₦airaland Forum

Hathor5:
If the person was stronger, he would know better than to slap her.

If this woman now involves her family, the fight will continue? Till when? Till someone is injured or dead?

And for what? The dead mother does not feel any of it. Does not feel insulted. Her feelings are not hurt.

@bold

They react emotionally. Understandable. Still wrong.

Didn't see this before responding.

Why will he slap her?
If it's a fellow guy, will he do that?
Or, if it was the other way round, will the lady in question do that?

And tomorrow, the same ladies shouting feminism up and down here after supporting this will want to be treated like their counterparts in the West.

Really, our ladies don't know what they want.

If it's in the West, that guy will be arrested and prosecuted. Simple.
He ought not slap her. He has no right to slap her

We take laws into our hands all the time and turn around to blame the law enforcement agents.
Because she insulted their dead mum. Story

Somebody has insulted my dead mum once and heaven didn't fall.

There and then, they should have ended the marriage. Jejely tell her it's over with no drama attached.

Gragra everytime is what kept us where we are

Emotion tantrum don't solve problems, rather it escalate them.

If she has able bodied men as siblings, money and power backing her, you think the brothers will stay quite when they hear one idiot slapped their sis irrespective of what she did?
We arr still in stone age. When we arr ready to enter into civilization, we will know what to do

IamAsiri:
And who exactly are you Mr evansjeff to address me like that? Shame on you for not blaming me because you believe that I'm a product of this system. And if I may ask, which system exactly if you can explain in clear terms?

Let me put a question to you. Is this how a vaccine truly works? Is a vaccine jab not supposed to trigger immunity in the person given by probably having a lighter version of the infection? The immunity is supposed to allow our immune system to attack the viruses and prevent them from attaching themselves in the first place, not "give a soft landing".

But I can understand that virus mutates a lot, hence the reason why effectiveness of these vaccines keeps reducing. I am not a PhD holder in immunology but I can assure you that I have been following everything about COVID-19 right before it was named and renamed "sir".

Why did you dignify that clown with an answer to massage his ego? He purposefully riled u up and you just proved him right
You guys should learn how to handle idiots on social media even though it goes against your better judgement.

evansjeff:
I’m ashamed you actually call your self a microbiologist if you can type this thing here. I don’t blame you though, you’re a product of this system

You are a very proud person. Pack well as haughty spirit has clouded your vision.

Na your type plunged Nigeria into the mess we are in
Look at you so full of yourself. What you just displayed up there is a typical case of inferiority complex. Pull em down to rise.
Mtcheeeew.

Terrorist sponsors having a field da inside maize farm.

South shame on you guys

crackhaus:
I sha just helped answer your question, only to be bamboozled with this lecture...

Leave me alone

I'm really stressed out these days.
It is well.

This place helps me reduce stress level and forget about loads of shit.

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missidy:
It leaves room for abuse and men take advantage of housewives a lot. That is why you have to choose your spouse well, don't go and marry a stingy man. But then no woman sets out to become a housewife, things change when a child is born. I used to bash housewives too until I realized it is not easy raising young kids. How do you leave for work in the morning especially in Lagos when your baby starts running temperature at night. Babies sickness always start at night. How do you trust a nanny with your child when you don't even know what they are doing to that child when you are not there?

Most men bashing housewives can't even stay with a toddler for one full day, they will run away from the house and return in the evening. Everytime my niece who is 1yr plus comes to the house I can't sleep until she is sleeping. If I just leave her to do something and look back, she has either picked a sharp object or is doing something mischievous. I'm always relieved when they come to pick her. You dare not sleep when your toddler is awake or else you will regret it. Or is it my friend that took care of her 2 nephews for the holidays and developed knee pains from stress. Nigeria is even better, you can get help. Look at your female friends abroad that have little kids, they can't work until the kids start school at 6yrs for US and 4yrs for UK. Their career takes the back seat for the first few years.

Finally, girls make sure you marry a generous man. A man that spends well on you while dating cos that is the same habit he will carry into marriage. So that if you have to stay at home and care for your young kids, you will not regret it. God bless my neighbor for spoiling his wife silly and respecting her despite being a housewife. Babe is always dressed on point, as he changed his car he also changed her own too. Everyone respects him for taking good care of his wife. Being a stay at home mom is for a period of time, it isn't forever.

