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Smh... Its so appalling that it had to get to such an extent.

You made a very big mistake for raising your hands against her. For crying out loud, this girl is just your girl friend and not your slave. Why on earth did you slap her? On her part, she made a mistake also for returning the slap(infact, slaps). In any way we look at it, two wrongs can never and will never make a right. The fact that I am not and will never be in support of raising one's hand against one's lover, that is not to justify that what she did was right.

If I were you, there are variant ways I would have handled that situation. Firstly, since I did try to get her attention with my call and she refused to answer the call, I would wait there and make sure she get to notice me, and the moment I confirm that she has noticed me, I would leave that premises. And trust me, I would never bring up that issue, I would just leave it for her conscience to hunt her, knowing fully well that I saw her or rather caught her red-handed. Secondly, if I had a very good view of the both of them, I would just put up my phone instantly and record the whole scenario, at least for a while just to use it as evidence when the confrontation begins. After that, I would question her when I get to see her and try to get the truth from her, but if she refuse to give-in, I would just put on the video and give it to her for her to watch. After that, I would leave and never say anything more. Lastly, after watching her for a while, I would leave and when we get to see, I would question her about her whereabouts to a point she would get annoyed, and thats when I would divulge everything.

Back to the nitty-gritty, the deed has been done. The salient question that comes to the fore now is.. What next? Just search yourself and decide if to continue the relationship or not. If you would choose to end it, it should be because of her insincerity, dishonesty, and her untruthfulness, not to mention her unfaithfulness, games and all that crap... I wonder how long she must have been doing that...

Well, take heart sha. But next time, don't ever try to lay your hands on a woman for whatever reason. I think there are better ways to treat a woman's misdemeanor than raising your hand against her.. I have never tried that and would never try it. I don't even shout at a girl much more raise my hand against her... I always think there are other ways to treat her misdeeds than that....

I just hope it lasts long. Anywayz, it takes two to tangle. If the both of you are committed to each-other, plus you understand to the latter, then it would definitely last long. I wish you guys all the best...

luvmijeje: ehnnn oga o,this is luv! Stainless am jealous.I hope this 1 no be for mouth.

Lolzzz

pekelepekele: It is not Nigerians fault that they are not humble when rich . Nigeria is one hell of a place Imagine that man coming to stay in Nigeria for a year and he is riding bike everywhere won't he be kidnapped? STOP BLAMING WE NIGERIANS IF YOU A NIGERIA LIVING ABROAD SHUT THE F-UCK UP , IF YOU ARE A GHANIAN OR FROM OTHER PART OF AFRICA ON NL INSULTING NIGERIANS F-UCK U!!!

Lwtmpo

kokonets: Well congrats RM, I think that Barcelona’s drop in form is very much due to Tito's absence, something not highlighted by the press. His absence is a huge deal, especially considering that his replacement Roura is a relative amateur

We will bounce back!!

For sure!!!

ddippset: mr internet tough guy, mr nairaland strong man, whom exactly are you directing these shots at? Xavi, iniesta, messi, puyol, roura and co. Or the. Nairaland barca crew? You need to let us know hommie.

It kept me ruminating too...

OMO IBO: You had a good time listening to racist chants and you see nothing wrong in that??

You need help sir.

Whats your mission here if I may ask? Instead of you to look for a way to sedate things, you are there taking sides and therby escalating this issue. Na wa oooo. No be so na.

My fellow FCBs, please lets drop it, it ain't worth it abeg... Make we just lock up. Everyone is entitled to its opinion. Anything wey anyone like talk, e no comot anything for person body.

^^^Lol...

^^^You are right man... I'm with you on this

ddippset: Men I am so so pissed but thank God it wasn't a hiding. My 5-0 is still intact. They can have the copa I'l have la liga. But for now I need man u to do me a favour. Knock these basstardz out.

Infact, just like u read my mind before posting this... Like u stated, our 5-0 is yet intact and afterall I won at the Santiago last season by this same goal margin, so no cause for alarm.

Anywayz, we really do need CBs (at least 2), Neymar, and one other person up-front (a striker). ..

In any case, we are more than a club.
Forca Barca!!!

Stealthy: We are officially in crisis mode. We are definitely not beating Milan 3-0 if we keep defending like this.

Thank God Tito got us a healthy lead in the league before getting ill.



I agree 100%.

AJ, sorry man. Wrong match to go watch in Camp Nou.

Barca coaches and management need to learn that defence is part of the game and necessary investments in quality CBs is paramount for this team. No point defending like school boys and later blaming opponents for parking the bus.

