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BigBros147:
I find it amusing that ishilove still remain the yardstick with which you use in judging your trolling abilities, I mean, if after all this years, you're still hurting like a kid whose candy was stolen by a bully, it shows you really need help. Like serious help.

So, if you believe yourself to be a good troll, let's see how well you'd do against the likes of Diss.Troy.

Game?

Joey! Banned again?

JaffyJoe:
Yeah I understand your pov. This is why I'm not an advocate of polygamy. Everything tends to fall apart. Many fathers in retrospect are usually regretful in the end.

JaffyJoe:
This kind of thing can be psychologically damaging for his other kids.

zeekeyboy:
Once a lady replies me with "k"..........only Jesus can resurrect that convo

Jazmiynne:
Let's start with some things that I find worrisome in your story...

1. Your boyfriend got into business trouble deep enough that he lost his shop and entire business and you had no idea? As in he didn't tell you, instead started throwing moods around? Really... Please what do you guys discuss in your relationship biko?
Who does your boyfriend confide in?
In a commited relationship, couples share their struggles and wins.
For me that says a lot about your relationship and it's not a good lot I tell you.



2. The quoted above is yet another worry. That the thought enters your mind is normal, don't let anyone make you feel stupid. No one wants to be cheated, so that thought entering your mind isn't out of place. But what is worrying is that the thought stayed. As in, it didn't just fleetingly occur to you, it sounds like this is an actual thought process for you. Again this tells a lot about your relationship.
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3. Still on the quoted, why will your boyfriend see that your entire money in this life is 820k and then request for 700k to pay off debt and start a business afresh? Especially when he knows you also run a business, it's not like you earn salaries such that he is banking on next month's salary to cushion the effect. Is it 120k that you will use to run your own business and cater for your personal expenses (including his own expenses that you're currently assisting with)?
Not to sound like a bad wish, but what if he honestly intends to repay but the business fails?
I find this really worrisome. A partner who is thinking with you in the picture, will consider these factors "when she gives me, how do we survive?" If he had asked for 500k sef that would have been more understandable. It's not a bad thing if he gets the bulk sum from you and sources for the remaining 200k.

3. Completely ignore the people that are singing how they spent millions on their girlfriends and how women never want to spend on a man. First off, you didn't send them to spend the money. Also, this is your story not theirs, you choose the risks you're willing to take. Don't let anyone conscientize you into making money decisions. I'd tell you for free that if you were a guy who posted this same story on NL, 88% of the comment would have focused on how the lady is a gold-digging bitch who keeps info from her man (and is hence not to be trusted) and wants to run him down by taking 700k out of his 820k life savings.
For that reason, expunge gender bias from your mind when you're making the decision. You have absolutely NOTHING to prove to anyone by giving him money just to show that women can give too. It's YOUR money, YOUR man, YOUR life, YOUR risk.

Oh well...

I'm not going to say give or don't give. That's because in relationships, things are rarely ever black or white, there's lots of grey lines that your narrative will not explain to us. But before you make your decision, please think about these points I've raised and especially if you're making the decision with a mind that will later think "after all I've done for him".

And if you're giving, don't just borrow money without some sort of recorded outline of your money is to be repaid. Except you're dashing him, make it plain that it's a dash. If it's a loan, let him make it plain how it will be repaid. It's a business transaction, leave love out of it please, your business is loaning another business funds; so make sure to DOCUMENT it in the presence of a neutral witness.

Whatever you do, don't give out of a heart that intends to "trap him" into commitment on the basis of your "sacrifices" (you can watch Acrimony to confirm how that turns out).

Thanks to you and the other selfish females on this thread for giving me even more reasons to act aloof towards women and their problems, to never bother about helping out female non-relatives financially.

I'm glad I made and stuck to that decision years ago.

J2381:
ladies and gentlemen, a round of applause for the saint online.

Anyway, in due time all will be revealed, but not now, not now at all.

Cc: disstro.y.

Belated reply.

This section and the Forum Games Section are arguably the most peaceful sections on Nairaland.

In another section (the Family Section) I just might join in the fray, maybe; but on this thread I'd rather not.

Another section, another thread, man.

AfroSamurai:
nigga, get lost and stay lost!

Yes! The drama has begun!