No nairaland guy should quote me, read and pass.

Training my dear, from the day they are born, train them. Kids will adjust to timetables you set up for them and use it religiously. They will sleep when you want them to sleep.
Also, if your husband don't help, get him to help out. Cos if you don't, you are promoting the same thing you are against.
We ladies will continue to give excuse forgeting that we are the ones who mould these guys the way they are. We are the number one enabler to having bad fathers and husbands.
We can broaden this if any one is interested cos it time we call a spade a spade.


The Western women fought hard to be where they are today
We want what they fought for without fighting for ours
I laugh in swahili

crackhaus:
PATRIARCHY... The same one you all hate!

Has it paid off well on the long run?

Personally, I think the need to control wih emanated from inferiority complex gave birth to patriarchy.
We have a general problem in this country that we are not aware of and its inferiority complex.
It breeds low self esteem which majority of us have. Nobody, not even the medical profession in this country has ever come out to address this giant.

Be around a man with no self esteem issue or woman and will enjoy them.

During the olden days, I can understand why we have patriarchy. It was worst in the western countries. Read history but people have moved on.
I can also understand that hormone makes a man behave dominantly but in matters he should act otherwise. Hormones also made women to be submissive but in areas she can be. Submissiveness isn't slavery. It's just act of respect. That's my point of view anyway.
I have also seen men who love dominant women. They willingly let the women steer the ship cos they are not modelled to stir it by nature.
Crackhaus, leave me alone.
Wetin we do you?
Haaaa!

pansophist:
Even if there are disadvantages of being a housewife, the advantage outweighs the disadvantage if a woman marries a good man. The kind a man a woman should marry is one decision that a woman should never take likely, and must get it right.

But it's good for a woman to be able to make her own money, it's what responsible adult do.

No single advantage in this present Nigeria at all.
It's full time house wife that breeds arrogant and over ego bloated men. Men that see their wives underneath them

It's full time housewife that trained our male kids not to enter kitchen, it's for the girls cos that what she was told when growing up and she abides by it.
It's full time housewife that think that the beginning and end of every woman is marriage and raising kids.
It's full time housewife that made our men love the Bible and the Koran only quoting where it suits them.
It's full time housewife that made women to accept all manner of insane treatments meted on them by hubands and family cos she is fully dependent on their son for survival.
That you are a full time housewife does not make you a good mother.

If the man will stoop low and see marriage and kids upbringing as joint venture, who will talk about full time housewife?

Those boys full time housewife trained will then marry and expect their wives to be like their mum. Always at their beck and call. Do you blame them, no. Rather blame full time house wives.

The reason I strongly blame the rot we have in our society on women.
You allowed yourself to be dehumanised because marriage is all for you, your male kids are watching.
I wonder how you want them to treat their wives.
Indoctrination start from the home.

Tomorrow you start crying your husband is abusive and a cheat when you gave him the power and control. Goodluck to you all.

I stayed at home for a period cos of sensitive pregnancies and I still struck a bargain while doing that. I still have streams of income( make more money than when working) but as soon as the coast was clear, I started work again.
No joy like being your own madam. Making your own money no matter how small.
But due to the rubbish we do and call it dating, we all believe its the man's job to take care of the woman. Who told you that?
Go out there and make your money and quit relying on any man. Lazy lots with the excuse of full time housewives.

BRATISLAVA:
That's some serious low esteem. But something common among Nigerian men.

They want intelligent women, but when they get one, they will gravitate towards the ones that aren't, so that they can feel smart.

They talk with two sides of their mouths.

I have studied low self esteem and its effect on Nigerians especially Nigerian men.
That's the bane of our problem.

We need functional psychologists in this country.
No matter how rich and well connected they are, majority, I mean vast majority have very low self esteem. That's why a politician will steal cos to them, money means power. A clergy man will leave preaching love to preaching and acquiring by all means at the expense of his adherents

Without re orientation, we are going nowhere

cococandy:
She’s been with him for 17 years. Did his problem with his brother start 17 years ago when she came into his life?

You people are so fvcking biased it’s nauseating honestly. Maybe use your sense small and entertain the possibility that he’s the problem here instead of going into your usual biased rant against Nigerian women. It’s stale

I saw this news on my way to work last 2 days and told bros about it. He said he has been expecting such since knowing who Paul is. Shuuuu
I completely forgot about it
We did she marry him then when she knew he is really an abusive man.
Or she taught he will change after marriage?
I don't understand we women sometimes.

