₦airaland Forum

Concoction yam
Only heaven knew what I put into this.
And everybody ate, to my surprise

busterr:
Honestly what sort of idiots are in this platform??

He is one of the many hungry and poor Nigerian we talk about. Hunger resets the mind

Tobest94:
I believed inflation has affected him a lot. The time value of the money budgeted to kickstart and complete the operation in 2016 isn’t the same as now.. what he could have purchased then would have added price

Dangote is using very subsidised forex. Inflation has nothing on him. He is a product of the fulani controlled federal hegemony. Without federal government, he is nothing. Never an astute bizman.
He abhors competition like his brothers.
SEPLAT is building multi million dollar gas refinery in imo state but we don't hear pim about it
Almost in completion. Why? Cos he has nothing to do with politicians.
You hear what you have to hear at the right time not public hyping and it's 100% privately funded.
That,my dear is how real biz man operates.
Dangote can't breath without Abuja and he is in so much debt. We will hear more.
Politicians made you and you refused them 20% equity. Let's watch and see.
Richest man in Africa foot.
Citing his refinery in lagos is his biggest mistake

He go hear am.
He should researched history.

ImaIma1:
Men! You really entered a tough one. What a FIL!

That's how some men grow up with that kind of attitude of dominance and authority and they lose a lot in the end. His children will hardly be close to him, etc.

You handled it well. He needed that kind of rude awakening to be reminded that he is a mere mortal. Abeg enjoy the benefits you receive now...lol.

As for my MIL, I have agreed that keeping ourselves at a distance is best. I am one person that finds it hard to do eye service. I might not say anything when I'm wronged but you will see it on my face and back off.

She was instigating her other son to send me insultive voice notes, even threatening to kill me and our daughter. That was where I drew the line and I sent the notes to my family. They had to call my husband's uncle. My husband had already blocked them on his phone because they were sending him insults too.

Some families are troublesome and come with drama and me I don't like drama. Even on the wedding day, they brought drama and my husband was so embarrassed.

We just try to manage them. But he tries to keep me away from it.

Extended family wahala
You have a good man there. Hold tight to him and give him all his due respect. They are hard to find these days.

His family will come along when they see it isn't working their way. As long as you are respectful towards everybody minding your business, they have no choice. Humans use bullying to hide their inadequacies and envy.

Useless woman.
If her husband happens to be Dangote, will she leave him?

All these religious people, una well done o

Wonder how they will explain this away as usual

ImaIma1:
This MIL relationship is both sides. One can be trying to get close while the other is resisting.

I removed myself from trying to be daughter to my MIL when she and some of her kids turned against me the last time their husband refused to send money for something he didn't agree with.

I got voice notes with insults, calling me names, saying I had put my husband in my p...y. I didn't respond to one. I just saved them. Her plan later blew up in her face and her kids turned against her. No one apologized and I just maintained my distance since then.

Some people choose to always blame DILs always, as if MILs are automatic saints. Experience teach us.

Experience is a teacher dear. Mine was FIL. A good but authoritative man. Even his kids fear him. They call him by his title or professional name and not daddy. You don't dare say no to him. I started calling him papa, not daddy . He corrected me several times anyway and I told him so you don't want to be a daddy to me. He hardly call me on the phone when I got married simply because I'm beneath their class. One day when I was very annoyed at work on my way home, I used the annoyance call him. I blasted that man for good 30 minutes. I didn't even say goodbye