You are right bruv... I can see us winning just the league this season and hopefully the super cup...

Armaniswiz: Of course there r many big shots in 9ja who r humble even though i don't think this is a complete act of humility, it could b out of convenience, personal preference/lifestyle and obviously safe for him. A lot of weathly men would ride bikes in 9ja but then you ask yourself, on which road? u worry abt ur safety as well as security cuz none has been provided. i once used a bycicle to a bank close to where i live in lagos n got very insulted by d security dude for tryin to keep it at d car park. My point is, it cld b for exercise or some other reason n probably he drives to work sometimes. Not all wealthy Nigerians r arrogant/noisy n not all white wealthy people r humble, it's down to personality n lifestyle.

Gbam!!!

Yeah... But you have to take cognizance of the fact that, she must be respectful. The truth is, there is nothing bad about it. The major reason why lots of people are scared of going into a relationship with such kinda woman is because of respect. And to be sincere with you, if a woman is respectful, he is respectful irrespective of her age or something...

If you are very observant you will know that young girls of nowadays are rude and un-respectful(most though). If you see a girl that is respectful with good manners, I tell you even if she were younger than you or not the respect will be there.

I wrote this piece from experience. I dated someone who was 4-5 years older than myself, but up to this day, I am yet to see a girl with her level of morality, respect and manners. She almost worshipped me with her extraordinary manners and respect...

So, if you feel she has these attributes, I would say go for her...

Mad Cow: lol!!

Bros cool down!! Na so my matter dey always be!! No be quarrel o!!

Anyways, I get your point. Which is coming from a Nigerian Perspective, its definitely condesending for a wealthy man such as him to be riding a bike (which by the way may just cost more than most high end vehicles manufactured in the same year as it) or even use public transport system (such as a train)..

Well.. If that is your arguement, then I get it!

Sadly, I have lived and worked in Europe and America and know that this is not unusual.. So no wahala!

No vex o!! Na rough play I been dey follow you play! [/b]

No wahala brother... No offence recorded...

Mad Cow: You still havent realized the errors of your comment. Oya, grab a textbook..


Todays Lesson: 'Condesending'.

condescending

Use in a sentence

con·de·scend·ing/ˌkɒndəˈsɛndɪŋ/ Spelled [kon-duh-sen-ding]
adjective

showing or implying a usually patronizing descent from dignity or superiority:

Example: They resented the older neighbors' condescending cordiality.

Related forms
con·de·scend·ing·ly, adverb
non·con·de·scend·ing, adjective
non·con·de·scend·ing·ly, adverb
non·con·de·scend·ing·ness, noun
un·con·de·scend·ing, adjective
un·con·de·scend·ing·ly, adverb


Synonyms
patronizing, disdainful, supercilious.


con·de·scend/ˌkɒndəˈsɛnd/ Show Spelled [kon-duh-send]

verb (used without object)

1. to behave as if one is conscious of descending from a superior position, rank, or dignity.
2. to stoop or deign to do something: He would not condescend to misrepresent the facts.
3. to put aside one's dignity or superiority voluntarily and assume equality with one regarded as inferior: He condescended to their intellectual level in order to be understood.
4. Obsolete .
a. to yield.
b. to assent.

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condescend (ˌkɒndɪˈsɛnd)

— vb
1. to act graciously towards another or others regarded as being on a lower level; behave patronizingly
2. to do something that one regards as below one's dignity

condescending (ˌkɒndɪˈsɛndɪŋ)

— adj
showing or implying condescension by stooping to the level of one's inferiors, esp in a patronizing way


Anyhow you look at it, it means Inferior..

So I ask you; Are you implying that him riding a bike is condesending of his wealth status?! If yes, what car would be fitting of his status..

Ha ha ha... Now I get it. You seem like I was ignorant of the word I used. Newsflash! I wasnt.

Now back to the nitty-gritty, in reality brother, there exist very few people that would do that. Now, riding on a bike rather something more doesn't necessarily imply humility hook, line and sinker. Nevertheless, I am not implying that he his not humble but just trying to point out the fact that such practice isn't common for someone of his financial status.

Okay, why do you think people laud his action? I think its because what he did is definitely not common for a billionaire. Some weeks ago such was brought to the fore about Google's co-founder Brin when he boarded a train to work with the new google eye glass. The debate or rather reactions from NLers were similar to this, reasonably because such is not common especially in a country like ours.