Even on wedding day, I notice something that ring a bell, I don run.

That nkwobi but I'm not a friend of potash.

I love African salad prepared in a diff way so no for me.
Can't eat it with fried fish either.

Egwusi is a no no. Not a fan.
So, I'm left with uncle. Better than nothing

This country would have been better, reformed had all these I too know countries not gone in to impose their culture and norms on them.
Even Saudi Arabia is reforming

Can the West let others be please.
Wonder how they will fell if other countries over young and try to control them in the future.
Power is transient.
They should bear this in mind.

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Grandmaester:
Ask yourself, why is it that no serious ANAMBRA person is seen with this guy? If he's good you'll see some good Anambra doctors around him or business men. He has no friends because once you come close to him , you see he is a complete dirt and you run away.

Because he took somebody to hospital?
What every obi and emeka do everyday?

He is yet to learn. I'm sure those pushing him are not from anambra.
He still have some left and they are eager to help him finish it up

He will soon go and plait hair or fry akara.
They all do.

Such brand of politics don't work in anambra anyway.
Private individuals have been doing this deed everyday,every hour and you will see no picture or press release.

Hathor5:
If I were forced to operate under extreme circumstances, I would. Many women do. Those who have no choice.

Where I work, you can't show up with your baby tied to your back but there is a system in place that protects and supports nursing mothers, married or not.

Do you know majority of Nigerian women trade.
I actually prefer trading or anything one man.

bukatyne:


This has transcended poverty; it is becoming wizardry.

Poverty of the body equals poverty of the mind, it makes you enter Bush when the pathway is staring at you.

I'm happy we have great men who don't know nairaland exist.

Hathor5:
Triplets? Oh my! I don't know how you did it. I truly admire you. I find carrying even one a challenge.

And I get you. I am a working lady too but mothers (or fathers) should not have to go through all the stress until their kids are old enough to visit the nursery and they should not be at their partner's mercy for having their kids. The system is very flawed.

They grow up very fast and that's why I want them to be with their parents (mother or father) for at least the first year. I can't be at home for more than two years either.

Sometimes it's very nececonsidering the economy we operate. If something tragic happen to your husband, what will you do?
You will be forced to tie one on your back, cary belle and look for family food.
Go to the markets etc and see very hard working others amist hardship. We all will love to be pampered and stay at home to a certain level but the future is always pregnant.
I was forced to stay at home due to high risk pregnancies( a mannequin is more productive than me actually) but I struck a bargain with all concerned. It didn't last cos I have always been a hussler before marriage so as soon as I see an opportunity, I grabbed it. Anything you are saying flies off the other ear

Seriously
I live in lekki

bukatyne:
@very nice conclusion:

Not the man that cheated or to be wild, not the girl that became a baby mama;

It is the wife who discovered it on her husband's phone.

Logic 101

I think unemployment and hunger has caused a lot of brain damage in this country.
E no go well for our politicians

If I'm the sis, I will keep quiet,not snoop again, then try and find any means of generating income.
I will be in that house and pay for a house, pack out and file for divorce. Never be in a reckless marriage because of kids. The kids are watching and it's affecting them negatively.


Marriage is and will always be one of life's achievements. Our mother's groomed our lives around men and it has made men have very bloated ego even when he is wrong. Look at justifications and how fear is installed on ladies up there.
Mbok

He even have a bouncer
Mbok!

I thought Anita is from Rivers

Any thing, they will stripe somebody naked and show the world.
Are we still in 16th century?

By the way, why bring the out to the community?

Nigerians are still very barbaric and primitive.

Lovenorth:
Who told you that they are terrorists? We know that what they are doing is not good and they must be brought to book but they are not terrorists like an ipob

What is this one saying?

Ishilove:
You want the church to sanction a relationship that is still in your imagination?

You are almost 40. Please let your foolishness end before you are 40 so it doesn't become permanent.

Chai
U get bad mouth walai

Goldenheart:
It's TikTok

Shit ain't real

Seems like this tiktok is operation anything goes.

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself. It's something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

(She is actually trying hard for me to have a good life.
Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself)

I will delete my other post

Goodluck

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Didn't know men can dye their goatee.
Hmm
With lots of tattoo

No comment cos this isn't a lady.