He rang my husband and his kids to lay a formal complaint before dealing with me. Nobody supported him. He was shocked.
They told him to call and apologise for how he has been behaving towards me. He refused. I took in, nobody told him till I put to bed. For somebody who is always in the affairs of his kids, that's another blow. He rang and apologised, than said we should bring baby to him. I refused. He should visit or forget about it. He came with his entourage. Started dishing out command again in my own house. First of all as soon as he entered our house, he said we should pack out from that area. No son of mine should live there blablabla. I told him to calm down, he is a visitor and his is my house. If he don't like it, he should go and lodge in a hotel. Me and my FIL, lots of stories. He reported me at one time to our uncle, this man has to flew in the next day thinking I had killed him. Fast forward ,we became the best of friends. (That man has bought lots of things for me
Very expensive jewelries.
Every month,alert from him enters account. He even begged me to stop working he will pay double my salary. Just take care of the kid
I no gree that one.
Always disturbing his son to take me out for summer holiday every year)
Do you know in all these, hubby looked the other way? I no even send am. FIL said his son should and will never enter the kitchen
I said why not. He said it's an abomination.
I said that abomination no dey work for my house or is he more igbo than all the males in my family cos they enter kitchen even my grandfather. In fact, he is not a true igbo man as he couldn't teach any of his kids how to speak igbo or any igbo tradition. He closed his mouth . I love that man a lot though we were cat and dog then
Hubby said for once he saw somebody who stood up to his dad, even his late mum didn't. FIL one day asked hubby, where did you get this one? I know the family I'm married into
You have to have muscle to have voice there.

aycorporat:
This is a real blow on Okorocha o.

How would he feel now in his closet?

I pray God grant him succour

You pray God give a Nigerian politician succour?

Seriously

Is he feeding you or any of your family members?
Does he know you?

That's how you guys embolden them to continue stealing and living above the laws through hero worship

Get your act together
Inferiority complex is a disease.

bukatyne:
The fault started from the husband. He has 90% of the fault in this scenario.

If the MIL considered herself a mother to the DIL, she would not accept the gift.

I blame the DIL for marrying such a man out of all the 3.5 billion men in the world.

@Summary: True. I know someone who had two terrible marriages (MIL issues) and is a very terrible MIL today. To think they claim to be Christians beats me. I am sooooooooooooo disappointed in them (mother & son).

If you haven't met this type of MIL, I pray you don't meet such.
What wives see eeh, if not for societal and religious discrimination, some won't last 2 yrs in marriage.
And our fathers always exonerate themselves when they are the architect of this circle of problems.
I haven't seen a woman dearly loved by her husband that has time to fight with her daughter inlaw over her son. Never.
She don't even have time.
When she come for omugwo, she will stay just small and go back to her husband cos she miss him dearly. Papa emeka will not even allow emeka to rest.

Nisiw365:
The man's job is to take care of wife and children, not accounting of how he spends his money
Know this and know peace

Who told you it's the man's job to take care of his wife and children?
Your ancestors?
Go home and check your traditions.
Meet the eldest mam in your town and ask questions. Traditions and culture has been distorted so much by religious and woke people that we don't know who to believe anymore.

crackhaus:
Husband na goat, agreed.
MIL is manipulative, agreed.

But what name do you have for the wife who got so angry and divorced her husband over car?

Let me guess, her own is not her fault... It's just the hormones. LoL!
Make una rest with una subjectively self-centred reaction to issues like this because y'all are commenting from the position of a wife and NOT someone's MIL.


Like I responded to Buka earlier, it's obvious that the MIL & DIL are not on good terms for one not to care about the others' wellbeing, while one ends a marriage over something that made the other happy...
Both of them are a perfect fit for each other.

Granted, the man shouldn't have fueled whatever was already brewing between the two women in his life — that's his fault. Better not to buy a car for either of them if buying for one will make the other angry.

Other than that, all we see here are just two women being what they are and nothing more... Women!

Crackhaus, there is time for everything you know.
Even if it's not hormone, it's the culprit.
That man's calculation is very bad.
Of course wifey asking for divorce is another thing entirely but like I said, lots have been happening for her to come to this stage.
I am very objective when I make my posts and you know it. Guy na idiot. He is not a wise man.
I wouldn't want to have his mum as a MIL too.

solostar1:
seems you are new to his channel.

the question should be ...can sisiyemmie eat bizarre food?


There is no type of local delicacy that guy have not tasted.

The most travelled food blogger... even at the height of US - Iranian tension, baba was in Iran.

Why did you say I'm new to his channel?
Or did you see where I said so?

armyofone:
Very nice food tour docu. I'm loving his personality
Almost like Andrew Zimmern of Bizarre food.