Anyways, I could do as much and thats because of my uncommon nature. Yet, sometimes the best way to know how you would respond to certain things is when you experience them in reality.

Besides, na wa for u ooo. You just run judge me say na him make me never make am... Thats really absurd.

Actually mine wooed me and not the other way round...

Mad Cow: Epic fail!!!!!





So riding a bike is 'condesending' abi?!!

No wonder you never hammer!

It seems you didnt comprehend my statement properly. I said frankly, I might not come down to such level. The reason I used that term is sorely because of the fact that, sometimes it is easier said than done. You know this is the reality. Also, you failed to take cognizance of the word MIGHT!!!

Is that too hard to understand

Personally I hate too much publicity and stuffs... Although frankly, I might not condescend to such level buh then I would never make a big show of it... I just love low-key things. Thats just me anywayz

McDean: There's nofin i'd like more dan 2 b humble in riches and wealth...but God knws d guy's reasons 4 doin dat...

Same here bruv... I like that.

Idowuogbo: Bobo! Te "p"mole joor! Na "IT" dey call her generation mistake na! Which levels? Me jus dey promote d apology we have in our midst. Point and yab kian tinz... Oshamo! O wun yen ni yen, fi le be! Don't touch it.

Lolzzz...

But abeg just chill ehn.... Me no dey like all these kid levelz even though this na faceless forum.

You girls should stop this! Ahan! Wetin happen sef? Una just dey here dey insult una different families for where dem dey jeje... No be so na. Abeg make una lock up jare. This aint good please girlz. Just kill this war of words and bury your hatchets.

@Olari, abeg leave this thing. @Badosky, bone her and log abeg.

Wow... Thats an impressive one they got. They should keep the ball rolling....

Its definitely a sin...

chikeorji123: l weep..

I smh for some people... The world is down-side up

abohrandy: MORAL OF THE STORY: When you say Jesus is Lord; You have repented!!!

Lmao

[quote author=A-40]Curious stat I saw while watching Press Pass. Barca have conceded at least a goal in their last eleven consecutive matches


You guys ought to take that money and run!!![/quote]

[quote author=A-40]Curious stat I saw while watching Press Pass. Barca have conceded at least a goal in their last eleven consecutive matches


You guys ought to take that money and run!!![/quote]Before nkor...

[quote author=Mynd_44]Is she doing a job that I should pay her? It is men who justify this that make it occur more[/quote]Thats it... I wish men would be like me and act sensibly. Its not as if help shouldn't be rendered to the one that needs help, but its becoming a yardstick for being in a relationship these days and thats really absurd. I prefer to remain single for life than spend life with such people because they would rather be a torn on your flesh.

If these so-called-girls see this as a two-way traffic and are aware of the fact that, help can be rendered by any party at one point in time or the other and can act accordingly if their aide is needed, then I think it would make it more meaningful. But the thing with most of them girlz is that, they have conceived the idea that, everything is to be done by the man alone. My question now is and always will be: what role do girls play in a relationship since according to most of them, men are supposed to take care of everything....

Smh for most girls as they don't know that they fall short of their dignity, respect and their sensibilities. Anywayz, let them continue and see where it leads...

[quote author=Mynd_44]Is she doing a job that I should pay her? It is men who justify this that make it occur more[/quote]Thats it... I wish men would be like me ad act sensibly. Its not as if help shouldn't be rendered to the one that needs help, but its becoming a yardstick for being in a relationship these days and thats really absurd. I prefer to remain single for life than spend life with such people because they would rather be a torn on tour flesh.

If these so-called-girls see this as a two-way traffic and are aware of the fact that, help can be rendered by any party at one point in time or the other and can act accordingly if their aide is needed, then I think it would make it more meaningful. But the thing with most of them girlz is that, they have conceived the idea that, everything is to be done by the man alone. My question now is and always will be: what role do girls play in a relationship since according to most of them, men are supposed to take care of everything....

Smh for most girls as they don't know that they fall short of their dignity, respect and their sensibilities. Anywayz, let them continue and see where it leads...

ekenedegreat: So,wot re u insinuating? Yes,d number of girls going into prostitution re increasing... Is dat our (men) fault? D problem lies wit dem.. It is as a result of laziness, greed, materialistic, nd gold-digging dat is causing dis problem. Why can't dey engage themselves in something gud nd say no 2 prostitution nd things of dat sort.. For crying out loud is not dia birth-right to extort money frm any man dat comes dia way. So, let dem get dat into dia thick skull nd learn how to be a gud helper 2 dia men.

Gbam!!! Your head is there bruv...