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Family › Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by diva90: 12:51pm On Apr 18, 2016

That behaviour is peculiar to her, I don't see why picking up a brother should be an issue. She seems to be a jealous person with a slight temper. I'm sure these traits are not new, yet you married her, something you have to learn to manage.

Crime › Re: I Bought Recharge Card From Firstbank, They Took Money Without Crediting Me by diva90: 11:01pm On Apr 17, 2016

Better still walk into a branch and complain

NYSC › Re: 15 Corpers Who Are Happy To Pass Out by diva90: 9:48pm On Apr 17, 2016

It's all laughter and smiles until the heat of unemployment hits them grin

Family › Re: Why Do People Put Pressure On Young Adult To Get Married? by diva90: 9:39pm On Apr 17, 2016

mumtriplet2:
That is how mum pushed me to marry when I was in jss2, just for her child to marry early.

Later got married when I was in ss3 ( just to make them happy) hubby promised me heaven and earth that I will further my education but it never happened.

I have been married to 5years now but no child (married as a virgin), he beat me every time call me names and say that am badluck to him.He is 11 years older than me ,Am 22+ and am tied.

I want to move on with my life but everyone is saying that we have wedded that is not easy to divorce.
am afraid because I don't want to die and he may kill me one day.

God I need your wisdom in this critical condition that am into.

#AllIWantIsToBeHappy

That's too bad! You need to leave that marriage and start afresh! You are a young lady supposedly with a lot of potentials...Look for a small job to be doing while you save some money to further your education. It's very important that you complete your school. Without a degree you are hindered and cannot progress properly career wise.
Your marriage is not healthy. If there was no violence involved, I would have adviced you to try and get pregnant because a child might remedy the stress between you two and restore some love. I find it hard to believe that you are 22+ and going through infertility issues. It's either you two do not have sex at the right time or you have hormonal issues. Anyways, looking at the situation of things , it's not adviced that you remain there.
Seek help with someone who is older and more experienced, so that they can advice you properly on what next to do.
Good luck!

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Family › Re: Why Do People Put Pressure On Young Adult To Get Married? by diva90: 9:29pm On Apr 17, 2016

Societal expectations basically! In the Nigerian context, you aren't fully accomplished until you have a family and kids

Family › Re: How My Late Aunt Maturely Dealt With Her Cheating Husband.........ladies LEARN! by diva90: 9:23pm On Apr 17, 2016

This is BS! You should have told us what killed her, probably an STD that she contracted from her husband or high blood pressure from all the thinking and lack of peace of mind. I also want to believe she stayed in the marriage because she was financially dependent on him, there is no other reason why a wise woman would take such nonsense and risk her life/health. Thank Goodness for the Age of Enlightenment and female empowerment , most women don't have to remain in such a miserable mess. Imagine if the tables were turned and your aunt was the one cheating, how would your uncle have handled it?

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Family › Re: The Only 2 Tips You Need For Perfectly Perky Breasts by diva90: 9:11pm On Apr 17, 2016

Thread for the small breasted girls. Not possible to be a D cup and have perky breasts

Phones › Re: It's Official, Blackberry Stopped Production Of BB10 Devices: Wave Goodbye!! by diva90: 4:28pm On Apr 16, 2016

Long overdue.... addicted to my iPhone 6, don't think I can use any phone other than Apple

Celebrities › Re: Sonia Ogbonna At Ooni Of Ogunwusi's Palace (photos) by diva90: 4:25pm On Apr 16, 2016

No recent pics of the new olori

Health › Re: Health System Injustice In Nigeria: A Cry From A Broken Heart by diva90: 4:19pm On Apr 16, 2016

ubecharles:
. Who told you Nigerian nurses earn peanuts? Goto teaching hospitals and fmc's and find out what they earn. You'll be surprised some of them earn up to 700k per month

How many years experience do they have? Probably over 20 years of experience or they are at management level for them to be earning that. A new nurse what does she earn? Less than 50k not to talk of private hospitals. A nurse in the US makes in two days what a nurse in nigeria makes in a month.

