splashbaby:
Haaa...some Igbos are indeed terrible people. You soon become the bitter enemy of an average Igbo man after helping them to success....especially when they sensed that you are now equals....other tribes might behave in this manner though but my experience with Igbos are not funny.

This is my story.
I had an Igbo friend as a business partner. We started a business together with my own Idea, we both contributed money to get it started. Along the line we had issues with take off... a serious one at that and my friend lost interest and started demanding for his own part of the investment...it was a terrible moment for me that at a certain stage I sold my car to raise the fund for him, he was like a devil.

In the past I brought him into a big contract with delta state government at Oghara efe that brought huge dividend... I was really shocked that he demanded I sell my car to pay him off which I did...eventually he started a campaign against me as I struggle to make the business a success which I succeded, now he goes about blackmailing me that I took over a business we started together...so sad for him it was too late. Ever since I watch my back with serious care. Igbos sometimes are no good people to do business with...speaking from experience.

should we all start telling our stories of betrayal from people from other tribes ? No cos we are matured enough to know it's an individual thing and even a blood relative can betray you. Please don't start !

tete7000:


If you claim you are a Christian and you want to start sleeping with a woman God has not joined with, then you must be living in grand delusion. The bible says 'what God has joined together, let no man put asunder'. If I may ask: 'At what point does God join a couple together?' At traditional marriage or in the Church? Traditional aspect were actually prelude to the ultimate Church's ceremony. Traditional aspect are only done to fulfil all righteousness (i.e. Done not to offend our traditional values not in opposition with Christianity), for a Christian they don't translate into legitimate marriage before God. This things have been before you are and they will remain after you are gone, your opinion changes nothing but you can start your own church and spread your own doctrine. Many have done that but please don't impose in on everyone. My church has a structure and doesn't have pastors who impose personal opinion on members. Only Churches found by your type does that but I am immune to your type of rebellious ideas.

what about the bible saying whatever you do to your neighbor ,you done for me or whatever in bound on earth is bound in heaven . You cant say God won't recognise trad wedding. In fact to each man his own , the most important thing is we have been given the ability to discern what is right or wrong . I strongly believe trad in presence of our presence of our earthly presence trumps all others , the rest is just the paper which in Nigeria to an extent doesn't mean much coz people still do whatever they like .

bengoodcreature:
My bro. God wld bless u for this post, many young men now are so scared of geting maried cs of d white-weding expenses, dont forget that without trad , there wld be no white weding, let Africans cut our Coat acording to our material tanx

why should they be scared ? A person scared of expenses just have complex ! Do your thing according to your pocket , no body can force you to over spend unless you want to . The truth is nobody cares unless you put it out there. Went for a white wedding in Abuja on a Friday evening and reception in Apple bees wuse 2 . The couple never marry ? They don marry if you are busy thinking it was low key for your pocket . Went for another wedding in lag and the reception was in the guys home ,matter don end . There's no problem with doing all three but there's a problem when you want to do like your friends when you don't have like them. You can do a low key wedding and 20 years down the line renew your vows in a splendid way. Don't get carried away , cut your coat according to your size and marry someone who doesn't give a hoot about society ideas of wedding .

I believe the most important wedding is the traditional wedding .this is done in presence of family ,kinsmen and witnesses . In Igbo land ,the woman goes home with the hubby that day( where am from ) that means she is married , her bride price has been paid and they both can do whatever they want with their bodies . White and court is just formalities.

Already making excuses in case he wins so you know why he can't inprove Nigeria

OREMUSSANCTUS:

please stop in the name of God . It's no worth it

You are right on some points ,the others I think it didn't change ,you just started noticing cos you are tired example dirtyness . The ignoring one is so tru and it always backfires especially if your babe is one of those peperempe babes .

Carp101:
Like your comment. You made a lot of sense. I feel so bad about some females supporting their lady. It's indeed pathetic.

no one is supporting the lady , it's just the irony that they are mocking . Cos if the reverse was the case they will blame the woman for not doing more to keep her hubby happy from not straying And this begs the question of "who to blame " and the men are still blaming the lady .

aim5:


It's more than a safe haven. That's one of the reasons why the USA is so backwards. Useless Feminist country. As for the guy, he's just a pathetic piece of shit, how do you let "your wife" slip into another man hands? Sigh..

Usa backward ?

