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babajero:
But it is Haram for a Muslim woman to marry a Christian right?

Mallam, if its Haram for a Muslim girl to marry a Christian man in Islam, why would you now subscribe to allowing other religions to allow their females marry your males.

I have dated many Muslim gurls but once i mentioned marriage, they zoom off.

Its not allowed for a Muslim girl to marry a non Muslim boy, so DO YOU EXPECT CHRISTIANS TO DO OTHERWISE?

Selfish freaks.

sixtus3606:
Ofcourse they(disvirgined ones) won't. Why?...because they have experimented with the experimentables, sexually. Thus, they probably tend to explore beyond marriage.

Sex is an activity, & an exercise. So, the more men encounter ladies who can variate the exercise & make them see new perspectives to the sexual activity, the more they go after EXPERIENCE, not really about TIGHTNESS.
I use to have a babe that was danm tight, buh each we're at it she ll be asking me stupid & annoying questions. So, whenever i remember her tight pssy, i get aroused vuh immediately i recall the rubbish talks, i get out off immediately.
Then, there are those who can do anything to make u feel like the King of Sex, & even when they form, & in ur mind u feel there like Oloshos, buh u feel desire & want them more.

Haba, ever wondered y even companies long to hire EXPERIENCED staff?

selflessmaya:
when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work t
hrough in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP

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WOW! I VE BEEN A NATURAL PSYCHOLOGIST THAT I CAN PSYCHO ANALYSE U WITHIN 3O MINUTES OF MEETING & TALKING WT U, BUH I MUST SAY, I HAVEN'T MET SOMEONE WHO HAS RICH KNOWLEDGE ABT CERTAIN HUMAN BEHAVIOR COMPONENT AS U JUST DISPLAYED IN UR ANALYSIS OF THIS LADY IN QUESTION.

YOU DID DILLY DALLY WT CERTAIN ASSUMPTIONS, BUT, I MUST SAY U STILL WERE ABLE TO HIT BULLSEYE SO MANY TIMES, DEAR.

THIS IS TO ALL NATURAL PSYCHOLOGISTS, & T O THE WELL TRAINED ONES.

KUDOS DEAR, YOUR NOBEL PRIZE IS NOT TOO FAR AWAY.

GeneralOjukwu:
Nicely written.

I agree with you 90% but you omitted the part where females cheat.

There's a married lady, with kids, thast been stalking & disturbing me like crazy. I even peep around with fears while i drive around vicinities that is close yo her street.

Teo years ago, due to nature of my job i meet several ladies, many married ones, one quite beautiful Tailor was making suggestive glances & eventually utterances at me. I simply smile & show my respect to the madam.

Women, i discovered are more dangerous when they philander. Because, they have strong excuses which their men cannot investigate, and also, the society simply believe & expect that philandering is a man's fort.

God remove far from me, a philandering woman.
Amen.

This is one od f the reasons why I respect women who have babies. At that point between life & death 50/50.

I dedicate today, my birthday, yo my lovely mum, departed but vividly alive in my mind: i remember your beautiful face, your strong hands of love teaching me to be the best that life cannot torment, to be strong, courageous yo withstand the Storms of Life that constantly arise in all spheres.

Mum, i thank God that you are still my mother, alive in my memories. My only pains is that you're not here to dedicate the beautiful house i built in preparation for your glorious ageing.

May the good Lors have mercy on your soul & make you dwell in peace in the everlasting life.
AMEN!

To my beautiful wife, i love you, remain strongly my current mother.

My brother i feel your pain too. Because anybody or any guy that calls himself a TRUE PLAYER & haven't been bleeped up by a host of babes before doesn't deserve that degree. Wel, i only wanted to point out to you that ladies aren't EVIL, as you postulated. They're simply complying with the demands of their desires. And this is obviously a product of what some men hve put them into. Guy, dont strangle me for saying this plain truth.

1) We guys beat our chest & even sex talk about how many girls we r frolicking with to our Gees. We don't feel any qualms about it when we are hailed as Macho men, u know.

2) When our musicians sing about girls leaving their guys to go after these musicians, u think it will not give them sweet Ideas about TASTING OTHER BANANAS that should fall on them?!

3) When we see a very pretty, sexy & all that lady, we go asking for her number. Please arw u assuming she may not have a current guy? But u still insist to collect her number to get to know WHAT about her? Ofcourse, our simple intention is to have our own taste of her sweet puna. And this leads to our pressuring her, treating her like a Queen, something we dont do anymore to our current bae. So, we deceive them to thinking their own current guy too isn't LOVING, & unfortunately they give in.

