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Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji And Her Son, Jayce Jeremi Fly Private Jet To Sandra's Wedding by Desric(m): 3:35pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Oluwaseun Osewa of Nairaland, why are you not flying private jet upandan, or is it not same blogging that you guys are doing? Linda Ikeji the blogger seems the richest social media influencer in Nigeria. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 3:53pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
cococandy:Agreed he's not her daddy, so why the complain, she should just go out there and start the job. You talk like slay queen, you know slayers does not have anything like a relationship in their agenda only use what you have to get what you want anyhow and anywhere. |
Celebrities / Re: Mercy Johnson Is Pregnant With 4th Baby. Shares Baby Bump Photos With Husband by Desric(m): 2:21pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
etrange:And who said Mercy had quit acting? Anyway like you tightly said, she knows what she wants, because what just happened is that she's selective of the roles she plays these days and I think for any woman who values her marriage and career, Mercy's style should be her real role model. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Ladies Reveal Parts That Excite Them Most by Desric(m): 9:49am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Maynnations:You don't have any Gspot at all, you're lazy, otherwise, by now you'd have become your own boss as a call girl. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Ladies Reveal Parts That Excite Them Most by Desric(m): 9:46am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Maynnations:Then find a way and make money or better still start selling nudes online or become a porn star it also pays instead of waiting for free money. Poverty will not kill you inugo. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 9:01am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Chi59:My dear go back and read about those women I mentioned and their thinking about marriage, the way they've successfully steered the ship of their families and career over the years. Every man wants to be proud of the successes of their spouses as long as such success does not come at the detriment of the dignity and pride of the man or his home. For your information, if you're looking for a place of contest, your family or husband isn't one please, instead take up a career in politics, there, the whole world will applaud your voice loudly and the range of choices you make. If you want to marry, be ready to be humble and submit to your husband otherwise your feminist independent woman attitude will only see you becoming a single mother that's if you're lucky 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 6:56am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Chi59:So your major reason as a good woman/wife/mother to have money is to have a voice and a range of choices, and basically not to assist or support your husband and family? If I may ask what voice and choices are you even talking about as a married woman? Are you in any way looking for the money to start a power tussle with your husband knowing he's the head of the family? If yes, then, there lies the man's fears and insecurities, besides, with your thinking, women like Dora Akunyili, Ngozi Okonjo Iweala, Oby Ezekwesili, Ibikun Awosika, Omotola Jalade, even Mercy Johnson Okorie, etc wouldn't have stayed married because obviously they were ahead of their spouses social influence wise and little wonder young ladies are all dropping out from their infant marriages calling the man names and yet ending up regretting their actions in their minds. Marriage is not a bad thing at all and will never stop a lady from achieving her dreams, it all depends on your way of handing your man to the point where he can comfortably take a bullet for your sake and that way isn't by competing with his authority, it can never work. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:27am On Dec 18, 2019 |
midnighter:OP will do well to find out why the husband is renegading in their agreement, because it's like a parent who promised a child of a toy only to observe that the toy will distract the child and affect him/her negatively, then the parent suspends the promise. So the man might have seen some negative traits from the wife which she will do well to find out first before getting worked up, this is my style of solving problems. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
[quote author=healthserve post=85006318] Before I started dating. I worked on my psyche, fears, insecurities and dream. If you don't come to relationships whole, it would affect your judgement. But then, sexual tension is the reason many relationships started [/quote No two marriages are the same, what has worked in marriage A might probably not work for marriage B. Nevertheless, for any marriage to be successful, the parties involved must be willing to shift grounds, make sacrifices, tolerate, and make compromise where necessary, most especially, wives must submit to their husbands no matter their position before expecting love from the man, anything other than this has never worked well in marriages. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:12am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:Already if you're not aware, I am. A lot kids will be raised in broken homes, it's already happening so my advice is before you come into a relationship especially marriage these days define your terms and conditions don't bring your feminist movement into a poor man's life in the name of you're civilized and educated otherwise just look for somebody to impregnate you if bearing kids is your reason for marriage or better still do the IVF thing and be fine. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:07am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:You can say that but we live in a world where all hands are not equal, most women become beast in a relationship when they're not satisfied, when they're frustrated or when they believe they've made a wrong choice because they've seen or believe there would have or there's a better option out there, sometimes out of unhealthy competition with peers etc so sometimes it might not just be that the man isn't treating them fine, the man might be doing the best he can but when a woman is fed up... |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:55am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:What if she lands the job and the man's "fears and insecurities" become real? Anyway, na their wahala sha, they know themselves better and should sort themselves out. Mind you that fears and insecurities don't just start, there are some traits exhibited by the suspected partner that in most cases springs up these fears and insecurities. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:46am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:The best advice to give to anyone who can not adjust to partner's demands or work out differences in marriage is to quit. Two can not work together except they agree, don't stay in a relationship where you'll claim someone wasted your opportunities for you, rather choose between alternatives which one is more important to you, for some family is everything, while for some career is everything, while for others family and career is all they crave for. In all, find your dream and live but make sure not to spoil some other person's blues with your reggae because what means the world to you might be very disgusting to your neighbor, always find a balance and don't force people to accept your choices because you believe they're the best. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:38am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:If you are all these, you won't be too quick dispel the man for not allowing his wife to work just yet, instead you'd have advised the wife to find out what the man's reasons are for not wanting her to work before you can give a sound advice on a way forward. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:28am On Dec 18, 2019 |
