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Politics › Re: Wike Orders Arrest Of PHED CEO, Sends Him To Isolation Center by Donald3d(m): 7:30pm On May 10, 2020

"Which PHED" grin

Wike : Arrest that man !!!

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Family › Re: Would You Pay A Premarital Coach? by Donald3d(m): 6:34pm On May 10, 2020

Ronkks:
Churches do the much they can, however some people may not be transparent to the church counsellors compared to a Premarital coach which sometimes defeats the purpose of the counselling. Their reason for not being transparent could be fear of criticism and judgement but that won't happen with a paid coach. Premarital coaching also isn't just for Christians.... it accepts any other religion or beliefs.

You have a point.

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Family › Re: A Woman, Who Cannot Tolerate, Organize & Change A Man, Is Not Worthy Of A Man. by Donald3d(m): 6:33pm On May 10, 2020*

Its also safe to turn the tables.
Many Nigerian men keep asking for what they can't give or do .

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Romance › Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Donald3d(m): 6:17pm On May 10, 2020

You need to understand that you are now a man and no one should make decisions for you.
If you allow anyone control who you marry, you would keep bowing to their pressures and control even after you get married.
Take your stand ! . But be very sure that she is a good choice. You are good to go.
Make your mom see reasons why you are making a valid choice. Make her see what you see in her.

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Family › Re: Would You Pay A Premarital Coach? by Donald3d(m): 6:16pm On May 10, 2020

Its a great idea.

Churches already do this.

You can read your bible too, there are so many powerful principles in there to have a wonderful marriage.It has practically everything you need.

You can also buy good books about marriage.

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Business › Re: Kaduna and Abuja record 5 fresh COVID-19 deaths by Donald3d(m): 9:16am On May 10, 2020

People with misinformation sef .
Who told you Yudala lost to Konga ?
The owner of Yudala "bought" Konga . If you pay attention you would see Konga changed most of its colors to Yudala colors .

Google Leo Stan Ekeh

However if you wish to be bigger than Jijiii , you can. You just have to do what is right. Its possible, but its definitely not easy.

Science/Technology › Re: The Owl's Long Legs by Donald3d(m): 8:32pm On May 09, 2020*

15-16
Stay safe folks

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Family › Re: False Prophets by Donald3d(m): 8:27pm On May 09, 2020

Be your own prophet, Jesus has made it easy. Hook up to the Holy Spirit

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Family › Re: I Need Help Pls by Donald3d(m): 8:26pm On May 09, 2020

Chidebless111:
Thank you

You're welcome
I just don't want you to read advises here and still fail to act.
Please for the sake of your daughter and for yourself.
Please leave, and be very smart and discreet about it, so he or no one else would know.
Please ACT

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Family › Re: I Need Help by Donald3d(m): 8:23pm On May 09, 2020

I responded to you on your other thread, please read it

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Family › Re: I Need Help Pls by Donald3d(m): 7:54pm On May 09, 2020*

Chidebless111:
Pls I need advice on what to do

I have daughter who is 14months old, though I'm not legally married but I and my daughter's dad live in together, and yesterday will be the third time he is physically abusing me that I almost passed out, I choked me and hit my out daughter feeding flask on my head and beat me. Now when I called his mom to reported what happened,she asked me to pack my things back inside, that she knows of a woman that her husband beat regularly And still she's still with her husband,that next time he want to beat me I should run outside,and if I decides to leave ,I should leave and if I take my daughter along she will fight me,that if I don't want her anger I shouldn't take my daughter.... Now my problem now is I can't leave my child for them,as I'm typing I'm weak and tired from all the beating, I'm 26years,I can't continue this way,cos I don't know how long this will continue

We need to understand something very clearly with relationships of any kind.

NEVER TOLERATE OR ENDURE A TOXIC PERSON

I want you to do something for yourself, close your eyes, picture yourself going through this same maltreatment everyday for the rest of your life.
How does the picture look ?

Picture this again, some years from now , he flings an object at you, but this time around it doesn't land on you, it hits your daughter in the eye leading to permanent blindness. Would you forgive yourself ?