Carp101:
You think so?

yeah !!!!!!!

mgbeketoto:


A human being to be phocked by 'fellow JANITORS' only!
Thanks!

Just goes to show the woman has NO TASTE!
This is the most DISGUSTING part.
A common JANITOR-JIGOLO?

Tufiakwa.

If you follow 'trash-collector'. . . .trash go follow you ke!
SERVES HER RRRRRIGHT!!!!

The husband MUST BE A TAXI DRIVER. . . . !

I think has 'self-esteem' issues FROM BIRTH!. . . . .APROKO NURSE!!!!

who knows how long she has been fantasizing about doing a janitor .diff strokes

khiaa:



Isn't that what men do on this forum, blame the wife when the husband cheats and tell her she should forgive him and to pray on it?

the table has turned and they want to use a different measuring scale , no way . The guy must be one of those dirty , pot belly , ugly , never do well , stubborn , rude to inlaws etc somebody . He needs to get his acts together before the lady moves on permanently , usa is a safe haven for women thank God

armyofone:
I'm very sure he neglected himself too. He must have left his beard unruly, unwashed boxers, untidy home etc. Imagine coming back from her double shifts nurse job anyway he made her do it. He pushed her into the janitor's waiting arms.

so right my dear

Aksonman:
I'll vote GEJ because I have very high self-esteem and i do not hold him responsible for my personal problems...unlike Buhari fans.

GEJ is doing a great job. Crude oil prices slumped, Naira has been devalued for months now, yet inflation has not reached the roof unlike what's happening to Russia now.
In Nigeria, the things you bought at N100 when Naira was N160 to $, still cost N100 (or even less) now that it's N200 to $.

Someone is managing our economy very well.

when last did you buy anything ?

ronald4lif:
You have to pretend as if nothing happened and don't plead with the mom. It's possible she didn't clearly see what happened between you and the girl. And you pleading with her will throw all her doubts. But even if she did she may not want to tell her daughter so as to avoid problems and avoidable issues in your marriage. Maybe it's time to let your wife friend leave the house to avoid more drama. And just be more nice to your wife and your mom now generally.

But if your mother in-law finally tells her daughter what transpired please deny it completely. You can say you were passing by and along the line you heard the friend calling for help and you went to assist her (if it was a kitchen incident you could say things like oil poured on her and you had to quickly get a cloth to clean up the mess on her) and was only trying to help before mama came in. Don't make it appear as if mama is lying but rather that yes she saw you both but didn't get the exact picture of what was happening. You can discuss whatever story you may want to say with the girl so you both can have same story.

Wumi should leave the house

WOWZER !!!!!! The devil himself ! Am shocked , horrified and impressed all at d same time. Don't know if I should hail you as a smart guy and run far far far away . In fact am confused right now

komek:
What is the scam about it. How many of u have taken ur time to travel to the Eastern part of the country. All u do is to sit in Lagos and blab.

am in the east right now and there's nothing like that going on . Jona ekperima don't even use that line anymore we know you don't and never had intentions of building any bridge ,the money has been shared.

What people who are about to marry should know is the devil is against marriage . Notice that as soon as marriage is brought up temptations comes in every form you can imagine, couples starts doing what they normally won't have done . This might be a case of that , you are in the best position to know you want. He might be a good guy under stress or fighting demons or one those guys that feel entitled when they woman is already theirs. Good luck dear

dorlapoh20:

Reasons are best known to her,from what i read i think she felt sorry for the man.
Even if those u metioned were her reasons which i really doubt no man has the right to lie, use and dump a lady. The lady was used as an open door to their child bearing. The man should have been truthful to her in the first place.
And do you know what? she would agree if what she wants is money.

she felt sorry for the man Singles girls stop feeling sorry for any guy both married and single .they just want to drill you with their pity stories . Which married man will not give you story that touch just to chop and run ? Close your legs umu ashawo .

delishpot:


Na so some of them lives be. Even on nairaland, most men claim to be banging women outside their marriages. Tell me what energy they have left to bang their wives? Wife expects 3 rounds oga does 1 cos he already did 2 with his mistress some hours ago They will be happy to face the wall as soon as the wife does small shakara for them.

you are so funny and so right . Av had a little counsel with a lot of ladies and believe most problems faced in marriages can traced back to sex and most times lack of it. Most ladies have given up , now they have made up their minds to find it whenever it presents itself . And women can do worse , they will go ten rounds with boyfriend n give hubby 15 rounds that way he never suspects . In the north they have some things these Hausa ladies mix for them to drink , it can keep a lady wet the whole . Giving men tips now , Bleep your wives ooooooooo and she will feel you have only eyes for her , don't n she will think you have someone outside and if she gives up on you then you are just living with a rattle snake

biafranqueen:
Nice one OP
So some people only mash 111 out of 300 something days Chai!!
Speaking to my married Sisters these tips will keep the fire hot!