djon78:Your choice must not be another man's choice, that's the reality of life and that's why we have options as humans, it's your right to choose the option that best fits your ambition. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:58pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
ngwababe:Madam nobody is saying that the wife shouldn't work, what I'm saying is the need to do that in harmony with her spouse that's all, in case she feels the spouse can not support her chosen style of life, I think she'd better quit than be in a frustrating relationship. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:56pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:You see why I said its all about conception and playing safe? After all, it's about ego. They should just find a way to massage one another's ego and be fine, from the woman's tone, she's sounding she's compelling the man, telling him that she's educated and cannot afford to waste all that or be idle instead of appealing to her husband to allow her work so as to assist him in taking care of the financial needs of their young family. Her way of presentation might just be the wahala here. I know what I'm talking about, my own wife is a civil servant by the way. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:48pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
djon78:In all your submissions, always remember the one man's food is another man's poison, and people shouldn't be called names for the choices they make for themselves. After all that's why we were created in large numbers, so of A's lifestyle doesn't suit you, B might |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:46pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:And I've said simple thing, let her quit and pursue her career without interference, she might just see another guy who's her match and live happily married thereafter. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:41pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Again ask this question, what kind of job is the wife talking about and can that work sustain the family six months if the man loses his? Even if it can, one of the worst nightmares of any man will be to be out of job while the wife works, just a few men will be lucky not to consider suicide due to the reckless abuses they'll be getting from their wives. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:33pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:I find it repulsive to see two adults always acting as if they're in a competition when the rules are clearly spelt out, for me, I think it's that simple, if you can submit to a man as your husband, there's absolutely no need you been in marriage with because it's never going to work. My advice will always be, if you can not cope with your husband's rules and see a way to subtly make him bend those rules to suit you, you don't have any business being in a man's life and be complaining. Simply live your life the way it pleases you and nobody will come demanding that you submit to him or not. 2 Likes |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Department Of Petroleum Resources - 2016 Graduate Trainee &experienced Hire Job by Desric(m): 11:26pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
it seems the page has stopped or is my own the only one? |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:22pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Then best for her quit the marriage now that it's still young with just a child, and be free to pursue any career of her choice. By the way, these days marriage is no longer compulsory. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:11pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:The man might have his reasons why he's not permitting her to work just yet, especially in this part of the world, a lot of financially independent women seriously are not submissive in marriage, but the lady should find a way to convince her spouse the reasons why she should be allowed to work and also convince the man that his fears will never come true, that's the way to go. For me, with what I've seen so far, nobody is wrong here, it's just an issue of perception and playing safe 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:05pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
projectorz:Do not get pregnant abi, thank God she already has a child. My all marriages are not the same o, one man's food is another man's poison o. learn how to make your marriage work, or if you think you can cope, you can make use of the latest technique "DIVORCE" to avoid all the headache. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:58pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Deepthoughts:My brother see wahala o, no wonder these days a lot of ladies can not survive 10momths in a marriage and when advised by their mums they'll say the woman is old fashioned, still with their new fashion, they can't keep a home. |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:55pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:And what's so "toxic" about the man here, that he is not disposed to his wife working? is that what you call toxic already? With your mentality, you can live successfully with any man in a marital relationship anywhere around the globe, unless the union comes with your own terms and conditions. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Sometimes I wonder what women like you really wants, if the asks you to be doing the work while he sits at home, you'll call him lazy, now the man is saying let me be the man and work, and you're still saying no. Women like you always claim that it's the man's duty to provide for the family, which the man is simply doing, so what else do you want to go out there to do? 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:39pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28:And what makes you think such decisions against the man's wish will not later break the union? My dear, I won't ask you to be a full-time house wife since its not your thing, your parents especially your mother advised you well if you ask me, because the only way to man's heart is to fully respect his authority anything other than this will definitely not work, remember you can't have two captains in a ship. Lastly, find a way to talk things over with him, don't say it like you're competing with his authority to make final decisions in the family, if he refuses whenever you talk about it politely, you're a woman, use your feminism, but always give him that feeling that you're under his authority but that you really wish to work. