beedam:


To type dey hard you ? Someone is pregnant! Hurray!!!

i dodge am

Beesluv:


Almost the capital base of a bank

na so we see am.

beedam:

Good to see you madam. Thanks for coming to check on us
Thank God the senior mama don they show face one by one. "dancing"

dear, am always here o. but to type dey hard me sometimes.

imurboss:
@mummy2be, I will try it out. God bless u dear.
Dhabeautyjas longest time, how the beautys

thanx o. we are fine.

congrats itunup & silver mist, may they always bring joy to you. welcome to vigilate group.

gsalvatore:
Its OK to have a different opinion.

Comparing the Army to the examples you mentioned above is shambolic, its like you think the Army is Disneyland .

The soldiers that are being court marshalled are facing "criminal action" and you still don't seem to see it.

Please the Army is capable of taking care of itself don't join issues with the govt/presidency and the NA. They should do whatever the Army council deems fit for efficient running of the Army.

One major issue we have in this country it putting blames where it shouldn't. The Army is trying to put an end to misconducts which is ravaging the fabrics/efforts of the NA and you just can't see the importance.

Dont make the brave soldiers that lost their lives look like idiots.

in as much as they are trying to be facing the law, the superior officer should also be tried. the military now has corrupt ones among them and thats the problem.

wow, sure these were the things running in the mind of westlife when they sang " flying without wings."

babyosisi:
Is it for rituals or what?

The only army list where southerners and Christians outnumber ndi ugwu

[size=18pt]Had this been an army promotion list especially during Buhari,the Mohammeds and abubakirs go full the list[/size]

you are one of the reasons Nigeria is not moving forward. why must you bring sentiment into everything you do.

our leaders are using the sentiment among us to divide us. we need to be focused and leave all religious or tribal sentiment.

MillionDollars:
My own most hated kitchen chores are: PICKING BEANS, EWEDU LEAVES, AND WASHING PLATES!!! which one do u hate most?

if not that u are a guy, i would have thought i wrote that i hate those 3 like ......... .
also peeling beans for moimoi

humilitypays:
I pity most women shaa.

But all these ladies advising her and other ladies to have a career, have a PhD, have money, bla bla bla before u marry as a lady, does that solve the problem

If u like be richer than Mrs Alakija or Serena Williams, if u have bad behaviour and character, no man in his right thinking sense would marry you and remain with you forever!

The way u guys are talking as if having money as a woman solves the problem...there are millions of wealthy career women being butted out of their marriage by their husband, so its not about money or career or education but character and behaviour!

The lady did not complain of money or not having money, she's just insecure that because she didn't go to higher institution that her hubby will be chasing educated/working class women, which made her to start sniffing around her husband's phone, etc and hence killed her marriage with her bare hands.

Ladies stop thinking that having the best career or being so educated and rich will save you from heartbreak or will secure you the happiest marriage, its pure lie!!!

Many rich, working class ladies are single crying for hubby...many rich ladies have been divorced and being divorced, why? Bad character, lack of humility and infidelity!

HUMILITY is a character every man desires in a woman! Not money, not career, not education.

Unfortunately, many ladies become horrible in marriage which scare guys now from getting marriage, and like I hear people say: bad wives come back to their good senses when their husband marries a second wife, and this is what's happening to you.

One of my senior colleague, 50something now said his first wife was so horrible and made his life miserable to the extent he nearly ran mental and ppl advised him to marry a second wife that the wife would change and that once he married a second wife, his first wife became an angel till date....three of them are living happily under one big compound, diff buildings shaa...

So to single ladies reading, be good, don't push your future husband to the wall.

Have good looks and be humble and watch men worship and exalt you!

@poster, sorry, all you can do now is pray and go back to his family that brought you to please help.

Your husband must have endured your bad character for so long before taking this bold step. He didn't do this because he met u via match-making, he did it because you were too insecure, and maybe arrogant, not humble and in fact stubborn! Change, cry to your God in your privacy, confess your sins and mistake and ask God to come to your aid asap!