I could go on and on
I am not trying to wish you bad, but these are possible scenarios that can occur with a toxic person. There are so many other terrible possibilities.
Things most likely won't end well.

Not only does he not care about you, his mother doesn't value you either. You are sleeping in a den filled with lions and poisonous snakes.

I understand your thinking "he is the father of my child". No sis, he is just a sperm donor.
You need to rewire your mentality and constantly remind yourself that you should never do anything or stay in a place where the disadvantages and risks outweigh the current or potential advantages or benefits.

Life, marriage or any relationship of any kind, should not be endured, it should be enjoyed. Even if it needs to be endured, there should be love mixed with endurance. Love is obviously non-existent where you are. You are surrounded by hatred .
I am worried about your mental health
I am worried about the child.

He is committing a crime, he should be punished for it.
You deserve to be treated right, remember that.
If you are in Lagos, the lock down isn't strict anymore, move to your mom's house .
His mother can do nothing to you, involve not just your mom, but other respectable male figures in your family.

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Family › Re: I Feel Like Quitting My Relationship Because Of This by Donald3d(m): 7:41pm On May 09, 2020

I wanted to say you should speak to her about it but you said this :

endeavor:
I have talked, complained, advised and even reported. But it's getting worse.

I would have also loved to ask you to tell us her benefits or what she does right, but from all you posted, she lacks too many basic characteristics of a marital partner. Keep trying to talk to her, this time give her an ultimatum (in your mind, don't tell her the ultimatum).

Don't make the big mistake of marrying her without her making changes in line with your very salient requirements.

If after about another 6 months, there is no sign of progress or at least an attempt to make progress, its time to share the grace.

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Art, Graphics & Video › Re: Smudge Painting by Donald3d(m): 5:48pm On May 09, 2020

cool

Family › Re: Should You Obey Ignorant Parents?? by Donald3d(m): 9:10pm On May 08, 2020

Listen to the Holy Spirit
He is the best teacher and director

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Properties › Re: Fire Burns Shops, Cars In Ibadan. Two Feared Dead by Donald3d(m): 8:15pm On May 08, 2020

Art, Graphics & Video › Re: Ace Nigerian Stop Motion Artist Creates Covid-19 Awareness Video With Salt by Donald3d(m): 7:40pm On May 08, 2020

Family › Re: 1 Year Of Marriage And 2 Kids My Wife Has Had Never Post Any Of My Pics by Donald3d(m): 5:46pm On May 08, 2020*

I was about to say it isn't important and you shouldn't bother yourself about it, but I have learnt something in marriage, everything is important .

So, let's dissect your issue starting from the root. I believe starting from the root is the best way to solve problems, to prevent a recurrence.

Let's start with WHY

Why do you want her to share your pictures ?

1. Is it because you want to do what others are doing (the ones you are jealous of). You want online validation ?
2. Or is it because you feel she doesn't love you enough, because she isn't sharing your pictures.

If your answer is number one. You really need to rethink this Sir. Online validation no dey help anybody. Its a gathering of people who really don't care about you or how much you or your wife love each other. It would put your family under unnecessary stress to "keep up" with what everyone else is doing.

You would be subconsciously pushed into basing your love for each other on what people's perception of what your love for each other should be . I hope this isn't confusing.

If your answer is number 2, you really need to take it easy with her and also treat her "issues" from the root. Ask her WHY , in a very calm manner, without looking or sounding judgmental. You need to communicate your worries to her and what you would like her to do and WHY you want her to do it. Also listen carefully to why she hasn't posted your pictures. You would be shocked to get replies like "I don't want anyone to steal you from me ". Just ask her, in a respectful manner.

Away from your concerns and your worries, please understand that people show love in different ways. Look around you carefully, everyday, and see other ways she is showing you love, apart from uploading your picture online.

Offline show of love is always more real than showing it online. Because its done out of selflessness(because no one is watching).Most (not all) people who constantly post their families or spouses online are just looking for online validation, an invisible competition to see who can display love the most. Of what use is it, when love is shown online and you are not treated right offline.

