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He should get himself retested after a few days and do away with his crowdy entourage for now. Wishing her full recovery soonest

Afrosage:
hahahahaha.....Op come and see oooo, all these people bashing you...this is exactly what they want your son to type in the nearest future, and they will also be part of the 500 and something people that liked the comment......

Don't mind them. If the boy grows up and comes to Nairaland to post about his evil mother that abandoned him with relatives to suffer because of a man, they will pounce on the post with their fear women rants. Bunch of confused oafs. My own joy is that a 12-year-old has been rescued from a life of certain doom and is reunited with his only available parent. Anybody upset with that should locate the nearest well and dive into it. it's only a matter of time before she gets her daughter back if she takes the right steps rather than praying naked at night

Afromentalist:
I get your point, you have sense, but look at things differently.

First you have not heard the man's side. Women always play victims, whereas they are main culprits.

Second, this is a woman whose first husband left, and second just left. Now this is no coincidence. It tells a lot about her and her character. She appears to be the type that because she contribues financially, nobody can talk to her.

Third, the guy may be afraid about the boy for wrong reason. I am not saying he is right not to take the boy. But a true wife would not respond like that. If that is what you people call wife, it is better not to get married.

Last, both of them will be fine. She is the one that came here to complain and acted as if the man's life depended on her entirely. Now he has left and she is praying naked.

@bolded
Don't say that, some people are just unlucky when it comes to marriage. I have a cousin aunt who is currently in her 3rd marriage as a 2nd wife. She is one of the most quiet people I've ever met, you can never hear her voice in a gathering of people, she's always easy going and quiet to a fault- the types you men like to trample upon. Yet she suffered all manners of abuse imaginable with her first and 2nd husbands. Then there's her younger sister that is very sharp tongued and sometimes rude, got married to a well-to-do man who adored her. Sometimes losing one's marriage is not because they had bad characters, they were just victims of ill luck and poor judgement such as the OP's case.

Graxie:
Madam, this is not the time to pray, put out your daughter pictures on net as a missing child, report to police and all necessary institution. He can not steal a child that is not his.

The child is his and he has every right to her as the mum just that the manner he took her away was wrong. I'm almost certain that he took the child to punish the mother. He probably won't take care of her, he would just dump her with relatives where she will be most likely physical and sexually abused and he won't care as long as he's punishing the mum. The mum should go to human rights office in her LGA and Lodge a complaint. All these midnight prayers won't solve anything. She should take legal steps to gain full or joint custody of her daughter. We can call the man many names but the child is his and a judge can allow him to have full custody of her if he sees the mother is overwhelmed with other kids.

obakovich:
I guess you are happy now. God will never punish him my dear, he will live long and take care of your girl. I told you to talk to him gently its a delicate matter but you followed a wrong advice. You could have sent your son to stay with your husbands relative.

That's a dumb idea. Would you willingly take in a child you don't know because you you share DNA with his irresponsible dad? How would you have felt if you were dumped with relatives you don't know because your mother wants to keep her marriage? We never put ourselves in people's positions before dishing out advice

When did LUTH start handling covid cases?

There's a market in Iyana ipaja? Where? They're probably talking about ile-epo market, a short distance from Iyana ipaja.

Sagay212:
What drugs are being used to cure patients of the Corona virus. Maybe they should let everyone know so that the panic can reduce and maybe people can go about their businesses. I don't understand why we should ha e a lock down for covid19 if the Nigerian doctors can cure it so easily.

They're administering the same treatment doctors all over the world are using pending a cure is found. They treat the disease's individual symptoms (cough, flu, fever etc) and add a huge dose of vitamin C to boost immune system. The virus like flu virus which will run its course and leave the system eventually (it doesn't multiply itself like HIV). That's why the highest percentage of the casualties of the virus are the immunocompromised people like the elderly and the already sick. Contracting the virus is NOT a death sentence, early detection and prompt medical attention goes a long way in recovery

Evercurious:
But thats REALITY

But did he have to say it like that? Why not just say, remain where you are for at least 2 weeks till you're cleared to travel.

told him, choose between life and death. It is better to sacrifice one person than to endanger everybody because going to China in the wake of very dangerous outbreak is like he has gone to purchase deaths.

Such a callous and insensitive thing to say

I'd be very weary of accepting relief materials from the citizens of the country that plunged the world into this mess.

sexiestharam:
20 million Kano inhabitants indeed. 12 million of them must be invisible. Always inflating their figures. Is Lagos not 3 times the population of Kano? Mscheeeww.

Visit there and see for yourself, Kano population is HUGE

Let them continue to pray for themselves, they don't deserve our prayers

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xrayj:
So someone shouldn't be close to his family again?? Na wa O
I hope u will be saying same thing when you become a mother....

I'm a mum with kids and I pray they remain close till adulthood but would I want them living together as adults with one sibling living off the other? Heck no! They should maintain their closeness in their individual space, making their own money NOT with one sibling being a liability to the other. If your own prayer is for all your children to be living under same roof and living on handouts from one of them at an age when they should be independent, so shall it be for you.

Does anyone have any idea if primary health centers in Lagos will be open to immunize babies considering the fact that large gatherings have been banned?

That Atiku's son deserve to be arrested once he's cured for recklessly exposing hundreds of people to virus.

HelloHolla:
He moved out once, but they came visiting and saw there were vacant rooms, before we knew what was happening, they'd moved IN with him fully cause the former house rent expired, now, he thinks I'm trying to separate him from his family.

The biggest mistake you'll make is marrying someone so attached to his family. Someone who his siblings are completely dependent on. Even if he moves to a one bedroom apartment, they will still come to him. The women that married such men are counting their regrets and wishes they never married such person. Don't add yourself to the numbers.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less.

Thread wisely and carefully.

In addition to chef and nanny, she would also be housekeeper, dishwasher, errand girl and mai ruwa (in case there's no running water there). How can a young girl open her eyes and jump into a relationship with a man with this kind of family baggage on his shoulder? Even if he eventually marries her and moves away from that family house, his siblings will still continue to pile up demands on him and if he's unable meet the demands, she will be blamed and resented.

She's lucky she's got age on her side, unfortunately she may have gotten pregnant. If I were her, I'd pawn off that ring to those aboki gold buyers in Yaba market and flee from marrying into such family.

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Riele:
With that face , I now understand why his wife had to cheat on him .

Poor Lady .

No justification for infidelity, she saw him before she married him didn't she?

Is your temperature higher than normal? Do you have tightness in your chest? Difficulty breathing? Sore throat? Sputum stuck in your throat like a lump but you're unable to cough it out? If yes call the Coronavirus hotline on 080097000010. If no, don't panic and take some flu medicine with plenty of vitamin C