Don't listen to all these people telling you its because you didn't have a career or education because I know a lady who happened to be a HR staff in one of the top multinational firms here in Nigeria who got butted out of her marriage last year and she almost committed suicide, almost left her job to run away if not for family/friends intervention, in fact, she nearly ran mad....so its not just about career....or money.

I wish you the best but pls renounce those curses you pronounced against your hubby and mistress.

its true there are frustrated successful women out there. but did u read between the lines? from all she said, the man has completely written her off, she has her own faults, yeah but have you also thought about the fact that the man also may have his own (most gentle men are more dangerous, he may have been having affairs since they got married but his gentility will be ccovering for him.)
now the man doesnt want her as he said he doesnt love her. so do you expect her to remain in the house and be molested with their new found love and also tormented, is it not better she picks her life before its late?

na only naija dey use $1 billion to produce N1 million

babyosisi:



Living under that roof will mean torture for you
I wonder why the man would want to do that
It is dangerous
The man has heaped enough insult on you for 25 people,please pick up the little dignity you have left and get out of there
If he wants to support you and kids, let him do it from another roof.
Call your parents immediately and return there if you have no place else to go
You have a degree ,good
You need to look for a job and I pray you get one fast

This is why I hate that word " housewife"
No wife should ever agree to that plan ,it keeps you stuck with No voice and eating shait because you have no means
People think when men say they don't want their wife working,it is always out of love for them,many times it is their mode of control and that is exactly what happened here

dear, you just spoke my mind. this issue is very dicey and needs right thinking mind to act.

OP, i am.......hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..................... in fact ................ i don't know what to say.
the deed has been done, there is no need apportioning blames, both of you had your share of the blame.

Way forward is what you need right now.

1. Leave that house as soon as possible
2. Try getting a job no matter how small the income is.
3. You should not choose spouses for all of your children (this is where the real problem started).
4. there is no need thinking of re-marrying, u have 3 kids already.
5. Make up your mind you will make it and go for it.
6. Teach your female kids to be self sufficient and never be insecure (that has caused you a lot)
7. don't ever think of hurting him or his wife. its obvious he never loved you, he just married u for marriage sake and he has found love.
when you are in TRUE love, There is no going back oooo.
thats why i have never been an advocate to arranged marriage.

May God help you as you take your bold steps in life.
in some years time, you will look back and be proud of yourself and achievements.

SaiBuharii:
Just like I stated in a recent thread..Elections are here...all they want to do is deceive Nigerians with propagandalistic projects. Since 2008, Jonathan didn't know Nigerians need houses? Na when he remain 2 months to election. Other part of story is they will embezzle the money and use most for election, it's unavoidable, the govt/administration is corrupt. After election, una go find house taya.

For 6 years, the fg didn't knw Landlords are cutting pples neck with crazy rents? Cement is expensive? It's when election time came that they begged Dangote to reduce price.

Other part is if they build the houses, they will share it among themselves. Hw many houses has the PDP admin built for ordinary Nigerians since 1999. Even in Lagos we saw what Lateef Jakande did, and the current mortgage scheme Fashola has implemented.

We can't be fooled again, we want change.

Cement don go up back. heard its around 2000 now in lag. but them no put that one for paper

Economics, Wow, that man also took us geography at some point. we call him shy guy, always talking to the board.

mostly before judging any situation, i like to think thoroughly and analyse it.

there are various types of men as husbands.

1. the ideal one which is very scarce, the supporting husband that loves his wife and helps her plan her success.
when there is love an understanding between husby and wify,
there must be trust, and both should be able to assist and confide in each other.

2. some men despite suffering believe women are meant to be beneath them so they cant swallow it
when their wife is doing better, for this kind of couple, their wives are mostly secretive.

3. For the 3rd type of men, they will always collect every thing the wife has and would prevent her from owning anything,
such men even go as far as being violent when their wives are at the verge of a breakthrough in her career, these women are ALWAYS
secretive.
now if the husband belongs to the 1st category, the wife has betrayed his trust and she can never be trusted again.

if 2nd category, she may be helping by subsidising the rent and also using the rent to buy things for the household, in this case, she hasnt done anything wrong.

if its the 3rd category, the woman needs it as she needs something to fall back on when things get bad.

