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Guys who has their head screwed on, don't need advice on this. Good looking alpha guys will never stay in the friend zone for long in the first place. *shrugs*

Buhari was not laughing. That's the face of a man too embarrassed to look. Allow this picture, I feel sick

msmon:
Why do ladies often abuse, name-call or even curse a guy after a call?

It's a common act amongst ladies that they call suitors several kind of name after a call which I find very appalling.

I was at the motor park yesterday afternoon when a lady (she's not so beautiful ooo) received a call, she turned to her friend immediately after the call and said 'oloriburuku yen lo tun pemi yen ooo (that unfortunate guy called again)'. They didn't stop there, they both started calling and describing that guy with several names...

...and it something I have noticed about ladies overtime.

I hope one lady will have the audacity to tell us the rational behind this act.

Cc: adeh39, politricks, orijin101, lalasticlala, holatin, Omotayor123, rokiatu, Ishilove.

I must admit, this is very common among some of our sisters born in naija. I can't speak for them nor attempt to pretend I know why they do, but there are many classy ways to politely excuse a guy without being rude.

de2oye:
I am a Yoruba man and I got married to an Ebira lady from Kogi state about six years ago. The marriage has been blessed with 2 sons. We lived happily together in the same city while my mother Inlaw lives in another part of the same city, as such we used to visit her together occasionally.

Sometimes last year, my wife told me she want to go and visit her mother Inlaw and I permitted her to go. Accidentally, I had a an unusual call from my office and I decided to branch and join my wife there since my office is just a stone throw from my Inlaw's place. I didn't inform my wife. As I got there, I requested for her phone to enable me make an important call since I've run out of power on mine. She was reluctant to release the phone and I could easily deduced that all is not well. That makes me go further and I to check her chat history. I was amazed and find it difficult that my wife of six years is having an affair with a much younger guy she's older than for at least five years. She started begging me that she can explain, explain what?. I was totally disappointed and confused, I left the place immediately and told her not to even bother coming to my own house again. The funniest thing was that I know this particular guy to be our Neighbour and he used to come to our house and I do give him money at times because he's a student. While all this was going on, the mother Inlaw was not around.

I decided to call her on phone and tell her what happened because the father inlaw was out of the country as at the time of the incidence. The woman pleaded that I should come back and I obliged, the first thing she did that really surprised me was that she started talking to her daughter in their local language known fully well that I don't understand a bit of it and both of them can speak both Yoruba and English fluently. What could she be telling her daughter after I showed her the chat history because I didn't release the phone since that's d only evidence I have against her. I was really angry and rose, I frankly told her that when she's ready to talk to me I will come back, she realized her mistake and refuse to allow me to go. I later left her there and decided to tell the father on phone. He pleaded that I should please allow her back into my house with d kids and I allowed them back only because of the innocent kids and the fact that I respected the man so much. Since then, we 'be never be in good terms again; I mean myself and the mother because she's not happy with the involvement of the father. I decided not to go to their house again except if the father is around.

About 2 months after, the father was around and he tried to settle the whole issue and I decided to let go. To worsen the situation, there was a particular day I went to their house on my way back from office, I was with my mother Inlaw and I asked about one of her relatives who was sick, the answer she gave me was that she didn't know his whereabout which I know she's lying and still keeping the malice. Since then I stopped going there and I have made up my mind not to ever visit her again. Kindly advise, I'm I wrong here?

My candid advice is for you to leave the marriage. She had no respect for you, and judging by her mother I can tell she got the bad influence from her mother.
It mostly never ends well, especially when it has been going on for that long.
To your question. You were obviously not wrong, and the best thing is for you to keep your distance from them.

Congrats to him. My favourite Artist from naija

Rexology:
Is marriage another way of imprison ladies? Just because a man put on a piece of metal called ring(handcuff) on a Lady's finger, the lady's happiness, freedom, interest, movement, infact everything about her life is now determined by this man(Husband).

Honestly, I sympathize with the female folks, especially in Africa. Most of our ladies are in prison(Marriage). A lady will live all her life trying to please a man(Husband),consciousely
and unconsciousely, is it not slavery?
Women are still seen as slaves by men in Africa.
What is the origin of ' bride price'? and this word 'pay' is used whenever 'bride price' is mentioned.
Who are the sellers?( fathers) and who are the buyers(Husbands) and what are the items being sold? (Young ladies). Have we completely eradicated slave trade in Africa? I don't think so.
Why do we have to 'Pay' a 'bride price'?
Women are wonderful creatures of Jehovah, therefore, should not be seen as 'Slaves' or 'stock in trade'
They are not as weak as the soceity project them (Africa).Jehovah created woman(wife) to be a friend and companion to man(husband),and not to be his slave or subject to rule over.
They have their own dreams and vision in life, and should be allowed by their husbands to pursue it without any form of restriction.




Dedicated to African Ladies...

Preach.

geni340:
at times after dating for some time, d usual driftn apart happens, U guys break up, bt may nt b fully ova each other...suppose u still get together & have a few wrestle under the sheets?

Was is the question?

Blueeyedboi:
...What's this one saying..like you won't roll on the floor if you get a wedding proposal from a serving governor..women en living in denial are like siamese twins...inseparable!

Speak for girlfriend, and don't lump every girls in the same basket. You must think all of us are slave to money, when in reality some of us are content. Money is not everything, so make of it anyways you wish.

Lilboots:
You just registered to comment on this?? .

Well, I have been preeing on nl for time. My disgust at this news, was enough for me to register and leave my piece.

Didn't know it's by force to give our numbers to guys now. That aside, I would have played the guy at his own game.

Yuck. Please

Nope. Hello everyone btw