ronkyT:
lyk seriously if they agree to push it to october your brother should tactfully step out of dat relationship.d girl is a money monger xcept she takes sides with him.

Gbam.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this kind wife is the type that will push dh just to get asoebi when they have not paid the children's school fees.

does she even know what it takes to
1. take care of a home
a. PHCN bill that is now exorbitant
b. cable
c. water
d. miscellaneous
e. transport
f. rent
g. fuel for gen
h. feeding
i. general and unexpected maintenance.
2. to buy baby things when God blesses her, even ante-natal expenses.

mhen she needs education on family management.

tobiaboG:
Amen 2 all ur prayers, thks. My birth story..... I went 2 d hosp on 31st 4 check up @ 2pm cos EDD ws on d 1st & ws askd 2 cme wen i see any sign as d baby ws gettin ready 2 cme. I went back on d 1st around 7pm cos of mild pain cmin abt 30mins interval & ws told am 2cm bt nt fully dialatd, d doc ask me 2 cme back wen it is mre severe. I & husb agree in prayas dt nothing ws going 2 happn till d next mrnin. @ 3am i saw mucur & i prayd d Lord wl hold evrytin till mrnin. We left 4 d hosp around 6:30am as i culd nt sleep thru d night. Wn we got 2 d hosp i was told am abt 8cm, i ws inducd around 15min 2 10am cos my contractn ws slow. Finally pushed d baby thru @ 10:15am weighin 2.9kg wt tear. Halleluyah. Pls if i may ask hw did u tak kia of ur stiches.

congrats dear, i didnt start on time cos they were giving hot water to sit on and i was always dodging it, then my neighbour gave me the idea and it worked. sat in warm (not hot o) salty water (plenty salt to concentrate the water)with detol. like 4 times a day. and gradually started healing.

donkelz:
To all of you who gave meaningful advices, thank you very much. To those who disbelieved and insulted me, it is part of life.

I was working on a very strong plan to get the guy and see that justice is served, but it seems things are not as they seem.

I've begged my cousin and sent her money to go and do tests in the hospital, told her to send me the guy's details (picture, phone number, address) but instead, she decided to chat with the bastard, and of course the bastard washed his hands off the matter and told her he's returned to school.

Give me all I've asked, including his school details since he's gone back, but she adamantly said no, unless I tell her my plan.

So what am gonna do is inform her parents, I think that's a good decision, since she's refused to corporate and is apparently pregnant from all signs and indications.

What do you think?

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from what you wrote, i think it was not rape, maybe they have been eyeing each other before, else, why will she be protecting the guy if truely she was raped?

IyaderaChuks:
Praiseeeeee God, just back from scan and saw the baby with my eyes and doc says heartbeat is fine. Nothing to worry about. Just join me and Thank This miracle working God. it has been traumatic just waiting to do the scan. At last i can relax. The whole drama don make me lose small weight join self. lol
All mamas: I hail una, The Lord is our muzzle. Happy New Year All

congrats dear. and wish you the same

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

was she like this before marriage?

Rep042:

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

bro, a woman should pray for her dh not vice versa. with all this things she is saying, i would advice you let her go,God will not let any of these curses follow you.

Rep042:

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

its not a big deal if she assists provided you are doing your best and she is suppose to be your better half.

Rep042:


Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

this got me laughing, butt pad, but what if she is having inferiority complex with her butt. try to know why she is wearing it and know how to tolerate if you can.
the only part that beats me is the assasination threat

OP, sincerely answer these questions:
1. was she forced on you?
2. Do you love her or have you once loved her?
3. Has she always been like this?
4. what kind of family does she come from?
5. Were you aware of her abusive family before marriage?

i need all these answers before i know what next to say.