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Department Of Petroleum Resources - 2016 Graduate Trainee &experienced Hire Job by Desric(m): 11:07pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Ferguson0709:Why are you taking panadol for other people's headache, why not allow them to think for themselves? I believe Marvel is right to say that you're bitter otherwise I don't see any reason why some of you still bother yourselves with this thread and those who are deceived or not. Pls allow it to be the headache of the "deceived hopefuls" whether they are deceived or not and do not in anyway take it personal. 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: Obaseki Should Kiss APC Ticket Goodbye If Oshiomhole Delivers Kogi & Bayelsa by Desric(m): 2:55pm On Nov 17, 2019 |
So what has Oshiomole as APC National Chairman got to do with the victories in Bayelsa and Logo States, was he not there when the APC lost Rivers, Zamfara, Bauchi, Oyo, Adamawa and IMO States? Every politics is local and elections are won and lost based on mainly local interest of major players and stakeholders. Where they fail to agree, the opposition takes swift advantage and it becomes like one man has performed too many magics because even the Federal might can never work in a vacuum, someone local power brokers must agree for it to work. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Nairaland / General / Akpabio, The Senate, And The Niger Delta by Desric(m): 12:35pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
*Akpabio, the Senate and the Niger Delta* This must be a very challenging time for the Minister of Niger Delta Affairs, Senator Godswill Akapbio. As a governor, he was used to working without being challenged but not this time since he has the Presidency to report as well as the National Assembly which oversees the activities of his Ministry. The inauguration of an Interim Management Committee (IMC) for the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC) by the Minister, who has been mandated by the Presidency to oversee the Commission, may have put the Minister at loggerheads with his former colleagues at the Senate. The President of the Nigerian Senate, Senator Ahmed Lawan, had during the confirmation of the nominees for the NDDC board, stated that the new board should start work immediately as an IMC was unknown to the Act establishing the NDDC. The directive by the Senate President that the new Board should commence work immediately sounded like a legislator trying to take over the function of the Executive, even when the Board in question has not been inaugurated by the Presidency. The comments made by the Minority leader, Senator Enyinnaya Abaribe that the Senate had done its work and that it was the business of the Executive to decide whether or not to play basket ball with the NDDC matter, was very profound. It is common knowledge that the duty of the Senate should begin and end with legislative and oversight functions. Interestingly, as the Senate was confirming the NDDC nominees, the IMC already inaugurated by the Minister of Niger Delta Affairs, was busy letting Nigerians know the huge rot in the Commission. According to Cairo Ojougboh, the Acting Executive Director of Projects of the NDDC, a Serving Senator who was also a member of the Senate Committee on the NDDC was awarded 300 contracts out of which 120 had been fully paid for even when the Senator was yet to mobilise to any of the sites. He added that the NDDC was owing contractors over N3 trillion. Curiously, Ojougboh has cause to believe that the contractors are phantom contractors and this also makes him believe that the particular Senator involved with the 300 contracts must be behind a campaign of calumny against the IMC which, according to the Senator Akpabio received the blessings of Mr President. President Buhari apparently had a mindset when he said he would wait for the report of the forensic audit before revisiting the organisation being the NDDC. It stands to reason that the Minister of Niger Delta Affairs may be on the right path after all. Truth be told. The way and manner the list containing the names of nominees for the NDDC board was sent to the Senate and speed with which the Senate screened and confirmed the nominees and directed that they should work immediately seem not ordinary. With all these drama happening, this writer who is from one of the states covered by the NDDC is perplexed that there is not so much support yet for the IMC, that has just directed the stoppage of the payment of a whopping N1 billion monthly payment to a Consultancy firm whose only job is to collect money from International Oil Companies (IOCs) on behalf of the NDDC. The obvious implication of this is that the NDDC will have N12 billion naira yearly that can execute so many projects in the Niger Delta region. Could this be another case of corruption fighting back. In the words of Mr President, " I try to follow the act setting up these institutions especially, the NDDC. With the amount of money that the Federal Government has religiously allocated to the NDDC, we will like to see the results on the ground; those that are responsible for that have to explain certain issues. " The projects said to have been done must be verifiable. You just cannot say you spent so many billions and when the place is visited, one cannot see the structures that have been done" To lend credence to the concerns of Mr President, Ojougboh said that if we all had the opportunity of looking into the books of the NDDC that we would cry. There cannot be a better way of describing the rot in the NDDC. In the oil producing areas of Abia State, there is no credible project that can be attributed to the NDDC. There are no good roads as all NDDC roads wear off as they being tarred, no good hospital, no good primary or secondary school and no electricity. But take a trip to the area, you will have many projects abandoned by the NDDC including the ones it inherited from the the Oil Mineral Producing Areas Development Commission (OMPADEC) era. It is nearly twenty years that the NDDC was established, yet there is practically nothing to show for it in Ukwa West of Abia State where the oil wells are still producing luxuriantly. Meanwhile, many Nigerians, including some in the National Assembly, as has just been exposed, are living large by collecting contracts from the NDDC and not executing the contracts. As the struggle for the legality of actions between the Minister of Niger Delta Affairs and the Senate continues, the Presidency must not forget that the fate of the Niger Delta is the subject of the discussion here and the youths in the Niger Delta are watching. The IMC should be allowed to continue their work as the forensic auditors get ready to join them if they have not joined them yet. https://www.abnews247.com/2019/11/opinion-akpabio-the-senate-and-the-niger-delta/ |
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