I haven't seen that part of Lagos with houses and trash in dirty water. Lagos govt can't do anything ?

Sisi Yemi is fine dinning

I am yet to watch this
Saw it on my feed and posted it here. Nigerians have been lobbying him and Mark to come and do food tour since eons ago. So happy he came
I think he will come again as the view is staggering

I have written him twice to come to naija the last time he went to Ghana. Many Nigerians flooded his channel to insult the hell out of him
Trust una mouth. Most of the places they visit, they usually go with local food blogger or tour guide
This one na miss Nigeria.
Okay o.

cococandy:
I’m not familiar with this guy. I watched a few minutes from the beginning and it seems quite interesting but the video is over a hour long. (Ain’t nobody gat time for that. When it’s not Netflix )

But solostar is right, maybe those other creators wouldn’t have been open to the cuisine he wanted to try.

I'm surprised too. It's very looooooong.
Guy is number one food enthusiast in USA and second in the world after Mark. I wasn't particularly his fan when I watched one of the video he did about ostrich. He can be a bit racist but I still watch his videos. That's where Mark had an edge. They did that Korean spicy raymun together with one other guy during lockdown and Mark won.
It was very hilarious.

bukatyne:
I always want to understand their family dynamics.

I thought basic Social Science in Primary School is that a family is husband + wife + children?

Many damaged folks.

So many of them here

Some don't even know their background. They don't have root. Nobody thought them family values cos they lived the street.
Some are so bitter they never see something good on the opposite sex.

Nisiw365:
Nonsense. So far the man makes money on his own. He owes the wife no explanation how he spends his money ok

Them never born that man in any of my extended family to make major or even minor decision like that without consulting the wife. So also the wife.
Family will tear you apart when such matter is brought to the table.
Who do you think you are?
Because of few coins you will start feeling on top of the world?
Poverty and money miss road srr twins.
That's an act of somebody who rolled in the mud of poverty and when he finally managed to get few coins, he started behaving like hushpuppy.
Nonsense and ingredients

bukatyne:
Won't it better to marry your mother since she will stick with you no matter what?

Or didn't your mom stick to your dad?

I am trying to understand why you reason that way as per the bold.

And you see why families keep on failing. Why homes keep on breaking.
Somebody in this era and year is opening mouth to say a wife is not a family.

U see why Nigeria will never get better?
I know women have a very big role to play but how will you start when your partner( not even a partner in this case anymore) harbours this in his mind?

crackhaus:
Blame modern feminism and the pervasive snowflake attitude common with the modern woman — She has successfully shown that there's nothing particularly special about being a woman because treating any woman special simply because she's a woman, is sexism (in reverse)...

Equal treatment is a very good thing until you realize that it should also strip you of your "special" status.
No one should be more special than the other in an equal-opportunity equal-outcome society... doesn't matter if you were born with a natural ability to carry a pregnancy.



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Regarding the topic itself, the only problem I perceive at play is the usual solipsistic nature of women. The wife considers herself more special to a man than his mother (and she acts on it) – Most of the time, the mother feels the same way too (and will also act on it).

Either way, it has absolutely nothing to do with the man because if he decides to buy a car for his mother (who is a woman) and fails to buy one for his wife (who's also woman), can he really be accused of being an ungrateful patriarchal man with no respect/appreciation for women?

I will disagree with you here totally.
That man took that decision alone. Its more than buying a car. Its more like its my money and I will do as I deem fit with it. Why not wait till she put to bed. That's a woman running on high hormone here and this man is acting like a goat. If he is smart, buy 2 cars for them. Get one for wifey when she delivers and one when mum visit for omugwo.

That's a manipulative mother you have there.
Situations like this will make the wife to become manipulative in the future too if she chose to stay and the circle continues.

When husbands don't perform their duties, this is what you get. U guys should wake up na.
This got nothing with feminism and all the sm.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Z5UMH8trWE

Mark refused to visit Nigeria. Don't blame him anyway.
Cococandy, come and see your brother in naija.

