always say and that is the truth,” she said.

She also revealed that she singlehandedly raised her children from nursery school till they bagged their masters degree.

“And it was not good for the children to live in that kind of environment where the mother is depressed, the mother is carrying the weight of the whole family. I raised my children from kindergarten to Masters Degree,” she added.

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Onwenu is a Nigerian singer/songwriter, actress, human rights activist, social activist, journalist and politician.

She recently released her book ‘My Father’s Daughter‘ which highlights her successful music career.

SOURCE - https://mediarants.com/onyeka-onwenu-recounts-the-difficulties-faced-in-her-marriage/

Did you see those beverage satchets too?

RoyalBlu:
I'm sure he just harvested them from his farm and decided to sell off some at giveaway prices.

'Agro-money' dey sweet jor

Lovenorth:
Useless world bank that is out to milk the Nigerian state to force the federal government remove the subsidy, now that our lovely president rejected the idea it turned to blackmail

Rejected the idea or postponed the idea?

The same Pharaohs The Super Eagles defeated are contenders for the AFCON cup.

Never assume you know how tomorrow would look like because you saw yesterday.

This same people will be visited by other politicians too.
It is what politicians know.
As per who rules Nigeria in 2023, Only God knows.

We may not even have a Nigeria in 2023...A stubborn more strategic agitator may rise in some months time that would birth Yoruba or Biafran Nation.

Finally,
God still rules in the affairs of men. If anyone told Abacha he'd die (with all his plans) when he died, he'd disbelieve it.Some of those politicians that died during covid-19 had plans for 2023 too.
Let's Relax abeg.. All these politicians are almost the same.

Apart from God's verdict, the Southeast should be allowed to rule Nigeria in the spirit of fairness especially if Nigeria doesn't want them to go.

CXLVII:
Same people GEJ consulted with.

We all know how it ended.....

Severe pains!