₦airaland Forum

Samsonklin:
If you like spoil the pikin mind. One day, if the dad is a well to do man, that girl go find am see and reunite. Whether their bond strong or not. The girl go find the papa see. Na o e be anywhere. Except the man na ogogoro man wey don loose guard for life.

No you reason am na, make Adeleke come now say na him be your papa and your momsi con confirm am say na im be your papa. Iffa hear say you stubborn. Nai be say you dey lie

Stop talking nonsense. I am a victim and i never moved a muscle searching for some stupid idiotic runaway sperm donor "dad".

Dearlord:
Are you serious? But the father has every right to deny her biological child at any time and at any place of his will?

This is the reason we are not advancing socially

You are so on point

ZIMDRILL:
People are very funny and narrow minded with this culture this culture thats

Where was culture when the two where having sex ?
Where was the culture when the two family couldnt come to an agreement ?

Am not saying culture should be throw away altogether but we need to analyse each case thats shakes and challenge culture

I understand the OP anger and his attachment now wonder he called the girl his pet

Back to the issue, by law the child belongs to both, i believe the child is now in uni therefore she is above 18, she can choice who she wants to talk to and associate with. In developed world there is room by law to back pay the child maintainace to some degree But our case here is nigerian one backpay is Zero here.

Denying her access to her father, would damage the girl emotionally, she needs to see her father for he is and not to be told (sometimes people change over time may he has changed)

Remember the father was as young as the mother when she fell pregnant, roughly meaning his parents had more say than him and now he might seen, thats his parents decision or influence were not good

Then the cultural side, i am a zimbabwean i dont know any nigerian various tribal culture, but most (zimbabwe shona tribes culture), the daughter belongs to the father as per lineage of the family tree and spiritual part (Will explain the spiritual) but it doesnt mean she has to be physically with father or his family, the child can still be raised by the mum's family but, when the day to be married (the girl ) the dowry which is meant to go the father direct will then pass through the girls mum family side (the one's who looked after her), they will take what her own father was meant pay as bride price,

Depending on how bitter is mum family they might take all or leave little for the girl's father, thats depends on what relationship and development has happened over between the two families

I mentioned the spiritual side, the main reason, they (shona culture zimbabwe ) still say the child belongs to both irregardless of the father rejected the child(pregnancy) is that each family has its own spiritual believes demoans etc, so in the event that the girl gets married or even not but she starts having spiritual problems from her father side, it would be easy for the get to visit her father's family and sort out those problems

Then its now of culture in zimbabwe to pay what we call damage, this case suit the damage culture, the father comes in ask for access to the child he is asked to pay damages before any official meeting with he child

Many people here are focused on the anger towards the father non are focusing on what the wants, thats why you find most men in court loose the custody of a child because they focus on themselves via culture rights etc and not focusing on the needs of the child

But his parents did "have a say" when he chose to drill a female unprotected? Parents my foot. What a dumb analogy.

Which daughter belongs to him?The one he never fed nor sent to school? How is he sure that the Mother also.did not throw that particular baby away after he dodged his responsibility?

How is he so sure its the same daughter since he abandoned them in pregnancy. Is he going to force her to get a DNA testing?

If you read well you'd have seen that her age is 16. If she's 18 it even makes the case worse because as an adult she can spit on his face of she sees him and never want to see him afterwards.

I hope you are not an irresponsible baby daddy too.

victorian:
A man cannot just wake up after 16 years and be claiming he's the father.

Father of who?

He had better go and face his life and forget he has a daughter.
No be only daughter. He should come and carry nah. Ole!

The daughter should pour hot water in his body!

Irresponsible men that don't deserve anything good in life.

Tueh!

Samsonklin is a baby daddy. Thats why he is bitter

Samsonklin:
Cheap blackmail. Thumbs down

Are you a baby daddy? If you are, do you pay child support? Thats no cheap blackmail here. She spoke the truth.

Bad belles think her man will leave her. Jokers.

Kenneth4u205:
The girls that spend all day in church .most of them have contacted deadly disease and seeking for God's cure

Lmfao. You got that right bro.

Cheato64:
I have never cheated on her before and after wedding but I can see this is hard to believe but faithful men exist

Good to hear.

CC Ubunja

[quote author=ubunja post=85363317][/quote]Crap. Get a job.

You spent all your life pvssy chasing instead of being a man and working in your youth to conquer poverty. Now you want us to become bitter like you? Are we stupid like you?