SAMBARRY:
She should do (D)og and (C)at to save the child of transfered aggression much more it is an unplanned and unwanted child who the circumstances surrounding its conception is not pleasant to the ears. How will the child feel if he was told the father is a r@pist


you people should quit all this hypocrisy jare. After all the yorubas say when there is peace in a home its because the bastard there hasn't grown. Abi you think children don't take after their spam donors in character

its not hypocrisy, seriously, you need to see some peoples life cos of 1 dog and cat, i pray she takes the best decision sha

na real family problem.

before gaining admission, i must have tried being their best friend to gain their truat and also to trust them to a certain level.

always make them see things from both angles, discipline, fear of god, respect for their parent and also reasonable freedom; all tthese combined will give your child the best advice. and also they will feel free to talk to u when the need arises.

all these things na theory.every child differs. some want praise to do better, while other needs criticism, if you a[pply same rule to all your kids, you may not get the best outta them.

i advice you ask your brother to postpone the wedding,
in life if you try to please everybody, you will end up displeasing yourself.

His postponement will make them see there is little. and if they see their daughter is staying at home, they will call you guys to bring what you have. instead of spending more than your budget on a wedding (where pple will come, eat and clean mouth,) why not use the exces to establish a small biz for your brother to add to his source of income.
personally, i don bliv in wasting money fro parties.

if you dont make your stand now, it will be difficult once she comes in as a wife cos they may keep demanding outrageously from your brother

my 2 cents

moreeni:



@kreamidiva, we are talking life&death here. The guy I commit with self wouldn't be parting with such huge amount for 30mins together if he doesn't have an idea of what's going on. Hmmmm, maybe I will tell hubby eventually. I just know I would do anything to keep my flocks alive...my bad.

the fact that he knows and wants more will make him blackmail you. its very difficult and once your husband finds out, mheeeeeeeeeeeeen, thats the end of the mariage oooo (for most guys)

this your story reminds me of a day my only brother went to barb, unknown to us there was queue, we almost wreck his battery before he came back.
on getting back home, see para, "why do you guys like embarrassing me like this like am the only one with sisters and parent."

hmmm, this is very sad.
but pls, dont let her conceal it. Personal problems like this has reduced effect if she gets justice.
Also, the guy must be allowed to face the music of his crime.
she needs to go to a standard hospital for thorough check up.
G*d works in mysterious ways, i wish she keeps the baby, it may be her saving grace in life.
G*d will help and heal her physically and psycologically

I want to use this medium to talk to all parents, pls lets get very close to our wards so we can be able to partake in their lives fully.

started mine in 2011 to God be the glory just concluded it. school fees at the begining was 80k. and subsequent sessions 56k.
some of my colleagues were through by 2012. thesis delayed me.
fut minna.
i dont think there is any school doing part time engineering for masters sha.
what you need is full concentration dedication and prayers.
wish you all thw best.

may G*d save us in this country

beedam:
To all senior mamas, please what are things one has to do to ease and hasten labour. As I mentioned earlier on one of my post,my hubby returned back to his base since 3rd of June and that means say road to kpekusing ministry fit don dey bushy . Some people told me I should blend jute leaf (ewedu) and drink with honey that it will make the road to the place open up but I no think say I fit. please I need a lot of things I can do to help me out. Please help me o.

pele dear.
some mamas talked about epo (evening primrose oil usage.
also a mama (cant rwmember who ) ate plenty pineapple to hasten labour.
nipple stimulation is anothee one.
try walking more.
may It be easy for u by His grace

iseleiyanu:
I need your advice, I have been going out with a girl for over 3yrs, d 2families knew each other well. my Mom do visit a parents. But she is pregnant now bt obviously not for me because she have been seeing her ex boyfriend regular because they stay in d same town.
within me I'm no more interested and I don't know how to tell her mom because she had been so nice to me both in kind and generosity. Right now I'm so confused, she has always be cheating on me, in which she will confess . But now I'm so fed up.
pls I need ur advice how do I take d mater up

i will advice you do a dna before taking any rash decision. she may/maynot be having an affairs. doing introduction may not be advisable till you are sure of the paternity of the baby. bro, getting married out of pity is not an option here. marriage without trust is also not advisable.