Health › Re: Health System Injustice In Nigeria: A Cry From A Broken Heart by diva90: 5:54am On Apr 16, 2016

So true! Nigerian nurses earn peanuts! Definitely not a good profession if you are looking to be 'rich'

Education › Re: Edo University, Iyamo, Most Expensive Public University In Nigeria (Pics by diva90: 5:53pm On Apr 15, 2016

The school looks nice! You can tell that it is a public university with a difference. Like Pple say, you pay for what u get...

Romance › Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by diva90: 4:19pm On Apr 15, 2016

austinosita:
Too much??! You need to see my list below:

Lol! Your list is small na, come and marry wife from mbaise

Romance › Re: Is This Why He Doesn't Want To Propose? by diva90: 4:36am On Apr 15, 2016

Adaowerri111:
Been dating for years and today I decided to go through my Bf's pics/gallery...I found this, is it for real?

It's real, my village list was 3 pages and each page was longer than that list you posted. Somethings can be negotiated or substituted with its monetary value. The list is usually divided into what the man will do for the girl's father, her mother, the umu Ada( elder women) and the elders, also things he will buy for the bride. It's just inevitable Igbo tradition and this is not even the bride price, he will still do the list and pay the bride price. Pride price can range from N5 to thousands of naira depending on brides village and family demands

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Family › Re: A No Reception Wedding: How Feasible? Come In, Let's Discuss by diva90: 3:05am On Apr 15, 2016

One word: awkward. You can have a very small strictly by attendance reception(100 people or less) instead of completely ruling it out. So many ways to cut costs, if your church has a hall, they would most likely give it to u for free or a very small fee. You can look for affordable caterers, cheap dj and photographer etc just sit down and plot out a budget and plan

Family › Re: Pregnant Again! Advice Please. by diva90: 2:57am On Apr 15, 2016

Deed is done. Just accept it and come to terms with it. The most important thing is that your husband has pledged his support. Imagine if the case was reverse. Every disappointment is a blessing. After this one, make sure you get actual birth control from a family planning center, withdrawal method is not reliable. If you don't, then don't come running to us when number 5 happens ... All the best

Family › Re: Who Comes For "Omugo" First? The Husband Or Wife's Mum? by diva90: 2:45am On Apr 15, 2016

Omugwo is for the woman's mother to do, the only time the man's mother does omugwo is if the woman's mother is late or she's unable to attend for reasons that are beyond control. However the man's parents come and visit but it's not really considered omugwo

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Family › Re: Her Husband's Sisters Disrespect Her In her Own Home by diva90: 2:37am On Apr 15, 2016

Why can't she get a small maid to help her with chores? If she's so uncomfortable with her Inlaws staying in her husband's house, then she should speak to her husband about her concerns and ask him to subtly ask them to vacate/find somewhere else. Seeing that the husband is on the same side with his sisters, he most likely will refuse. If I were her I would insist that they leave (he should choose between his wife or his sisters). They can go stay with their parents if they live in the same town or he can rent them a small cheap apartment. Their marriage is too young to have all these people sharing the same space with them, na so so trouble dey start

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Family › Re: 1-Day-Old Baby Found In A River In Osun (graphic Photos) by diva90: 2:28am On Apr 15, 2016

This is madness! Carrying a baby for 9 months and then abandoning the baby for death after its born... undecided

Business › Re: Onitsha Shopping Mall Commissioned By Obiano - Photos by diva90: 2:20am On Apr 15, 2016

Nice one

Romance › Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by diva90: 2:04am On Apr 15, 2016