4) Finally, do you think WOMEN DONT HAVE SEXUAL FANTASIES LIKE MEN?!!!!!!
See, they also want tp taste multiple guys the same time, Orgy, Lesbian experience, different exotic styles wuth a drugged mind, etc.

So, abeg u, just pick her back & turn her to your Bleep mate, not enemy.

FOR WE ARE ALL MORTALS/FLESH WITH SINFUL SIDES.

PEACE BRO

Davindal:
Please guys, trust no girl wholeheartedly oo. Trust any girl at your own peril, if you fail to heed my warning.

A girl I have been keeping for almost 2 years - with the hope of marrying her once I pass out from here in NDA - just disappointed me, thereby shattering me to pieces. Right now, am in pains.

I was given 3 days pass to enable me attend an important event at home. Before the permission, my supposed babe have been disturbing on how badly she needed to be sexed, and how distance has been a barrier to that effect. I kept telling her to hold her chill, that am gonna be back soon. Although I had heard annoying stuffs about my babe - now an Ex, on how she was frolicking with different guys in my absence, but I was not deterred; simply because, I didn't believe in hearsays.

Yesterday, she called and sent me sweet text messages as she normally do. I asked her to come over to my house around 4PM which she reluctantly obliged. But the way she sounded over the phone made it clear that she never wished to see me any time soon, maybe due to her schedules with other stuffs.

However, I pondered how my babe who has been disturbing and informing me on how 'conjirized' she is suddenly feel not too excited coming to see me dispite being aware that I came home on Tuesday(17th) night.

Time ticked to 4pm yesterday, I didn't see her. I exercised patience till 5pm before I gave her call, but she didn't pick. I called for the second time but no picking again. I decided to hold dowm my anger and not to call her again for the day. Around 15mins to 6pm, she called back saying that her phone was on silent. I ask why, and she told me she would explain when she reached my home that she was running short of airtime.

Finally, she came and apologized after explanation of what led to her phone being on silent. I asked her never to worry that am not holding anything against her, that she should be free.

However, situation changed the moment I tried making love with her as she undressed. Down her private part, I perceived the 'SCENT of CONDOM', and that was it. I enquired why she smells of condom there, but she couldn't give me coherent and articulate answer.

Being furious, I slapped and pushed her out of my compound.

Today in the afternoon, I sent her final warning to stay clear from me or I will shoot her skull to pieces.

Finally, guys be weary of whom you date. Most ladies out there are evil.

just2endowed:
Nigeria is still paying subsidy Mr Man or what trash are u saying

Kindly expantiate, Mister!

Nellybii:
Replacing them with who? Atiku? Fayose, who?

They're all BIRDS OF A FEATHER!

ALOWONLE419:
INSHA ALLAH

Sick fellow, why did u strike out the most important part of that mention?!!!
Uncivilized Bigot!!!

phemmyutd:
Nice one.

But why are there so many remote villages in the East? They only have few town

You lie!!!! Beleive me, the remotest village in the East is evidently better & more developed than your best cities in the Red Roof Enclave.

Ne nu isi ewu a!!

Pls tell us just 10 out of the 8,000,001 ways to deal with a rogue, stealing, philandering & still unfaithful woman who u just discovered has been lying abt her faithfulness & philandering!

PLS TELL US, NO OTHER INTENTIONS MEANT.

We have not heard the full gist. However, whatever had happened, theres no reason to attempt to murder anybody. That's blatant foolishness.
We all get provoked by different people in tge course of life's activities, but why allow someone yo influence u to have blood on your hands,

GOD FORBID, IT SHALL NOT HAPPEN TO MEOR WHOEVER IS RELATED TO ME.

Because the married women looked & encouraged the young boyz whose dicks r bigger & hotter enuf to quench d fire their hubbies couldn't quench whike same Hubbies r quenching d small spark in younger girls puna (who has several other younger men quenching their fore).

Secondly, a hoe b4 marriage is definitely gonna b whorish after marriage.
There's a married woman who is stalking me on whatsapp ever since i helped her by dropping her from the hospital, where transport is difficult. Now she sends me swt messages, romantic words & pics. But, i dnt respond. I considered blocking her, bt i need enuf evidence just im case (because i onw how wicked women cld b, she may turn d table around one day & claim I'm wooing her.)
Finally, I've discovered that many married women are not really married in their hearts, they philander. Its a common trend now. God help us all.

Cinderella5:
why will a man be attracted to another man's wife?

burner44:
The homebased wife fuçk up big time she just spoil work for the man hand, and na d white woman day pay the man money wet e da spend for the homebase head

Another Nelson tendee fraudster spotted! I know say u no go luk twice b4 u do ur own, if d opportunity presents itself.