The dumb illiterate hoe made a great mess.

ubunja:
independent women are losers. That's first and foremost. They are the cheapest women around because they pay for their own way through life. That's why most men love independent women because what's better than a woman who let's you as a man pay only for your half while she pays for her own half all in the name of 50-50? It's like dealing with another guy. When a woman goes 50-50 with a man it just means the man is getting sex for free.

You would buy sex from filthy tarts yet call your babymamas gold diggers if they ask for feeding allowance for their kids who bear your surname. You need help.

ubunja:
sex is the only power a woman will always have over a man. If you give sex up, no matter how much you enjoy it, you have lost all power. What else can a man look forward to after sex? Your cooking? Your cleaning? You are done.

Gold Diggers know as a rule that they never sleep with their target, or atleast delay it until its absolutely impossible to delay it any longer.

If you love sex, find a guy you don't want anything from, then give him. But the man whose money and ring you want, you never give him sex. If you do, you have given him the one thing he wanted and there's no reason or incentive for him to give you the things that YOU want. That's why trophy wives ration sex for rich hubby while freely giving it to the pool boy. Because in love, sex is a weapon. Outside of love, sex is nothing and any guy can get it.

If a girl is freely having sex with a guy, the moment the guy tells the girl he loves her, that's the moment his access to sex becomes controlled. Because as soon as love enters the picture, sex becomes a tool.

Chai see stupidity at its peak. For your mind you dey lecture yet you are still pvssy hunting at 60 when your mates have their grand kids helping them with chores already. If you need to fetch food you go and queue up at the canteen with your grey hairs. That is a curse.

It is indeed a curse to be born by a messy,myopic illiterate.

ubunja:
Break my heart and I'll break your face. I never compromise on that and every girl I date I tell this first day.

Do you date girls or worn out "single mothers of two playing hard to get" LMFAO

BarryLondon007:
Go and sit down joor
Naso una go dey cause future problems for people

Absolutely no problem at all. She's free as air. The idiot who put her in the family way caused his own misfortune and problems. Let him deal.with it. You cannot reap where you didnt sow.

skywalker240:
well, that stark illiterate mould me really good, and thats why she would continue to eat my money instead of these ho€s you asslick.

there must be a special place in the heart of these ho£s for asslickers. I hope its not a potta party of the butt hole. (oops it is)

Fare thee well,


ASSLICKER

Now that you have admitted that you were born by a stark illiterate. I understand where your vile and frustration emanates from.

Do you even have money to buy yourself a cup of Garri let alone enough to feed the dumb illiterate that created a mess? I will rather ass lick with my money than end a low ebb broke gigolo like Ubunja.

AwkaetitiBabe:
God! May we not love those who will put us 6 feet under.

Tufiakwa! Disadvantages of being with a broke guy who's lazy and greedy. Him go dey look you dey visualize money. Na God go blind all their kokoro eye. Infact they deserve death by firing squad

This is Ubunja you just perfectly described.

iamoyindamola:
Wetin poverty go cause for this useless country

You mean laziness not poverty.

Poor girl.Rip

This should happen to Ubunja daughter. Only in her case she wont be used for rituals because her destiny of poverty is epic. She will just be murdered and thrown into the sea.

ubunja:
Let's keep the momentum going in the coming year

Lol "i am not a 9-5 person" lmfao. Then get you an equally jobless sit at home lazy ass woman like yourself. You both can die in pieces and poverty.

Later they will say "i am not a 9-5 person" like Ubunja.


Bloody greedy theives looking for quick money.

Okay Tonto.Dike neglected her son for 5weeks due to her passport being seized. How long has Churchill neglected him for?

ubunja:
dude being a sex doll in a world where other men pay thousands for pussy will never be a bad deal. But that's not where I am. My point is why chase money when you can chase women with money? The human is always the weakest link. I better work on manipulating a female for her money than face the world and hustle. Hustling is too stressful. Some of us aren't built for it. But we are pretty good scammers.

Pansophist he is what you call a male olosho. Now wrinkled and "shop" has closed for him hence his glaring frustration.

Don't get civil with a low life. He tried to start a movement of olosho men on NL but we quashed the re.tard.

ubunja:
there are two ways to up your SMV. either get money and get women who'll come to you for that money.

Or get the body and get women who have money already who'll come to you for that body.

I'm all for option 2. I wasn't built for the 9-5

You werent built for the 9-5? You were buikt for sitting at home all day doing nothing but waiting for your cougar to arrive with mula after her 9 to 5? Lmao. Jobless mofo. Now this explains all your rantings. You need money from a ready made 9-5 woman who isnt illiterate and worked hard to achieve.

So you want her money, her body and still want her to treat a broke lazy nasty ass like a King?