What I am trying to say Sir is, while you try to find out why she isn't sharing your pictures, appreciate the other ways she is showing you love offline, because at the end of the day, that is what really counts.

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Science/Technology › Re: Arctic Dinosaur Dominated Northern Latitudes Of The World 70 Million Years Ago by Donald3d(m): 3:32pm On May 08, 2020

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 6:35pm On May 07, 2020

aywhy93:
You're welcome, I'll check it when I'm home... Not up to a year, 3 months or so.

Ok thanks

Family › Re: Tear Your Pillow Today, You Never Can Tell What You’ll Find In It [photo] by Donald3d(m): 6:34pm On May 07, 2020

This is disgusting ....Chai

Health › Re: Lagos Records 2 COVID-19 Deaths by Donald3d(m): 5:29pm On May 07, 2020

Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 4:54pm On May 07, 2020

aywhy93:
1Kva inverter (Multi Power Smart)
300A battery (Can't remember, threw away the carton)
No solar panel (Auto-charge when there's light)

***Check the attached picture for the setup

Powers everything I listed up there, just try to ensure the watts of your stuffs are as low as possible so it will last longer, bought a rechargeable fan of 30w solely for it since the big OX fan I have is 168w, the bulbs are power saving, etc and turnoff anything you're not using or better still turn the inverter off when not in use, that way, it'll last very long. Presently using the inverter since there's no light now. Those are the details you really need. Cheers!

Thanks bro.
I appreciate your feedback.
I would have loved to know the brand of the battery. Can you kindly look at the body ?
It should be inscribed somewhere .
How many years have you been using the battery for ?

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Computers › Re: Help With File Transfer by Donald3d(m): 4:52pm On May 07, 2020

SeedofDavid:
So I need to download xender for PC right?

No you don't need to
Its quite easy
Someone wrote a tutorial here on Nairaland
It should help
https://www.nairaland.com/4260570/check-out-how-connect-xender

Family › Re: Pelumi Fadodun: Missing Boy (Pictured) by Donald3d(m): 12:00am On May 07, 2020

I pray he is found safe and ok in Jesus name

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Family › Re: Cockroaches Infestation by Donald3d(m): 11:59pm On May 06, 2020

medexico:
Please I need something potent that can get rid of these cockroaches and ants in my room.

Sniper...Mixed in the right proportions with water and a pump spray container would do the job...Please keep away from children or depressed people, its very dangerous.

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Technology Market › Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 10:43pm On May 06, 2020

aywhy93:
That cannot serve you, try increase your budget to something you'll enjoy... I spent about #250k on the one I'm using and it serves me well, using it for all you listed there; 65inch 4K TV, PS4 Pro, GoTV, Rechargeable fan, power saving bulbs etc and it last for about 3 days on a full charge (depending on usage though).

Please break down the components of your setup

How many KVA inverter and what brand
How many AH battery and what brand
Is there a solar panel ? How many watts
Please give as much details as possible. Thanks in anticipation.

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Family › Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020

thehedge:
oh God bless you, this is what i was going to say

Bless you too ma'am

Family › Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020

thehedge:
you are wise. You should coach more men, and I'll pray for a woman that will coach more women..... I know people are more likely to listen if it's coming from same gender

Family › Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020

bukatyne:
I was going to type, then you did it for me.

Thank you.

Family › Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:39pm On May 06, 2020

missyojo:
Ohhhh.... My!!!
I really wish I can like this comment over and over again. You are so full of wisdom.
You always make sense in any advice you dished out and I always look forward to reading your comments.

Thumbs up to you

Thank you ma'am

Family › Re: How Can She Get Her Property Back? by Donald3d(m): 7:05pm On May 06, 2020

Wow !!.

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Family › Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 5:57pm On May 06, 2020

GOFRONT:
Bros, Go and become a baby daddy...

Marriage is overrated..

It isn't overrated. Most people aren't just doing it right.
Most people go into it with the wrong mentality
Most people go into it with selfishness and not selflessness.
Of course its not going to be a smooth ride, but being with the right person makes the ride smoother.

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