Good for u dear.

Tednersy:
Mbok I don't even chat.

English teacher wehdone!!! As if u dont do typo errors, even with speed chats!

Tednersy:
Mbok this your English.

Na so. Bunch of lazy Mofos using their ass & face as Source of Income, without any brain to offer.
Mmcchee!

saraki2019:
what i know is that kachikwu is an igbo man, he has this biafran tendency in him, he just wanted to tarnish te image of buhari and apc government. i think it is time for buhari to kick his ass out.
why will he go on media to broadcast alleged corruption before discussing it with his superior as a state minister.
buhari should watch those close to him

Hey Dumbo! U r really dumb, in capital letters DUMB!!!
Hv u ever seen enlightened Igbos arguing abt any biafran thing? Even serious minded and progressive ibgos would not waste their priceless time on that thing, talk more of a Prof. of repute.

Prof. Ibe is too good for your sorry asses.
F-off!!!

Forgive him, pray for him & move on.

Whatsapp 08065477986
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thnks

potipher7:
drop your number


please those who contacted me i will teach you everything you need to know in bitcoin etherium etc.


note: japan has made bitcoin a legal tender recently

Hi, pls how do i begin the bitcoin investment?

potipher7:
Bae you are just greedy

Imagine buying one bitcoin with that amount when bitcoin was about 1000usd by now you would have been in a bloody profit
Bitcoin is the only investment worth investing now
1 bitcoin is almost 5000usd

MPERVERTED LADY!!
Shift & pack well...

deebee13:
I'm not responsible for your problems bro! But if my comment is what you need to get an erection, then I'm glad I could help.

I SECOND U, BRO
quote author=yeyerolling post=60901142]Coming from a parasitic failure. The problem with nigerians is dat the elite/rulers know we are dumb so they keep fooling us. The 2019 election gimmick and promise wud be restructuring. Bt if it happens only the rulers go enjoy am. E.g in Lagos Tinubu grew the IGR in lagos but he set up alpha beta to do d collection. Alpha beta still collects 10-15% of lagos IGR. Dont be fooled. What we need is revolution[/quote]

HABA!

adaksbullet:
while are u beleaved him?

Abeg go and sleep joorz! U wey Oyibo man has so confused u dat even ur skin is according to wht u see form Oyibo TV & social media.
At the rate that u r goin wt ur White mentality, ur next generation will only Identify a black true African Queen from pictures of yesteryears.

Shioor!!!

Dont u hv something ur people are known for? U think God ia foolish not to place a balance in the Ecosystem?!

HABA!

deebee13:
I think I'm gonna barf... This is so gross! The rate at which snakes are being killed in this country, the next generation will only identify one from pictures or on TV.

Yesh, even the National Assembly had to make their speech through Yslubu Dogara.

OjukwuWarBird:
A comment written under a brown roof or amongst a herd of cows.


Those who are conversant with the feelings on ground know that Kanu popularity has increased since the attack.

If u were closer to me i'd hv given d beating of ur life that ur humanity wld b reset FOREVER!!

UduMgbo1:
where are the boobs

Intellad:
that s how I was raped severally in the prison, both inmates and the warders. jux because I have big ass and a sexy lips.....

What is this one saying?! Perv!!!

If i post important topics that would help humanity & beg mods tays. Even when i bribe Lalas wt snake pics, yet dem no put my post for FP.Bt see this topic that would not epp enibodi except TY Bello, e hit FP wit jst 3 views & posts.

HABA!!
God is watching u guys/mods

Its so unfortunate. Ypu live in Naija & now u r threatening Naija guys, even using ur black wide Shisha mouth dey call Naija guys Nigga!!!!

Kai!! Nigerians don suffer seriously, everyday everybody shit on our head; South boys, Northern immigrants, Chaddian, Ghanaians, & even dirty controversial Kenyans wt their watery butts!

Ha! Why now?!

And Umar may probably be freed ASAP.

Nbote:
It is only in a country like Nigeria dat doesn't know it's population or have a database of its citizens but yet has a Social Insurance Trust Fund.. Abeg for who?? These are jus one of d numerous bogus agencies and departments used by d govt to settle some ppl... I'm assuming her accomplice, d Umar guy is already in custody since he wasnt declared wanted as well..

No difference, bro. A non Christian belongs to the other groups. So, ur comments are anti-Christianity.

Continue

wakaman:
I am not a muslim, i am a nominal Christian by birth, but i have given that up. I am now a common senser!

Wake up!