You one short human being. You are not Ramsey Noah or Micharl Edwards, Chidi Mokeme 6ft 4
over and extremely handsome. You go wait till all your teeth go drop. Lol

You are indeed the dumbest individual on NL.

If you channel all your wasted energy writing crap to pushing wheel barrows in open markets your life would have perhaps been less miserable.

[quote author=ubunja post=85333946][/quote]To think that you think that I'll sit and waste my time reading this bullsh*t.?

"PROLOGUE" Lol. Who does that angmore in this generation?

For your mind you be good writer. Chimamanda Adichie would laugh her heart out if she sees your recycled pieces of junk.

Slynation:
It's different strokes for different folks....
I have seen situations where marriages breaks barriers and bring forth financial breakthrough in the family....your spouse can be the key to unlock your financial freedom!!
So don't just wake up one day after eating Xmas rice and meat and be forming motivational speaker on social media by scaring away hustling men planning on getting married....

God bless you. You are on point

You should tag that dumbass Ubunja on this.

virus05:
Men are supposed to take care of women not vice versa so hustle hard

God bless you.

If Ubunja sees this. He'd say you are a woman with a male moniker. Like all of us must be mad and vile like him

ubunja:
personally I don't drink and I dont smoke. I also hate soccer and any sports. You do know if a man doesn't drink and smoke then pussy is his vice. And Neither do I watch TV. (bores me to death).

You only watch gay dark porn because you dont get the pvssy either.Broke is bad though. Whats the state of that shrunken thing after years of self pleasure. After pvssy hunting and getting none?

Being born by illiterate can be a curse. In your case it is.

Jewessgratitude:
Bless your sweet soul dear. You just took the words right out of my mouth.

Shey Kylie will give the money to her guy.

Kim the elder sis too was rich but she landed herself a multi billionaire husband (kanye) who futes all her bills.

This Nairaland guys are not worth arguing with most times cos this forum has beclouded their sense of reasoning and affected their ability to man up to their responsibilities, hence their exchanging words with women every now and then.

It hasnt affected mine in no way. I understand the need to stand up for your wife and family in general.

How can my kids bear my surname after my wife went into the labour room 3 times and I'd expect her to foot the bills and not be a man?

Am i Ubunja? The gigolo who runs his "mouth" on Nairaland attacking women like a mo.ron?

ubunja:
dude being a sex doll in a world where other men pay thousands for pussy will never be a bad deal. But that's not where I am. My point is why chase money when you can chase women with money? The human is always the weakest link. I better work on manipulating a female for her money than face the world and hustle. Hustling is too stressful. Some of us aren't built for it. But we are pretty good scammers.

Your strategy ended up ruining you because you spent the money you got scamming women like a fool. Now you are too old to be "cougared". Cougars don't do wrinkles.

Now who.is the gold digger? Cancer of the mouth go chop that your mouth that you have been using to call women gold diggers when you are infact the lazy ass gigolo. This is why your mother being a stark illiterate affected you negatively. Her stupidity ensured she made a huge mess of you. Now see how messed up you are? Too old to find a cougar. You gonna die poor.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
men hate wedding abi?

I never said that. We do of course.

KIkiofure:
I am currently two months pregnant with no support from him.. He denied me and his family too..
I pray I birth this child in peace but since he denied me already he can never see this child.. He even called my baby bastard

He is callous to have called his own baby a bastard. Show him how to behave like a human being by punishing him.

My dear once you have that child, do the birth registration in your own surname and not his.
That way you deny him paternity for life.

I dislike cruelty to females. I have daughters and i will stand up against any idiotic man any day. Best of luck to you.

nanaman:
Yes. Issues like this should not be taken or decided with personal feelings.

The man was bad. YES.

Is the father of the child. YES

Did he take care of the child from birth till date. NO

Has she (the girl) being adopted by another family. NO

No where in the law states an irresponsible man should be denied paternity. Lots of things would be posed as the cause of the problem and if the mother denies, DNA would be requested and since the mother knows, truly, the real father is the new man, then, DNA is ruled out.

I already explained what your sister failed to do at the initial stage which brought her to this step.

To custody issue, I stated, the young girl is of age according to law to decide where she wants to live. The court cannot deny the real dad visit and care para-adventure she decides to stay with her mother. Wherever she decides to stay, the man is now "responsible" to law and he should not be denied his right. That's the law bro.

And where is he going to get the samples for the DNA from. He'd force a 16 year old to provide her blood or swab her mouth?You just said bullshit*t. The irresponsible nigga has no case.