Make sure you stay in shape and fresh. Working out will boost your drive and gives you energy to perform wonders and miracles.
Send him sexy provocative photos during the day to keep you on his mind.
Read books and explore to learn new tricks and techniques they have some cool literature from India.
These and more can be utilized to keep your man mesmerized and your life pleasurable because honestly we all know is nothing like an ultimate heavenly feeling story ! If you like hand on the moon n do him , if he is tired he is tired

story for the gods ! If you like hang on the moon , if he is tired he is tired

delishpot:
Many Naija men, dont sexually satisfy their wives. Unfortunately many men believe that women can cope without sex and society dictates such.
In naija marriages where they have sex 2ce in a month or less, its the woman that is really the sex starved partner cos if you look well, many men get more than enough from their babes then return home tired and not in the mood for more action so the wife is left hanging.

have a friend the husband hasn't touched in 4 yrs . Kept complaining about stress, she tried everything all kinds of seduction but the guys dick will never stand . At a point she thought d guy was gay and just used her until she discovered a series of messages and packs of magnum condons .some empty packets n some still sealed na when she know say she has been fooled . The guy starved the girl , still didn't let her hang out d friends but wAs busy helping other lady scratch their itch. The lady now has a boyfriend n I don't blame her .

I admire good looking guys (not gay looking or pretty ) that's why God gave us eyes !

bushdoc9919:
TO any expecting lady reading here...

When you want to have a baby....PLEASE PLEASE ASK THAT A CERTIFIED CONSULTANT OBS/GYN be there!

and a pediatrician if the baby should happen to be in crises

All cos of apc ! Just joking

I was going to write something but decided against it .everybody with their own situation , can really say what you can do if you find yourself in a particular position without being in that position . All I can say is love yourself n live free

Nice guys only finish last if they are chasing shadows ! I like nice and decent guys but the problem they have most times is that they prefer bad and indecent girls .

Ilekeh:
Which kind of family is this? Is this for real?

If I was in his shoe, I'd distance myself from greedy and vindictive family members.

Nigerians should stop this nonsensical holy dai holier attitude. We all know how hungry family members can suck life out of someone once he/she has become rich. Your help/money is never enough until you've dashed them everything you have.

Imagine his mother telling him that his work will never go forward. That's crazy.

Sometimes I wonder whether my mom even fits the "Nigerian mother" stereotype. She's simply one in a billion.

everyone says that about their mothers

You guys complain about girls wearing fake ass when you should be scared of your follow men that have turned themselves into women . They have done surgery for boobs , nose , face , voice and even genitals even to the extent they look more beautiful that natural born women . Those are the people you should be weary of , to find a woman ie born as a woman should be your problem not real women wearing fake hair .

iconize:


When last did you test your reasoning and what did you score?

For creating such moronic thread, you should be taken to Sahara desert and shot in the eyes.

so funny but why in the eyes ? I need to know this ans so I can move on with my day.

GEJ /Pej/okonjo/ etc -came from the pit of hell ! If you want to know what heartless is , look at them . Nothing will change if we do nothing , the world is on its head . The more you still n deceive the more accolade you get that's why people steal so much that they become scared of their shadows . I feel sick with the bile called Nigeria

Yes I have a bsc Ed from OAU, a masters in EYE, another masters in child psychology, heading for s Phd i own a school n consult for schools , government n people hoping to open schools. Drops the mic

Godmother:
Early childhodd Seriously!! What do such people become when they graduate then.

if you had proper early childhood education you won't be ignorant to ask such a question. Early education foundation is the first step to a better adult. This course helps people / teachers understand the basics and why kids first years in school is important . It's helps teachers learn how to teach kids and understand their needs that's why you hear people spend a lot on daycare,preschool n primary cos if your child is bleeped up from that stage , it's too late for the child .let me know if you need more info