My new year eve 2 cent

yes o, we are moving, Page 300 hmmmmm. we are recovering real fast.

happy new year in advance.
May all the sadness of our lives go with 2014.
May the remaining hours of 2014 be peaceful for us.
May G*d protect and provide for us throughout our lives.
May the coming election not use any of us as sacrifice
May the best candidate that will help and provide food, employment,[b] quality [/b]education (not all these expo education) for the common man win.
May all those ttc be blessed this coming year.
At the end of 2015, we would have accommodated all on ttc thread.
May all preggies deliver with ease
May all with kids be blessed and may G*d provide what we will use to take care of them.
May He give us wisdom to train our kids the best possible way that will make them proud of us all their lives.

can't mention names now so as not to be partial as brain in on recess.

May the best man that will
1. Put food on the masses table
2. have feeling s for the masses
3. install discipline into our education system
4. provide employment for the qualified graduates
5. work on the labour laws of Nigeria so as to avoid all these beasts called employers.


win.

Jamean:
My mum always share the story of how she always had severe cravings to drink garri when she conceived me, irrespective of what she cooked.

A neighbour noticed and told her it was gonna cause dandruff on the baby's scalp. She ignored it and went on drinking garri

She said 3weeks after I was born, while bathing me, she discovered a plethora of dandruff on my scalp

Fast forward till now, I have battled with dandruff like someone trying to treat cancer, yet not much result.

Moral : you will have cravings during pregnancy, but watch it, 'cause they may have adverse effect on you and your baby.

Could that be the reason for my dandruff? i have tried all forms of treatment and it just doesnt go, i remember mum telling me she drank garri and ice block like kilode while she was pregnant...

englishmart:
why didn't the old man go for older ladies? He chose a teenager and took advantage of her naivety

forget it o, some of the teenagers these days are worst than adult in their wayward life.

very hilarious thread. anytime i remember my craving, i always laugh at myself.
i always craved noddles with palm oil and iru(locust beans), and enough rodo . the worst of all ,
i couldnt eat it if i made it mysef so dh had to always make noddles. he even knew the look on my face whenever i wanted noddles.
he will just say "iwo ati ebo ton je yi" meaning "you and this sacrifice" no infect my baby o.

why they no go endorse, when they are all enjoying devaluation of naira to their advantage. God dey sha.

its no big deal for men to carry their baby but i don't subscribe to men backing in public, dh carries with chest carrier.
but on the other hand, if they don't have a carrier and the baby has weight /they are going to a far place, nothing dey there jare.

if na buhari supporter talk this kind thing now, naija go don turn upside down, anyway sha.
Almighty will let the best come to pass come february. May we not have cause to weep then.

Mcquine:
Ladies. just show me a lady y that don't go out with either a make up kit in her bag or at least a mirror and I'll remove my comment

guy, here i am, dh is always saying "you are the only lady that doesnt go out with make up kit". so remove your comment

now to the Q, i think its men sha.

zeemoh2012:
Hello house abeg make una help me o I no vomit since I conceived I jst started vomiting since my 11th week now in my 12th week bt its gettn worse I vomit anytin dat get to my belly even water mehhnn I'm as weak as anytin I heard nothing can stop it bt at least smthing dt ll reduce its frequency. I spit seriously too pls I'm awaiting responses my senior mamas

Pele dear, Morning sickness varies from preggy to preggy, just be sure you dont have malaria or typhoid then manage your self till we see the beauty behind this nausea.

Iffffffy:
I bless the name of Jesus for granting my heart desire. I at last saw the 2nd line on the strip. Thank you Jesus

wow, congats dear, May you carry to term by His grace.

switgoody:
Dis vigilante no easy I don sing so tey my mouth dey pain me , τ̅☺ all vigilante mama God is our muscle, To all preggy mama Living will come out of livin in jesus name, τ̅☺ all Ttc mama u will soon sing a new song, τ̅☺ all virgin mama more grace τ̅☺ ur kpekus ministry .goin back τ̅☺ my duty

pele dear, the stress no be here but its worth it. abeg go register with mavins so you go know more songs.

beedam thanx for the mention.
na xmas joliment make me mia.
acks, sorry have no idea, hang in there, someone will definitely answer u soon

LyndaRoyce:
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May we celebrate this season with peace, love and happiness.....!
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To my fellow groovers.... Meet lovinam for the aboniki balm... Make sure ya oga @the top massage ya waist with it,twice daily starting from 2day... Because this nme nme(jollyfication) go be "till mama calls" .....
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