₦airaland Forum

omohanet:
My marriage is one year and six months. I was having issues with my wife which makes her to live my house to her parents house. To make her return to me I kneel down to beg her in the presence of her siblings and neighbors. Now she is back to my house. Was my action( to kneel down) right or wrong?

PATAlolade:
I just recently sold my phone, So I need it to access Android App till I will get a new phone.

chii8:
Daddy, you are really old oooo to know all the details.

CanadaOrBust:
Thanks, and what is the meaning of “YIM” in the profile page

Beosten:
There is only one female among my siblings. But mom was the one that usually cooked our meals. Whenever mom wasn't around, and I just felt like cooking, mom would know I cooked the meals, and would ask why my sister couldn't cook better than I do despite learning from Mom for years.

There was one food seller in my street during my formative years, If you miraculously bring a food cooked by that woman to me today, I will tell you instinctively that 'Iya Dare' is the one that prepared it.

My Conclusion: cooking skills may be inborn. It may also be learned.

gbagyiza:
It depends on the woman. If she is a humble type, the type that accord respect n also submit to her husband, the husband should not let her resign, they just need to discuss n find a suitable solution to this. But if the woman is the type that look down on the husband, n see him as nothing, in fact some will even try to take the position of the husband as the head of the house just because she earns more than him, I tell you he is in trouble because she can even seek for divorce if the husband ask her to resign.

omoyankee3:
Financial power in the hands of the wife? That's the beginning of the end of the marriage.

lizdammy:
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elektra:
Oga,

You already know the solution to your problem but you are not willing act on it. Even if we talk on nairaland from today till tomorrow, so will still not act until you are ready.

But for now, start practicing how to say NO. Use mirror, look yourself in the eye, say NO and maintain eye contact. Practice many times. NO, NO, NO!
NO is a complete sentence, no need for further explanation. And Nigerians need to learn how to say NO, especially to their family members.

When you are ready to take action. Give your sister date that her load will be taken out of your house (I recommend short time interval like 2 weeks). She will shout and complain and insult. Just keep saying NO. Any further requests to assist them in a way that impedes your own progress, what will you say? NO.
When the 2 weeks reach, what will you do? You will not chicken out. Repeat after me, I WILL NOT CHICKEN OUT. If you like, chicken out. You will continue to live with load someone else’s load.

From your story it appears your parents are also contributing to this menace. You can use this experience to learn more on how to deal with narcissistic, parasitic, Oliver-twistic and choosing-beggar family members.

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A group of cobra is called a quiver.