My opinion though

OP, your parents are very wrong but you could make them change since they tend to like you. use your opportunity to make them do right things to your brother or tell them you wont come home again. we can correct our parent when we know they are doing wrong things. Mind you, your brother may start developing hatred for you with time so the time to stop it is now.

bennyrazz, you nailed it. Greedy people are the most that fall victims. parent have a long way in making their kids not greedy right from their tender age. May God help all of us that are parents to guide our kids right.

hmmmmm!!!!
from what i understand, that lady didn't want the guy from the first day, she just needed him to assist financially so she could travel.
i think the guy should allow her the divorce so he could start his life afresh, if the proceedings are delayed, the guy too cant move ahead. so fashie the babe. she isnt worth your stress.

husband. the kids have it temporarily na

naija for you.

wow. so beautiful

rezzy:
God has been faithful to me and my household.

Today is our first wedding anniversary.

Lord, i want to thank you for the past 1 year, for your guidance, protection, provision, faithfulness unfailing love, mercy and abundant blessing even the blessing of a child.

Lord, i want to also thank you for the gift of a wonderful, loving, caring and understanding husband. Baba God, may he continually be the head and may his unending love for you continue to increase.

Father, as we continue in this marriage institution, we ask that you teach us all we need to know to make our marriage the sweetest on earth. Father, increase us in all areas of life, help us to make the right decision that will better our lives, bless us with more children and above all, teach us to know You more, in Jesus name. Amen

Happy Wedding Anniversary to Me & Myme

congrats love. May u grow in more love and harmony

lai lai. i dont really bliv in maids but if i have, 2 hings she dares not do
1. cook and serve my heartrob
2. wash his clothes.

na only me fit do those.

so because we said we want young blood, they are all bringing their kids, nawa oooooooooooooo.

naija which way

being the first daughter, one must always
1. lead by good examples
2. be a great decision maker
3. be firm when necessary even if they call you "lady terror"

always be able to keep the bond of family.
i love my siblings.

its great being the first as am my daddy's 2nd wife and u know what that is. hahahahahahah. now i have a daughter too as first and she is stealing dh's love. (law of karma i guess.)

i got a message for federal university of technology, gidan kwano campus, minna.
i think every state has a venue.

bro, i would have loved the military but there are so many corrupt military men now. no thanks to GEJ that now uses men meant for war as security guards.

corrupt millitary regime may be worse than corrupt civilian o.
i used to respect men in uniform those days. they had value and knew what they stand for but now, only a few still have dignity among them.

thanks OP but
i think there are other venues, a friend got the message for a venue in ilorin.
though can't remember the email i used in applying but all my mails are very functional and i havn't got any message till now.

mamacajah:
my beautiful princess came out at exactly 11:45pm that same day.
It was such an experience but I have to say that the joy of seeing her beats all the pain. The vigilante thing though, it has not been easy o. God bless us all.[j/quote]

Congrats yeske. Wow what a wonderful birth story. Lol at the vigilante thing...I am still trying to get the hang of it.

congrats darling. may God bless her

bolseas:
^^^ it is a boy.... Biiig boy. I omitted that out of excitement.

Thank you for your comment.... Ire a continue to kari {may the goodwill continue to go round}·

oh, prince charming . nice one.

kechyl:
Congrats to d new mums...

Pls I nd help o, im 13 weeks gone & bn stooling & vomiting since morning after eating vegetable (ugwu) soup wit stomach ache.

Hv called my doc, he prescribed a drug bt im scared of taking any drug apart from my pre natal drugs.

Pls wot do i do, pls help me o!

dear, what drug did he prescribe? does he know you are preggy?
for now, skip ugwu from ur meals, it may not go well with you.
wish you quick recovery and take enough ORT to get fluid back into yr system. pele dear