Very brilliant article! It's unfortunate that many Nigerian women are very lazy and would rather seek for a well to-do/rich man to marry instead of a man they can grow with. They forget that these men who are rich today started from somewhere and that the men who are struggling today may be be even richer than the men they are seeking today. Most of them who sought rich men eventually enter the marriage and don't even have peace of mind... So many examples out there. Truth is bitter but I'll say it....it is best to seek a man who is still coming up and grow with him. Like OP stated, females should try to have their own jobs and be financially independent instead of waiting for a man to do everything for them

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NYSC › Re: Nairaland Congratulates All 2015/2016 Batch A Corps Members Passing Out Today by diva90: 5:25pm On Apr 14, 2016

Congrats to them! True reality of life begins. Time to join the hustling market of job seekers

Celebrities › Re: Inside Olajumoke Orisaguna's New Apartment - Photos by diva90: 5:22pm On Apr 14, 2016

9jabuzzblog:
Is that broom she is hanging like spoon in her kitchen?

I was shocked to see that too shocked

Politics › Re: 'The Essentials Of Beauty Therapy' By Aisha Buhari by diva90: 5:20pm On Apr 14, 2016

Buhari's wife is an epitome of beauty

Celebrities › Re: Photos From Omawumi's 34th Birthday Party In Lekki (photos) by diva90: 4:30pm On Apr 14, 2016

Ebukas wife looks visibly pregnant

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Business › Re: Emefiele Promises Stable Naira In 2016 by diva90: 4:02am On Apr 14, 2016

We still dey wait undecided

almost half of 2016 and $ is still 323

Family › Re: Who Is Your Best Friend And Why? by diva90: 3:59am On Apr 14, 2016

No one!

Crime › Re: Hairstylist Battered By Her Jealous Husband In Lagos (photos) by diva90: 2:02am On Apr 14, 2016

staymore:
Your number one is the most painful, mostly when you refuse eating in the house. I tried it once and hunger really dealt with me, because I don't like eating out. Since then, If I am angry I will still eat and continue my anger.

Crime › Re: Hairstylist Battered By Her Jealous Husband In Lagos (photos) by diva90: 2:01am On Apr 14, 2016

She needs to get out of that useless marriage. undecided

Someone was saying that he beats her on a regular basis, I guess this was just the height of it all and now she's ready to speak out. She's financially independent , thank God. I just hope that she makes the right move by leaving this abusive husband of hers.

Travel › Re: SCAM ALERT : Is Wakanow.com A Fraud? by diva90: 1:44am On Apr 14, 2016

Your best bet is to get a lawyer since you have gone to their office severally and called to no avail. I doubt they are a scam because I have successfully used them a number of times to book my international flights but of course with most Nigerian businesses, it's always a hassle getting refunds back. Regardless, Really bad of them to treat you that way since customer service should be their number 1 priority. All the best in getting your money back cos 320k no be beans

Business › Re: Banks Under Pressure From Industry Groups To Deepen FX Market by diva90: 1:35am On Apr 14, 2016

Infinitikoncept:
My grudge is against Naija banks claiming they got USD @ other sources apart from CBN so they sell @ whatever price they feel but when you want to collect your money gram, western union money or USD from your dorm they tell you its official buying rate & I wonder who is the scammer here. Why is CBN turning a blind eye to allocation of USD to banks & allowing them charge as much ad 330# above black market. If banks receive forex through t/t, western union, money gram, dorm account transfer but they will tell you we don't send USD out while others will even deactivate their cards from been used for international transactions what exactly are they using the Fx inflow for?
There is deep corruption in our banks

Even western union is a scam currently. There's no longer any such thing as official rate in nigeria anymore. Sent WU to the US, N190,000 and recipient picked $754. Meaning WU was given to her at a rate of N251 per $... Meanwhile actual rate is supposed to be N193 per dollar. I really think that the FG needs to look into these issues. There's no other route to get genuine forex at bank rate. So unfortunate

Family › Re: My Dad Want Me To Divorce My Wife by diva90: 9:42pm On Apr 13, 2016

What were his reasons?

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