Wonder why he toured with miss Nigeria when sisiyemmie and other naija food vloggers are there. Na dem go give him correct definition of naija cuisines.

willyblinx:
Cooked with my wife today, it’s our eight month anniversary (we usually call it Monthiversary).

Pancakes and the Full Chicken was a first time try, glad it came out nice.

The chicken look so inviting.
May your marriage blossom.

cococandy:
You for sprinkle salt on top walahi

It looks too good

Exactly.

Poverty is the root o all these evil.
From politicians to religious leaders to workers and traders

Poverty and fear of the unknown( no security guaranteed by gvt) drive people to grred andore greed. Those that made it Wantage so as to Lord over those eneath them. More atrocities.
Those beneath envy Those above and want to be like them.
More atrocities.

Religious leaders especially Christianity preach prosperity like you are worth nothing being an average guy.
Good luck to you guys

End ot first.its like asking a married woman wetin you born when she never carry belle.

mdntiri:
You obviously are not ready to learn. There're Nigerian students here in Ghana who put aside their inhibitions about Ghanaian food, and their taste buds have been rewarded handsomely

Are you Ghanaian?
I'm not from Ghana but I hate when people that know nothing look down on traditional food of any culture.
Majority are feasting on indomie and MSG. Tomorrow we will contribute money for kidney failure.

mdntiri:
How much education do you have? You're judging a food by it's look?, A book by it's cover? Are you serious? If we showed your black amala to a non-Nigerian/whiteman do you know how it'd be rated?

Don'mind them.
What of our ewedu and amala?
How about grated cocoyam with veggies?

BRATISLAVA:
I don't think anyone really cooked that to eat it. It must be someone trolling Ghanaians. It's not the first time she's posting something that looks like that.

The poster might be mischievous but yeah, this is a very popular Ghanaian traditional dish.

You guys are quick to accept English or USA food but not traditional African food.

Incredible!

Preciousgirl:
Taste and see first

This is one of Ghana popular traditional dish.
Well done my dear
Don't mind bad belle people.
Some haven't had anything since yesterday

kudinkarfe:
Southern Kaduna Christians are been persecuted by the government of the day because Bubu and Elrufai leaves in Kaduna and they hate Christian.

Southern kaduna genocide is more than 20yrs

You and know so much about it now because of social media awareness.

They want to continue stealing in peace

Enibanks:
the only family you have is your father,mother, your husband/wife and children, if you even come from a polygamous family your case is sorry, because there will be competitions here and there and there will be enviness all over so you gats think about yourself first before thinking about anyone else

is it not in this small world whereby brothers and sisters are eviling their self

Your dad will tell you to pay house rent as soon as you come of age and is working. You don't I've rent free.
Entitlement mentality has killed us

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

Your aunt is right. She don't owe you anything.
The sooner we get this in our head, the better our country will be

It's the reason people steal and do all dubious things. Cos they are looked up as saviour.

Romanoff:
God will bless your honesty.

Even good mother in-laws will clash with their DILs one day and they hardly forgive.

Na so them go carry the matter tell your other husband siblings, your husband's siblings won't ask you for explanations, they'd just start putting up attitude.

If you ask most wives who have cordial relationships with their MILs, the MILs are far away. Na only phone calls and holiday visits dey join them together. Just send them money and foodstuff, check on them via phone calls and dey your lane.

Over familiarity dey bring wahala o.

Vicious circle.
When husbands don't care for their wives , they turn all the love and attention to their sons. When son finally become man and relationship with husbands have ended to housemates or the man is dead, the mum wouldn't want to come to terms that her small boy is now and adult who need his freedom. You talk, she will come with emotional blackmail and crocodile tears

Boy/man will look back and yes, she was there for me so I must think of her first, any other person is secondary.

That's how more than 70% of men find themselves in this situation. And guess what?
They repeat the same stuff their dad did to their wives. Already,mum first wifey, you are on you own. Wifey will join herself with her new son.
And the circle continues.